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You've brought a present for me in this box, and I feel nervous and excited.

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Oh, right.

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So this is a human brain with a spinal cord.

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Such a masterpiece.

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But what people don't know is that we have four different structured parts of our brain

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that automatically shape how we think, feel, and behave.

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But what if it's not unconscious?

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What if we could pick and choose one how we want to be in any moment on purpose,

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like we can manifest our own mental health?

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And by the end of this conversation today you're going to teach me how to do that.

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Absolutely.

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You're going to so get it.

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Harvard neuroscientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor has transformed how we understand the brain

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through her research and own traumatic experience.

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She's teaching the world how to unlock every part of their brain to regain control of their thoughts,

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emotions, and behavior.

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We have a problem.

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We are skewed as a society to the two parts of the left brain which focuses on me the individual.

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How do I fit myself into a society?

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And trauma's living in there is is cravings an addiction.

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And we need this.

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It protects us.

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But we get in trouble when this is the only portion of our brain that we value

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because look at the world we currently live in.

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So is there a strategy for making sure that you don't act upon it?

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Well, so many people are trying to get rid of their emotional reactivity,

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but the way to heal it is not to get rid of it.

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I mean, we're wired for this.

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Why do I want to just put myself in a little box and say, I don't want to have pain?

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I don't want to be mad.

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I want to be a robot.

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I don't want to be a robot.

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I want to be a whole human with a whole brain.

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Like, this is life.

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And it lasts this long and then it's gone.

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And it took me losing the left side of my brain for eight years to realize just how precious this thing is.

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So how do I control and protect my brain at all costs?

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Well, there's a lot.

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So are you ready?

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Stop.

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I want some hot stuff.

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Just give me 30 seconds of your time.

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Two things I wanted to say.

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The first thing is a huge thank you for listening and tuning into the show week after week means the world to all of us.

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And this really is a dream that we absolutely never had and couldn't have imagined getting to this place.

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But secondly, it's a dream where we feel like we're only just getting started.

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We're going to deliver the guests that you want me to speak to and we're going to continue to keep doing all of the things you love about the show.

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Thank you.

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Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor.

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What if you spent your professional career endeavoring to understand?

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And why does it matter?

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I am fascinated with how does our brain create our perception of reality?

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And based on that information, what a wonder it is any two of us can communicate at all.

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I think I am fascinated by what we are as biological creatures.

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And most of us are so consumed with everything outside of ourselves that we have missed the wonder of what we are as this biological conglomeration of cells.

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I think we're absolutely beautiful.

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None of us came into this world with a roadmap about how to get it all right.

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And the roadmap is the brain cells.

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And when we understand the brain cells and what they do and how to work with them and how to keep them well, then we can manifest our own mental health.

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And do you think the average person understands the brain?

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Did you understand the brain before you started studying it?

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Well, I understood it because I had a brother who was diagnosed, would be diagnosed with the brain disorder schizophrenia.

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So I became fascinated by five or six about what are we and why is he the way he is?

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We are so different from one another, our interpretation of our experiences are so different from one another.

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What are we? I just became a philosopher very young and fascinated with the biology and the anatomy of what we are.

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What do you think an understanding of the brain, the understanding that you're going to communicate to myself by audience today?

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How do you think that can help me improve my life?

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Oh my goodness.

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If I understand what part of me interacts with the external world and is smart and is good with details and is well organized, then I know how to use that part.

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We are skewed as a society to that left-thinking portion of our brain.

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In fact, as far as traditional medicine is concerned, that thinking portion of our brain is the only portion that is actually conscious.

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So then we live our lives, literally with our left emotional tissue, our left, our right emotional tissue and our right thinking tissue, all as part of our unconscious brain.

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But what if it's not unconscious?

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What if we actually know what those groups of cells also do so that when I'm experiencing my pain from the past, I can actually call on the portion of my brain that knows how to self soothe me,

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so that I can lift myself out of my pain, learn from those experiences, and then live a more fulfilled life.

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It's the power to choose who and how we want to be in the world when we understand what our choices are.

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So is it possible to choose which part of your brain to use in a certain moment?

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You do it all the time. You just probably not aware of it.

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Let's say you're going to have a business call, and you got your stats, and you got your data, and you pick up the phone, and you say, yes, it's a Steve and blah, blah, blah, and you work into your details.

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And then let's say someone peaks in to, let's say a little dog comes running in.

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Well, you're going to have a couple of responses, potentially responses. One, you're going to smile, right? You just smiled.

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You just moved into, oh, I love my little fuzzy and yeah, okay, now, you know, now you're a little gentler because now you shifted into a different portion of your brain that is open to the present moment, and now you just got uplifted.

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So we have these four different anatomically neuro anatomically structured parts of our brain, and we can pick and choose who and how we want to be in any moment when we know what our choices are.

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But we don't know what our choices are as our society, because we are functioning skewed to that left thinking portion of our brain, and everything else is running on automatic.

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And the left thinking portion of the brain is the more logical, logical, rational, analytical, likes to control people's places, things.

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There's a me definition ego center of I exist. I am Joe Bolte Taylor. This is my phone number. This is where I live.

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I know that this is where I begin and end where my skin meets air because a group of cells tells me where I begin and end.

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But you've probably had flow moments where you were doing your sports or you were making love or you were whatever you were doing, and you didn't begin and end here.

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You were vast and open, and you were this big energy ball that you are.

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But the left hemisphere focuses on that little group of cells, and those skill sets on the right and the wrong and the good and bad, and that portion of the brain defines the social norm, and we all have to fit ourselves in the social norm.

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But it's only a quarter of our brain.

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Is it making us unhappy the way that we use our brain currently?

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Well, we're out of balance. We're completely out of balance because we're at the balance of the value of that left brain.

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What's going on in the right brain? The right brain is right here right now. We spend so much of our time, so fundamental differences between the right hemisphere and the left hemisphere.

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And I know this only because I lost my left hemisphere, and that's all I had for eight years. I had to use what I had currently going on in my right hemisphere after I lost those cells of the left hemisphere in order to rebuild the skill sets of the left brain so that I could become completely functional again.

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Are we unhappy? Well, that's not a happy part of the brain. When you're being analytical and organized and structured, you probably got that brown right there.

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And it's a different expression than as soon as I said the little puppy comes in, and then all of a sudden your face happens.

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What happens is you're shifting into a different part of your brain, and that's what we do. We're running it on automatic.

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So if we are running our brain on automatic, imagine how much better we might do if we were actually picking and choosing who and how we wanted to be on purpose.

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And you're telling me that's possible.

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Absolutely.

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And by the end of this conversation today, you're going to teach me how to do that.

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Absolutely. You're going to so get it and it will.

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And once you see you, you will no longer ever not see you. And then you're going to see these four characters inside of yourself.

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And now you're going to be looking at your partner, who you speak about often, and you're going to be going, I recognize all four parts of her too.

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But what that means is that any relationship that we have, there's eight of us.

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There's eight of us, eight very specific personalities in every relationship.

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So I have four very predictable character profiles as do you. It's the way the anatomy of the brain is built.

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You've brought a present for me in this box.

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I did.

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What is in that box?

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This is a very special brain with a spinal cord.

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This is a real brain with a spinal cord.

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A real spinal cord.

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And do you find this brain?

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This, I did this dissection and yes, this brain was specifically donated to me for educational purposes.

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How old was the person most in their 40s?

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Do you know how they passed away?

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Brain cancer.

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And can you see the brain cancer?

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You cannot.

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Not until I cut this open and I've had this brain for over a decade and I haven't cut it open.

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It is very rare to have a dissection, which is actually brain and spinal cord.

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Usually you dissect the brain and we learn about the brain.

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But I wanted to have the brain and spinal cord because that's the central nervous system.

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And it's a spectacular dissection.

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I feel nervous and excited.

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I'm excited.

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I'm excited.

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Because you're right here right now going, oh my gosh, something new.

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Yeah.

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It's exciting.

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Right here right now is an exciting time.

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Are you ready?

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I am ready.

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Okay.

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Should I put my gloves on?

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I encourage you to do so.

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Okay.

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So this is a real human brain.

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And right now it is hydrated in rubbing alcohol.

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So that's what this is.

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So you don't have to be afraid of that.

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So this is a real human brain.

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And spinal cord.

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And I think what I'll do is I'll just move this over here.

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Yeah.

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Oh, the way.

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Okay.

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So this is a human brain.

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What's that skin on the top of it with a spinal cord?

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This thing here.

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We'll get there.

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Oh.

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So you've heard about meningitis?

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Yeah.

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There are layers that support between the bone and the brain tissue.

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And it protects it.

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So this is called these, there are three layers called the meninges.

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So when we've heard of meningitis.

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So this is the duromotor.

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It's very tough.

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And you'll feel that.

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It's like a really tough lettuce.

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And this is essentially strapping the brain into the cranial vault

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and holding it into position.

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Because you don't want this thing flopping around and having wounding and injury.

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So it straps it into here?

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Well, it straps it in certain spots.

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Yes.

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And generally often when you do a dissection you actually have to put a like screwdriver in there to peel the dura off the bone.

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So it straps it into position.

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It's kind of like a broth for the brain.

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So this is the dura.

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And then what I'm touching now is called the arachnoid.

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And that's the second layer of the meninges.

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And what you're looking at in there is blood inside of the blood vessels.

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So one of the things about why the brain is so fragile is the blood vessels are transparently thin.

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So the pressurized system of what's going on inside of the cranial vault has to be highly regulated.

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And it's actually the pressure of the cranial vault versus the pressure and the thorax of the chest and the pressure of the abdomen.

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It's a system.

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And they all work together in order to keep everything well regulated homeostasis.

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A state where the cells are happy.

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And so the third layer is like right here.

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And it's you can see this layers peeled away, the arachnoid.

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Under here, I'm now touching Pia.

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And Pia is the external layer of the brain's brain cells themselves, the brain tissue.

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So this is a beautiful brain.

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And it would be positioned in my head like this.

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So front of the brain, back of the brain, coming down, hanging down as the spinal cord.

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And then as you look at the spinal call, this is called the kato kina or kata equina.

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And these are the nerves that are actually going to go down into your lower extremity.

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So all the information that's going to go down into your lower extremity to control your body is controlled.

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And the sensory information is coming in through those nerve fibers.

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Looks like a bunch of eyes.

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It does. Well, you know, we are quite a well designed machine in its own way.

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The difference is we are organic. We are biological.

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And I think one of the biggest mistakes that we make as a society is we think ourselves.

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And we think ourselves as a machine, push it, push it, push it, push it, push it, push it, push it, push it.

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Well, you can do that with a computer.

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You plug it in and it stays on until you turn it off or it blows up.

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We have to go to sleep.

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Yeah, have a good time with that.

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Yes.

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Okay, we won't hurt it.

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We hope.

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Gosh.

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Beautiful.

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Our design, such a masterpiece.

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We are this massive conglomeration of 50 trillion molecular geniuses making up our form.

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Beautiful.

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It's so crazy that every single person listening right now has one of these processing my voice as you're hearing my voice.

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That's right.

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And it is this, for anyone that has never felt a brain before, which I imagine is most of you.

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It is like this very, very soft but dense sort of tofu-y.

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How would you describe the feeling?

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Pork roast.

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Pork roast.

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It's very soft, though.

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It is.

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It makes me realize how easy this would be to damage.

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Now, this has been in alcohol or from out of hide for, since at least 2008, probably earlier.

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And when you first pull a brain out, it's even softer.

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It's like a tough jelly.

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So that when you first bring out a fresh brain, if you take your finger and you just poke it into the tissue, it'll squeeze right in.

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And then you pull your finger out and then it goes, it'll scrunch right back together again.

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Oh, okay.

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Yeah, so this is a prepared specimen.

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And we have to do that and lock together the proteins or the lipids in order for us to be able to handle it for educational purposes.

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So this is the computer and then this is the why is that control the rest of the body?

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Well, it's part of the system because this what you're holding is the central nervous system.

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And then the central and all of it and then the central nervous system sends between each of the vertebra.

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Here you have different vertebra.

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Between different vertebra, you will have different nerves coming out and then going around the body.

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And then you're also going to have vagus nerves coming off of the brainstem area and going down into the abdomen taking care of the viscera.

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Last time you saw a brain like this, how did it change your perspective of life?

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I love it.

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I love it.

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I was very blessed to have an aunt who was a debutante back in the years where debutants did not get jobs.

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And she wanted to be an emergency room doctor, but there was no way that she was going to do that.

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So she would actually encourage me to pick up roadkill and we would take it home and dissect it.

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So see that look, we have two responses.

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The left brain says, oh my gosh, this is disgusting, this is the worst thing I ever had.

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And that's a part of your brain that's designed to kind of critically judge and say, no, it's not safe, it's not cool, push it away.

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But the right hemisphere comes online with curiosity.

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So people see these things and they go, oh no, not my thing.

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Or they go, oh my gosh, that is like so cool.

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I feel both at the same time.

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I feel I feel I have like almost a respect for the person who grew the brain, who's brain that belongs to.

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And then the other part of me is just like totally fascinated.

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And it's almost, you know, when you look at it, you get, you still don't realize that you have one of those in your head.

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So I still don't know.

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But you're still looking at that as that's a one thing.

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I don't look at it like that at all.

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This is a brain, but what's important about this brain is our brain health, our brain abilities is 100 dependent on the cells that make up that brain.

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So most people, many neuroscientists talk about the brain and how the brain does in the external world and the behavior and the neurotransmitter systems and all of that.

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They go down to the raw data of the cells.

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So I am a cellular neuroanatomist and so I care about the cells making up the nervous system.

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And how do we, how do we interact with them?

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How do we relate to them? How do we care for them? How do we feed them?

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How do we provide for them so that they can be healthy so that I can live a whole brain life in a healthy way?

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Context. Where did you do a PhD? Do you do a PhD in neuroanastasis in the United States?

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In the United States and my research was at the IU School of Medicine in the Indiana University School of Medicine.

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So that's where I focused on neuro.

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And then from there I went to Harvard Medical School and did two post-docs, one in neurobiology and then one in psychiatry.

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And when I say the 10th of December, 1996, which was four years after I was born, roughly, you were 37 years old.

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What happened on that day? Can you give me a play by play?

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Yes, well the day before that I was teaching and performing research at Harvard Medical School.

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And I am a gross anatomist which means cadaver entire body as well as histology which is tissue as well as neuro.

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So I'm all about anatomy. So I teach in and performing research at Harvard Medical School.

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And I woke up the next day and I was experiencing a major hemorrhage in the left half of my brain.

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So I woke up, I sat up and I immediately had a pulsing pound behind my left eye.

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And generally I didn't have that and it was pretty severe.

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And it got all of my attention.

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And I have my before and after is before and after that morning.

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What happens next? So you've got a pulsing pain behind your left eye?

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Yes.

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Would you do that?

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Well, I thought, wow, that's weird.

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And it's the caustic pain that you get when you bite into ice cream, it's like that freeze brain.

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And I thought, okay, and I felt suddenly weak.

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And I thought, okay, so I got up and light was kind of burning on my eyes.

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It was I didn't want light in the morning that day.

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So I closed the curtains and I thought, well, let's get my blood flowing.

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Maybe I'll feel a little better. So I jumped onto my cardiac glider which was a whole body full exercise machine.

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But I'm looking at my hands, realizing that my hands look like primitive claws grasping onto the bar.

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And I look at my body and I'm thinking, whoa, I'm a weird looking thing.

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And my perception of reality shifted away from my perception of being the one on the machine,

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having my normal morning experience to, wow, I was witnessing myself having this experience.

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And I'd never had that happen before. And I thought, okay, so this isn't helping.

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So I get off the machine and I head across my living room table.

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And I realize that every movement is very rigid and very precise.

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And I'm actually kind of directing. I felt very robotic getting into the bathroom.

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So I remember pulling on the water. And when the water came out, it smashed into the tub.

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And the volume just reverberated in my brain. It was so loud. The sound was amplified.

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And it pushed me against the wall. But when the volume hit, I'm a neuroanatomist.

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So what that means is that I'm teaching students about all of the anatomy here,

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and which fibers are coming in and going where and what is the tracks of everything.

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And so sound comes into the ears and it goes right down to the pond's region of our brain down here.

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And this is where life and death is. This is where those cells, if you're going to inspire,

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you need your pounds and your medulla in order to have those cells functioning.

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And when mine were being disturbed, that was the moment I realized I've got a problem.

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This is a grave problem. This could kill me. So I got out of the shower.

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I dressed mechanically, just dressed. I'm still going to work.

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And then my right arm went totally paralyzed by my side.

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And it's really strange when a limb goes paralyzed. It doesn't just drop down.

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I mean, it's a heavy entity. And I thought, oh my gosh, paralysis.

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Oh my gosh, I'm having a stroke. And then I'm thinking, okay, you know, oh my gosh,

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how many brains I this have the opportunity to study their own brain from the inside out.

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And I literally thought, okay, I'll do this stroke thing for a week or two.

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And then I'll get back to my job, right? So then it was a matter of I have to get help.

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I have to communicate with the external world.

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And the problem was that the hemorrhage was happening inside of the left thinking portion of my brain,

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which is where language is. So I was drifting for four hours.

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I was drifting in and out of the consciousness of the present moment.

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And the present moment, the present in the present moment, I don't know who I am.

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I don't know what I am. All I know is what's in the present moment.

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So explain that for me, Sue. Yeah.

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The left side of your brain was where the stroke was happening. Yes it was.

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So you were in the right side of your brain.

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I was waffling back and forth because it was growing. It started small.

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So I had what we call an arteriovenous malformation, where an artery,

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which is a high pressure system, it's bringing blood into the system.

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And then I have a vein and the vein is a no pressure, low pressure system.

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And then we have these little capillary networks in between.

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Yeah, this is an ischemic stroke. I had this, the hemorrhagic stroke.

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So when you think about stroke, most people think, oh, blood clot.

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And the blood clot blocks a, so the thing about arteries is they taper,

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taper, taper, taper, taper until they get down to the capillary level,

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which is where the blood, the red blood cells kind of line up in single file and pass through that.

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And it's a very low pressure system. And then it absorbs back up into the vein.

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Well, what I had was the hemorrhagic stroke and a blood vessel exploded.

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And when it exploded, then the blood goes out into the extracellular matrix,

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which is extracellular between the cells. And the cells cannot function.

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Blood is essentially poison to cellular communication.

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So it's no good. And whatever blood wherever it goes, those cells start going offline.

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And then as that hemorrhage grows inside of the brain across time,

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more and more cells are becoming incapacitated.

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So you were in that moment unable to remember how to speak properly, unable to...

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Nothing. I had nothing. I didn't even have me.

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I had no geobaulty tailor because she was over in the left hemisphere.

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And eventually that whole hemisphere ended up swimming in a pool of blood and was non-functional.

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But it took four hours to get there. So I was waffling into the present moment, blissful you for it.

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I didn't exist. I know who I am and that I exist at all,

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because I have a tiny little group of cells inside of my left hemisphere that tells me who I am.

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Have you ever awakened in a hotel somewhere because you've traveled so much and you're going, where am I?

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There's this blank, right? And it's like, I don't know, but the beds comfy, you know, when a nice room.

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And all of a sudden you're just right here right now and you're not about the past and you're not about the future

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and you're just in the present moment and joy lives in the present moment.

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Love lives in the present moment, laughter lives in the present moment.

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The present moment is a fantastic place and we are wired to that by literally half our brain.

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So why wouldn't we spend more time over here?

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Or at least balance it out. That's all I ever ask for.

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I am not here to, you know, as a wave in the flag of the right hemisphere.

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I want a whole brain living. I want people to understand the different parts of their brain,

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what they do so that it says, okay, so let's say, do you meditate?

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Sometimes.

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Okay, sometimes. What's it like for you?

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Difficult.

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Okay, why?

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Because you start thinking about stuff.

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Okay, because this part of your brain won't be quiet.

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Left thinking brain.

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We're languages. It won't be quiet.

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Or you just had a little argument with your sweetheart and so down here now you're in your emotional system

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and you're not really feeling peaceful and you got on that airplane and things weren't like perfectly smooth

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and now you're kind of, you know, ruminating about, you know, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, you know, and whatever.

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And that takes you away from the present moment.

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But the present moment is, it's not about me, the individuals.

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I think about this, so I look at the brain, it's divided in four categories, very specific anatomically.

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Each one of those result in a constellation of skill sets.

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And then that constellation of skill sets actually manifests in our lives as personalities.

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And we all have all four.

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Now, do we all practice all four?

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No, some of us do.

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We usually have a dominant.

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You seem to like your left thinking brain a lot.

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When do you have fun?

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What does Steve do for fun?

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This.

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This?

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No, also I watch Manchester United play and I...

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You lift weights.

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Yeah.

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What's that like for you?

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Is it work?

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Or is it refreshing?

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To be in your body.

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Oh, when I'm at the gym, it's, yeah, I'm just in my body, which is, yeah.

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Okay, but no, not just butt.

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When you're at the gym, you're in your body.

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Now, can you go back in your own mind and have that feeling?

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Can I?

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Yes.

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How?

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Well, go there in your mind.

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I actually imagined myself on the treadmill at my favorite gym and how that felt.

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And I had a brief moment of that feeling emerge in my mind.

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And what did it feel like?

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Present.

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Present.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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And any other emotions that you can attach to?

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Just like calm, peaceful, without concern.

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Very present.

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Yeah.

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Very present.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So the present is a nice place for you.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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What else do you do to get there?

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Massages.

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Massages.

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You receive massages.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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And what happens to your brain?

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Do you analyze what's coming and just work your butt off?

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Or do you allow yourself to actually drift and shift into the present moment of, oh my gosh, I'm so glad I'm here.

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I allow myself to drift.

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Good.

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Where do you go?

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I don't know.

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It's like a fuzzy middle ground place.

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Yes.

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No boundaries.

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Some kind of limbo.

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This portion of the brain up here is going to be the part that says who you are as an individual.

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It's your ego center.

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This hemisphere, the left hemisphere has the picture of nature with you in the middle because you exist in your left hemisphere.

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That's where the world revolves around you.

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The world revolves around you.

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In the right hemisphere, you don't even exist.

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You exist as a part of it all.

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So what you hear gets integrated with what you smell, with what you feel gets integrated in the excitement of possibility.

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So I'm not working from a plan.

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I'm not in the past.

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I'm not in the future.

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I'm not all about me.

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I'm just here.

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So when you're on a table, most honest table, and you're allowing yourself to go fuzzy, that's essentially the skill set of what's going on in the right hemisphere.

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When you dive into water, you swim.

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Not well.

453
00:30:40.500 --> 00:30:41.500
Okay.

454
00:30:41.500 --> 00:30:42.500
But do you dive into water?

455
00:30:42.500 --> 00:30:43.500
I do, yes.

456
00:30:43.500 --> 00:30:45.500
Or even just in the shower.

457
00:30:45.500 --> 00:30:56.500
When you feel, when you dive into water and you feel the water, the pressure against your body, the temperature of the water, you feel the phenomenon of wetness.

458
00:30:56.500 --> 00:31:00.500
This is a present moment, experiential opportunity.

459
00:31:00.500 --> 00:31:01.500
Diving into the water.

460
00:31:01.500 --> 00:31:09.500
Now a lot of people might dive into water because I'm racing and the whole goal is to get to the end because I got that left brain thing going on and that's the goal.

461
00:31:09.500 --> 00:31:15.500
But if I'm just being, this is, you know, are you being or you're doing, right?

462
00:31:15.500 --> 00:31:18.500
When we're being, we're simply being here.

463
00:31:18.500 --> 00:31:19.500
We're being alive.

464
00:31:19.500 --> 00:31:20.500
We're being aware.

465
00:31:20.500 --> 00:31:22.500
We're being in experience.

466
00:31:22.500 --> 00:31:26.500
So as I take in this room, I take in this whole room.

467
00:31:26.500 --> 00:31:34.500
My left brain says, I'm going to focus on you and I got these books and I got these things and I got the brains and everything and everything is a thing.

468
00:31:34.500 --> 00:31:37.500
But to the right brain, everything is one thing.

469
00:31:37.500 --> 00:31:49.500
And when I live my life knowing that I can shift out of the stress circuitry of that left brain that says more cortisol, more cortisol, do, do, do.

470
00:31:49.500 --> 00:31:52.500
Then when I, it's the, it's the, that's the push.

471
00:31:52.500 --> 00:31:54.500
The right brain is the pause.

472
00:31:54.500 --> 00:31:57.500
And that's why I was saying before we're not a robot.

473
00:31:57.500 --> 00:31:58.500
We're not a computer.

474
00:31:58.500 --> 00:32:01.500
We are a biological organism.

475
00:32:01.500 --> 00:32:07.500
And so we don't plug ourselves in and turn it on and it stays on forever until it dies and then we buy a new one.

476
00:32:07.500 --> 00:32:09.500
We have rhythms.

477
00:32:09.500 --> 00:32:13.500
We have natural patterns and we have to push.

478
00:32:13.500 --> 00:32:22.500
And we have to pause and we have to pause because we are 50 trillion molecular geniuses that are eating and creating waste and we need to clean up the mess.

479
00:32:22.500 --> 00:32:24.500
And that's what happens during sleep.

480
00:32:24.500 --> 00:32:27.500
And so when you were stood there, you put your clothes on.

481
00:32:27.500 --> 00:32:30.500
The left side of your brain was offline.

482
00:32:30.500 --> 00:32:34.500
So you were very much in this sort of blissful euphoric present moment state.

483
00:32:34.500 --> 00:32:36.500
What did you do next?

484
00:32:36.500 --> 00:32:41.500
I go through all the details of trying to get myself help.

485
00:32:41.500 --> 00:32:50.500
And that meant to me the one plan I could get between shifting black out back out into the euphoria of my right hemisphere where I'm just in bliss.

486
00:32:50.500 --> 00:32:51.500
I'm just happy.

487
00:32:51.500 --> 00:32:54.500
I'm just there and I don't have a plan.

488
00:32:54.500 --> 00:32:55.500
Why didn't you call 911?

489
00:32:55.500 --> 00:32:57.500
Because it was this floating in a pool of blood.

490
00:32:57.500 --> 00:32:59.500
It wasn't there for me.

491
00:32:59.500 --> 00:33:00.500
What you mean?

492
00:33:00.500 --> 00:33:03.500
Well, when you look at where my hemorrhage happened, it happened.

493
00:33:03.500 --> 00:33:09.500
So, so language, the creation of sound and language dog, dog is a sound.

494
00:33:09.500 --> 00:33:17.500
It's going to come out of Broca's area and then Wernicke's area back here is going to place meaning on that sound.

495
00:33:17.500 --> 00:33:23.500
And my hemorrhage was impacting this whole area and in there with language is numbers.

496
00:33:23.500 --> 00:33:24.500
911.

497
00:33:24.500 --> 00:33:25.500
Didn't exist for me.

498
00:33:25.500 --> 00:33:27.500
Was not an option.

499
00:33:27.500 --> 00:33:29.500
You can remember 911.

500
00:33:29.500 --> 00:33:30.500
Didn't exist for me.

501
00:33:30.500 --> 00:33:33.500
It'd be kind of like I say to you.

502
00:33:33.500 --> 00:33:38.500
What's 8,322 times 4 million.

503
00:33:38.500 --> 00:33:41.500
It doesn't exist for you until you figure it out.

504
00:33:41.500 --> 00:33:44.500
164,370.

505
00:33:44.500 --> 00:33:45.500
Checking.

506
00:33:45.500 --> 00:33:47.500
Exactly.

507
00:33:47.500 --> 00:33:50.500
So, 911 didn't exist for me.

508
00:33:50.500 --> 00:33:59.500
So, I had to, when I would come back into the left hemisphere consciousness, then I would, I would go to my phone and I have a phone pad here.

509
00:33:59.500 --> 00:34:04.500
And I spent 45 minutes waffling in and out, right hemisphere, left hemisphere.

510
00:34:04.500 --> 00:34:09.500
And finally, I found my business card that had my phone number at work.

511
00:34:09.500 --> 00:34:24.500
And I had to set the pad of the phone pad up against right next to the business card and match the shapes, the squiggles in order to figure out how to call my office because I had no idea what numbers were.

512
00:34:24.500 --> 00:34:26.500
And what did you say when the person answered on the other end?

513
00:34:26.500 --> 00:34:28.500
I said, this is Jill, I need help.

514
00:34:28.500 --> 00:34:31.500
And what came out of my mouth was,

515
00:34:31.500 --> 00:34:35.500
and then I thought, oh my God, it sounded like a golden retriever.

516
00:34:35.500 --> 00:34:40.500
And then he spoke to me and I thought, oh my God, he sounds like a golden retriever.

517
00:34:40.500 --> 00:34:43.500
I had had a golden retriever and they're very verbal.

518
00:34:43.500 --> 00:34:52.500
So, I knew at that point, I did not know because I could still hear myself, my language inside of my brain,

519
00:34:52.500 --> 00:34:58.500
language is very complex in this because different cells do different things.

520
00:34:58.500 --> 00:35:02.500
And in this left thinking portion, we can read, we can write.

521
00:35:02.500 --> 00:35:04.500
Those are completely different circuitries.

522
00:35:04.500 --> 00:35:07.500
We can speak, we can comprehend when others speak.

523
00:35:07.500 --> 00:35:09.500
I mean, it's complex.

524
00:35:09.500 --> 00:35:12.500
So, this is a busy, busy, busy place.

525
00:35:12.500 --> 00:35:15.500
But as long as this is the only portion of our brain that we value,

526
00:35:15.500 --> 00:35:20.500
then we live based on the values of that portion of the brain.

527
00:35:20.500 --> 00:35:24.500
And what that brain values is me and mine.

528
00:35:24.500 --> 00:35:26.500
And I want more.

529
00:35:26.500 --> 00:35:28.500
And that's the world we're living in.

530
00:35:28.500 --> 00:35:30.500
It's selfish.

531
00:35:30.500 --> 00:35:32.500
Well, it certainly is.

532
00:35:32.500 --> 00:35:35.500
Because people talk about there being a spiritual crisis in society at the moment,

533
00:35:35.500 --> 00:35:38.500
with many of the things you're describing, the individualism,

534
00:35:38.500 --> 00:35:44.500
the narcissism, sociopathism, the leaders of the world being very zero-sum

535
00:35:44.500 --> 00:35:48.500
and how they approach economies and how they treat others.

536
00:35:48.500 --> 00:35:50.500
You're saying that's because we're so...

537
00:35:50.500 --> 00:35:51.500
Right there.

538
00:35:51.500 --> 00:35:53.500
Over here is...

539
00:35:53.500 --> 00:35:54.500
On the right side.

540
00:35:54.500 --> 00:35:55.500
On the right side.

541
00:35:55.500 --> 00:35:56.500
It's right here right now.

542
00:35:56.500 --> 00:35:59.500
And in the right here right now, what do I care about?

543
00:35:59.500 --> 00:36:01.500
I care about connection.

544
00:36:01.500 --> 00:36:03.500
Because I'm not individualized.

545
00:36:03.500 --> 00:36:05.500
Here, I'm a part of the whole.

546
00:36:05.500 --> 00:36:06.500
I am.

547
00:36:06.500 --> 00:36:09.500
We are all standing around this beautiful planet.

548
00:36:09.500 --> 00:36:14.500
And I, man, is equal to all the other creatures and all the other life

549
00:36:14.500 --> 00:36:16.500
into the life of the planet.

550
00:36:16.500 --> 00:36:18.500
We are one construct here.

551
00:36:18.500 --> 00:36:23.500
And we either figure out how to nurture and support and be one thing.

552
00:36:23.500 --> 00:36:25.500
We are one human family.

553
00:36:25.500 --> 00:36:27.500
In our right hemisphere, you are my brother.

554
00:36:27.500 --> 00:36:28.500
I love you.

555
00:36:28.500 --> 00:36:29.500
I can support you.

556
00:36:29.500 --> 00:36:30.500
I can nurture you.

557
00:36:30.500 --> 00:36:34.500
I can encourage you because you're a part of me.

558
00:36:34.500 --> 00:36:37.500
And then the left hemisphere comes online and says,

559
00:36:37.500 --> 00:36:40.500
Oh, Jill, that is so inappropriate for you to say.

560
00:36:40.500 --> 00:36:43.500
And he has his body space and I have my body space.

561
00:36:43.500 --> 00:36:47.500
And we need to be formal and we need to write and wrong and good and bad.

562
00:36:47.500 --> 00:36:51.500
And we need to establish how the construct of the social norm is

563
00:36:51.500 --> 00:36:54.500
that we are now going to take the mass of all that we are and fit ourselves in that

564
00:36:54.500 --> 00:36:58.500
so that we can communicate with one another and run a world.

565
00:36:58.500 --> 00:37:00.500
You make that phone call.

566
00:37:00.500 --> 00:37:01.500
Yeah.

567
00:37:01.500 --> 00:37:03.500
You sound like a golden retriever.

568
00:37:03.500 --> 00:37:06.500
What happens next is your colleague.

569
00:37:06.500 --> 00:37:08.500
He recognizes it is me.

570
00:37:08.500 --> 00:37:09.500
It is I.

571
00:37:09.500 --> 00:37:14.500
And he comes to my home and back in those days we had managed care.

572
00:37:14.500 --> 00:37:17.500
So you have to go to the right place or you don't get coverage.

573
00:37:17.500 --> 00:37:20.500
So he took me there and then they took a picture of my brain.

574
00:37:20.500 --> 00:37:24.500
And then they put me in an ambulance and sent me to mass general hospital.

575
00:37:24.500 --> 00:37:29.500
And as and I'm still curled up in a little fetal ball going hold on.

576
00:37:29.500 --> 00:37:30.500
Hold on.

577
00:37:30.500 --> 00:37:34.500
And I was slowing down and I knew that I was becoming weaker and weaker and I wondered

578
00:37:34.500 --> 00:37:39.500
how detached from my own ability my own body can a person become

579
00:37:39.500 --> 00:37:43.500
before they can never get back inside this tiny little body

580
00:37:43.500 --> 00:37:47.500
because I felt that I was literally energetically as big as the universe.

581
00:37:47.500 --> 00:37:49.500
And what did that scan show?

582
00:37:49.500 --> 00:37:52.500
It showed a major hemorrhage in the left half of the brain.

583
00:37:52.500 --> 00:37:54.500
Yeah, about that size.

584
00:37:54.500 --> 00:37:57.500
Actually it was a little bigger than that on that on that day.

585
00:37:57.500 --> 00:38:01.500
But by two and a half weeks later when they removed,

586
00:38:01.500 --> 00:38:06.500
that's why we have a golf ball, a golf ball size blood clot from the left half of my brain

587
00:38:06.500 --> 00:38:11.500
two and a half weeks later, December 27.

588
00:38:11.500 --> 00:38:14.500
And then I woke up and I had this huge hemorrhage.

589
00:38:14.500 --> 00:38:20.500
I mean, I had this huge scar but my mother comes rushing in and she says,

590
00:38:20.500 --> 00:38:23.500
speak to me, speak to me because this is my language.

591
00:38:23.500 --> 00:38:27.500
If my language cells are gone, I will have no language.

592
00:38:28.500 --> 00:38:31.500
And I will struggle the rest of my life for language.

593
00:38:31.500 --> 00:38:36.500
And I whispered to her, I'm better.

594
00:38:36.500 --> 00:38:37.500
I'm better.

595
00:38:37.500 --> 00:38:43.500
And what I meant by I'm better was that I felt bright again.

596
00:38:43.500 --> 00:38:44.500
I felt bright.

597
00:38:44.500 --> 00:38:47.500
I felt like whatever life was going to give me at that point in time,

598
00:38:47.500 --> 00:38:48.500
I had brightness.

599
00:38:48.500 --> 00:38:49.500
I was still alive.

600
00:38:49.500 --> 00:38:51.500
I did not die that day.

601
00:38:51.500 --> 00:38:53.500
And when, you know, so many people have said,

602
00:38:53.500 --> 00:38:58.500
how motivated you to get better or how can you could you have been so happy?

603
00:38:58.500 --> 00:39:02.500
And it was like I did not die that day.

604
00:39:02.500 --> 00:39:06.500
And that meant no matter how disabled I was,

605
00:39:06.500 --> 00:39:10.500
I could not walk, talk, read, write, recall any of my life.

606
00:39:10.500 --> 00:39:14.500
I became an infant in a woman's body at the age of 37.

607
00:39:14.500 --> 00:39:18.500
I completely fell off the Harvard ladder and none of that mattered.

608
00:39:18.500 --> 00:39:21.500
All that mattered was I was alive.

609
00:39:21.500 --> 00:39:26.500
And what that meant was I had the potential to grow and heal

610
00:39:26.500 --> 00:39:28.500
and become whatever I would become.

611
00:39:28.500 --> 00:39:29.500
And it didn't matter.

612
00:39:29.500 --> 00:39:33.500
And it still doesn't matter what matters is I'm alive.

613
00:39:33.500 --> 00:39:34.500
It's the gift of life.

614
00:39:34.500 --> 00:39:38.500
And that's for me the wonder of what we are as living beings.

615
00:39:38.500 --> 00:39:43.500
And we are at a time where we are in a mental health crisis.

616
00:39:43.500 --> 00:39:49.500
And our mental health is 100% dependent on the health of the well being of the brain.

617
00:39:49.500 --> 00:39:56.500
And the health and well being of the brain is 100% dependent on the health and well being of the brain cells.

618
00:39:56.500 --> 00:40:01.500
So how do we nurture those cells and love those cells so that we can live the life we want to live

619
00:40:01.500 --> 00:40:03.500
and we can live in joy, we can live in present,

620
00:40:03.500 --> 00:40:10.500
we can live feeling connected to something that is magnificent as a life force power of the universe

621
00:40:10.500 --> 00:40:14.500
and have this magnificent left brain that allows me to have language,

622
00:40:14.500 --> 00:40:18.500
allows me to be a part of society in an effective way

623
00:40:18.500 --> 00:40:23.500
and allows me to have pain from my past so I can learn and grow

624
00:40:23.500 --> 00:40:28.500
from experiences that have happened to me that I would rather not repeat.

625
00:40:28.500 --> 00:40:33.500
What is the complex range of emotions you are experiencing as you account this journey?

626
00:40:33.500 --> 00:40:38.500
Oh, I feel such awe for life.

627
00:40:38.500 --> 00:40:44.500
This is life. This is layers life and there is death and we have life.

628
00:40:44.500 --> 00:40:47.500
And life is the miracle construction of the universe.

629
00:40:47.500 --> 00:40:49.500
Argue about it all you want.

630
00:40:49.500 --> 00:40:52.500
Have a million conversations about it, analyze it to death.

631
00:40:52.500 --> 00:40:56.500
But the fact of the matter is you are alive in this moment.

632
00:40:56.500 --> 00:40:57.500
You are alive.

633
00:40:57.500 --> 00:41:04.500
You can say you have eyes that can see and ears that can hear and you have a digestive tract that can bring in nutrition

634
00:41:04.500 --> 00:41:07.500
and you have manual dexterity and you have mobility.

635
00:41:07.500 --> 00:41:11.500
You have legs that can run around the planet and you have this magnificent mind

636
00:41:11.500 --> 00:41:14.500
so that you can do what you want to do.

637
00:41:14.500 --> 00:41:16.500
You are a miracle.

638
00:41:16.500 --> 00:41:18.500
And we have forgotten that.

639
00:41:18.500 --> 00:41:25.500
And for me, it took me this whole stroke experience took me straight back to the part of my brain that right thinking part

640
00:41:25.500 --> 00:41:33.500
that connects me in that transformation or that transcendence experience of being so much more

641
00:41:33.500 --> 00:41:36.500
than just a little human being running around the planet.

642
00:41:36.500 --> 00:41:38.500
Oh my gosh.

643
00:41:38.500 --> 00:41:42.500
Life is this miracle.

644
00:41:42.500 --> 00:41:46.500
And it makes me feel awe and wonder.

645
00:41:46.500 --> 00:41:52.500
It excites me so much and if everybody had that and recognized that and could grasp that and hold that,

646
00:41:52.500 --> 00:41:56.500
imagine the different world we'd be living in.

647
00:41:56.500 --> 00:41:58.500
Eight years.

648
00:41:58.500 --> 00:42:00.500
Eight years of recovery.

649
00:42:00.500 --> 00:42:02.500
Yes.

650
00:42:02.500 --> 00:42:11.500
Every day, every breath, every everything I thought of nothing else other than what can I do

651
00:42:11.500 --> 00:42:15.500
and what's in the way of me being able to do what I want to do next

652
00:42:15.500 --> 00:42:20.500
and rebuilding using what I had in the right hemisphere to rebuild the circuits.

653
00:42:20.500 --> 00:42:22.500
I knew I had language.

654
00:42:22.500 --> 00:42:23.500
I knew I could speak.

655
00:42:23.500 --> 00:42:24.500
I knew I had vocabulary.

656
00:42:24.500 --> 00:42:25.500
I knew I had ideas.

657
00:42:25.500 --> 00:42:27.500
I knew somewhere in there I had numbers.

658
00:42:27.500 --> 00:42:28.500
It took eight.

659
00:42:28.500 --> 00:42:34.500
It took four years for me to even understand what's a one.

660
00:42:34.500 --> 00:42:37.500
I mean, wow.

661
00:42:37.500 --> 00:42:38.500
Wow.

662
00:42:38.500 --> 00:42:40.500
I did not die that day.

663
00:42:41.500 --> 00:42:43.500
I did not die that day.

664
00:42:43.500 --> 00:42:46.500
And so I have all the possibility of what will be.

665
00:42:46.500 --> 00:42:47.500
And it was wide open.

666
00:42:47.500 --> 00:42:51.500
I wasn't going to be a neuroscientist again because that left hemisphere.

667
00:42:51.500 --> 00:42:57.500
I never held myself to returning to whom I had been before the stroke.

668
00:42:57.500 --> 00:43:00.500
That girl died that day as far as I was concerned.

669
00:43:00.500 --> 00:43:06.500
But the phenomenon was that as I'm a gross anatomist, so I taught connect cadaver lab.

670
00:43:06.500 --> 00:43:12.500
And when you are teaching, you have a whole body there and you're teaching medical students about what's inside of there.

671
00:43:12.500 --> 00:43:17.500
You get your hands in there and you say, I want you to slip in behind the stomach.

672
00:43:17.500 --> 00:43:19.500
And I want you to slip this hand in here.

673
00:43:19.500 --> 00:43:28.500
And I want you to know the relationship between the stomach and the duodenum and the liver and the splinic nerve and the kidney.

674
00:43:28.500 --> 00:43:34.500
I want you to feel it because I want you to have a three-dimensional image of that inside of your mind

675
00:43:34.500 --> 00:43:37.500
so that you can use that information.

676
00:43:37.500 --> 00:43:39.500
Very right brain.

677
00:43:39.500 --> 00:43:44.500
So when we learn, we learn facts and details with the left brain.

678
00:43:44.500 --> 00:43:49.500
But we learn contacts and big picture with the right brain.

679
00:43:49.500 --> 00:43:53.500
So we have these two very different ways of working it out.

680
00:43:53.500 --> 00:44:00.500
I've had so many founders speak to me and say, why didn't this particular ad that I ran on this platform work for me?

681
00:44:00.500 --> 00:44:05.500
Maybe the copy wasn't good, the creative wasn't strong, but usually the problem is they're not having the right conversation.

682
00:44:05.500 --> 00:44:07.500
Because that ad never reached the right person.

683
00:44:07.500 --> 00:44:10.500
And if you're in B2B marketing, that is much of the game.

684
00:44:10.500 --> 00:44:14.500
And this is where LinkedIn ads solves that problem for you.

685
00:44:14.500 --> 00:44:16.500
Their targeting is ridiculously specific.

686
00:44:16.500 --> 00:44:22.500
You can target it by job title, seniority, company size, industry, and even someone's skillset.

687
00:44:22.500 --> 00:44:28.500
And then network includes over a billion professionals, about 130 million of them are decision makers.

688
00:44:28.500 --> 00:44:32.500
So when you use LinkedIn ads, you're putting your brand in front of the right people.

689
00:44:32.500 --> 00:44:37.500
And LinkedIn ads also drive the highest B2B return on ad spend across all ad networks and my experience.

690
00:44:37.500 --> 00:44:42.500
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691
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693
00:44:56.500 --> 00:44:59.500
So you said there's four personalities in everybody's brain.

694
00:44:59.500 --> 00:45:01.500
What are those four personalities?

695
00:45:01.500 --> 00:45:07.500
As we're looking at the brain, just from an anatomical perspective.

696
00:45:07.500 --> 00:45:15.500
The way evolution happens for the mammalian brain is that there are creatures who have a spinal cord.

697
00:45:15.500 --> 00:45:19.500
And then there are creatures like that like worms.

698
00:45:19.500 --> 00:45:24.500
And then a little brain, a little modula, will form at the top of that tissue.

699
00:45:24.500 --> 00:45:30.500
And then now that brain controls and streamlines information processing to the rest of the system.

700
00:45:30.500 --> 00:45:32.500
And then we add a pawns.

701
00:45:32.500 --> 00:45:33.500
What's that?

702
00:45:33.500 --> 00:45:34.500
It's just a structure of cells.

703
00:45:34.500 --> 00:45:35.500
So this is the modula.

704
00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:36.500
Yeah.

705
00:45:36.500 --> 00:45:37.500
We would have spinal cord there.

706
00:45:37.500 --> 00:45:38.500
And this is the pawns.

707
00:45:38.500 --> 00:45:39.500
Oh, it's like a pawns.

708
00:45:39.500 --> 00:45:40.500
It's a grip of cells.

709
00:45:40.500 --> 00:45:42.500
Yeah, it's a smaller bread.

710
00:45:42.500 --> 00:45:45.500
And in relationship to that pawns is this cerebellum.

711
00:45:45.500 --> 00:45:49.500
And the cerebellum has this gorgeous cell in it called the pergenji cell.

712
00:45:49.500 --> 00:45:50.500
And they're like a hand.

713
00:45:50.500 --> 00:45:52.500
They're like, you know, two-dimensional.

714
00:45:52.500 --> 00:45:55.500
And they all line up like this.

715
00:45:55.500 --> 00:45:58.500
And then fibers run through those...

716
00:45:58.500 --> 00:46:03.500
And it's part of the mechanism of timing so that you have fluidity of movement

717
00:46:03.500 --> 00:46:06.500
because of the way those cells are aligned.

718
00:46:06.500 --> 00:46:09.500
So not all cells are created equal and not all cells look alike.

719
00:46:09.500 --> 00:46:13.500
Cells have the right shape for the right job.

720
00:46:14.500 --> 00:46:19.500
So as then we grow and now we have the mammalian brain,

721
00:46:19.500 --> 00:46:21.500
we're going to have the hippocampus.

722
00:46:21.500 --> 00:46:23.500
You've heard of that for learning and memory.

723
00:46:23.500 --> 00:46:24.500
The amygdala.

724
00:46:24.500 --> 00:46:26.500
You've heard that for am I safe?

725
00:46:26.500 --> 00:46:27.500
Am I safe?

726
00:46:27.500 --> 00:46:28.500
Or are you safe?

727
00:46:28.500 --> 00:46:29.500
The amygdala.

728
00:46:29.500 --> 00:46:32.500
Yeah, there's a group of cells right there that are scanning constantly.

729
00:46:32.500 --> 00:46:33.500
Am I safe?

730
00:46:33.500 --> 00:46:34.500
Am I safe?

731
00:46:34.500 --> 00:46:35.500
Am I safe?

732
00:46:35.500 --> 00:46:37.500
And you're fine until you're not safe.

733
00:46:37.500 --> 00:46:38.500
Okay, so like threat detection.

734
00:46:38.500 --> 00:46:40.500
Yes, that's exactly what it is.

735
00:46:40.500 --> 00:46:42.500
You have two emotional systems.

736
00:46:42.500 --> 00:46:46.500
One in your left hemisphere and one in your right hemisphere.

737
00:46:46.500 --> 00:46:49.500
And the right hemisphere is going to be right here right now.

738
00:46:49.500 --> 00:46:51.500
Am I safe in the right here right now?

739
00:46:51.500 --> 00:46:57.500
So let's say all of a sudden a snake went by and we would startle

740
00:46:57.500 --> 00:46:59.500
because it's your right amygdala saying,

741
00:46:59.500 --> 00:47:01.500
oh my gosh, am I safe?

742
00:47:01.500 --> 00:47:04.500
And then the left hemisphere is going, oh my gosh, it's a snake.

743
00:47:04.500 --> 00:47:05.500
No, I'm not safe.

744
00:47:05.500 --> 00:47:07.500
Push it away.

745
00:47:07.500 --> 00:47:10.500
And when we're calm, that's when the hippocampi,

746
00:47:10.500 --> 00:47:14.500
to amygdala went in each hemisphere, to hippocampi went in each hemisphere.

747
00:47:14.500 --> 00:47:17.500
And when the amygdala are calm and you feel safe,

748
00:47:17.500 --> 00:47:19.500
now you can learn and focus.

749
00:47:19.500 --> 00:47:23.500
Focus with the anterior with the singular gyrus and learn new things.

750
00:47:23.500 --> 00:47:27.500
So, you know, these groups of cells.

751
00:47:27.500 --> 00:47:30.500
Now, if you wipe out an amygdala, you're not going to feel any fear.

752
00:47:30.500 --> 00:47:33.500
You wipe out a language center, you're not going to have any language.

753
00:47:33.500 --> 00:47:37.500
You wipe out motor skills to your index finger and you can't your paralyzed.

754
00:47:37.500 --> 00:47:42.500
So, every ability you have is because we have these brain cells that perform not function.

755
00:47:42.500 --> 00:47:45.500
So, for the four parts of us,

756
00:47:45.500 --> 00:47:49.500
so we have an emotional system in each hemisphere.

757
00:47:49.500 --> 00:47:51.500
The emotional system of the right hemisphere,

758
00:47:51.500 --> 00:47:53.500
this is a right here, right now, machine.

759
00:47:53.500 --> 00:47:55.500
Right here, right now, that's all it has.

760
00:47:55.500 --> 00:47:58.500
Don't have the past, don't have the future, don't know who you are.

761
00:47:58.500 --> 00:48:00.500
Doesn't have anxiety, depression.

762
00:48:00.500 --> 00:48:02.500
Well, it has anxiety,

763
00:48:02.500 --> 00:48:06.500
but most of that is going to be based in the left hemisphere.

764
00:48:06.500 --> 00:48:11.500
Because this machine, the left hemisphere, has linearity across time.

765
00:48:11.500 --> 00:48:16.500
So, this emotional system is remembering every traumatic event that ever happened to you

766
00:48:16.500 --> 00:48:18.500
that you don't want to have happen again.

767
00:48:18.500 --> 00:48:20.500
Is that where trauma lives in the brain?

768
00:48:20.500 --> 00:48:22.500
Trauma's living in there is addiction.

769
00:48:22.500 --> 00:48:25.500
Addiction, there's a group of cells in here called the insular cortex,

770
00:48:25.500 --> 00:48:27.500
and that's where craving is,

771
00:48:27.500 --> 00:48:30.500
and that's part of the limbic system of the left hemisphere.

772
00:48:30.500 --> 00:48:34.500
And if you wipe out craving, do you still have an addiction?

773
00:48:34.500 --> 00:48:39.500
So, let me just keep going.

774
00:48:39.500 --> 00:48:41.500
So, we have these two emotional systems,

775
00:48:41.500 --> 00:48:43.500
and then we have these two thinking systems.

776
00:48:43.500 --> 00:48:48.500
And the thinking system is what distinguishes us as humans from all of their mammals.

777
00:48:48.500 --> 00:48:51.500
Okay, so our mammals, our dogs love us.

778
00:48:51.500 --> 00:48:52.500
There ain't any question about that.

779
00:48:52.500 --> 00:48:55.500
Our dogs can punish us when we're not very, you know,

780
00:48:55.500 --> 00:48:58.500
we don't show up and we've sent them to doggy care.

781
00:48:58.500 --> 00:49:00.500
And if they're not happy about that.

782
00:49:00.500 --> 00:49:02.500
So, mammals have other forms,

783
00:49:02.500 --> 00:49:05.500
but we have this higher executive functioning.

784
00:49:05.500 --> 00:49:08.500
And in the right hemisphere, it's right here right now.

785
00:49:08.500 --> 00:49:11.500
And in the left hemisphere, it's all about me.

786
00:49:11.500 --> 00:49:14.500
Because in there in that thinking is my ego center,

787
00:49:14.500 --> 00:49:18.500
in that prefrontal region, I, me, I exist.

788
00:49:18.500 --> 00:49:21.500
Get back here, orientation association area.

789
00:49:21.500 --> 00:49:23.500
I begin and I end here.

790
00:49:23.500 --> 00:49:25.500
This is the package of me, the individual.

791
00:49:25.500 --> 00:49:27.500
I have a language.

792
00:49:27.500 --> 00:49:28.500
I can create language.

793
00:49:28.500 --> 00:49:29.500
I can understand language.

794
00:49:29.500 --> 00:49:30.500
I can read.

795
00:49:30.500 --> 00:49:31.500
I can write.

796
00:49:31.500 --> 00:49:32.500
I have mathematics in there.

797
00:49:32.500 --> 00:49:36.500
And this motor system controls the opposite side of my body.

798
00:49:36.500 --> 00:49:38.500
So that's a personality.

799
00:49:38.500 --> 00:49:40.500
So what are the, it's to summarize them.

800
00:49:40.500 --> 00:49:41.500
What are the four types?

801
00:49:41.500 --> 00:49:43.500
Okay, so I, when I look at a brain,

802
00:49:43.500 --> 00:49:46.500
and this is totally randomly named,

803
00:49:46.500 --> 00:49:50.500
and I did that because I had to communicate about it somewhere.

804
00:49:50.500 --> 00:49:53.500
So I call left thinking character one.

805
00:49:53.500 --> 00:49:55.500
And I actually give that part of my brain a name.

806
00:49:55.500 --> 00:49:56.500
I call our Helen.

807
00:49:56.500 --> 00:49:58.500
Helen, on wheels, she gets it done.

808
00:49:58.500 --> 00:49:59.500
You're talking a Helen right now.

809
00:49:59.500 --> 00:50:00.500
She's giving you facts and details.

810
00:50:00.500 --> 00:50:02.500
She is all about what is right and wrong and good and bad.

811
00:50:02.500 --> 00:50:04.500
How do I fit myself into a society?

812
00:50:04.500 --> 00:50:08.500
How do I use my words in order to communicate?

813
00:50:08.500 --> 00:50:10.500
So this is part of us that goes to work.

814
00:50:10.500 --> 00:50:12.500
It's our A type personality.

815
00:50:12.500 --> 00:50:14.500
Character one, left thinking.

816
00:50:14.500 --> 00:50:16.500
And that's on this side here.

817
00:50:16.500 --> 00:50:18.500
Yeah, well, it's all, it's, it's this outer,

818
00:50:18.500 --> 00:50:23.500
this outer layer of cells is called the cerebral cortex.

819
00:50:23.500 --> 00:50:26.500
And the cerebral cortex is actually in human made up

820
00:50:26.500 --> 00:50:29.500
of mostly six layers of cells.

821
00:50:29.500 --> 00:50:30.500
It's very complex.

822
00:50:30.500 --> 00:50:34.500
In some areas, especially where you have sensory systems,

823
00:50:34.500 --> 00:50:36.500
it's just going to be four layers.

824
00:50:36.500 --> 00:50:39.500
But this is a complex portion of the organ

825
00:50:39.500 --> 00:50:42.500
that separates us from other animals.

826
00:50:42.500 --> 00:50:44.500
What about character two?

827
00:50:44.500 --> 00:50:46.500
So character two is going to be the left emotion.

828
00:50:46.500 --> 00:50:48.500
Now, the difference between the,

829
00:50:48.500 --> 00:50:51.500
the things you can say predictably about the left hemisphere

830
00:50:52.500 --> 00:50:54.500
is it has linearity across time,

831
00:50:54.500 --> 00:50:56.500
and it has me the individual.

832
00:50:56.500 --> 00:51:00.500
And my emotional system then has my past pain

833
00:51:00.500 --> 00:51:04.500
and it's kind of always looking for a reason

834
00:51:04.500 --> 00:51:08.500
to nature react and have emotional reactivity.

835
00:51:08.500 --> 00:51:11.500
So so many people are trying to fix or heal

836
00:51:11.500 --> 00:51:13.500
or get rid of their emotional reactivity.

837
00:51:13.500 --> 00:51:16.500
When we, this is a portion of our brain,

838
00:51:16.500 --> 00:51:18.500
which is running constantly in the background

839
00:51:18.500 --> 00:51:21.500
to protect us from in the present moment

840
00:51:21.500 --> 00:51:23.500
when new information comes in.

841
00:51:23.500 --> 00:51:26.500
So we want to work with that and we want to appreciate it

842
00:51:26.500 --> 00:51:28.500
and we want to love on it and we want to be kind to it

843
00:51:28.500 --> 00:51:30.500
because it's generally not very happy

844
00:51:30.500 --> 00:51:33.500
because it is storing all of our pain from the past.

845
00:51:33.500 --> 00:51:34.500
And what you call that?

846
00:51:34.500 --> 00:51:35.500
Character two.

847
00:51:35.500 --> 00:51:36.500
I call mine Abby.

848
00:51:36.500 --> 00:51:41.500
We could spend a whole semester talking about character two

849
00:51:41.500 --> 00:51:43.500
because character two is our pain from the past.

850
00:51:44.500 --> 00:51:48.500
And in our society, everything's about our pain from the past

851
00:51:48.500 --> 00:51:50.500
and our professional self.

852
00:51:50.500 --> 00:51:53.500
Character three is going to be the emotional content

853
00:51:53.500 --> 00:51:54.500
of the right hemisphere.

854
00:51:54.500 --> 00:51:56.500
Well, this is right here right now.

855
00:51:56.500 --> 00:51:59.500
What am I experiencing emotionally experiential?

856
00:51:59.500 --> 00:52:01.500
This is where what's the temperature of the air?

857
00:52:01.500 --> 00:52:03.500
What does it feel like to have clothing on?

858
00:52:03.500 --> 00:52:05.500
What does that feel like on your body?

859
00:52:05.500 --> 00:52:08.500
When you meditate, they ask you to become aware

860
00:52:08.500 --> 00:52:09.500
of your environment, right?

861
00:52:09.500 --> 00:52:11.500
And focus on your breath, exactly.

862
00:52:11.500 --> 00:52:14.500
Because they want you to expand yourself

863
00:52:14.500 --> 00:52:16.500
one out of the thinking consciousness

864
00:52:16.500 --> 00:52:19.500
and write wrong and good and bad structure,

865
00:52:19.500 --> 00:52:22.500
the box that we think in, of the left thinking,

866
00:52:22.500 --> 00:52:25.500
and they want you to stop thinking about your girlfriend

867
00:52:25.500 --> 00:52:27.500
and boy, we didn't really end it very well

868
00:52:27.500 --> 00:52:29.500
or boy, I had a great morning this morning.

869
00:52:29.500 --> 00:52:31.500
Okay, so this is playful.

870
00:52:31.500 --> 00:52:33.500
So character three, it's young.

871
00:52:33.500 --> 00:52:36.500
We have two little people inside of ourselves

872
00:52:36.500 --> 00:52:37.500
and that's the emotional.

873
00:52:37.500 --> 00:52:38.500
They're immature.

874
00:52:38.500 --> 00:52:40.500
We are feeling creatures.

875
00:52:40.500 --> 00:52:44.500
As biological creatures, we are feeling creatures who think.

876
00:52:44.500 --> 00:52:46.500
So a lot of character threes, actually,

877
00:52:46.500 --> 00:52:49.500
we have character three moments, the land is in jail.

878
00:52:49.500 --> 00:52:51.500
Because it's not thinking about consequences of behavior.

879
00:52:51.500 --> 00:52:53.500
It's just thinking, oh, yeah, the neighbor is pulled.

880
00:52:53.500 --> 00:52:54.500
It's three o'clock in the morning.

881
00:52:54.500 --> 00:52:55.500
They won't notice.

882
00:52:55.500 --> 00:52:56.500
Let's go jump in their pool.

883
00:52:56.500 --> 00:52:59.500
And then the next thing we know, you know, we've been arrested.

884
00:52:59.500 --> 00:53:02.500
So then character four is the thinking portion of our brain.

885
00:53:02.500 --> 00:53:05.500
This is our, this is our wisdom.

886
00:53:05.500 --> 00:53:09.500
We go and we have experiences and we learn.

887
00:53:09.500 --> 00:53:12.500
Because neuroplasticity is real.

888
00:53:12.500 --> 00:53:14.500
And we have to have neuroplasticity.

889
00:53:14.500 --> 00:53:16.500
And this is all about the cells.

890
00:53:16.500 --> 00:53:19.500
Neurons, in real time, reaching out,

891
00:53:19.500 --> 00:53:21.500
making new connections constantly.

892
00:53:21.500 --> 00:53:23.500
But their cell bodies are in position.

893
00:53:23.500 --> 00:53:27.500
But in order for me to make an association between you

894
00:53:27.500 --> 00:53:31.500
and something else, then I actually grow to you

895
00:53:31.500 --> 00:53:33.500
and I grow to the something else.

896
00:53:33.500 --> 00:53:35.500
And then I learn about that.

897
00:53:35.500 --> 00:53:39.500
So our capacity to learn is what is the underlying feature

898
00:53:39.500 --> 00:53:40.500
is neuroplasticity.

899
00:53:40.500 --> 00:53:42.500
I would not be sitting here talking to you today.

900
00:53:42.500 --> 00:53:46.500
If neuroplasticity didn't turn on fire

901
00:53:46.500 --> 00:53:48.500
when I needed it for eight years.

902
00:53:48.500 --> 00:53:52.500
And it took eight years for me to use what I had in this brain

903
00:53:52.500 --> 00:53:54.500
to rebuild the skill sets of this brain.

904
00:53:54.500 --> 00:53:58.500
But the thinking portion, the character four portion of our brain

905
00:53:58.500 --> 00:54:02.500
is the wisdom that we gain from the knowledge that we have had.

906
00:54:02.500 --> 00:54:05.500
And we have associated it and we can relate to it.

907
00:54:05.500 --> 00:54:09.500
And this part, all it cares about, is that emotion

908
00:54:09.500 --> 00:54:13.500
that I felt that morning, which was all,

909
00:54:13.500 --> 00:54:16.500
all that I'm allowed to alive at all.

910
00:54:16.500 --> 00:54:19.500
And when we can connect to that, people, people,

911
00:54:19.500 --> 00:54:23.500
it's billion dollar industry of meditation to quiet

912
00:54:23.500 --> 00:54:25.500
what's going on in the left hemisphere

913
00:54:25.500 --> 00:54:27.500
so that we can open up the possibility

914
00:54:27.500 --> 00:54:30.500
to what's going on in the right hemisphere.

915
00:54:31.500 --> 00:54:33.500
And it's our peace.

916
00:54:33.500 --> 00:54:36.500
We are wired at the core of our being

917
00:54:36.500 --> 00:54:39.500
of our right thinking tissue to feel peace.

918
00:54:39.500 --> 00:54:42.500
And we do not exist in a world that is peaceful.

919
00:54:42.500 --> 00:54:47.500
So if we are functioning on an extreme left brain

920
00:54:47.500 --> 00:54:50.500
left thinking, and we are emotionally volatile

921
00:54:50.500 --> 00:54:53.500
when people insult us, and we're all about the me, me, me,

922
00:54:53.500 --> 00:54:55.500
and we have forgotten about the way,

923
00:54:55.500 --> 00:54:58.500
look at the world we currently live in.

924
00:54:58.500 --> 00:55:01.500
And right now we are so skewed to meet the individual

925
00:55:01.500 --> 00:55:04.500
and I want more and I'm against you

926
00:55:04.500 --> 00:55:07.500
because you're not a part of my tribe.

927
00:55:07.500 --> 00:55:11.500
And we balance that by knowing that I am alive.

928
00:55:11.500 --> 00:55:13.500
It is this incredibly precious gift.

929
00:55:13.500 --> 00:55:16.500
The odds that I had to beat just to be here.

930
00:55:16.500 --> 00:55:18.500
Have you ever stopped to think about the odds you had to be

931
00:55:18.500 --> 00:55:19.500
just to be here?

932
00:55:19.500 --> 00:55:20.500
Think about this.

933
00:55:20.500 --> 00:55:22.500
Now first of all, think about this.

934
00:55:22.500 --> 00:55:26.500
The little egg cell that would evolve into you eventually,

935
00:55:26.500 --> 00:55:29.500
it took form, it's about the size of, you know,

936
00:55:29.500 --> 00:55:31.500
it's an egg cell, it's tiny.

937
00:55:31.500 --> 00:55:35.500
But it took form during your mother's fifth week

938
00:55:35.500 --> 00:55:36.500
of gestation.

939
00:55:36.500 --> 00:55:40.500
So your mother, your grandmother's pregnant, right?

940
00:55:40.500 --> 00:55:43.500
And that little egg cell that would be your mother

941
00:55:43.500 --> 00:55:45.500
has now made it into the womb.

942
00:55:45.500 --> 00:55:47.500
And during the fifth week of being there,

943
00:55:47.500 --> 00:55:50.500
the little egg cell that would grow into you took form

944
00:55:50.500 --> 00:55:53.500
it differentiated into the ovum.

945
00:55:53.500 --> 00:55:56.500
And so you, the little egg cell witness,

946
00:55:56.500 --> 00:56:00.500
the next eight months of your mother's gestation,

947
00:56:00.500 --> 00:56:03.500
your mother's birth, your mother's screaming,

948
00:56:03.500 --> 00:56:05.500
your mother's toddler years,

949
00:56:05.500 --> 00:56:08.500
your mother's learning to sing and laugh and play

950
00:56:08.500 --> 00:56:11.500
and learn geography and mathematics all the way

951
00:56:11.500 --> 00:56:12.500
through her puberty.

952
00:56:12.500 --> 00:56:18.500
And then, so she's born with some 400,000 egg cells

953
00:56:18.500 --> 00:56:20.500
in her of two ovaries.

954
00:56:20.500 --> 00:56:23.500
And out of those 400,000 egg cells,

955
00:56:23.500 --> 00:56:26.500
approximately 500 of those egg cells

956
00:56:26.500 --> 00:56:31.500
are going to be the next follicular eruption,

957
00:56:31.500 --> 00:56:34.500
month by month by month, with her period.

958
00:56:34.500 --> 00:56:36.500
And your little egg cell, imagine,

959
00:56:36.500 --> 00:56:38.500
you're hanging out in your little ovarian follicle

960
00:56:38.500 --> 00:56:40.500
and it's your turn and you're getting all prepped

961
00:56:40.500 --> 00:56:42.500
by the hormones of the body and you're going,

962
00:56:42.500 --> 00:56:44.500
oh my god, it's my ride, right?

963
00:56:44.500 --> 00:56:45.500
And you're this little egg cell.

964
00:56:45.500 --> 00:56:47.500
And then the hormones swoop by your little egg cell

965
00:56:47.500 --> 00:56:52.500
and it beams you out in the fembraia of the fallopian tubes

966
00:56:52.500 --> 00:56:55.500
gather you up and you begin your promenade,

967
00:56:55.500 --> 00:56:57.500
your fallopian promenade on the way

968
00:56:57.500 --> 00:57:00.500
road to your mother's sacred womb.

969
00:57:00.500 --> 00:57:04.500
And in that moment, your father was there for you

970
00:57:04.500 --> 00:57:06.500
and you were one of the lucky ones.

971
00:57:06.500 --> 00:57:10.500
And you beat the odds of all those egg cells.

972
00:57:10.500 --> 00:57:12.500
You beat the odds.

973
00:57:12.500 --> 00:57:15.500
And how can that not be something that we celebrate

974
00:57:15.500 --> 00:57:20.500
the wonder of, the odds you had to be just to be here?

975
00:57:20.500 --> 00:57:22.500
And then for the next nine months,

976
00:57:22.500 --> 00:57:25.500
that little egg cell is going to multiply its DNA,

977
00:57:25.500 --> 00:57:28.500
repackage that DNA, one cell becomes two,

978
00:57:28.500 --> 00:57:30.500
becomes four, becomes eight, becomes sixteen,

979
00:57:30.500 --> 00:57:35.500
becomes 50 trillion cells over the course of nine months

980
00:57:35.500 --> 00:57:40.500
and your multiplying egg cells is at a rate of 250,000

981
00:57:40.500 --> 00:57:43.500
new cells per second.

982
00:57:43.500 --> 00:57:46.500
Per second, not permanent per second.

983
00:57:46.500 --> 00:57:49.500
You're this explosion and literally the energy of the universe

984
00:57:49.500 --> 00:57:53.500
is what is fueling all of this from happening.

985
00:57:53.500 --> 00:57:58.500
You are nothing other than mass and energy working together.

986
00:57:58.500 --> 00:58:00.500
And then there's you.

987
00:58:00.500 --> 00:58:03.500
And it's like, how on earth can I have mental health problems

988
00:58:03.500 --> 00:58:07.500
and not acknowledge and have all for what we are?

989
00:58:07.500 --> 00:58:08.500
Oh my gosh.

990
00:58:08.500 --> 00:58:12.500
And that's what, that was the gift that stroke gave to my life.

991
00:58:12.500 --> 00:58:15.500
And you can see I get a little excited about it.

992
00:58:15.500 --> 00:58:16.500
A little, yeah.

993
00:58:16.500 --> 00:58:17.500
We are so beautiful.

994
00:58:17.500 --> 00:58:19.500
We are so beautiful.

995
00:58:19.500 --> 00:58:21.500
We are perfect and whole and beautiful just the way we are.

996
00:58:21.500 --> 00:58:24.500
And it's like if we would become balanced as a society,

997
00:58:24.500 --> 00:58:26.500
we would, I truly believe,

998
00:58:26.500 --> 00:58:30.500
truly believe with every essence of my being that our number one job

999
00:58:30.500 --> 00:58:32.500
is to love one another.

1000
00:58:32.500 --> 00:58:35.500
When we love one another and we support one another

1001
00:58:35.500 --> 00:58:37.500
and we encourage one another,

1002
00:58:37.500 --> 00:58:41.500
we all grow and we will benefit as humanity.

1003
00:58:41.500 --> 00:58:44.500
And when that happens, we will really recognize

1004
00:58:44.500 --> 00:58:47.500
we have fragile resources on this planet

1005
00:58:47.500 --> 00:58:50.500
and we need to nurture the planet as a part of us

1006
00:58:50.500 --> 00:58:55.500
because we have a symbiotic relationship with this planet.

1007
00:58:55.500 --> 00:58:57.500
Talks me out.

1008
00:58:57.500 --> 00:58:58.500
Why?

1009
00:58:58.500 --> 00:59:01.500
Because it's, you know,

1010
00:59:01.500 --> 00:59:05.500
lots of conversations about, are we going to make it?

1011
00:59:05.500 --> 00:59:07.500
Or are we not going to make it?

1012
00:59:07.500 --> 00:59:10.500
What is the future of humanity?

1013
00:59:10.500 --> 00:59:11.500
Where do we go?

1014
00:59:11.500 --> 00:59:13.500
How do we, how what happens?

1015
00:59:13.500 --> 00:59:16.500
We, we live in a threat every day of our existence,

1016
00:59:16.500 --> 00:59:21.500
of our, you know, existence being completely blown apart.

1017
00:59:21.500 --> 00:59:22.500
Okay.

1018
00:59:22.500 --> 00:59:23.500
What are these?

1019
00:59:23.500 --> 00:59:24.500
I would like for you to put those on.

1020
00:59:24.500 --> 00:59:25.500
Okay.

1021
00:59:25.500 --> 00:59:26.500
No.

1022
00:59:26.500 --> 00:59:29.500
Okay. And I just want you to sit in that for like,

1023
00:59:29.500 --> 00:59:31.500
oh, just a, you know, 30 seconds, 20 seconds.

1024
00:59:31.500 --> 00:59:33.500
Actually, it's a pretty good look on you there.

1025
00:59:33.500 --> 00:59:34.500
Yeah.

1026
00:59:34.500 --> 00:59:35.500
Exactly.

1027
00:59:35.500 --> 00:59:36.500
Okay.

1028
00:59:36.500 --> 00:59:41.500
Now, I would like for you to pull your right one.

1029
00:59:41.500 --> 00:59:45.500
The little, do you see how it's got a little, little edge?

1030
00:59:45.500 --> 00:59:46.500
Yeah.

1031
00:59:46.500 --> 00:59:47.500
You know, you flip it up.

1032
00:59:47.500 --> 00:59:48.500
It'll flip up.

1033
00:59:48.500 --> 00:59:49.500
Yeah.

1034
00:59:49.500 --> 00:59:50.500
And flip it all the way up.

1035
00:59:50.500 --> 00:59:53.500
Now, what you're doing right now is you are bringing light in

1036
00:59:53.500 --> 00:59:56.500
from the lateral portion of your visual field.

1037
00:59:56.500 --> 00:59:57.500
What does that mean?

1038
00:59:57.500 --> 00:59:58.500
Of that eye.

1039
00:59:58.500 --> 01:00:00.500
So close when I leave one eye open.

1040
01:00:00.500 --> 01:00:01.500
Okay.

1041
01:00:01.500 --> 01:00:02.500
That's a ball.

1042
01:00:02.500 --> 01:00:05.500
Down the middle is an artificial line.

1043
01:00:05.500 --> 01:00:06.500
Yeah.

1044
01:00:06.500 --> 01:00:10.500
Outside, the outside portion, that is called lateral.

1045
01:00:10.500 --> 01:00:12.500
And the inside side is called medial.

1046
01:00:12.500 --> 01:00:13.500
Okay.

1047
01:00:13.500 --> 01:00:15.500
And so the lateral light is now coming in.

1048
01:00:15.500 --> 01:00:19.500
And that hits the, the medial side of your retina.

1049
01:00:19.500 --> 01:00:21.500
And the retina is the back of the eyeball.

1050
01:00:21.500 --> 01:00:22.500
Okay.

1051
01:00:22.500 --> 01:00:24.500
So the light's coming in from the outside of my eye.

1052
01:00:24.500 --> 01:00:25.500
Yes.

1053
01:00:25.500 --> 01:00:26.500
And it's hitting the inside of my eye.

1054
01:00:26.500 --> 01:00:30.500
It's hitting the, it's coming out from the outside of your visual field.

1055
01:00:30.500 --> 01:00:34.500
It's hitting the medial internal side of your retina.

1056
01:00:34.500 --> 01:00:38.500
And then those fibers are boom, crossing over to the opposite hemisphere.

1057
01:00:38.500 --> 01:00:39.500
Okay.

1058
01:00:39.500 --> 01:00:41.500
So you diagram on the screen for anyone.

1059
01:00:41.500 --> 01:00:42.500
Yeah.

1060
01:00:42.500 --> 01:00:43.500
Yeah.

1061
01:00:43.500 --> 01:00:47.500
So right now you are purposely stimulating your left hemisphere.

1062
01:00:47.500 --> 01:00:51.500
So I just wanted to just, how do you feel inside of your body?

1063
01:00:51.500 --> 01:00:53.500
Just describe a few things to me.

1064
01:00:53.500 --> 01:00:54.500
How do you feel?

1065
01:00:54.500 --> 01:00:57.500
Feeling analytical about anything, thinking about anything.

1066
01:00:58.500 --> 01:01:00.500
And then my back is got a little bit of a pain in it.

1067
01:01:00.500 --> 01:01:01.500
Uh-huh.

1068
01:01:01.500 --> 01:01:04.500
But otherwise it's just very focused on doing this job as the host in the diver CEO.

1069
01:01:04.500 --> 01:01:05.500
Beautiful.

1070
01:01:05.500 --> 01:01:06.500
Just focus.

1071
01:01:06.500 --> 01:01:08.500
Which is what that left hemisphere should do.

1072
01:01:08.500 --> 01:01:10.500
So go ahead and flip that down.

1073
01:01:10.500 --> 01:01:11.500
Okay.

1074
01:01:11.500 --> 01:01:12.500
Yeah.

1075
01:01:12.500 --> 01:01:19.500
And then just like stay for like 20 seconds and let everything kind of equilibrate to whatever the darkness is that's in there.

1076
01:01:19.500 --> 01:01:20.500
Yeah.

1077
01:01:20.500 --> 01:01:22.500
All right.

1078
01:01:22.500 --> 01:01:23.500
Okay.

1079
01:01:23.500 --> 01:01:29.500
Go ahead then and pull up the other side.

1080
01:01:29.500 --> 01:01:30.500
It's a good look.

1081
01:01:30.500 --> 01:01:32.500
It's like a little flag right there.

1082
01:01:32.500 --> 01:01:33.500
Yeah.

1083
01:01:33.500 --> 01:01:34.500
Okay.

1084
01:01:37.500 --> 01:01:41.500
How do you feel?

1085
01:01:41.500 --> 01:01:44.500
Are we the effort more relaxed?

1086
01:01:44.500 --> 01:01:46.500
Now or before?

1087
01:01:46.500 --> 01:01:48.500
No, now I feel more relaxed.

1088
01:01:48.500 --> 01:01:50.500
Your whole body just went calm.

1089
01:01:50.500 --> 01:01:51.500
Yeah.

1090
01:01:51.500 --> 01:01:52.500
What else?

1091
01:01:52.500 --> 01:01:54.500
Tell me something more.

1092
01:01:54.500 --> 01:01:57.500
Any aches or pains in your body?

1093
01:01:57.500 --> 01:01:58.500
I just feel way more relaxed.

1094
01:01:58.500 --> 01:02:00.500
I feel like I'm laying low in a sun larger.

1095
01:02:00.500 --> 01:02:01.500
Yeah.

1096
01:02:01.500 --> 01:02:04.500
That's what the right brain feels like.

1097
01:02:04.500 --> 01:02:11.500
So you're bringing left information in from that, the light of the lateral side of your visual field.

1098
01:02:11.500 --> 01:02:16.500
It's hitting the medial portion of your retina and crossing into your right hemisphere.

1099
01:02:16.500 --> 01:02:21.500
So what you're doing right now is you're sending light energy photons into the right hemisphere

1100
01:02:21.500 --> 01:02:24.500
and it is pushing through.

1101
01:02:24.500 --> 01:02:34.500
And now this is an easy, easy way for people to control and choose how they want to be

1102
01:02:34.500 --> 01:02:40.500
between their two hemispheres and really get to know, oh, how do I know this isn't just a placebo?

1103
01:02:40.500 --> 01:02:43.500
Like how do I, because I said, I do feel way more relaxed.

1104
01:02:43.500 --> 01:02:44.500
Yeah.

1105
01:02:44.500 --> 01:02:51.500
But if you look at the anatomy, if you look at the anatomy, this is where light is coming

1106
01:02:51.500 --> 01:02:58.500
in on the, you can't really see it on here, but that's going to be information from your eyeballs,

1107
01:02:58.500 --> 01:03:00.500
which would be sitting right here, right there.

1108
01:03:00.500 --> 01:03:01.500
This is fibers.

1109
01:03:01.500 --> 01:03:02.500
You're wired for this.

1110
01:03:02.500 --> 01:03:04.500
This is how you are wired.

1111
01:03:04.500 --> 01:03:09.500
That's why everything about you, this isn't about a placebo having a behavioral impact.

1112
01:03:09.500 --> 01:03:12.500
This is about the anatomy of the brain.

1113
01:03:12.500 --> 01:03:14.500
Have they tested this in trials to see?

1114
01:03:14.500 --> 01:03:15.500
Oh, absolutely.

1115
01:03:15.500 --> 01:03:22.500
In fact, they just did a brand new one at Harvard and showed it on FMRI.

1116
01:03:22.500 --> 01:03:23.500
Yeah.

1117
01:03:23.500 --> 01:03:28.500
And they don't look like a double blind control trial where they get these glasses on and then

1118
01:03:28.500 --> 01:03:29.500
ask people how they feel.

1119
01:03:29.500 --> 01:03:36.500
Well, even more than that, they're doing, they're manipulating the light source in different kinds of ways.

1120
01:03:36.500 --> 01:03:40.500
I'm not involved with that work, but I know that Marty Tysher at Harvard as well

1121
01:03:40.500 --> 01:03:41.500
as Frederick Schiffer.

1122
01:03:41.500 --> 01:03:48.500
Now, Frederick Schiffer is a psychiatrist who has been doing psychiatry at Harvard Medical School

1123
01:03:48.500 --> 01:03:51.500
for his whole career.

1124
01:03:51.500 --> 01:04:00.500
And he would use these types of glasses with his psychiatric patients and would show the patient

1125
01:04:00.500 --> 01:04:07.500
that there is a part of them that is less well and one side that is more ill.

1126
01:04:07.500 --> 01:04:13.500
And so he would use the relationship between these two different characters, these two different personalities

1127
01:04:13.500 --> 01:04:16.500
to find more peace and healing.

1128
01:04:16.500 --> 01:04:18.500
I feel very, it's weird.

1129
01:04:18.500 --> 01:04:23.500
I felt I just lifted up the right side again and put the left side down and I immediately felt,

1130
01:04:23.500 --> 01:04:26.500
well, not immediately, but it took a good little while to 20 seconds.

1131
01:04:26.500 --> 01:04:28.500
I felt focused again.

1132
01:04:28.500 --> 01:04:31.500
Is that just placebo or am I making it?

1133
01:04:31.500 --> 01:04:32.500
No, that's what you're wide.

1134
01:04:32.500 --> 01:04:38.500
That's why you can feel focused because of the cells that you are now stimulating.

1135
01:04:38.500 --> 01:04:40.500
In the other hemisphere, it's not about focus.

1136
01:04:40.500 --> 01:04:42.500
Don't care about focus.

1137
01:04:42.500 --> 01:04:46.500
It cares about the big picture and your relationship to the big picture.

1138
01:04:46.500 --> 01:04:50.500
So it's not like the brain is just this soup of cells.

1139
01:04:50.500 --> 01:04:53.500
These cells are very specifically organized.

1140
01:04:53.500 --> 01:04:58.500
Every ability you have is because you have brain cells that perform that function.

1141
01:04:58.500 --> 01:05:03.500
And all you are doing right now is preferentially stimulating certain cells.

1142
01:05:03.500 --> 01:05:09.500
It's kind of like, okay, I'm going to open my eyes and I'm going to experience vision.

1143
01:05:09.500 --> 01:05:11.500
Well, that's not a placebo.

1144
01:05:11.500 --> 01:05:15.500
If I want to be able to actively switch between these different parts,

1145
01:05:15.500 --> 01:05:19.500
these four personalities in my brain so I can be most effective in a given situation.

1146
01:05:19.500 --> 01:05:23.500
Is there a practice where I can control my brain in that way?

1147
01:05:23.500 --> 01:05:24.500
Absolutely.

1148
01:05:24.500 --> 01:05:26.500
In your life, this is a practice.

1149
01:05:26.500 --> 01:05:29.500
You don't just learn it and then go do it.

1150
01:05:29.500 --> 01:05:30.500
This is a practice.

1151
01:05:30.500 --> 01:05:33.500
You got to say to yourself, first step, step number one.

1152
01:05:33.500 --> 01:05:37.500
Recognize in this moment, am I using my left-thinking judgment,

1153
01:05:37.500 --> 01:05:41.500
listening to this conversation, what is my judgment?

1154
01:05:41.500 --> 01:05:44.500
Is my judgment, yes, this makes sense.

1155
01:05:44.500 --> 01:05:45.500
This is interesting.

1156
01:05:45.500 --> 01:05:46.500
I want more.

1157
01:05:46.500 --> 01:05:48.500
Or is this, oh, this is just crap.

1158
01:05:48.500 --> 01:05:49.500
I just can't go there.

1159
01:05:49.500 --> 01:05:50.500
I got to turn it off.

1160
01:05:50.500 --> 01:05:52.500
Or, okay, I'll give you an example.

1161
01:05:52.500 --> 01:05:55.500
Once you know who your four characters are,

1162
01:05:55.500 --> 01:05:57.500
once you have really thought about them,

1163
01:05:57.500 --> 01:05:59.500
studied about them,

1164
01:05:59.500 --> 01:06:03.500
paid attention to what your when they come out in you,

1165
01:06:03.500 --> 01:06:06.500
what they feel like inside of your body,

1166
01:06:06.500 --> 01:06:08.500
I can jump between all four in an instant.

1167
01:06:08.500 --> 01:06:10.500
Because I know them so well.

1168
01:06:10.500 --> 01:06:11.500
But is there practice?

1169
01:06:11.500 --> 01:06:12.500
You have to say that.

1170
01:06:12.500 --> 01:06:13.500
So this is what I do.

1171
01:06:13.500 --> 01:06:15.500
So this is what I do.

1172
01:06:15.500 --> 01:06:17.500
Well, once you know the four of them,

1173
01:06:17.500 --> 01:06:20.500
and the only way to know them is to practice with them.

1174
01:06:20.500 --> 01:06:21.500
Get to know them.

1175
01:06:21.500 --> 01:06:23.500
When do you get really unhappy?

1176
01:06:23.500 --> 01:06:25.500
Who unhappy is you?

1177
01:06:25.500 --> 01:06:27.500
When do you want to growl at people?

1178
01:06:27.500 --> 01:06:28.500
I would name a name.

1179
01:06:28.500 --> 01:06:29.500
And don't name a name.

1180
01:06:29.500 --> 01:06:31.500
But you know, see, you went straight into that character

1181
01:06:31.500 --> 01:06:32.500
to part of you.

1182
01:06:32.500 --> 01:06:35.500
That's the only part of you that holds grudges.

1183
01:06:35.500 --> 01:06:38.500
You're right, thinking doesn't care about that.

1184
01:06:38.500 --> 01:06:40.500
It doesn't even know about that.

1185
01:06:40.500 --> 01:06:43.500
Because that's in the past.

1186
01:06:43.500 --> 01:06:45.500
So here's the case.

1187
01:06:45.500 --> 01:06:46.500
Step number one.

1188
01:06:46.500 --> 01:06:48.500
Observe yourself.

1189
01:06:48.500 --> 01:06:50.500
When am I being a character one?

1190
01:06:50.500 --> 01:06:51.500
When am I at work?

1191
01:06:51.500 --> 01:06:55.500
When am I speaking and organizing and making a to-do list?

1192
01:06:55.500 --> 01:06:57.500
And when do I like to be the boss?

1193
01:06:57.500 --> 01:06:58.500
And when do I like to control?

1194
01:06:58.500 --> 01:07:00.500
People place its things in time.

1195
01:07:00.500 --> 01:07:01.500
And all of that.

1196
01:07:01.500 --> 01:07:02.500
When am I doing that?

1197
01:07:02.500 --> 01:07:04.500
Well, you know that part of yourself very well.

1198
01:07:04.500 --> 01:07:06.500
He's probably called Steven.

1199
01:07:06.500 --> 01:07:09.500
The part of you that is not very happy?

1200
01:07:09.500 --> 01:07:12.500
You know, your parents probably know this part of you.

1201
01:07:12.500 --> 01:07:15.500
Your girlfriend definitely knows this part of you, right?

1202
01:07:15.500 --> 01:07:16.500
Yes.

1203
01:07:16.500 --> 01:07:17.500
Okay.

1204
01:07:17.500 --> 01:07:18.500
When are you playful?

1205
01:07:18.500 --> 01:07:19.500
What does it feel like?

1206
01:07:19.500 --> 01:07:22.500
It feels completely different than when you're at work or when you're not happy?

1207
01:07:22.500 --> 01:07:24.500
When are you at play?

1208
01:07:24.500 --> 01:07:28.500
And if you're not at play much, then you might want to give yourself a little bit more play.

1209
01:07:28.500 --> 01:07:33.500
So I was working with a group of physicians because physicians are very busy people.

1210
01:07:33.500 --> 01:07:37.500
And right now, the physician is a very high level of suicide.

1211
01:07:37.500 --> 01:07:41.500
So I care passionately about this population because they're not finding any peace.

1212
01:07:41.500 --> 01:07:45.500
Because society expects them to be left thinking all the time.

1213
01:07:46.500 --> 01:07:49.500
They're supposed to be the authority and they can't have any mental health issues

1214
01:07:49.500 --> 01:07:52.500
because they're the ones we go to for mental health issues.

1215
01:07:52.500 --> 01:07:55.500
So all they can do, they don't have time.

1216
01:07:55.500 --> 01:07:58.500
They are busy, busy, busy, and they're not very happy about it.

1217
01:07:58.500 --> 01:08:00.500
And our system is a mess.

1218
01:08:00.500 --> 01:08:03.500
So they're having to deal with that.

1219
01:08:03.500 --> 01:08:05.500
So I was working with a group and I said,

1220
01:08:05.500 --> 01:08:09.500
okay, I want you to take a pair of chalk outside of the ER room.

1221
01:08:09.500 --> 01:08:11.500
And I want you to draw a hopscotch.

1222
01:08:12.500 --> 01:08:16.500
And what happened was all these doctors in and out

1223
01:08:16.500 --> 01:08:20.500
and these medical professionals were hopscotching in and hopscotching out.

1224
01:08:20.500 --> 01:08:27.500
And that just that helped them bring their glee back just for a moment, just for an instant.

1225
01:08:27.500 --> 01:08:30.500
So this is the glee and it's exciting and it's fun.

1226
01:08:30.500 --> 01:08:34.500
And it's like, figure out what brings you joy and do that.

1227
01:08:34.500 --> 01:08:38.500
And no, and this is why it really helps to know this.

1228
01:08:39.500 --> 01:08:43.500
Because if you're going to say, okay, I'm going to go play basketball.

1229
01:08:43.500 --> 01:08:45.500
I come from Indiana, everybody plays basketball.

1230
01:08:45.500 --> 01:08:47.500
I'm going to go play basketball.

1231
01:08:47.500 --> 01:08:49.500
And I'm going to go do it for 20 minutes.

1232
01:08:49.500 --> 01:08:51.500
And my character one is over here saying,

1233
01:08:51.500 --> 01:08:53.500
we don't have time for you to go shoot some hoops, girl.

1234
01:08:53.500 --> 01:08:55.500
We got business to take care of.

1235
01:08:55.500 --> 01:08:56.500
We're on a deadline.

1236
01:08:56.500 --> 01:08:58.500
And little character three comes in and says,

1237
01:08:58.500 --> 01:09:01.500
I will refresh you.

1238
01:09:01.500 --> 01:09:03.500
I will be your pause.

1239
01:09:03.500 --> 01:09:05.500
I will refuel your spirit.

1240
01:09:05.500 --> 01:09:09.500
I take the stress away from that subject.

1241
01:09:09.500 --> 01:09:14.500
I release, I have all kinds of endorphins and excitement stuff going on.

1242
01:09:14.500 --> 01:09:18.500
And then I go back and I do such a more creative and open job.

1243
01:09:18.500 --> 01:09:24.500
Because I made space instead of just the drive, drive, drive, drive, do, do, do, linear, linear, linear.

1244
01:09:24.500 --> 01:09:27.500
The beauty of being a human is you have all four parts of this brain.

1245
01:09:27.500 --> 01:09:29.500
This is our design.

1246
01:09:29.500 --> 01:09:33.500
But we are functioning with only one online as conscious.

1247
01:09:33.500 --> 01:09:42.500
Imagine, imagine, if you could say in this instant, I want to, I want to, I want to feel as though,

1248
01:09:42.500 --> 01:09:49.500
just feel as though whatever your spiritual beliefs or your beliefs about a higher power, whatever,

1249
01:09:49.500 --> 01:09:53.500
just call it the universe because we know there's a bunch of rocks spinning around in space.

1250
01:09:53.500 --> 01:09:57.500
And we're on one of them hanging on for life, just being human, right?

1251
01:09:57.500 --> 01:09:59.500
So that's all happening.

1252
01:09:59.500 --> 01:10:06.500
So, oh my gosh, I can say thank you to all those rocks for being in the positions they're in,

1253
01:10:06.500 --> 01:10:08.500
so that we're still here.

1254
01:10:08.500 --> 01:10:10.500
And I can feel this deep sense of gratitude.

1255
01:10:10.500 --> 01:10:15.500
And as soon as I feel that gratitude and that all, oh my God, I exist it all and it could be over like that.

1256
01:10:15.500 --> 01:10:16.500
And then it's over.

1257
01:10:16.500 --> 01:10:18.500
But right now it's a party.

1258
01:10:18.500 --> 01:10:20.500
Life can be play.

1259
01:10:20.500 --> 01:10:24.500
Did I ever tell you about the data breach that we had at my previous company?

1260
01:10:24.500 --> 01:10:26.500
Yeah, I remember hearing about that.

1261
01:10:26.500 --> 01:10:28.500
Which, which was a total nightmare.

1262
01:10:28.500 --> 01:10:30.500
So I'm glad that we now use one password.

1263
01:10:30.500 --> 01:10:31.500
Why is it Steve?

1264
01:10:31.500 --> 01:10:35.500
It's called one password and they're the sponsor of the podcast now.

1265
01:10:35.500 --> 01:10:41.500
And they have this feature called enterprise password manager, which means that if any of our passwords across the team are compromised or leaked,

1266
01:10:41.500 --> 01:10:42.500
then it notifies us.

1267
01:10:42.500 --> 01:10:46.500
And obviously if that were to be the case, we're at huge risk across the entire team.

1268
01:10:46.500 --> 01:10:50.500
Through one password, EPM, you can also store all of your sensitive information.

1269
01:10:50.500 --> 01:10:55.500
And it's helping us to move closer towards past keys, which means eventually everybody will be able to log in

1270
01:10:55.500 --> 01:10:58.500
pretty much everything without ever having to put a password in.

1271
01:10:58.500 --> 01:10:59.500
Sounds like a good addition.

1272
01:10:59.500 --> 01:11:03.500
Yeah, I think it's like the single most impactful security addition you can make to your team.

1273
01:11:03.500 --> 01:11:07.500
Especially if your team has tons of passwords that are all like hidden in Excel files and stuff.

1274
01:11:07.500 --> 01:11:12.500
To my listeners, if you want to secure your business, head to onepassword.com slash D-O-A-C.

1275
01:11:12.500 --> 01:11:14.500
One password is a game changer.

1276
01:11:14.500 --> 01:11:21.500
It's the future that I always wished would be the case as someone that has, you know, 20, 30 different passwords for 20, 30 different applications.

1277
01:11:21.500 --> 01:11:28.500
In my second book, The Diode of CEO, 33 Laws of Business and Life, one of the laws I talk about is always prioritizing your first foundation.

1278
01:11:28.500 --> 01:11:30.500
And by that, I mean your health.

1279
01:11:30.500 --> 01:11:36.500
After speaking to hundreds of scientists and doctors and thinkers, I'm convinced we can all change the trajectory of our long term health

1280
01:11:36.500 --> 01:11:38.500
through the daily actions that we take.

1281
01:11:38.500 --> 01:11:42.500
So for me, partnering with our new sponsor, Function Health, made complete sense.

1282
01:11:42.500 --> 01:11:48.500
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1283
01:11:49.500 --> 01:11:57.500
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1284
01:11:57.500 --> 01:12:00.500
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1285
01:12:00.500 --> 01:12:04.500
These are the insights most people never get, but you can get them now.

1286
01:12:04.500 --> 01:12:11.500
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1287
01:12:11.500 --> 01:12:23.500
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1288
01:12:24.500 --> 01:12:28.500
How long do you think emotions are supposed to last?

1289
01:12:28.500 --> 01:12:29.500
90 seconds.

1290
01:12:29.500 --> 01:12:34.500
From the moment you think thought, we're only doing three things inside of our brain at any moment in time.

1291
01:12:34.500 --> 01:12:40.500
We think thoughts, we feel emotions, and we run physiological loops to what we're thinking and feeling.

1292
01:12:40.500 --> 01:12:42.500
So let's say I'm going to think a thought like you did.

1293
01:12:42.500 --> 01:12:45.500
I said, think of somebody you're not happy with.

1294
01:12:45.500 --> 01:12:50.500
And you went and you thought about it, and then you felt it, and we could see it in your body.

1295
01:12:50.500 --> 01:12:53.500
So you thought the thought, oh, that's the person I'm mad at them.

1296
01:12:53.500 --> 01:12:55.500
And then it's like, oh, I'm really mad at them.

1297
01:12:55.500 --> 01:12:57.500
You can see you feel I'm really mad at them.

1298
01:12:57.500 --> 01:13:00.500
And then you either act on it or you don't act on it.

1299
01:13:00.500 --> 01:13:06.500
But if you simply observe it, it will loop right through just like a muscle reflex.

1300
01:13:06.500 --> 01:13:16.500
It's an emotional reflex, less than 90 seconds, which means, and everybody's saying, oh, I can stay mad for a whole lot longer than 90 seconds.

1301
01:13:16.500 --> 01:13:24.500
But what you're doing then is you're rethinking the thoughts that's restimulating the emotional loop, restimulating the physiological response.

1302
01:13:24.500 --> 01:13:26.500
And it just goes on forever.

1303
01:13:26.500 --> 01:13:33.500
When you feel that emotion, is there a way to, is there a strategy for making sure that you don't act upon it or you don't re-loop?

1304
01:13:33.500 --> 01:13:34.500
Well, I enjoy it.

1305
01:13:34.500 --> 01:13:35.500
You enjoy the emotion.

1306
01:13:35.500 --> 01:13:36.500
I enjoy it.

1307
01:13:36.500 --> 01:13:37.500
Even if you're angry.

1308
01:13:37.500 --> 01:13:38.500
Even if I'm angry.

1309
01:13:38.500 --> 01:13:39.500
Thank God I'm capable.

1310
01:13:39.500 --> 01:13:40.500
I am wired to be mad.

1311
01:13:40.500 --> 01:13:41.500
I am wired to be angry.

1312
01:13:41.500 --> 01:13:45.500
I'm wired to push things away and say, that is not okay.

1313
01:13:45.500 --> 01:13:52.500
I get big, I get ugly, I get, I make myself heard, because that's a healthy boundary I'm going to establish.

1314
01:13:52.500 --> 01:13:55.500
So I celebrate the fact that I'm capable of anger.

1315
01:13:55.500 --> 01:13:57.500
I love that I can be sad.

1316
01:13:57.500 --> 01:13:59.500
I'm glad that I can grieve.

1317
01:13:59.500 --> 01:14:05.500
Oh my God, grief is this powerful emotion that can consume us totally envelop us.

1318
01:14:05.500 --> 01:14:11.500
Take us to our knees and it's like, it's like I have a friend right now who's about ready to pass away.

1319
01:14:11.500 --> 01:14:12.500
Beautiful, beautiful person.

1320
01:14:12.500 --> 01:14:15.500
She's been great, wonderful friend in my life.

1321
01:14:15.500 --> 01:14:20.500
I love her and I will celebrate every time the wave of emotion hits me.

1322
01:14:20.500 --> 01:14:22.500
Because that's how much I loved her.

1323
01:14:22.500 --> 01:14:24.500
That's how much I loved her.

1324
01:14:24.500 --> 01:14:31.500
I celebrate that I'm capable of being taken to the floor in that kind of pain and just weave my whole soul.

1325
01:14:31.500 --> 01:14:33.500
I mean I'm wired for this.

1326
01:14:33.500 --> 01:14:34.500
This is life.

1327
01:14:34.500 --> 01:14:37.500
Why do I want to just put myself in a little box and say, I don't want to have grief.

1328
01:14:37.500 --> 01:14:38.500
I don't want to have pain.

1329
01:14:38.500 --> 01:14:39.500
I don't want to be mad.

1330
01:14:39.500 --> 01:14:40.500
I don't want to do this.

1331
01:14:40.500 --> 01:14:41.500
I want to be a robot.

1332
01:14:41.500 --> 01:14:42.500
I don't want to be a robot.

1333
01:14:42.500 --> 01:14:45.500
I want to be a whole human with a whole brain.

1334
01:14:45.500 --> 01:14:46.500
I want all of it.

1335
01:14:46.500 --> 01:14:47.500
It's delicious.

1336
01:14:47.500 --> 01:14:48.500
Oh my gosh.

1337
01:14:48.500 --> 01:14:50.500
And it lasts this long and then it's gone.

1338
01:14:54.500 --> 01:15:04.500
Thank you.

1339
01:15:04.500 --> 01:15:15.500
And I'm guessing your headache feels a little better.

1340
01:15:15.500 --> 01:15:18.500
Why did you say thank you?

1341
01:15:18.500 --> 01:15:24.500
Because it's so rare that people will really connect with another human being.

1342
01:15:24.500 --> 01:15:30.500
For anything more than like three seconds and then I'm uncomfortable and I can't do that anymore.

1343
01:15:30.500 --> 01:15:33.500
But we're here to love on another.

1344
01:15:33.500 --> 01:15:35.500
You're the gift of my life.

1345
01:15:35.500 --> 01:15:38.500
People on this planet are the gift of my life.

1346
01:15:38.500 --> 01:15:40.500
We are the gift of your life.

1347
01:15:40.500 --> 01:15:45.500
And if we are constantly judging each other negatively and pushing each other away

1348
01:15:45.500 --> 01:15:48.500
and killing each other, we are violent against each other.

1349
01:15:48.500 --> 01:15:50.500
And it's like, oh my gosh.

1350
01:15:50.500 --> 01:15:54.500
We are so off track of what we could be as whole breed living.

1351
01:15:54.500 --> 01:16:01.500
I truly believe the next step for our evolution is waking up the whole brain.

1352
01:16:01.500 --> 01:16:06.500
And if we wake up our whole brain, the game is changed.

1353
01:16:06.500 --> 01:16:10.500
And that becomes no.

1354
01:16:10.500 --> 01:16:12.500
It's not okay for us to create war.

1355
01:16:12.500 --> 01:16:15.500
It is not okay for us to create hate.

1356
01:16:15.500 --> 01:16:18.500
It is not okay for us to make that division anymore.

1357
01:16:18.500 --> 01:16:21.500
That is not what we respected.

1358
01:16:21.500 --> 01:16:24.500
That is not what we want as humanity.

1359
01:16:24.500 --> 01:16:26.500
We want to be whole.

1360
01:16:26.500 --> 01:16:28.500
We want to be the next level.

1361
01:16:28.500 --> 01:16:31.500
We want to feel safe with each other.

1362
01:16:31.500 --> 01:16:32.500
Are you hopeful?

1363
01:16:32.500 --> 01:16:33.500
Completely.

1364
01:16:33.500 --> 01:16:34.500
100%.

1365
01:16:34.500 --> 01:16:39.500
That doesn't mean we couldn't be gone in an instant.

1366
01:16:39.500 --> 01:16:41.500
But absolutely.

1367
01:16:41.500 --> 01:16:43.500
That's the beauty of the right hemisphere.

1368
01:16:43.500 --> 01:16:44.500
It is hope.

1369
01:16:44.500 --> 01:16:45.500
It's possibility.

1370
01:16:45.500 --> 01:16:48.500
And that's why when you talk to me about AI, yes.

1371
01:16:48.500 --> 01:16:50.500
I think a lot about AI.

1372
01:16:50.500 --> 01:16:52.500
AI is...

1373
01:16:52.500 --> 01:16:53.500
Wow.

1374
01:16:53.500 --> 01:16:54.500
I listen to your podcast.

1375
01:16:54.500 --> 01:16:56.500
There's a whole lot of...

1376
01:16:56.500 --> 01:16:57.500
Wow.

1377
01:16:57.500 --> 01:16:58.500
And I don't have that.

1378
01:16:58.500 --> 01:16:59.500
And this is why.

1379
01:16:59.500 --> 01:17:00.500
What was the sound, sorry?

1380
01:17:00.500 --> 01:17:02.500
You know, it's hard.

1381
01:17:02.500 --> 01:17:03.500
It's hard.

1382
01:17:03.500 --> 01:17:06.500
You've had some really difficult conversations about, you know,

1383
01:17:06.500 --> 01:17:09.500
the reality of the potential dangers.

1384
01:17:09.500 --> 01:17:12.500
But here's why that doesn't bother me.

1385
01:17:12.500 --> 01:17:14.500
Because I have a whole brain.

1386
01:17:14.500 --> 01:17:16.500
And my whole brain says, yes.

1387
01:17:16.500 --> 01:17:17.500
That is that.

1388
01:17:17.500 --> 01:17:18.500
And that is going on.

1389
01:17:18.500 --> 01:17:20.500
And that is scary.

1390
01:17:20.500 --> 01:17:25.500
And I think about it through the perspective of a neuronatomist.

1391
01:17:25.500 --> 01:17:29.500
So I see the internet as like this higher level of consciousness

1392
01:17:29.500 --> 01:17:32.500
that we're feeding ourselves into and everybody's plugged in.

1393
01:17:32.500 --> 01:17:36.500
And now we're creating robots and consciousnesses

1394
01:17:36.500 --> 01:17:38.500
that will think independent of us.

1395
01:17:38.500 --> 01:17:42.500
So we're essentially creating an other that we cannot control.

1396
01:17:42.500 --> 01:17:46.500
Well, I can't control who's got those nuclear codes.

1397
01:17:46.500 --> 01:17:50.500
So from my perspective, I'm just glad I wake up every day.

1398
01:17:50.500 --> 01:17:53.500
And it's like, oh, I get another great day.

1399
01:17:53.500 --> 01:17:55.500
And it's like, ooh, possibilities.

1400
01:17:55.500 --> 01:17:56.500
So...

1401
01:17:56.500 --> 01:17:59.500
Have you always been like this?

1402
01:17:59.500 --> 01:18:02.500
No, this is really came with a stroke.

1403
01:18:02.500 --> 01:18:04.500
This so much came with a stroke.

1404
01:18:04.500 --> 01:18:07.500
Because I lost all of the box.

1405
01:18:07.500 --> 01:18:08.500
I lost the box.

1406
01:18:08.500 --> 01:18:09.500
The box.

1407
01:18:09.500 --> 01:18:10.500
The box of thinking.

1408
01:18:10.500 --> 01:18:11.500
This is right.

1409
01:18:11.500 --> 01:18:12.500
This is wrong.

1410
01:18:12.500 --> 01:18:14.500
This is the way we're going to do it.

1411
01:18:14.500 --> 01:18:15.500
I value money.

1412
01:18:15.500 --> 01:18:17.500
I was climbing the Harvard ladder.

1413
01:18:17.500 --> 01:18:19.500
You know, I was a little girl from Indiana.

1414
01:18:19.500 --> 01:18:21.500
I was climbing the Harvard ladder.

1415
01:18:21.500 --> 01:18:24.500
I mean, I was pretty big deal to a little girl in her family.

1416
01:18:24.500 --> 01:18:26.500
So I was climbing the Harvard ladder.

1417
01:18:26.500 --> 01:18:29.500
And then bam, that was all gone.

1418
01:18:29.500 --> 01:18:33.500
And when that was all gone, what I gained was...

1419
01:18:33.500 --> 01:18:39.500
connection, heart, time, possibility.

1420
01:18:39.500 --> 01:18:45.500
My business perspective has shifted in that I don't reach out to people.

1421
01:18:45.500 --> 01:18:46.500
I don't solicit.

1422
01:18:46.500 --> 01:18:47.500
I don't hustle.

1423
01:18:47.500 --> 01:18:49.500
I don't need to.

1424
01:18:49.500 --> 01:18:54.500
Because if I'm working great, I love to work.

1425
01:18:54.500 --> 01:18:55.500
I love my work.

1426
01:18:55.500 --> 01:18:56.500
Yummy.

1427
01:18:56.500 --> 01:18:57.500
I mean, it's like, how can I not?

1428
01:18:57.500 --> 01:18:59.500
But I love to paddle board.

1429
01:18:59.500 --> 01:19:04.500
I live half of a life, half my time on a boat out in a beautiful cove.

1430
01:19:04.500 --> 01:19:10.500
Pretty much in isolation with the bear and the deer and the fish and the bobcat.

1431
01:19:10.500 --> 01:19:12.500
I live in nature.

1432
01:19:12.500 --> 01:19:15.500
I live the life I want to live.

1433
01:19:15.500 --> 01:19:18.500
And then I get off the boat and I come and visit people.

1434
01:19:18.500 --> 01:19:23.500
And we talk or I go and I do whatever it is I'm doing.

1435
01:19:24.500 --> 01:19:25.500
How do you not have this stroke?

1436
01:19:25.500 --> 01:19:26.500
How different do you think your life would look?

1437
01:19:26.500 --> 01:19:33.500
Oh, I'd be probably a professor of neuroanatomy at Harvard Medical School teaching and performing

1438
01:19:33.500 --> 01:19:35.500
research doing that thing.

1439
01:19:35.500 --> 01:19:36.500
That was my dream.

1440
01:19:36.500 --> 01:19:38.500
Do you think you'd be happier or less happy?

1441
01:19:38.500 --> 01:19:41.500
Oh no, I'm so glad I had that stroke.

1442
01:19:41.500 --> 01:19:43.500
I am so glad I had the stroke.

1443
01:19:43.500 --> 01:19:45.500
It set me free.

1444
01:19:45.500 --> 01:19:46.500
It set me free.

1445
01:19:46.500 --> 01:19:52.500
Having the stroke set me free from having to live a life based on other people's expectations

1446
01:19:52.500 --> 01:19:54.500
about what my life should be.

1447
01:19:54.500 --> 01:19:56.500
Because it changed something in your brain?

1448
01:19:56.500 --> 01:20:00.500
Because that went totally offline and it wasn't going to be a choice anymore.

1449
01:20:00.500 --> 01:20:01.500
Is it still offline?

1450
01:20:01.500 --> 01:20:02.500
No.

1451
01:20:02.500 --> 01:20:05.500
So it went offline which allowed you to focus some other things.

1452
01:20:05.500 --> 01:20:11.500
Think about the brain and think about your consciousness and think about you have four parts of you.

1453
01:20:11.500 --> 01:20:16.500
And all four parts are always running and they're kind of vying for the microphone.

1454
01:20:16.500 --> 01:20:18.500
Who's going to talk in this moment, right?

1455
01:20:18.500 --> 01:20:19.500
Who's going to think what?

1456
01:20:19.500 --> 01:20:20.500
Who's going to perform what?

1457
01:20:20.500 --> 01:20:21.500
Who's going to do what?

1458
01:20:21.500 --> 01:20:24.500
So we have these whole brains.

1459
01:20:24.500 --> 01:20:29.500
And then imagine that you lose your business sense.

1460
01:20:29.500 --> 01:20:30.500
You lose that guy.

1461
01:20:30.500 --> 01:20:31.500
Character one.

1462
01:20:31.500 --> 01:20:32.500
Character one.

1463
01:20:32.500 --> 01:20:33.500
Falls off the planet.

1464
01:20:33.500 --> 01:20:36.500
Which is the facts, factual part, the working part.

1465
01:20:36.500 --> 01:20:40.500
So that would leave me with just this sort of emotional part and the present part and the wisdom.

1466
01:20:40.500 --> 01:20:41.500
Yes.

1467
01:20:41.500 --> 01:20:43.500
So do you miss it?

1468
01:20:43.500 --> 01:20:44.500
Well, it's gone.

1469
01:20:44.500 --> 01:20:48.500
Your ego has pretty much dissolved because that's a part of it.

1470
01:20:49.500 --> 01:20:51.500
So, but you might be angry.

1471
01:20:51.500 --> 01:20:55.500
You might be angry because I was doing so well and I was living a life and I liked those facts.

1472
01:20:55.500 --> 01:20:58.500
And I wanted to do more business.

1473
01:20:58.500 --> 01:21:00.500
And I wanted to do more businesses.

1474
01:21:00.500 --> 01:21:02.500
And you are that guy.

1475
01:21:02.500 --> 01:21:04.500
I mean, you are so diverse in your business.

1476
01:21:04.500 --> 01:21:06.500
You are so good at being character one.

1477
01:21:06.500 --> 01:21:07.500
But let's say he goes offline.

1478
01:21:07.500 --> 01:21:08.500
What do you have left?

1479
01:21:08.500 --> 01:21:10.500
So my character went offline.

1480
01:21:10.500 --> 01:21:11.500
Would you still value?

1481
01:21:11.500 --> 01:21:13.500
Would you have value?

1482
01:21:13.500 --> 01:21:16.500
What value would you have if you weren't him?

1483
01:21:16.500 --> 01:21:17.500
Tell me.

1484
01:21:17.500 --> 01:21:24.500
I think my girlfriend would appreciate me still.

1485
01:21:24.500 --> 01:21:28.500
My dog would probably appreciate me.

1486
01:21:28.500 --> 01:21:31.500
Maybe more because you probably spend a little more time with him.

1487
01:21:31.500 --> 01:21:32.500
Yeah, probably.

1488
01:21:32.500 --> 01:21:34.500
My girlfriend would definitely appreciate me.

1489
01:21:34.500 --> 01:21:38.500
Because you'd have time.

1490
01:21:38.500 --> 01:21:41.500
You wouldn't be running that wheel.

1491
01:21:41.500 --> 01:21:43.500
You'd be a different part of you.

1492
01:21:43.500 --> 01:21:50.500
And then if you can master and help heal your pain from the past or your disgruntled self that,

1493
01:21:50.500 --> 01:21:54.500
well, you know, I had this problem and now I can't use my left arm.

1494
01:21:54.500 --> 01:21:58.500
And so I'm going to be a miserable human being the rest of my life because my left arm doesn't work anymore.

1495
01:21:58.500 --> 01:21:59.500
So how do we do that?

1496
01:21:59.500 --> 01:22:04.500
How do we heal our trauma from the past from a neurological perspective?

1497
01:22:04.500 --> 01:22:12.500
Well, I think what we do is we recognize, first of all, the question, everybody wants to heal it.

1498
01:22:12.500 --> 01:22:15.500
So the way to heal it is not to get rid of it.

1499
01:22:15.500 --> 01:22:19.500
I cannot get rid of my trauma from the past.

1500
01:22:19.500 --> 01:22:25.500
My pain from the past is real and it is mine and it is expansive and it is mine.

1501
01:22:25.500 --> 01:22:28.500
And everybody has their pain from the past, their trauma.

1502
01:22:28.500 --> 01:22:30.500
We all have trauma.

1503
01:22:30.500 --> 01:22:33.500
So what do I do with that trauma?

1504
01:22:33.500 --> 01:22:37.500
Do I let that trauma just fester in that character two part of my brain?

1505
01:22:37.500 --> 01:22:42.500
And then I just look at everyone else who's not like me now and say, well, you didn't have any trauma.

1506
01:22:42.500 --> 01:22:44.500
You know, you're better off than I am.

1507
01:22:44.500 --> 01:22:51.500
You know, I start making a negative hostile judgment about, well, this is my trauma and I want to protect it.

1508
01:22:51.500 --> 01:22:58.500
The purpose of trauma is to say to you, your biological creature, you're in the present moment, you're a real human being.

1509
01:22:58.500 --> 01:23:03.500
You have a life, my life, part of my life is my trauma.

1510
01:23:03.500 --> 01:23:06.500
And I will bounce from trauma to trauma to trauma to trauma.

1511
01:23:06.500 --> 01:23:11.500
And if I look at the trauma and say, this is a horrible thing, well, maybe it was a horrible thing.

1512
01:23:11.500 --> 01:23:14.500
And maybe that was 30 years ago and that was a horrible thing.

1513
01:23:14.500 --> 01:23:17.500
And you're keeping the more you think about it and you root into it.

1514
01:23:17.500 --> 01:23:23.500
And the more often we run a circuit, the more that circuit's stronger that gets and begins to run on automatic.

1515
01:23:23.500 --> 01:23:26.500
And so now I'm always worrying about, oh my god, am I going to have more trauma?

1516
01:23:26.500 --> 01:23:29.500
And I put all my energy into that trauma?

1517
01:23:29.500 --> 01:23:35.500
Well, what am I doing? It's just the same as if I'm just a workaholic and doing nothing but character one.

1518
01:23:35.500 --> 01:23:41.500
And so the power of whole brain living is to know that I have four parts of me.

1519
01:23:41.500 --> 01:23:44.500
And that trauma is important information.

1520
01:23:44.500 --> 01:23:51.500
And let's say I was attacked or I was raped or I had a horrible experience with a person.

1521
01:23:51.500 --> 01:24:01.500
And now in the future, whenever I see a person that looks remotely like that, I need jerk away from that because I perceive myself from my trauma that that's not safe.

1522
01:24:01.500 --> 01:24:04.500
So I put it away. That is an appropriate response.

1523
01:24:04.500 --> 01:24:08.500
But then I say, oh, but this is actually a different person.

1524
01:24:08.500 --> 01:24:17.500
And I can open up my right hemisphere and with curiosity, look at this new person and say, well, you might look like somebody who hurt me many years ago,

1525
01:24:17.500 --> 01:24:20.500
but you're not that person. Who are you?

1526
01:24:20.500 --> 01:24:25.500
And make a connection in the present. So the trauma is supposed to be information.

1527
01:24:25.500 --> 01:24:29.500
We get in trouble when we turn it into a lifestyle.

1528
01:24:29.500 --> 01:24:35.500
So how do I heal that? I acknowledge it. I value it. I say thank you to it.

1529
01:24:35.500 --> 01:24:41.500
I acknowledge its purpose and I pull my energy into the other parts of my brain.

1530
01:24:41.500 --> 01:24:46.500
My character for Queen Toad can come in and self-soothe me and hold me.

1531
01:24:46.500 --> 01:24:48.500
And what would character force say to the trauma?

1532
01:24:48.500 --> 01:24:54.500
You're loved. You're okay. Thank you. Thank you for this information.

1533
01:24:54.500 --> 01:24:58.500
Thank you. And hold it. Well, trauma needs to be heard.

1534
01:24:58.500 --> 01:25:01.500
It needs to be held and it needs to be heard.

1535
01:25:01.500 --> 01:25:10.500
And then it can transform itself into the next level of, okay, I'm okay even though I had that trauma.

1536
01:25:10.500 --> 01:25:15.500
Even though I had this stroke that all but killed me, I'm not resentful.

1537
01:25:15.500 --> 01:25:22.500
Why would I be resentful? It's my life. This happened to be the life story of me. We all have a life story.

1538
01:25:22.500 --> 01:25:26.500
So the question is how much energy am I going to put into that?

1539
01:25:26.500 --> 01:25:31.500
It holds myself back when I have all these other incredible possibilities.

1540
01:25:31.500 --> 01:25:38.500
And if I was hurt or I was raped, then I can actually, if I want to take that anger because I matter than hell about it,

1541
01:25:38.500 --> 01:25:48.500
then I can advocate for other people to help women get self-defense courses so that we can actually predict ourselves.

1542
01:25:48.500 --> 01:25:53.500
I mean, I can turn it into something else. I can make lemonade out of lemons.

1543
01:25:53.500 --> 01:25:57.500
We all can. We're wired for that.

1544
01:25:57.500 --> 01:26:02.500
You've talked a lot about how you think about the brain from a cellular perspective and how we keep it healthy from a cellular perspective.

1545
01:26:02.500 --> 01:26:11.500
So I wanted to get some of your advice on lifestyle choices that I should be making to have an optimally healthy brain at the cellular level.

1546
01:26:11.500 --> 01:26:16.500
Number one, sleep. Sleep is everything. Sleep, sleep, sleep.

1547
01:26:16.500 --> 01:26:27.500
These are billions, 800 billion cells that are eating and creating waste for you to have a consciousness in every instant.

1548
01:26:27.500 --> 01:26:34.500
Imagine the number of cells it takes for you to just look at me and have a relationship in this moment with me.

1549
01:26:34.500 --> 01:26:39.500
I mean, your brain is working hard. So it's eating and it's creating waste.

1550
01:26:39.500 --> 01:26:42.500
Go to sleep. Sleep should be a priority.

1551
01:26:42.500 --> 01:26:45.500
And if you sleep, then the microglia can come out.

1552
01:26:45.500 --> 01:26:50.500
And then all the garbage and waste can get cleaned up. The waste gets pushed away.

1553
01:26:50.500 --> 01:26:56.500
And you wake up crisp and fresh the next day because your brain cells have been taken care of.

1554
01:26:56.500 --> 01:27:01.500
What are you feeding them? If you are feeding them preservatives, you are preserving them.

1555
01:27:01.500 --> 01:27:16.500
Oh my gosh, pay attention to what you're consuming. Fresh fruits, fresh vegetables, try to do it if, you know, I know we exist in a world where not everybody can eat organic, but boy pesticides are poison.

1556
01:27:16.500 --> 01:27:26.500
So paying attention to what we are consuming. How much sugar are we eating sugar? Sugar is just not a healthy choice.

1557
01:27:26.500 --> 01:27:33.500
No matter what. Now I love chocolate. I'm going to eat chocolate. It's my, you know, vice. I'm going to do it anyway. Dark chocolate.

1558
01:27:33.500 --> 01:27:36.500
It's a bean. It's vegetable.

1559
01:27:36.500 --> 01:27:42.500
Somebody said that to me once and I believed him. Okay, so what are you eating?

1560
01:27:42.500 --> 01:27:50.500
Movement. You have to move your body. You are an organism. So many of us think that especially if we're in that character one left thinking brain.

1561
01:27:50.500 --> 01:28:03.500
My body is designed to like move my left, my brain around. No, you are an organism. So finding ways to get yourself into the different characters is great for you.

1562
01:28:03.500 --> 01:28:11.500
If you can't get into your body, name for me a song if you would that as soon as you start in on it, your body goes.

1563
01:28:11.500 --> 01:28:21.500
What gets you be gone? Give me one. Why do I think of gigs walk in the hardest and do it?

1564
01:28:21.500 --> 01:28:27.500
No, I can't do it. Yes, you can do it. It was, no, it was I was thinking of because it was playing outside before we started.

1565
01:28:27.500 --> 01:28:31.500
I was thinking of Olivia Dean's new song, Man I Need, but I can't sit here and sing Man I Need and then.

1566
01:28:31.500 --> 01:28:34.500
Well, then don't sing it. Just get. So.

1567
01:28:34.500 --> 01:28:41.500
So for me. Exactly. Yeah, but that was forced. Now can you do it like you mean it?

1568
01:28:41.500 --> 01:28:50.500
We ought to put the glasses back on you and see what happens. Okay, for me, I'm disco era.

1569
01:28:50.500 --> 01:29:00.500
Bump, bump, bump. I want some hot stuff, baby. I cannot not do this. I become my body. All of me. It's like dance like nobody's watching.

1570
01:29:00.500 --> 01:29:07.500
That's what character three is all about. So why is that important for healthy brain? Oh my gosh, it's the break. It's the pause.

1571
01:29:07.500 --> 01:29:16.500
It's the fun. It's the joy. It's the present moment connection. What is my life going to be like if I don't have any of those things I just listed?

1572
01:29:16.500 --> 01:29:28.500
To exercise quality sleep nutrition hydration hydration hydration. Why is that so? Oh my god. Your body is nothing, but cells connected to one another.

1573
01:29:28.500 --> 01:29:40.500
And cells are filled with water and the space between them is filled with water and it's a delicate balance of what what atoms and molecules are inside the cells versus outside the cells.

1574
01:29:40.500 --> 01:29:53.500
But you're just a big liquid ball. Excuse me. Yes, you are. I said it and I meant it. That's what you are. You are the fleshy ball of you. That's it.

1575
01:29:53.500 --> 01:30:06.500
Water. You need to be hydrated. Now you can't over hydrate. If we over hydrate, then we're distilling what's going on in those populations of in the cell or extracellular matrix.

1576
01:30:06.500 --> 01:30:16.500
So don't just drink your weight in water every day, but you have to stay hydrated. What about lining? Is it good for the brain or something?

1577
01:30:16.500 --> 01:30:25.500
Yeah, it's wonderful. When I learn, let's say I'm going to learn to do a sport. And let's say that sport is going to be tennis.

1578
01:30:25.500 --> 01:30:38.500
And so I'm going to go to my character one and character one is going to say, okay, this is how you hold the racket. And this is how you hold your body. And this is where you're going to swing that and try that.

1579
01:30:38.500 --> 01:30:50.500
And so left hemisphere comes in and gives you the plan and it gives you the details and you do that. And then at some point, you've done it enough that now you're just going to start whacking it all, right?

1580
01:30:50.500 --> 01:30:57.500
Whacking it all and you're going to practice it over and over again. And then it gets like really fun. And then it's back in your body. And now we're back to girls just want to have fun.

1581
01:30:57.500 --> 01:31:01.500
You know, I mean, we're back into character three. Well, we know how close bad.

1582
01:31:01.500 --> 01:31:11.500
Well, you're drunk because your cells are drunk. I mean, just think about it. If I'm going to consume alcohol, it's going to suck the water out of those cells.

1583
01:31:11.500 --> 01:31:26.500
They're going to be dehydrated. And I'm going to end up with a headache. And when they get fragile, because the membrane has been drunk, drunk, drunk, drunk, you know, abused, abused, abused, eventually they tend to creanate and blow up. And that's the end of those cells.

1584
01:31:26.500 --> 01:31:35.500
So alcohol is not good. Addiction is, you know, we exist in a society. And I think that this is important.

1585
01:31:35.500 --> 01:31:48.500
We exist in a society where the left hemisphere, especially character two where our cravings and addictions are, is if I'm not happy because I'm not living a fulfilled life because I'm on YouTube or I'm watching social media and all these people are getting all these clicks.

1586
01:31:48.500 --> 01:31:56.500
And I'm not getting all these clicks and I'm not living this lavish life that these other people are living. Then I'm down on me and I'm just like not very happy.

1587
01:31:56.500 --> 01:32:02.500
I'm going to make poor choices because that is what that part of us is designed to do.

1588
01:32:02.500 --> 01:32:17.500
So I say take responsibility for the energy you bring into a room. And if you pay attention to who walks in and what party you walks in and you come in as a whole person, now I am completely available to master the moment, whatever the moment is.

1589
01:32:17.500 --> 01:32:21.500
Dr. Jill Balty Taylor.

1590
01:32:21.500 --> 01:32:29.500
If you if you had a closing message for my audience, something that maybe maybe we've said a subject we've missed or something that we think is the most important thing to close upon.

1591
01:32:29.500 --> 01:32:30.500
What would it be?

1592
01:32:30.500 --> 01:32:33.500
Your life is worth 30 seconds.

1593
01:32:33.500 --> 01:32:39.500
If you're in your car and you're getting ready to pull out between those two cars that are coming.

1594
01:32:39.500 --> 01:32:45.500
Your life is worth 30 seconds. Take a breath, take a pause and save your own life.

1595
01:32:45.500 --> 01:32:47.500
It has changed my life.

1596
01:32:47.500 --> 01:32:52.500
As soon as somebody said to me, Jill, isn't your worth your life worth 30 seconds?

1597
01:32:52.500 --> 01:32:57.500
And I thought to myself, oh my gosh, actually it is.

1598
01:32:57.500 --> 01:32:59.500
And what does that mean? It means just relax.

1599
01:32:59.500 --> 01:33:05.500
It means I'm not going to try to squeeze myself into boxes where I maybe don't fit or belong.

1600
01:33:06.500 --> 01:33:08.500
I'm going to pause.

1601
01:33:08.500 --> 01:33:13.500
Physically, I'm talking about physical physical. So seriously, if you're driving.

1602
01:33:13.500 --> 01:33:15.500
Okay, so you're saying slow down.

1603
01:33:15.500 --> 01:33:23.500
Slow down. 30 seconds. Your life is worth 30 seconds. Be conscious about it.

1604
01:33:23.500 --> 01:33:27.500
Thank you. Very fascinating, incredibly fascinating.

1605
01:33:27.500 --> 01:33:38.500
You have a remarkable energy and you have a wonderful way of reminding me of the, I guess, transitioning me from the working factual part of my brain to being more present in the moment.

1606
01:33:38.500 --> 01:33:40.500
And I imagine you've done that for everybody that's listened today.

1607
01:33:40.500 --> 01:33:45.500
There's a real pureness to you that I wonder if many of us might have just lost along the way somehow.

1608
01:33:45.500 --> 01:33:51.500
So thank you so much for being here you are and your journey is unbelievably incredible, unbelievably inspiring.

1609
01:33:51.500 --> 01:34:01.500
And the fact that you've, you've been so centered on gratitude and I've been appreciation for life despite all that you've been through is a remarkable thing.

1610
01:34:01.500 --> 01:34:05.500
We have a closing tradition on this podcast with Alaska sleeves a question for the next.

1611
01:34:05.500 --> 01:34:10.500
Not knowing who it's for and the question left for you.

1612
01:34:10.500 --> 01:34:16.500
Is what do you do when your life doesn't turn out the way that you had hoped?

1613
01:34:16.500 --> 01:34:21.500
I think the universe that option wasn't for me.

1614
01:34:21.500 --> 01:34:39.500
Next. So easy. So easy. Thank you to that right hemisphere consciousness that connected to the universe with all those atoms and molecules and big old rocks floating around that that wasn't meant for me.

1615
01:34:39.500 --> 01:34:47.500
Something better is on its way or I'm going to go paddleboard. I'm perfectly good with that.

1616
01:34:47.500 --> 01:34:53.500
Thank you so much. Thank you.

1617
01:34:53.500 --> 01:35:09.500
If there's anything we need it is connection especially in the world we're living in today and that is exactly why we created these conversation cards because on this show when I sit here with my guest and have those deep intimate conversations this remarkable thing happens time and time again.

1618
01:35:09.500 --> 01:35:13.500
We feel deeply connected to each other at the end of every episode.

1619
01:35:13.500 --> 01:35:19.500
The guest I'm interviewing leaves a question for the next guest and we've turned them into these conversation cards.

1620
01:35:19.500 --> 01:35:26.500
And we've added these twist cards to make your conversations even more interesting and there are so many more twists along the way with the conversation cards.

1621
01:35:26.500 --> 01:35:38.500
This is the brand new addition and for the first time ever I've added to the pack this gold card which is an exclusive question from me but I'm only putting the gold cards in the first run of conversation cards.

1622
01:35:38.500 --> 01:35:43.500
So if you want them join the wait list now and you'll get early access when they get released. Head to the link in the description below.