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You can't be afraid to verbalize your ignorance.

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That's holding you back.

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Committee example.

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I can give you several, like, investing.

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You're like, you're telling me,

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if I put this money in here right now,

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I could 30x, 20x.

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What the f*** is this game?

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I know a scam when I see one.

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You'll find you another idiot

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because it ain't happening over here, buddy.

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But when you go, you say, I don't know what that means.

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How does investing really work?

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I don't know where to get it.

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Now you're a part of the right conversation.

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You're a part of the right opportunities,

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but you get there by being the dummy in the world.

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And now look at what I'm able to do.

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Kevin, it took 13 years

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and where you did your first stand-up

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to you having your moment.

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But why didn't you quit?

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Because of the lessons that my mom gave

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from being very scarred from my brother.

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So let's go back.

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I grew up in North Philadelphia.

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My brother had told the drugs.

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My dad was always in jail.

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I was jailed from my mom.

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I wasn't gonna let that happen with me.

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So we had an agreement.

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I had a certain amount of time to make comedy work.

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And in my mind, it wasn't gonna be hard

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because there was no other option.

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I will figure it out.

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So I was driving in front of Philadelphia

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to New York every day.

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I wasn't coming home until 4 a.m.

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where I was doing 25 to 28 sets a weekend.

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I worked that for a very, very long time.

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And the struggle left you with days of,

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what am I doing?

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Can I pay my rent?

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Fuck this, man.

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But my mom's biggest lesson was you're not quitting.

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And not many people are going to do

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the 13 years of hard shit.

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Most people opt out at year two.

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I want to go find a quick return.

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You keep quitting to start something else

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that you think is the idea.

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It's just a cycle.

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You're never completing anything.

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You got to make a choice

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if there you're going to do a finish.

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I made the choice to stand up comedy

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was what I was going to finish

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because if I focused and did it well,

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that would open up the doors

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and need to do everything else that I want to do.

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But they say that you can't have everything in life.

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So what is the cost?

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Have you struggled with your mental health?

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What advice have you got for young men

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in terms of what it takes to be a good man?

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That's a weird thing that's happening where

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the definition of a good man is so foggy.

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It seems that in this time today

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more men are being forward

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wanting to express in talk.

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But the fear of being judged after.

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Do you have that fear?

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Just give me 30 seconds of your time.

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Two things I wanted to say.

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The first thing is a huge thank you

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for listening and tuning into the show

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week after week means the world to all of us.

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And this really is a dream that we absolutely never had

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and couldn't have imagined getting to this place.

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But secondly, it's a dream where we feel like

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we're only just getting started.

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And if you enjoy what we do here,

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please join the 24% of people

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that listen to this podcast regularly

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and follow us on this app.

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Here's a promise I'm going to make to you.

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I'm going to do everything in my power

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to make this show as good as I can

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now and into the future.

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We're going to deliver the guests that you want me to speak to

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and we're going to continue to keep doing all of the things

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you love about this show.

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Thank you.

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In so many ways, you're clearly anonymally.

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For you to be the way that you are,

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there must be some kind of early context

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that people need to be aware of.

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A certain wiring or a cauldron

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that has sort of shaped you into who you are.

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What is that context that I need to understand?

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I made very driven individual

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and I'm driven off of ideation.

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I like the fact that you can have thoughts

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and if you're in love with the thoughts that you're having,

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you can be energized to bring those thoughts

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like into a bigger reality.

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That's the real fuel to the brain for me.

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Do you think at the very core of you,

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that's what's motivating you?

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Absolutely.

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That's like a process,

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but the outcome of that is success

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and it will, it will, it's formed.

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It's material success or failure.

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I mean, like there is no success without failure.

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They go hand in hand and what the failure comes

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amazing lessons, adjustments.

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And you get sharper because of the shit that you've done wrong

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or that you didn't know to approach a certain way

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that you now know how to approach.

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So I embrace the concept of failure

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just as much as I embrace the win of success.

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Had I met you at 10 years old or 15 years old,

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how similar would you have looked

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in that too?

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Not even close.

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Not even close.

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Not motivated to do the things that I didn't want to do.

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Not a good student kind of fucking off school,

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the opportunities to come with school,

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the extra curricular activities that I didn't want to do

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that I was doing and my mom made me do.

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Hanging out was the thing.

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Hanging out was the luxury, it was the fun

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and it's, it wasn't available.

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My mom was strict.

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So I didn't have the luxury of doing all those things,

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which is why I wanted the more.

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I found this photo of your mother.

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Me and Nancy Hart.

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She was strict.

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Very strict.

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With me.

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My older brother, he had the, you know,

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he had a little more lean, he, he, freedom.

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You know, he curfew later night.

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My brother did all the, all the other stuff.

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My brother sold the drugs, you know,

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did the, you know, the smaller tears of crime

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and stupid shit as a teenager to her own mom felt like

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she wasn't gonna let that happen with me.

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So she was much more protective.

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Because of the mistakes she saw that she made with my brother.

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You see what I'm saying?

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So I got the, I got the short end of the stick.

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So I didn't have the curfew.

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I didn't, I wasn't able to go hang out.

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I wasn't able to do all those things.

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And that's why I wanted that so much.

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So I rebelled in the spaces where you have to do this.

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And I was like, well, you don't let me do this.

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So I don't, I don't want to do this.

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So I kind of fucked off a lot of those opportunities.

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And you're a farmer.

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Hear me with a spoon.

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Spoony cheese.

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My guy, you know, a fuck up in the eyes of most,

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but my dad, you know, he didn't necessarily do the right things

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in life, gang, crime, all of the shit, jail,

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and jail out of jail drugs.

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I mean, that environment that we were raised in,

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it's not like, you know, the best environment for anyone.

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because it's all we know.

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And the normalcy is the low.

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My mom strived for the higher side of it.

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My mom was education, degree, trying to get another degree,

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trying to get a master, trying to, my mom was like always wanting

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to get better, always wanting to educate herself more

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because she felt that it was the biggest strength

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that nobody could control but her.

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And they separated.

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Yeah, they were never, never married.

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Never married.

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And today physically separate at a certain point.

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I mean, I think my dad, my dad only lived in the house with me

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in like my really younger years.

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if I can remember, like I didn't have,

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I didn't grow up with like my dad at home.

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You know, so when my mom was like,

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fuck that, you're out of here.

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It was over.

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My dad, it was a weekend dad or every other weekend dad

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or, you know, during the week stop by.

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Then it was ending out of jail.

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Then we got on drugs.

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We didn't see him at all.

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How did you understand that as a kid?

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Like how does a kid understand the,

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that that coming and going, being in jail drugs?

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You are a product of your environment

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and in that environment, that's the norm.

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So when you, so when you say like,

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how did you understand that?

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Well, nobody had a dad, right?

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They go, all my friends are dads.

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Like we see him when we see him and we love him

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because that's what we, that's what we thought that it should be.

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It's not like I'm going over a volume of homes

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where I'm seeing the father sit with the family and the mom

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and they're doing dinner and they're having conversations

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and then, you know, it's this happy household.

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I only had a couple of examples like that.

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I remember when I went over one of my friend's houses

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from the swim team and I remember he had his own room.

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It was like crazy.

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You get to close the door and shit.

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Like this is your space.

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Yeah, it's my room.

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I had a hallway.

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Yeah, I don't got that room.

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I had a hallway.

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My bed's in hallway.

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You could always see me.

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This is where I am.

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Me and my brother right here in the hall

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when he's bunk beds.

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My friend had grass, he had a bag yard.

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This is fucking crazy.

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Yeah, we don't have none of this where we live.

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So because that is the norm,

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I never, it never affected me, right?

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Like I never, I was never taken back

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by the obstacles of our household.

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My mom and dad just didn't get along, it didn't work.

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All right, it is what it is.

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Did you have male role models at the time?

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I don't think that I was in the space of no

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when it comes to role model.

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Like at this time,

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like I didn't have the mindset of

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what a role model is or should be.

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I just had good people around me

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who act that is like parenting aids

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to my mother to help her because of her schedule.

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But I never remember a dead age looking

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at other families like,

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oh, this is what I, this is what I want

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and this is what I'm striving to get or gain, you know?

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Like I, it was, it was showed to shrug.

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A lot of shoulder shrugs.

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It wasn't so I got older

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that I think the lessons, not I think I know,

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the lessons that my mom was kind of laying down

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started to click in differently.

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I mean, one of those lessons

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that your mother was trying to lay down

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can be seen in a Bible thousand percent.

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There's a,

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best story ever, best story

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that I'm able to tell.

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She puts something in the Bible

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that's hanging out there and she can see.

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Checks, man.

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I couldn't pay my rent.

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I cannot pay my rent.

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I needed help and she was like,

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well, I'm not helping you until you start reading the Bible.

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And I was like, mom, I'm reading the Bible.

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I was lying.

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Just lying.

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I'm reading it.

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Come on, mom, this is real.

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Mom, they're gonna kick me out.

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Are you reading your Bible?

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Yes.

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When you read your Bible, they talk to me.

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And she did this for like a while.

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And one day I was like, you know what, man?

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I was really by myself.

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And I was like, what am I gonna do?

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I was like, let me do this Bible.

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Read the Bible now.

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Open up the Bible.

287
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And like my checks rent, like multiple months

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of rent checks have fell out.

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I was like, you know what?

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It's pretty amazing, pretty amazing.

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And then I had to actually open a Bible one

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and start reading the Bible.

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But that was her way of, of course,

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knowing that I'm lying.

295
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First of all, and be giving me like

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one of the best lessons ever, you know?

297
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Somewhere along the lines, the gyms that she dropped

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started to click and the idea of not starting things

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that I'm not gonna finish,

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that's what really resonated with me the most.

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So like I started a lot of stuff that I didn't complete

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in the younger years.

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That was me and my mom's battle.

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No, you're gonna finish it and she will make me finish it.

305
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Now I wanna quit.

306
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No, you're gonna finish it.

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So I ended up doing a lot of things with an attitude

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which is why I have to ask this.

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Then as I got older, you realized,

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well, why are you putting time into something

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in the beginning that you don't wanna see through?

312
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Why?

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Or just because you have like a rough moment or a rough patch.

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Why is it so easy for you to quit?

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Why is the idea of quit so quick to you to come up with

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and why are you so comfortable with the results of that?

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I shouldn't be and I shouldn't be my like motto.

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So we don't stop.

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If we start something, we see it the entire way through.

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At the end of it, even if you don't like it

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to the highest level,

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you know that you put your time energy into something

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that you're at least proud,

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proud that you did,

325
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proud that you were able to put a period on that sentence.

326
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And now you can start the next thing,

327
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but it's not until you complete something

328
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that you can honestly sit with yourself and go,

329
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that's what life is.

330
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That's called seeing things through the entire way.

331
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What was it that changed in you?

332
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Like what happened that made you suddenly start

333
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to take opportunities more seriously?

334
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When you started the opportunity, you fucked off.

335
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I remember the, my big dummy moment,

336
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and I've had a lot,

337
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so I don't know how much time we have to go now,

338
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but I got a lot of dummy moments,

339
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but my biggest dummy moment,

340
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we hook e-school to go and have our senior day.

341
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We go to great adventure, theme park on e-schools.

342
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And there was a moment where we're done

343
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and we're talking, we're like eating and hanging out

344
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and all my friends were talking about the college

345
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that they were going to go to.

346
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I mean, it had already been accepted there.

347
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It already had letters and shit.

348
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When did y'all do this?

349
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When did everybody apply?

350
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When did everybody, when did you guys take the SAT?

351
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I just, I took mine, but I've rushed it

352
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because I wanted to get here.

353
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I wanted to hook e-wait.

354
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How do you guys know where you going already?

355
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I had no knowledge, no idea.

356
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All my friends went on to the next stage.

357
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They let me be the dummy by myself

358
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and that's what a don't don't mean that like

359
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nobody cares about you more than you should care

360
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about yourself.

361
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And nobody is giving you the road map to like the winds.

362
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You have to go find that information.

363
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You got to go discover it.

364
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You got to, you got to want to get it.

365
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You got to want to do it.

366
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And with the right help, the right world of knowledge

367
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it can better help position you, but ultimately

368
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you have to want to, you got to want to do it.

369
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And me and just not wanting to do shit

370
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trying to put me in a really fucked up position early on.

371
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Was it finding the thing, your thing, that

372
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put some wind in yourselves and made you

373
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more of a apparently motivated individual?

374
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Because at some point you go from being that Kevin

375
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to the Kevin, that can't stop working.

376
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Yeah, well that was my light bulb moment.

377
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Okay.

378
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My light bulb moment was looking

379
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what not applying myself got me.

380
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I find the dummy that doesn't know

381
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what he wants to do with his life.

382
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And now I'm at community college.

383
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I'm working as a live guard.

384
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I eventually want to go work for city sports

385
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which is a sneaker store.

386
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And I remember when I started working in the sneaker store

387
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I talked about this for years too.

388
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I was like, oh man, this is cool.

389
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This is what I want to do.

390
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I got the thing that I want to do.

391
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I was so excited that I wouldn't got a job, found a job.

392
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I'll do this forever.

393
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And I'm going to make it to the highest level

394
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so I can have a career.

395
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So I become the manager and have to be in the manager.

396
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I work for corporate.

397
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And this is something that I can build.

398
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Like I was already spiraling because I like,

399
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I gotta figure out what I'm doing with the rest of my life.

400
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What's my life and I'm panicking?

401
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What are all?

402
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And I was flourishing in the space of sneaker sales.

403
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Right?

404
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Education and college degree.

405
00:16:35.900 --> 00:16:36.900
I don't have.

406
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But in the space of personality and sale

407
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I was able to maneuver.

408
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This is it.

409
00:16:45.900 --> 00:16:48.900
This is my calling.

410
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That's where the road beginning light presented itself

411
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through ideas of my friends.

412
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You should do stand-up because you're funny.

413
00:17:00.900 --> 00:17:01.900
You should try stand-up.

414
00:17:01.900 --> 00:17:03.900
Do you remember what you were when they said that?

415
00:17:03.900 --> 00:17:04.900
Am I workplace?

416
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I'm working every day.

417
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I'm on the floor.

418
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And someone, a colleague of yours, it works.

419
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Alice, colleague of mine that I work with.

420
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What did your brain think when she said that?

421
00:17:14.900 --> 00:17:17.900
Was it just blowing on a fire that was kind of already there?

422
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Or was it lighting the fire?

423
00:17:18.900 --> 00:17:21.900
No, I think the fire was lit.

424
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I never thought about pursuing stand-up comedy prior to.

425
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The idea came up.

426
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I was always funny, but I wasn't like, man,

427
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I gotta figure out how to become a comedian.

428
00:17:32.900 --> 00:17:34.900
That was never a thought.

429
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I knew that was very funny.

430
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I knew that I was entertaining.

431
00:17:37.900 --> 00:17:38.900
I knew that I can make people laugh.

432
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I love being the center of attention.

433
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I love the idea of a stage and a light.

434
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But that wasn't the thing.

435
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I wasn't like, I got it.

436
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And it's what it's going to do.

437
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It was presented.

438
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And then I went and did the amateur night.

439
00:17:54.900 --> 00:17:55.900
And that's when I fell in love.

440
00:17:55.900 --> 00:17:58.900
Why did you like the stage and the light?

441
00:17:58.900 --> 00:18:00.900
And why did you like performing?

442
00:18:00.900 --> 00:18:01.900
The laugh.

443
00:18:01.900 --> 00:18:02.900
Why?

444
00:18:02.900 --> 00:18:06.900
There's nothing better than laugh.

445
00:18:06.900 --> 00:18:15.900
There's nothing better than being on stage having the bright light.

446
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And the only energy of good that you're able to take away from what you're doing is

447
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the laugh.

448
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Hearing people laugh.

449
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I was like, oh, shit.

450
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That feels different.

451
00:18:36.900 --> 00:18:37.900
Why?

452
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This is energizing.

453
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How does it make you feel about you?

454
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I feel like I'm doing a service of good.

455
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If I can make people feel better, if I can brighten up your day, it's a service of good.

456
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That means I'm like a shepherd of some sort.

457
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I am responsible for making people feel better.

458
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Oh, my God.

459
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That means it's success.

460
00:19:08.900 --> 00:19:12.900
I can bring people to one destination.

461
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And everybody can share a moment in the laugh and all relate that it came from me.

462
00:19:19.900 --> 00:19:20.900
Oh, my God.

463
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This can get global.

464
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This can get bigger.

465
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Or this is starting to change now.

466
00:19:25.900 --> 00:19:26.900
Oh, wow.

467
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This has opened up doors for me to do this, or that, or this, or that.

468
00:19:32.900 --> 00:19:33.900
It all started with the laugh.

469
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It all started with the stage.

470
00:19:35.900 --> 00:19:38.900
So you went to that comedy show.

471
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I've got a, I was looking at some of those early clips of you performing.

472
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It's funny because I think this is the early 2000s.

473
00:19:45.900 --> 00:19:46.900
Okay.

474
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But I mean, you probably.

475
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Oh, my car lines.

476
00:19:50.900 --> 00:19:51.900
Car lines.

477
00:19:51.900 --> 00:19:52.900
This right here.

478
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My best set and the beginning of my career.

479
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Everything I stand for tonight is a joke.

480
00:19:58.900 --> 00:19:59.900
Okay.

481
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It is nothing else.

482
00:20:00.900 --> 00:20:02.900
I don't know why I take none of this stuff to series.

483
00:20:02.900 --> 00:20:07.900
I don't know why they're coming up to me after the show saying I lose the funny one now.

484
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Yeah.

485
00:20:08.900 --> 00:20:09.900
Yeah.

486
00:20:09.900 --> 00:20:10.900
This, that tape.

487
00:20:10.900 --> 00:20:17.900
So that was when, you know, the thing I needed was a tape.

488
00:20:18.900 --> 00:20:22.900
And the reason I needed the tape was so that I could send it to the other comedy clubs

489
00:20:22.900 --> 00:20:26.900
so that they can have an example of me, my talent, and then dictator judge

490
00:20:26.900 --> 00:20:28.900
if I can get a live audition in person.

491
00:20:28.900 --> 00:20:29.900
And how old are you at that point?

492
00:20:29.900 --> 00:20:30.900
Oh, my car lines.

493
00:20:30.900 --> 00:20:33.900
My dear, I'm like 1890.

494
00:20:33.900 --> 00:20:34.900
That's crazy.

495
00:20:34.900 --> 00:20:35.900
1890 is old.

496
00:20:35.900 --> 00:20:38.900
Because you're so, that clip is so funny.

497
00:20:38.900 --> 00:20:42.900
I watched it this morning and I was dying.

498
00:20:42.900 --> 00:20:49.900
And you could understand the feeling of getting off that stage, having a good set

499
00:20:49.900 --> 00:20:51.900
and then putting the tape in my hand.

500
00:20:51.900 --> 00:20:53.900
It was gold.

501
00:20:53.900 --> 00:20:54.900
I got it.

502
00:20:54.900 --> 00:20:56.900
I got a good tape.

503
00:20:56.900 --> 00:20:58.900
I got to go make copies of my tape.

504
00:20:58.900 --> 00:21:00.900
And then I just got to send them to everybody.

505
00:21:00.900 --> 00:21:01.900
I just used them.

506
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Because it was, it was, it was value.

507
00:21:06.900 --> 00:21:07.900
It was value.

508
00:21:07.900 --> 00:21:11.900
Started getting in comedy clubs, started getting auditions, started getting more.

509
00:21:12.900 --> 00:21:14.900
Oh my God, Kevin's up for an audition.

510
00:21:14.900 --> 00:21:18.900
A movie audition, casted directors, they all got that tape.

511
00:21:18.900 --> 00:21:20.900
Everybody got that tape.

512
00:21:20.900 --> 00:21:24.900
From that period onwards, from 18 to, let's say, to early 20s, you were at this point

513
00:21:24.900 --> 00:21:26.900
a very motivated individual.

514
00:21:26.900 --> 00:21:27.900
You're working hard.

515
00:21:27.900 --> 00:21:28.900
You're focused.

516
00:21:28.900 --> 00:21:29.900
Very.

517
00:21:29.900 --> 00:21:32.900
And when you speak to your mom and your dad at this point about comedy,

518
00:21:32.900 --> 00:21:35.900
do they think that's a serious career?

519
00:21:35.900 --> 00:21:40.900
My dad not as much because I didn't really talk to my dad through these years.

520
00:21:40.900 --> 00:21:44.900
My dad was kind of dealing with his, his world of issues.

521
00:21:44.900 --> 00:21:47.900
My mom, we had an agreement.

522
00:21:47.900 --> 00:21:54.900
I had a certain amount of time to make comedy make sense and figure out a way to support myself.

523
00:21:54.900 --> 00:22:00.900
If I didn't do it, then I had to go with my mom's idea, which was education

524
00:22:00.900 --> 00:22:03.900
and getting a job while getting my education.

525
00:22:03.900 --> 00:22:06.900
My plan didn't, it didn't involve college.

526
00:22:06.900 --> 00:22:07.900
I'm out.

527
00:22:07.900 --> 00:22:08.900
I'm done.

528
00:22:08.900 --> 00:22:09.900
No more community.

529
00:22:09.900 --> 00:22:11.900
This is what I want to do.

530
00:22:11.900 --> 00:22:12.900
I got it.

531
00:22:12.900 --> 00:22:15.900
I've never been more excited about my future.

532
00:22:15.900 --> 00:22:18.900
This is it for me.

533
00:22:18.900 --> 00:22:21.900
How are you going to make your money, Kevin?

534
00:22:21.900 --> 00:22:23.900
I'm going to figure it out.

535
00:22:23.900 --> 00:22:25.900
How are you going to figure it out?

536
00:22:25.900 --> 00:22:27.900
I'm going to figure it out though.

537
00:22:27.900 --> 00:22:30.900
I'm just going to go down to the comedy clubs and I've been winning the amateur nights.

538
00:22:30.900 --> 00:22:33.900
I think the amateur nights can help me pay for my rent because I was winning the amateur nights.

539
00:22:33.900 --> 00:22:35.900
I have won a bunch of men of row.

540
00:22:36.900 --> 00:22:38.900
In my mind, it wasn't hard.

541
00:22:38.900 --> 00:22:41.900
It wasn't going to be hard because there was no other option.

542
00:22:41.900 --> 00:22:45.900
All my eggs were in this basket and I was very happy with that choice.

543
00:22:45.900 --> 00:22:51.900
I put every last egg in this thing, nothing else matters but this.

544
00:22:51.900 --> 00:22:54.900
I promise you, I will figure it out.

545
00:22:54.900 --> 00:22:56.900
Can you draw me a picture?

546
00:22:56.900 --> 00:23:03.900
If your career was a graph, I'm going to say here is 18 years old and you're 46 now.

547
00:23:04.900 --> 00:23:07.900
This is the axis of this graph.

548
00:23:07.900 --> 00:23:10.900
On this axis, we have success.

549
00:23:10.900 --> 00:23:13.900
On this axis, we have age.

550
00:23:13.900 --> 00:23:18.900
Can you draw me a line that shows how it works?

551
00:23:18.900 --> 00:23:20.900
Success in age.

552
00:23:20.900 --> 00:23:23.900
Success for me?

553
00:23:23.900 --> 00:23:26.900
Knowing what I want to do in life comes here.

554
00:23:27.900 --> 00:23:39.900
Now figuring out how to get to money, revenue, just supporting yourself through telling a joke.

555
00:23:39.900 --> 00:23:42.900
Let's go here for a second.

556
00:23:42.900 --> 00:23:45.900
We flatline it.

557
00:23:45.900 --> 00:23:48.900
I'm making people laugh.

558
00:23:48.900 --> 00:23:51.900
I'm getting in some comedy clubs.

559
00:23:51.900 --> 00:23:53.900
But you want to get paid with food.

560
00:23:53.900 --> 00:23:57.900
But then some of the weird habits where you start figuring out, oh wait, here's kind of

561
00:23:57.900 --> 00:23:58.900
where the spots come in.

562
00:23:58.900 --> 00:24:06.900
I can make money on the weekends and I can get 20 to $25 a spot.

563
00:24:06.900 --> 00:24:14.900
So rather than doing one spot, I would do, let's just say, in a weekend, I got to the point

564
00:24:14.900 --> 00:24:20.900
where I was doing 25 to 28 sets a weekend.

565
00:24:20.900 --> 00:24:27.900
Well, I started making $500 a week, $400 a week.

566
00:24:27.900 --> 00:24:30.900
How many years in is this to, that usually making five or so?

567
00:24:30.900 --> 00:24:34.900
18, let's say 22.

568
00:24:34.900 --> 00:24:37.900
So I was driving from Philadelphia to New York every day.

569
00:24:37.900 --> 00:24:41.900
But because of that, now you got to get into a comedy festival.

570
00:24:41.900 --> 00:24:46.900
All right, so now let's start to go here because we did these spots for a while.

571
00:24:46.900 --> 00:24:47.900
But then I got a comedy festival.

572
00:24:47.900 --> 00:24:48.900
Oh shit.

573
00:24:48.900 --> 00:24:50.900
I got a comedy festival.

574
00:24:50.900 --> 00:24:52.900
That's when the industry saw me.

575
00:24:52.900 --> 00:24:53.900
Who's this new guy?

576
00:24:53.900 --> 00:24:55.900
Who's this guy with all his energy?

577
00:24:55.900 --> 00:24:56.900
Who's this fucking guy?

578
00:24:56.900 --> 00:24:59.900
This guy here, he's got something.

579
00:24:59.900 --> 00:25:01.900
All right, so I started meetings, general meetings.

580
00:25:01.900 --> 00:25:03.900
And now I get a holding deal.

581
00:25:03.900 --> 00:25:05.900
So let's go a little bit.

582
00:25:05.900 --> 00:25:06.900
I think it was ABC.

583
00:25:06.900 --> 00:25:08.900
They gave me like 250 grand.

584
00:25:08.900 --> 00:25:10.900
So they're holding you in hopes they get something.

585
00:25:10.900 --> 00:25:11.900
Nothing happened.

586
00:25:11.900 --> 00:25:12.900
So we're flat on here.

587
00:25:12.900 --> 00:25:14.900
Now I'm just waiting for the phone ring.

588
00:25:14.900 --> 00:25:15.900
That's how this works.

589
00:25:15.900 --> 00:25:17.900
What if I want to create my own thing?

590
00:25:17.900 --> 00:25:18.900
Create a show.

591
00:25:18.900 --> 00:25:19.900
Oh my God.

592
00:25:19.900 --> 00:25:20.900
Show gets picked up.

593
00:25:20.900 --> 00:25:21.900
I create something else.

594
00:25:21.900 --> 00:25:23.900
They decided to do it.

595
00:25:23.900 --> 00:25:24.900
Oh shit, there's a pattern.

596
00:25:24.900 --> 00:25:25.900
I can do that as much as I want.

597
00:25:25.900 --> 00:25:27.900
I can treat that.

598
00:25:27.900 --> 00:25:30.900
Just how I was treating the spots and stuff in New York.

599
00:25:30.900 --> 00:25:31.900
I'm out.

600
00:25:31.900 --> 00:25:32.900
I'm moving to LA.

601
00:25:32.900 --> 00:25:34.900
No playing on nothing.

602
00:25:34.900 --> 00:25:36.900
Flat lie.

603
00:25:36.900 --> 00:25:37.900
I'm here.

604
00:25:37.900 --> 00:25:38.900
I just did it.

605
00:25:38.900 --> 00:25:40.900
I just can't move down.

606
00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:41.900
Fuck, man.

607
00:25:41.900 --> 00:25:42.900
This is weird.

608
00:25:42.900 --> 00:25:43.900
I don't like this.

609
00:25:43.900 --> 00:25:44.900
Work.

610
00:25:44.900 --> 00:25:46.900
I'm not getting to work, man.

611
00:25:46.900 --> 00:25:49.900
This shit is real stagnant.

612
00:25:49.900 --> 00:25:51.900
I'm going on a road.

613
00:25:51.900 --> 00:25:53.900
I want to work the road.

614
00:25:53.900 --> 00:25:54.900
I'm going to be a headline.

615
00:25:54.900 --> 00:25:56.900
And I'm going to do colleges.

616
00:25:56.900 --> 00:25:59.900
So I'm going to go college money and comedy club money.

617
00:25:59.900 --> 00:26:01.900
And I'm going to do it.

618
00:26:01.900 --> 00:26:03.900
I worked that for a very long time.

619
00:26:03.900 --> 00:26:04.900
Right?

620
00:26:04.900 --> 00:26:07.900
Very, very long time to the point where now.

621
00:26:07.900 --> 00:26:09.900
I'm selling out comedy clubs.

622
00:26:09.900 --> 00:26:12.900
I thought I started selling out comedy clubs.

623
00:26:12.900 --> 00:26:15.900
My person at the time was like, yo, we can probably do theaters.

624
00:26:15.900 --> 00:26:17.900
You're adding a lot of shows.

625
00:26:17.900 --> 00:26:18.900
Are you a millionaire at this point?

626
00:26:18.900 --> 00:26:19.900
No.

627
00:26:19.900 --> 00:26:20.900
No.

628
00:26:20.900 --> 00:26:22.900
I'm just an active, active comic.

629
00:26:22.900 --> 00:26:28.900
The next stage of success, right, was let's go from comedy clubs to theaters.

630
00:26:28.900 --> 00:26:29.900
All right.

631
00:26:29.900 --> 00:26:30.900
Boom.

632
00:26:30.900 --> 00:26:31.900
Let's go here.

633
00:26:31.900 --> 00:26:33.900
Then let's go up again.

634
00:26:33.900 --> 00:26:35.900
Theater starts selling out real quick.

635
00:26:35.900 --> 00:26:36.900
Oh, fuck.

636
00:26:36.900 --> 00:26:40.900
Let's go from theaters, right, to like arenas.

637
00:26:40.900 --> 00:26:41.900
Oh, shit.

638
00:26:41.900 --> 00:26:43.900
We'll pack her.

639
00:26:43.900 --> 00:26:46.900
He was like, I got this book that I want to make a movie.

640
00:26:46.900 --> 00:26:49.900
It's called Think Like A Man. Steve Harvey wrote it.

641
00:26:49.900 --> 00:26:51.900
I think you're funny as hell.

642
00:26:51.900 --> 00:26:53.900
I've been tracking you on a tour.

643
00:26:53.900 --> 00:26:55.900
I want you to be the star.

644
00:26:55.900 --> 00:26:56.900
We film it.

645
00:26:56.900 --> 00:26:57.900
Think like a man comes out.

646
00:26:57.900 --> 00:27:00.900
Think like a man did 90 something million dollars in the box office.

647
00:27:00.900 --> 00:27:03.900
And Will says, hey, man, working with you is great.

648
00:27:03.900 --> 00:27:04.900
Let's do something else.

649
00:27:04.900 --> 00:27:06.900
I got this one called Ride Along.

650
00:27:06.900 --> 00:27:08.900
You and Ice Cube would be great.

651
00:27:08.900 --> 00:27:09.900
Boom.

652
00:27:09.900 --> 00:27:10.900
Ride Along does 140.

653
00:27:10.900 --> 00:27:13.900
Like the movies just started to pop, pop, pop, pop, pop, pop.

654
00:27:13.900 --> 00:27:14.900
Get hard.

655
00:27:14.900 --> 00:27:15.900
Central intelligence.

656
00:27:15.900 --> 00:27:16.900
Me and the rock.

657
00:27:16.900 --> 00:27:18.900
I mean, it just happened so fast.

658
00:27:18.900 --> 00:27:23.900
So now, because the movies are working, I'm like, this is so cool.

659
00:27:23.900 --> 00:27:28.900
But while this is happening, I should figure out like,

660
00:27:29.900 --> 00:27:34.900
how to kind of create my own source of like opportunity.

661
00:27:34.900 --> 00:27:37.900
Like people keep bringing opportunities to me.

662
00:27:37.900 --> 00:27:40.900
How do I create my own source of opportunity?

663
00:27:40.900 --> 00:27:43.900
I'm going to start a production company.

664
00:27:43.900 --> 00:27:45.900
I need to start developing.

665
00:27:45.900 --> 00:27:46.900
But now I'm like, I created that.

666
00:27:46.900 --> 00:27:47.900
Let's create something else.

667
00:27:47.900 --> 00:27:50.900
So then I say, let's go like heartbeat ventures.

668
00:27:50.900 --> 00:27:52.900
And let's do a VC.

669
00:27:52.900 --> 00:27:54.900
Oh, man, I'm creating a bunch of stuff.

670
00:27:54.900 --> 00:27:57.900
Hey, these entities around me, it's all happening because my likeness.

671
00:27:57.900 --> 00:28:01.900
My likeness allows me to get in these rooms and start relationships

672
00:28:01.900 --> 00:28:06.900
and put myself in a position to make deals and create long-term revenue.

673
00:28:06.900 --> 00:28:08.900
How do I get more of that?

674
00:28:08.900 --> 00:28:10.900
Wow.

675
00:28:10.900 --> 00:28:14.900
Like NASCAR, people attach themselves to the car they think is doing the best.

676
00:28:14.900 --> 00:28:16.900
I'm a car.

677
00:28:16.900 --> 00:28:19.900
I should have brand partnerships.

678
00:28:19.900 --> 00:28:20.900
Chase.

679
00:28:20.900 --> 00:28:21.900
Drive Kings.

680
00:28:21.900 --> 00:28:23.900
Fabletics.

681
00:28:23.900 --> 00:28:27.900
I should have my own brands and businesses that I'm building

682
00:28:27.900 --> 00:28:31.900
where more opportunity for long-term revenue can present itself.

683
00:28:31.900 --> 00:28:33.900
Grand Cormino.

684
00:28:33.900 --> 00:28:34.900
Wine.

685
00:28:34.900 --> 00:28:35.900
Spirits.

686
00:28:35.900 --> 00:28:41.900
Now, oh wow, I've grabbed this concept of business control ownership

687
00:28:41.900 --> 00:28:49.900
and merited with Kevin's drive and entertainment and visibility.

688
00:28:49.900 --> 00:28:57.900
Leverage that to get me into the rooms where I may not be as visible or as strong

689
00:28:57.900 --> 00:29:01.900
but once I'm embedded into these environments, I can bring them value.

690
00:29:01.900 --> 00:29:05.900
I can help amplify or uplift their brands, their products.

691
00:29:05.900 --> 00:29:11.900
So my case study of Fabletics,

692
00:29:11.900 --> 00:29:16.900
of Drive Kings before I got there versus after I got there.

693
00:29:16.900 --> 00:29:17.900
Chase.

694
00:29:17.900 --> 00:29:18.900
Financial literacy.

695
00:29:18.900 --> 00:29:19.900
Like C4.

696
00:29:19.900 --> 00:29:24.900
Like these are things where I'm now, well, I'm not just a partner,

697
00:29:24.900 --> 00:29:29.900
I'm an owner, I'm an endorser, I'm an ambassador.

698
00:29:29.900 --> 00:29:34.900
Oh wow, this is where the real money is made.

699
00:29:34.900 --> 00:29:37.900
The ecosystem of life.

700
00:29:37.900 --> 00:29:45.900
How do you put yourself in a position to be a part of every day movement in life?

701
00:29:45.900 --> 00:29:49.900
You're looking at things at a much granular scale.

702
00:29:49.900 --> 00:29:56.900
And now I go way back here to when I was like not really focusing,

703
00:29:56.900 --> 00:30:01.900
not thinking about life, not thinking about how things connect.

704
00:30:01.900 --> 00:30:05.900
I'm now able to tap into the lessons that my mom gave.

705
00:30:05.900 --> 00:30:10.900
And I'm like all good things that happen happen when they're supposed to.

706
00:30:10.900 --> 00:30:16.900
And now I'm poised and polished enough with a mindset that understands,

707
00:30:16.900 --> 00:30:19.900
well, I don't want to start something that I'm not going to finish.

708
00:30:19.900 --> 00:30:22.900
So if I'm going to put myself in position to do these things,

709
00:30:22.900 --> 00:30:27.900
how do I make sure that my partners know I'm willing to give my all?

710
00:30:27.900 --> 00:30:30.900
How do I show that I'm not going to quit?

711
00:30:30.900 --> 00:30:34.900
Which back here, my mom's biggest lesson was you're not quitting.

712
00:30:34.900 --> 00:30:36.900
If you started, you're going to finish it.

713
00:30:36.900 --> 00:30:41.900
How do I make my partners that I'm now saying you should work with me?

714
00:30:41.900 --> 00:30:44.900
How do I make Netflix secure knowing that when you get me,

715
00:30:44.900 --> 00:30:47.900
you get 100% of me and that I'm never going to quit.

716
00:30:47.900 --> 00:30:49.900
I'm going to finish it all.

717
00:30:49.900 --> 00:30:53.900
How do I make my other studio affiliates understand and working with heartbeat?

718
00:30:53.900 --> 00:30:57.900
It is in my best interest to bring you great product, great material,

719
00:30:57.900 --> 00:31:03.900
so that you understand what we do so that we can continue to drive a business

720
00:31:03.900 --> 00:31:05.900
that has the best interest for both of us.

721
00:31:05.900 --> 00:31:07.900
How do I sell you on that?

722
00:31:07.900 --> 00:31:13.900
So now my business of sell mirrors and matches my business of growth.

723
00:31:13.900 --> 00:31:16.900
Nothing that I'm doing doesn't go hand in hand.

724
00:31:16.900 --> 00:31:21.900
And I should be able to embed the products or the partnerships that I'm now

725
00:31:21.900 --> 00:31:27.900
operationally like attached to into the ecosystem of entertainment.

726
00:31:27.900 --> 00:31:34.900
So if I have a C4 can and I'm doing an activation and health and wellness

727
00:31:34.900 --> 00:31:38.900
C4 is my partner, I should integrate you in this opportunity.

728
00:31:38.900 --> 00:31:43.900
Hey, my movie, we have an opportunity to basically wear product.

729
00:31:43.900 --> 00:31:49.900
I should be in fabletics in this scene because this makes my partner feel valued

730
00:31:49.900 --> 00:31:50.900
in position.

731
00:31:50.900 --> 00:31:53.900
Oh wow, this is what I do.

732
00:31:53.900 --> 00:32:02.900
I elevate, I basically navigate my space of ownership in a way like only I can

733
00:32:02.900 --> 00:32:07.900
to elevate my partners so that my partners go and say,

734
00:32:07.900 --> 00:32:11.900
you're different, this is different, and this will be more of.

735
00:32:11.900 --> 00:32:13.900
That's my graph.

736
00:32:13.900 --> 00:32:15.900
I've got some questions about the graph.

737
00:32:15.900 --> 00:32:19.900
So I guess the parts that I'm curious about are this initial period

738
00:32:19.900 --> 00:32:21.900
when you're 18 well, like nothing's really happening.

739
00:32:21.900 --> 00:32:22.900
Nothing.

740
00:32:22.900 --> 00:32:26.900
Because so many of my listeners, probably most of them are in some

741
00:32:26.900 --> 00:32:30.900
pursue sort of professional endeavor in their life in this kind of stagnant moment.

742
00:32:30.900 --> 00:32:34.900
Where maybe they enjoy it, but like it ain't paying the bills.

743
00:32:34.900 --> 00:32:35.900
No one believes in them.

744
00:32:35.900 --> 00:32:38.900
Maybe some of their friends are rolling their eyes when they tell them what they're doing.

745
00:32:38.900 --> 00:32:41.900
When you look back on this season of life, what is that season?

746
00:32:41.900 --> 00:32:43.900
And how did you get through it?

747
00:32:43.900 --> 00:32:49.900
Nobody believed that I was funny when I said I was going to be a comedian.

748
00:32:49.900 --> 00:32:53.900
They were like, you funny, but I comedian funny.

749
00:32:53.900 --> 00:32:57.900
Like my friends were, yeah, what do you mean?

750
00:32:57.900 --> 00:32:58.900
I'm going to get on stage.

751
00:32:58.900 --> 00:32:59.900
What do you mean?

752
00:32:59.900 --> 00:33:00.900
I'm going to get on stage.

753
00:33:00.900 --> 00:33:01.900
I'm going to be a comedian.

754
00:33:01.900 --> 00:33:02.900
Give it like how?

755
00:33:02.900 --> 00:33:03.900
Like Eddie Murphy.

756
00:33:03.900 --> 00:33:04.900
Like I'm going to be a comedian.

757
00:33:04.900 --> 00:33:06.900
Yeah, but you never going to be Eddie Murphy.

758
00:33:06.900 --> 00:33:09.900
Yeah, I know, but I'm saying like I'm going to do it.

759
00:33:09.900 --> 00:33:11.900
Like I'm going to be a star.

760
00:33:11.900 --> 00:33:12.900
No.

761
00:33:12.900 --> 00:33:14.900
I don't know, man.

762
00:33:14.900 --> 00:33:16.900
I don't know about the whole star thing.

763
00:33:16.900 --> 00:33:17.900
I think you're tripping.

764
00:33:17.900 --> 00:33:21.900
I think I don't think that's it.

765
00:33:21.900 --> 00:33:26.900
Nobody has the confidence in the decisions that you're making for yourself like you do.

766
00:33:26.900 --> 00:33:31.900
So if you're waiting for that to connect in the beginning stages, it may or may not.

767
00:33:31.900 --> 00:33:38.140
If it doesn't, it shouldn't prevent you from like following through on whatever the

768
00:33:38.140 --> 00:33:42.200
line of like go is for you.

769
00:33:42.200 --> 00:33:46.660
The money is never coming fast.

770
00:33:46.660 --> 00:33:54.900
We're in a time today where this generation has found ways to make money in an entrepreneurial

771
00:33:54.900 --> 00:34:04.900
manner that we've never seen before, like the social media machine and how this generation

772
00:34:04.900 --> 00:34:12.620
navigates that machine to find revenue and to own is unbelievable.

773
00:34:12.620 --> 00:34:13.620
That didn't exist.

774
00:34:13.620 --> 00:34:17.580
We didn't have that like in my time, we didn't have that.

775
00:34:17.580 --> 00:34:23.340
We just had the struggle and the struggle left you with days of like literally sitting

776
00:34:23.340 --> 00:34:26.900
in the living room going, what the fuck, man?

777
00:34:26.900 --> 00:34:28.340
So why didn't you quit?

778
00:34:28.340 --> 00:34:30.540
Because no money, everyone's doubting it.

779
00:34:30.540 --> 00:34:32.020
What were you believing in?

780
00:34:32.020 --> 00:34:35.620
I was believing in the idea that I finally found the thing that I want to do.

781
00:34:35.620 --> 00:34:37.820
So it was passion that was really you, I can tell.

782
00:34:37.820 --> 00:34:43.620
I found the thing that I want to do and I'm not going to quit it because I love it

783
00:34:43.620 --> 00:34:50.820
this much and I strongly believe that the sun is at the end of this dark tunnel, but

784
00:34:50.820 --> 00:34:55.780
I got to be willing to get there and I just don't know how to get there yet, but I'm

785
00:34:55.780 --> 00:34:57.100
going to figure it out.

786
00:34:57.100 --> 00:35:00.260
That's what I'm going to LA.

787
00:35:00.260 --> 00:35:04.740
I was in New York, but after New York they say go to LA, I'm going.

788
00:35:04.740 --> 00:35:05.940
What you going to do when you get there?

789
00:35:05.940 --> 00:35:08.260
I'll figure it out.

790
00:35:08.260 --> 00:35:11.740
I can always get on the plane and fly where I got to go for stand up if that's the case.

791
00:35:11.740 --> 00:35:17.660
I can always go and make money doing stand up if I have to, but I'm not going to get

792
00:35:17.660 --> 00:35:20.900
to the star by just doing that.

793
00:35:20.900 --> 00:35:22.900
I got to go there.

794
00:35:22.900 --> 00:35:24.860
I got to get close to it.

795
00:35:24.860 --> 00:35:25.860
I got to smell it.

796
00:35:25.860 --> 00:35:26.860
I got to feel it.

797
00:35:26.860 --> 00:35:29.940
I got to find out where the people are that are trying to do it too.

798
00:35:29.940 --> 00:35:31.100
I got to get acting classes.

799
00:35:31.100 --> 00:35:34.420
I got to get around the Hollywood.

800
00:35:34.420 --> 00:35:37.420
Like what is, I got to get there.

801
00:35:37.420 --> 00:35:45.980
And what happens when you're there, it fuels another like another appetite of hunger

802
00:35:46.980 --> 00:35:48.060
because I'm there in real time.

803
00:35:48.060 --> 00:35:50.300
I'm seeing people better.

804
00:35:50.300 --> 00:35:56.220
I remember, I tell this cat Williams story and I don't even think I told cat this.

805
00:36:01.340 --> 00:36:08.580
There was a moment where I was opening for cat Williams and I remember, I remember

806
00:36:08.580 --> 00:36:16.860
being at the BET comedy awards and I'm in attendance and this is like, you know, I had had

807
00:36:16.860 --> 00:36:22.900
a couple of shots at some things where they just, you know, the things weren't sticking.

808
00:36:22.900 --> 00:36:26.340
The pilots that thought were going to hit weren't going to hit.

809
00:36:26.340 --> 00:36:30.980
The things that I thought were going to happen, they just didn't seem like it was adding

810
00:36:30.980 --> 00:36:31.980
up, right?

811
00:36:31.980 --> 00:36:38.020
Like the roles are little small roles, a little small cameos, but like it wasn't the

812
00:36:38.020 --> 00:36:39.020
thing.

813
00:36:39.020 --> 00:36:45.020
And I remember cat Williams said during the BET comedy awards, he had like a leopard's

814
00:36:45.020 --> 00:36:55.900
suit, destroyed, destroyed the comedy awards, destroyed this moment and audience goes crazy

815
00:36:55.900 --> 00:37:03.700
stands up, I remember being in the audience and I was like, that's it.

816
00:37:03.700 --> 00:37:12.380
I said, that's the thing, that thing, that reaction, that roar, that moment, I got to be

817
00:37:12.380 --> 00:37:15.860
patient because my moment is going to come.

818
00:37:15.860 --> 00:37:24.740
I witnessed his moment and he, after that moment, Friday after next, you know, I mean, he

819
00:37:24.740 --> 00:37:29.180
went on and started to do crazy things in his career, right?

820
00:37:29.180 --> 00:37:35.300
And I witnessed the moment and in that moment, my takeaway was that he was ready for the

821
00:37:35.300 --> 00:37:36.980
moment.

822
00:37:36.980 --> 00:37:43.020
His material, the jokes, everything, it all hit.

823
00:37:43.020 --> 00:37:47.500
And I didn't watch it in a manner like jealous or angry.

824
00:37:47.500 --> 00:37:55.860
I was like, that's it, like he's probably out of here after this.

825
00:37:55.860 --> 00:37:58.300
I mean, it's the BET comedy awards at the time.

826
00:37:58.300 --> 00:38:00.940
I'm like, this is the biggest thing ever, right?

827
00:38:00.940 --> 00:38:02.340
It's the comedy awards.

828
00:38:02.340 --> 00:38:05.180
By the way, they never did the comedy awards again.

829
00:38:05.180 --> 00:38:07.820
I think this is like the last one that they did.

830
00:38:07.820 --> 00:38:16.900
But that moment, if the ball is dropped in that moment, then the moment goes.

831
00:38:16.900 --> 00:38:20.780
You don't know when the moment is presenting itself.

832
00:38:20.780 --> 00:38:25.540
But I'm staying with the thing because I know that the moment is going to come.

833
00:38:25.540 --> 00:38:32.100
And when I'm in the moment, if I knock that fucking moment out the part, all things will

834
00:38:32.100 --> 00:38:33.100
change.

835
00:38:33.100 --> 00:38:34.100
But you may not know it.

836
00:38:34.100 --> 00:38:36.220
You may not know when the moment comes.

837
00:38:36.220 --> 00:38:37.420
When did you moment come?

838
00:38:37.420 --> 00:38:38.940
Shacks All-Star Comedy Jam.

839
00:38:38.940 --> 00:38:45.260
And the reason why he created it with the story of a cat, I believe it was Tommy Davidson.

840
00:38:45.260 --> 00:38:48.780
I was D-Ray, Senator J. Entertainment, it was a host.

841
00:38:48.780 --> 00:38:51.020
I headlined it.

842
00:38:51.020 --> 00:38:55.260
I end up having one of the best sets that I've ever had.

843
00:38:55.260 --> 00:38:59.820
And at the end of the Shacks All-Star Comedy Jam, I say good night and they do like a slow

844
00:38:59.820 --> 00:39:02.820
motion walkoff.

845
00:39:02.820 --> 00:39:10.180
So slow motion thing, and it's like I'm walking, the crowd stands up, and they're going crazy.

846
00:39:10.180 --> 00:39:14.540
By the way, I don't know the slow motion walkoff is going to happen and the edit of the

847
00:39:14.540 --> 00:39:15.540
special.

848
00:39:15.540 --> 00:39:19.980
But I remember in real time, crowds standing up, stars were there.

849
00:39:19.980 --> 00:39:22.940
Everybody was there, right?

850
00:39:22.940 --> 00:39:27.660
In that moment, show you how fucking crazy the world is.

851
00:39:27.660 --> 00:39:33.460
This is why I hate that like me and Cat went through our stuff and we're much better

852
00:39:33.460 --> 00:39:34.460
now.

853
00:39:34.460 --> 00:39:37.700
I'm going to show you how the world aligns.

854
00:39:37.700 --> 00:39:39.820
Cat was in the audience.

855
00:39:39.820 --> 00:39:42.260
The Shacks All-Star Comedy Jam.

856
00:39:42.260 --> 00:39:43.700
Cat was watching the show.

857
00:39:43.700 --> 00:39:44.980
He was just there as a fan.

858
00:39:44.980 --> 00:39:49.820
But at this time, everything big is happening.

859
00:39:49.820 --> 00:39:52.340
And I had a moment.

860
00:39:52.340 --> 00:39:58.540
And that was the moment that then took me and shot me out the cannon.

861
00:39:58.540 --> 00:40:02.540
And if I wasn't prepared for the moment, and I wouldn't have known all the things to

862
00:40:02.540 --> 00:40:04.940
come, okay, but that then set up.

863
00:40:04.940 --> 00:40:11.620
I was releasing my special, my special, seriously funny, I was taping in two weeks.

864
00:40:11.620 --> 00:40:16.300
So Shacks All-Star Comedy Jam goes, they rushed to put it out, it crushes.

865
00:40:16.300 --> 00:40:25.700
I then taped my comedy special, seriously funny was my next special, seriously funny destroys.

866
00:40:25.700 --> 00:40:30.380
But it only destroyed because of Shacks All-Star Comedy Jam and the audience that watched

867
00:40:30.380 --> 00:40:31.380
that.

868
00:40:31.380 --> 00:40:36.100
And I was like, oh my God, this guy showed up in droves for seriously funny.

869
00:40:36.100 --> 00:40:42.740
And then seriously funny was like, oh shit, this big air special, and then the arenas

870
00:40:42.740 --> 00:40:46.740
and everything, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

871
00:40:46.740 --> 00:40:52.780
So about 12, 13 years, from the moment you did your first sort of stand up event, you

872
00:40:52.780 --> 00:40:53.780
having your moment.

873
00:40:53.780 --> 00:40:58.260
And I find that fascinating because those 13 years, most people aren't willing to do something

874
00:40:58.260 --> 00:41:00.780
for 13 years without their moment showing up.

875
00:41:00.780 --> 00:41:04.460
Like when you hear, I don't know, it's shit on Instagram or quotes or you watch motivational

876
00:41:04.460 --> 00:41:06.020
videos and stuff.

877
00:41:06.020 --> 00:41:09.420
If they told you that it would take 13 years for you to have your moment, almost nobody

878
00:41:09.420 --> 00:41:10.900
would take part.

879
00:41:10.900 --> 00:41:11.900
Nobody.

880
00:41:11.900 --> 00:41:12.900
No.

881
00:41:12.900 --> 00:41:13.900
But those 13 years of your training.

882
00:41:13.900 --> 00:41:20.420
I mean, so Scooter Braun took one time, he was like, what makes him different is the

883
00:41:20.420 --> 00:41:23.700
work that he's willing to do and something.

884
00:41:23.700 --> 00:41:31.780
And he was like, you know, if they were giving out like a million dollars for somebody

885
00:41:31.780 --> 00:41:40.180
that can hit a fastball pitch, you know, from the best picture in baseball, right?

886
00:41:40.180 --> 00:41:46.260
And this thing would basically require everybody, everybody's going to go and try to hit this

887
00:41:46.260 --> 00:41:48.780
because everybody wants the million dollars.

888
00:41:48.780 --> 00:41:57.260
So the first day of the announcement, the line to hit this pitch is going to be droves,

889
00:41:57.260 --> 00:41:58.260
right?

890
00:41:58.260 --> 00:42:02.140
There are millions of people who know how many people are being this line and people

891
00:42:02.140 --> 00:42:04.580
will go up and strike out.

892
00:42:04.580 --> 00:42:13.020
And as to that, they will go damn, it's over, like I missed.

893
00:42:13.020 --> 00:42:20.660
Not many people would like miss and then go stand back in line to go hit the ball again.

894
00:42:20.660 --> 00:42:24.740
He was like, I'm going to keep getting in line.

895
00:42:25.580 --> 00:42:31.620
What you'll find is that the line will get smaller and smaller because of how many people

896
00:42:31.620 --> 00:42:38.580
are dropping out and optioning not to wait and do the hard thing again.

897
00:42:38.580 --> 00:42:46.980
That comparison and that world of understanding is like something that equates the life very

898
00:42:46.980 --> 00:42:48.740
well, right?

899
00:42:48.740 --> 00:42:55.500
Not many people are going to wait through the 13 years of like bullshit, hard shit.

900
00:42:55.500 --> 00:43:02.340
Most people opt out at year two, maybe three, no money, whatever, I need to figure something

901
00:43:02.340 --> 00:43:03.340
else out.

902
00:43:03.340 --> 00:43:08.860
Year six, fuck this man, stupid, what am I doing, why am I doing it, right?

903
00:43:08.860 --> 00:43:14.660
I'm going to go find the quick avenue or the quick return because money is the, that's

904
00:43:14.660 --> 00:43:17.820
what it boils out to for most people.

905
00:43:17.820 --> 00:43:22.340
Where's the money, where am I making the money?

906
00:43:22.340 --> 00:43:30.260
When the money comes, it comes, what you find is that it's not hard to make money once

907
00:43:30.260 --> 00:43:37.220
you start making money, you learn how to make money, like you, it comes with education,

908
00:43:37.220 --> 00:43:46.140
it comes with understanding and it comes with a better resource of mine that makes you

909
00:43:46.140 --> 00:43:49.900
go, no, I'm going to do this and I'm going to build this and I'm going to go here, I'm

910
00:43:49.900 --> 00:43:52.940
going to meet, I'm going to present, I have an idea, I'm going to pitch it like you, you're

911
00:43:52.940 --> 00:44:03.260
now a much better machine because you understand money is no longer the thing that you think

912
00:44:03.260 --> 00:44:10.060
it was when you get to it, but getting to it, to get that understanding, you lose the

913
00:44:10.060 --> 00:44:16.900
pack, you lose the pack because the pack is like, I want it here because it didn't show

914
00:44:16.900 --> 00:44:20.580
up here, I got to go figure out a new thing to do that's going to give it to me here and

915
00:44:20.580 --> 00:44:27.620
they got a recycle like, yes, you're never completing anything, you never finish nothing.

916
00:44:27.620 --> 00:44:30.500
So the thing that you think you're focusing on, you keep quitting to start something else

917
00:44:30.500 --> 00:44:34.140
that you think is the idea and it's just a cycle, it's a cycle.

918
00:44:34.140 --> 00:44:37.740
Don't you notice that people come up to, I noticed it's a lot with young entrepreneurs,

919
00:44:37.740 --> 00:44:42.060
especially those that aren't having success, they start one thing, when they come and tell

920
00:44:42.060 --> 00:44:43.860
you what they do, they tell you 17 things.

921
00:44:43.860 --> 00:44:44.860
17.

922
00:44:44.860 --> 00:44:49.540
None of them ever work for they say 17 things and they think that more, doing more things

923
00:44:49.540 --> 00:44:51.340
is increasing the probability of success.

924
00:44:51.340 --> 00:44:57.620
That's it, what that was said, where it's the opposite, it's the opposite, it's the

925
00:44:57.620 --> 00:45:03.020
thing that you actually thought of that you are going to put a hundred percent of your

926
00:45:03.020 --> 00:45:09.420
mind and focus into to complete and then after that, you're able to pick it apart and take

927
00:45:09.420 --> 00:45:15.060
the good, the bad, the whatever and either restart that thing again to improve it or make

928
00:45:15.060 --> 00:45:18.060
a decision to do something else, but she finished.

929
00:45:18.060 --> 00:45:22.500
I made the choice to stand up comedy was what I was going to finish.

930
00:45:22.500 --> 00:45:27.940
I made a choice that becoming a good comic and a good headliner, if I focused and did

931
00:45:27.940 --> 00:45:34.740
it well, that would open up the doors for me to do everything else that I want to do.

932
00:45:34.740 --> 00:45:40.260
If I don't have that, how do I expect to get in?

933
00:45:40.260 --> 00:45:43.980
I was speaking to Evan at Snapchat and he was talking about T-shaped people, so you have

934
00:45:43.980 --> 00:45:48.060
like a broad understanding of a lot of things, but then you're like really deep on one particular

935
00:45:48.060 --> 00:45:49.060
thing.

936
00:45:49.060 --> 00:45:52.900
That one particular thing is almost, I guess you could see it as like screw that gets you

937
00:45:52.900 --> 00:45:57.140
into the industries, so for me, mine would have originally been marketing, but I was able

938
00:45:57.140 --> 00:46:00.780
to use that like deep expertise to then launch this media business because it's still the

939
00:46:00.780 --> 00:46:05.500
same game of marketing that I did for 15 years, I was able to go into like the stock market

940
00:46:05.500 --> 00:46:09.860
because they really needed to understand marketing and it was that deep expertise and one thing

941
00:46:09.860 --> 00:46:12.420
that was my leverage in all of these really interesting rooms and it's kind of what you

942
00:46:12.420 --> 00:46:17.100
were saying at the start, like you had this deep expertise, this deep IP experience value

943
00:46:17.100 --> 00:46:20.660
that allowed you to like break in as an investor and then to production in all these other

944
00:46:20.660 --> 00:46:21.660
areas.

945
00:46:21.660 --> 00:46:30.940
I mean, the value for me, it was self, but the value of self and understanding of how

946
00:46:30.940 --> 00:46:38.460
to truly control and operate that and navigate that correctly, that's a world of its own.

947
00:46:38.460 --> 00:46:49.660
So the bigger that the star gets, the brighter that the star shines, if you are paying attention,

948
00:46:49.660 --> 00:46:55.780
it's only positioning you to go in places where people say, oh my God, I know you and where

949
00:46:55.780 --> 00:46:59.340
you can shake your hand, but the interest of just knowing you because of the place from

950
00:46:59.340 --> 00:47:06.780
the star, it allows a moment for the conversation of, so what does that you do?

951
00:47:06.780 --> 00:47:09.180
Oh my God, like that's, that's so cool.

952
00:47:09.180 --> 00:47:14.020
I would love to learn more about that and what you'll find is that the resource of opportunity

953
00:47:14.020 --> 00:47:16.860
over there and this, oh my God, are you serious?

954
00:47:16.860 --> 00:47:18.860
We would love to partner with you and something like this.

955
00:47:18.860 --> 00:47:25.020
I mean, in this space, are you talking about mental health, wellness, listen, strong voices

956
00:47:25.020 --> 00:47:30.300
and confident voices or inspiring voices, there could be a lot for us and what we do here.

957
00:47:30.300 --> 00:47:33.860
Hey, maybe there's a partnership that we can form.

958
00:47:34.660 --> 00:47:36.940
Oh my God, man, back to school, kids, I love kids.

959
00:47:36.940 --> 00:47:40.940
I'm thinking about doing more, like here's something where I think I can have a very,

960
00:47:40.940 --> 00:47:48.620
very good cadence and a very good energy towards getting kids hype about school education

961
00:47:48.620 --> 00:47:50.660
because it's not something that I took serious.

962
00:47:50.660 --> 00:47:52.260
How do I help?

963
00:47:52.260 --> 00:47:53.260
Where did you learn?

964
00:47:53.260 --> 00:47:58.620
So when I look at this graph here, I see this sort of moment where things become go up

965
00:47:58.620 --> 00:48:01.580
into the right very quickly where you start to get into entrepreneurship.

966
00:48:01.580 --> 00:48:05.180
But at this moment that comes before it, you didn't know this stuff, so at some point

967
00:48:05.180 --> 00:48:06.980
you acquired information.

968
00:48:06.980 --> 00:48:09.780
So for the people that are listening now that are thinking like, how did Kevin go from

969
00:48:09.780 --> 00:48:14.220
a kid that was in this rough area, dad wasn't around much, his mom was raising him to

970
00:48:14.220 --> 00:48:16.980
a guy that knows all this stuff.

971
00:48:16.980 --> 00:48:24.900
You get there now by being a sponge and not being afraid to ask questions.

972
00:48:24.900 --> 00:48:32.740
I'm very secure in myself and being the dummy in the room.

973
00:48:32.740 --> 00:48:38.220
I'm extremely secure and saying, I don't know what that means.

974
00:48:38.220 --> 00:48:39.220
Explain that.

975
00:48:39.220 --> 00:48:46.540
Give me an example of a context where you can give you several like venture and investing.

976
00:48:46.540 --> 00:48:53.700
I was a firm believer that nobody's stealing my money and give you nothing.

977
00:48:53.700 --> 00:48:58.260
You're going to go and put it where and no, my money going to stay right here under my

978
00:48:58.260 --> 00:48:59.260
bed.

979
00:48:59.260 --> 00:49:00.700
I'm not doing that.

980
00:49:00.700 --> 00:49:01.860
So give you.

981
00:49:01.860 --> 00:49:06.820
You want me to give you money and you telling me you're going to get, you're going to take

982
00:49:06.820 --> 00:49:11.940
that money and then that money is going to turn into what?

983
00:49:11.940 --> 00:49:12.940
Yeah.

984
00:49:12.940 --> 00:49:13.940
Okay.

985
00:49:13.940 --> 00:49:18.660
Go find you another idiot because it ain't happening over here, buddy.

986
00:49:18.660 --> 00:49:20.380
Get your scamming ass up out of here.

987
00:49:20.380 --> 00:49:21.380
Okay.

988
00:49:21.380 --> 00:49:23.380
I come from the world of everything is a scam.

989
00:49:23.380 --> 00:49:24.380
Okay.

990
00:49:24.380 --> 00:49:25.380
It's a fucking scam.

991
00:49:25.380 --> 00:49:28.060
I know a scam when I see one, all right.

992
00:49:28.060 --> 00:49:33.780
But when you go and you say, well, how does the stock market really work or how does investing

993
00:49:33.780 --> 00:49:37.340
really work or what you mean you make a money while you sleep?

994
00:49:37.340 --> 00:49:39.140
What does that mean?

995
00:49:39.140 --> 00:49:40.140
What do you mean by that?

996
00:49:40.140 --> 00:49:45.580
I know this is brand partnership ship really work like you.

997
00:49:45.580 --> 00:49:56.780
You can't be afraid to verbalize your ignorance and the bigger problem which I'm sure a lot

998
00:49:56.780 --> 00:50:11.420
of your viewers have is insecurely just being quiet about the shit that they don't know

999
00:50:11.420 --> 00:50:16.580
as if you're going to figure it out because someday, one day, somebody's going to go, hey,

1000
00:50:16.580 --> 00:50:22.940
you look like you need to know it'll never happen that way.

1001
00:50:22.940 --> 00:50:24.260
It's never going to happen.

1002
00:50:24.260 --> 00:50:28.620
You're never going to run into a person who's randomly going to talk about the things that

1003
00:50:28.620 --> 00:50:31.780
you wish you had more knowledge in.

1004
00:50:31.780 --> 00:50:39.020
It will never happen and what you'll find is that information is not free but it's available.

1005
00:50:39.020 --> 00:50:40.700
It's not actually hard to obtain.

1006
00:50:40.700 --> 00:50:48.380
It's only hard to people that are very insecure about just verbalizing.

1007
00:50:48.380 --> 00:50:51.940
I don't know where to get it.

1008
00:50:51.940 --> 00:50:57.540
Look at how many how-tos, help-tos, all of these things a day.

1009
00:50:57.540 --> 00:51:01.980
The success that we're seeing in entrepreneur and influencer, streamer and all of this

1010
00:51:01.980 --> 00:51:09.540
of entertainment is the same success that you're seeing and we can call it motivational

1011
00:51:09.540 --> 00:51:14.940
speakers how-to-experts, step one through five and what to do.

1012
00:51:14.940 --> 00:51:19.500
The idea of I'm here to serve a shoe and give you the information that you don't know

1013
00:51:19.500 --> 00:51:20.500
is available.

1014
00:51:20.500 --> 00:51:21.820
Let me tell you how to get it.

1015
00:51:21.820 --> 00:51:28.020
Here's where I'm going to help you, three easy steps to making sure that you can and

1016
00:51:28.020 --> 00:51:33.700
I don't care if you want to go to the world of athletics or you want to go to corporate

1017
00:51:33.700 --> 00:51:36.780
or you want to go to entertainment like you can break it down.

1018
00:51:36.780 --> 00:51:43.620
Golf, you know how much money is being made in a game of golf because you got millions

1019
00:51:43.620 --> 00:51:50.380
of people that are trying to give people information or how to better improve your golf swing

1020
00:51:50.380 --> 00:51:55.180
because I don't want to say I allowed my swing and shit but I don't know man.

1021
00:51:55.180 --> 00:51:59.300
I keep coming down on top of the ball, why the fuck am I coming down on top of the

1022
00:51:59.300 --> 00:52:00.300
ball.

1023
00:52:00.300 --> 00:52:04.300
I don't know what's happening and some people would rather go out and they backyard every

1024
00:52:04.300 --> 00:52:12.380
day and hit the same ball and just ask somebody, hey man, anyway did you tell me how to come

1025
00:52:12.380 --> 00:52:15.540
like what, how you get that bitch in the air?

1026
00:52:15.540 --> 00:52:20.100
So now people on line go, well we're just going to put it out here and that person I struggle

1027
00:52:20.100 --> 00:52:25.180
in quietly, what are you going to discover me in incimates, they'll watch and they'll

1028
00:52:25.180 --> 00:52:34.380
look to improve because nobody knows and they still get the quiet, that's the problem.

1029
00:52:34.380 --> 00:52:37.580
Just give me a minute of your time and I'll tell you about a device that my team has been

1030
00:52:37.580 --> 00:52:40.620
using that they won't seem to shut up about.

1031
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It's called the Note Pro and it's by our sponsor, Claude.

1032
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This tiny card clips onto the back of your phone and captures everything but why it's

1033
00:52:50.620 --> 00:52:55.780
so clever is that it picks up multiple voices at the same time and when someone says something

1034
00:52:55.780 --> 00:53:00.940
important you just push this tiny little button here and that moment gets highlighted

1035
00:53:00.940 --> 00:53:02.700
in your notes and captured.

1036
00:53:02.700 --> 00:53:07.980
It records the conversations that it hears, takes those conversations, creates a transcript

1037
00:53:07.980 --> 00:53:13.620
and it uses AI to synthesize all of that information into whatever template suits you.

1038
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You get a summary, action points, highlights and even a mind map sent straight to the

1039
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applaud app.

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So I highly recommend you check out Claude's products using the link in the description

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1044
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There's also unknown unknowns which you would have experienced, I remember you talking

1045
00:53:36.740 --> 00:53:40.900
about you got to see behind curtains and you didn't even know people were behind that

1046
00:53:40.900 --> 00:53:45.380
and when I heard you say that, it was the perfect metaphor and analogy for exactly what

1047
00:53:45.380 --> 00:53:46.380
I had experienced.

1048
00:53:46.380 --> 00:53:50.380
My life coming from a kid that came from a very normal background was born in Africa, moved

1049
00:53:50.380 --> 00:53:56.420
to the UK, mothers and I during dad's English and didn't know that all these like rich people

1050
00:53:56.420 --> 00:53:58.420
were back here playing money games.

1051
00:53:58.420 --> 00:54:01.220
I thought the way you make money is you're like working McDonald's, you like work really

1052
00:54:01.220 --> 00:54:07.620
hard, you might become manager and then I'm going to say 27 being sat in a billionaire's

1053
00:54:07.620 --> 00:54:12.900
kitchen and watching him on the phone and he's calling his boy and they're doing 15 million

1054
00:54:12.900 --> 00:54:17.100
just before the IPO happens so that they get a better price and I'm thinking, fuck in

1055
00:54:17.100 --> 00:54:18.100
hell.

1056
00:54:18.100 --> 00:54:29.780
It's all, the thing I've realized when you look at your biggest investors, you'll find

1057
00:54:29.780 --> 00:54:33.060
it they're all together.

1058
00:54:33.060 --> 00:54:38.340
None of them are investing in the new thing alone.

1059
00:54:38.340 --> 00:54:43.660
They all are like, well, it's better with you.

1060
00:54:43.660 --> 00:54:44.660
So do it with me.

1061
00:54:44.660 --> 00:54:45.660
What about Gary?

1062
00:54:45.660 --> 00:54:46.660
Yeah, call Gary too.

1063
00:54:46.660 --> 00:54:47.980
Let's see if we can get him in here.

1064
00:54:47.980 --> 00:54:48.980
What about Michelle?

1065
00:54:48.980 --> 00:54:49.980
Yeah.

1066
00:54:49.980 --> 00:54:51.300
Hey, Michelle, what about Melissa?

1067
00:54:51.300 --> 00:54:58.580
All right, you'll find that this group of 10 people, all who would easily do something

1068
00:54:58.580 --> 00:55:06.700
on their own, do not believe in the struggles of self when you can combine this machine

1069
00:55:06.700 --> 00:55:14.220
of great minds to provide another great opportunity and in success, well, this thing works.

1070
00:55:14.220 --> 00:55:15.460
The company gets bigger.

1071
00:55:15.460 --> 00:55:21.140
Well, let's use our resources to go out and make sure that we align the person that

1072
00:55:21.140 --> 00:55:27.860
they already have with more amazing individuals, create more jobs, more opportunities for new

1073
00:55:27.860 --> 00:55:30.580
minds to become successful.

1074
00:55:30.580 --> 00:55:37.740
And then in those minds, building and that personnel like elevating, well, now this

1075
00:55:37.740 --> 00:55:39.660
personnel was at the bottom here.

1076
00:55:39.660 --> 00:55:42.940
We then go and ask this person to run this thing.

1077
00:55:42.940 --> 00:55:49.140
And now underneath this thing, we get another version of a downpour, new minds, new personnel,

1078
00:55:49.140 --> 00:55:50.140
new things.

1079
00:55:50.140 --> 00:55:55.740
Okay, this whole business, adventure, this whole business of company build, whether it's

1080
00:55:55.740 --> 00:55:57.740
tech lifestyle, health.

1081
00:55:58.020 --> 00:56:02.100
It doesn't matter what it is, you will notice that the people that started from the bottom

1082
00:56:02.100 --> 00:56:05.220
are now running the new companies of today.

1083
00:56:05.220 --> 00:56:10.980
And now the source of personnel that's underneath it will be the minds running the company

1084
00:56:10.980 --> 00:56:13.140
of tomorrow.

1085
00:56:13.140 --> 00:56:22.580
It's not like rocket science, once you're behind the curtain, once you go, oh, shit.

1086
00:56:22.580 --> 00:56:27.020
I remember when I first started like, investment is all my God, Kevin, like, you're money

1087
00:56:27.020 --> 00:56:29.620
and this would add a crazy amount of value.

1088
00:56:29.620 --> 00:56:31.980
Well, I ain't putting them, would y'all put them?

1089
00:56:31.980 --> 00:56:35.140
No, but the fact that you're involved in it and all is just big, that you believe in

1090
00:56:35.140 --> 00:56:36.140
it.

1091
00:56:36.140 --> 00:56:39.740
And we're able to say that you believe in it with us is huge.

1092
00:56:39.740 --> 00:56:41.860
What do you mean by that?

1093
00:56:41.860 --> 00:56:42.860
You trying to fucking steal?

1094
00:56:42.860 --> 00:56:43.860
What are you doing?

1095
00:56:43.860 --> 00:56:44.860
What are you doing, man?

1096
00:56:44.860 --> 00:56:45.860
You're talking too fast.

1097
00:56:45.860 --> 00:56:49.100
Say what you said against slow down so I understand it.

1098
00:56:49.100 --> 00:56:54.060
Don't talk fast to me because I'm so insecure because I don't know what you're saying and

1099
00:56:54.060 --> 00:56:57.860
it might be some shit in here.

1100
00:56:57.860 --> 00:56:58.860
But it's not.

1101
00:56:58.860 --> 00:57:04.620
Well, we know that you're doing well over here and your movies and all that stuff is cool,

1102
00:57:04.620 --> 00:57:06.540
but this is different.

1103
00:57:06.540 --> 00:57:09.180
This business, Kevin, could be different for you.

1104
00:57:09.180 --> 00:57:11.260
It's a business of multiple.

1105
00:57:11.260 --> 00:57:15.020
So we play the game of multiples of X.

1106
00:57:15.020 --> 00:57:20.420
So what you're money is today, what we think in success, if this is a light bulb or a bottle

1107
00:57:20.420 --> 00:57:23.100
rocket, you 30 X, 20 X.

1108
00:57:23.980 --> 00:57:31.260
You're telling me that if I put this money in here right now, and if my voice is attached

1109
00:57:31.260 --> 00:57:38.380
to the thing that I think it is, which is a crazy, crazy venture, a crazy opportunity,

1110
00:57:38.380 --> 00:57:43.140
well, yeah, Kevin, I mean, look, we all believe that for your voice, we may be able to say

1111
00:57:43.140 --> 00:57:48.900
it a little louder, oh my, oh my, okay, well, I did it.

1112
00:57:48.900 --> 00:58:00.260
Oh my, I won, I got a return, oh my, oh, oh, oh, so now I figured it out.

1113
00:58:00.260 --> 00:58:05.500
Now, now you're a part of the right conversations, you're a part of the right opportunities.

1114
00:58:05.500 --> 00:58:12.540
But once again, the information is discovered because of the opportunity to be the flower

1115
00:58:12.540 --> 00:58:16.660
in the wall and the spaces that you never imagined yourself being in.

1116
00:58:16.660 --> 00:58:18.500
And now look at what I'm able to do.

1117
00:58:18.500 --> 00:58:23.140
I'm able to take this information, take all the shit that I know, come and have these

1118
00:58:23.140 --> 00:58:29.300
fucking organic conversations like I am now, and we're sharing it.

1119
00:58:29.300 --> 00:58:34.060
And some people that are watching this are going to take that information and go, I know

1120
00:58:34.060 --> 00:58:35.460
it.

1121
00:58:35.460 --> 00:58:36.700
And I'm doing the right thing.

1122
00:58:36.700 --> 00:58:39.060
And it's a matter of time before I get around them.

1123
00:58:39.060 --> 00:58:43.420
And when I do, oh my God, the things that I have, the stuff that I have on the table,

1124
00:58:43.420 --> 00:58:49.380
the things that I have created, the opportunities, I'ma be the next person to bring the thing

1125
00:58:49.380 --> 00:58:51.900
that everybody else is involved in.

1126
00:58:51.900 --> 00:58:57.420
I'ma be the next person to be the fucking energy source to tomorrow's future, future

1127
00:58:57.420 --> 00:58:58.420
within.

1128
00:58:58.420 --> 00:59:05.540
Like, people just need to hear how fast it happens, quick it happens, and when it does

1129
00:59:05.540 --> 00:59:07.700
what you're supposed to be ready for.

1130
00:59:07.700 --> 00:59:10.860
You're able to invest in lots of great companies like Function Health.

1131
00:59:10.860 --> 00:59:14.940
It's valued at 2.5 billion now, 11 labs, everybody knows.

1132
00:59:14.940 --> 00:59:20.980
In the tech space, those 11 labs, which were valued at 3 billion now, MoonPay, young

1133
00:59:20.980 --> 00:59:25.540
other labs, sweat pals, radian, nor organics, palter, tons of stuff, stuff that you would

1134
00:59:25.540 --> 00:59:27.100
never expect me to be at.

1135
00:59:27.100 --> 00:59:33.560
How much of this game have you learnt in hindsight is about people, about like getting

1136
00:59:33.560 --> 00:59:36.500
it, because even when that person was saying to you that analogy you gave, they're telling

1137
00:59:36.500 --> 00:59:39.620
you to put your money into this thing and you're going, fuck me, are they stealing?

1138
00:59:39.620 --> 00:59:44.420
You're going to have to lean on someone you trust, someone in your circle that you know.

1139
00:59:44.420 --> 00:59:48.780
And I'm wondering, because people don't talk about it enough, how important it is to

1140
00:59:48.780 --> 00:59:51.780
like collect the right people.

1141
00:59:51.780 --> 00:59:56.420
And can you think of moments where you like met a person, and that was like game changing

1142
00:59:56.420 --> 00:59:59.580
and you understanding a whole new world on what was behind the curtain?

1143
00:59:59.580 --> 01:00:06.460
All of our people could see this, I'm just going to be extremely transparent.

1144
01:00:06.460 --> 01:00:10.900
Before you get to the right people, you run through wrong people.

1145
01:00:10.900 --> 01:00:15.980
And with wrong people, you can go like, they're wrong, they don't work.

1146
01:00:15.980 --> 01:00:20.260
I got to get somebody else, or you can grow with people.

1147
01:00:20.260 --> 01:00:27.620
I'm a believer of the grow, right, like I think it's dope when we can all say we started

1148
01:00:27.620 --> 01:00:32.180
a certain way, but we're ending up in a completely different space.

1149
01:00:32.220 --> 01:00:36.580
Along that journey of grow, some people won't make it.

1150
01:00:36.580 --> 01:00:41.300
You can be patient and you can want the best for some, but they might not want the same

1151
01:00:41.300 --> 01:00:42.620
for themselves.

1152
01:00:42.620 --> 01:00:49.740
So because of that, the fall off presents itself to be a little more consistent than what

1153
01:00:49.740 --> 01:00:52.020
it should be, right?

1154
01:00:52.020 --> 01:01:01.180
But in business, what you'll find is that the emotions can be your like, can be your

1155
01:01:01.180 --> 01:01:03.020
worst asset.

1156
01:01:03.020 --> 01:01:11.380
Having emotions in business attached to business can be everything but beneficial to the business.

1157
01:01:11.380 --> 01:01:20.580
So the more that I was able to detach my emotions from the world of one and understand that

1158
01:01:20.580 --> 01:01:25.500
the things that I'm doing are to better position the business.

1159
01:01:25.500 --> 01:01:29.900
And the people that have worked so hard to help this business get to where it is today,

1160
01:01:29.900 --> 01:01:32.660
I have a service to them as well.

1161
01:01:32.660 --> 01:01:39.180
How do I bring in the right valuable assets to put us in a bigger position to win?

1162
01:01:39.180 --> 01:01:44.680
Sometimes you got to let go of things that you thought would be the thing, but you can

1163
01:01:44.680 --> 01:01:45.680
climax.

1164
01:01:45.680 --> 01:01:49.260
You can get to a place where it's a ceiling and like, when I get in past the ceiling,

1165
01:01:49.260 --> 01:01:52.500
unless we go get the right people, unless we go get the correct personnel.

1166
01:01:52.500 --> 01:01:55.500
So I'm a firm believer in talent.

1167
01:01:55.500 --> 01:02:03.100
I'm a firm believer in rewarding those that do a job and that can do a job at a high

1168
01:02:03.100 --> 01:02:04.100
level.

1169
01:02:04.100 --> 01:02:07.740
But the only way that you realize that is to get out of the way.

1170
01:02:07.740 --> 01:02:11.340
Add to learn to stop trying to control everything, stop trying to do everything, stop trying

1171
01:02:11.340 --> 01:02:17.260
to be with the one with my hands in everything and put people in a position to do the thing

1172
01:02:17.260 --> 01:02:21.540
that they've been hired to do and do it well.

1173
01:02:21.540 --> 01:02:31.180
But the patience that you have to have in learning people and dealing with people is a

1174
01:02:31.180 --> 01:02:33.260
talent within itself.

1175
01:02:33.260 --> 01:02:45.700
I want to say like you're at this stage, I'm more of a hard drive of other people's issues

1176
01:02:45.700 --> 01:02:51.140
or problems than I am a person.

1177
01:02:51.140 --> 01:02:57.220
I am a hard drive of, can I talk to you?

1178
01:02:57.220 --> 01:02:58.660
I want to tell you what's going on.

1179
01:02:58.660 --> 01:03:02.820
I have an issue with, hey man, look, I'm trying to do this.

1180
01:03:02.820 --> 01:03:04.220
I don't know what they're trying to do.

1181
01:03:04.220 --> 01:03:05.220
Here's what I'm trying to do.

1182
01:03:05.220 --> 01:03:10.860
And you have to be a positive source of solution all day every day.

1183
01:03:10.860 --> 01:03:15.620
Because if you're talking and you're talking to do anything but solve, then you shouldn't

1184
01:03:15.620 --> 01:03:17.980
be in the chair of control.

1185
01:03:17.980 --> 01:03:22.500
So I am solution driven every single day.

1186
01:03:22.500 --> 01:03:27.740
Because I am faced with a new problem attached to the ecosystem and the community that I built

1187
01:03:27.740 --> 01:03:33.780
underneath me of how to navigate or how to better navigate in the world because everybody's

1188
01:03:33.780 --> 01:03:39.460
trying to do something to prove that they're worthy of the seat or seats that they have

1189
01:03:39.460 --> 01:03:41.220
or that they want.

1190
01:03:41.220 --> 01:03:47.340
So every day you're dealing with a board of shuffle and a new board of opportunity.

1191
01:03:47.340 --> 01:03:48.340
And drama.

1192
01:03:48.340 --> 01:03:56.500
And every day you're telling people not now and time, slow up, I hear you, we'll deal

1193
01:03:56.500 --> 01:03:58.260
with it.

1194
01:03:58.260 --> 01:04:00.540
Let's all talk together.

1195
01:04:00.540 --> 01:04:02.300
Communication is key.

1196
01:04:02.300 --> 01:04:05.540
Let's table this and make sure everybody's on the same page.

1197
01:04:05.540 --> 01:04:10.900
They're saying things five and six times because you have to make sure that you're the

1198
01:04:10.900 --> 01:04:13.900
best example of what you're speaking.

1199
01:04:13.900 --> 01:04:23.540
So every day the thing that you never thought would come into play is communication and

1200
01:04:23.540 --> 01:04:30.420
like the ability to fucking give great dialogue and the hopes of getting the return of effort

1201
01:04:30.420 --> 01:04:31.500
and work.

1202
01:04:31.500 --> 01:04:35.740
So now you're going back to ground zero when you were with your mom and you were with

1203
01:04:35.740 --> 01:04:41.020
your friends in the early days of life, what was the thing that I told you I did very well.

1204
01:04:41.020 --> 01:04:46.020
I connected with everybody and lunchroom, I was at everybody's table.

1205
01:04:46.020 --> 01:04:50.900
There matter who you were, what you were, what race didn't matter.

1206
01:04:50.900 --> 01:04:56.340
In this space of now business and corporation, if everybody doesn't feel like they can trust

1207
01:04:56.340 --> 01:05:05.780
a belief or follow my direction, my vision, something about what I'm doing is wrong.

1208
01:05:05.780 --> 01:05:14.140
How does one build an empire that relies on people when they naturally don't come from

1209
01:05:14.140 --> 01:05:15.300
a place of that information?

1210
01:05:15.300 --> 01:05:18.300
So they might have trust issues, like you were referring to these kind of trust issues,

1211
01:05:18.300 --> 01:05:21.420
like wait a minute, you're trying to steal my money, how does, you've got this big

1212
01:05:21.420 --> 01:05:25.860
empire of lots of different verticals within within heartbeat and your companies and your

1213
01:05:25.860 --> 01:05:31.940
personal IP, you're going to have to be trusting a lot of other people with your wealth,

1214
01:05:31.940 --> 01:05:35.220
with your business and with your with your children's inheritance.

1215
01:05:35.220 --> 01:05:40.220
And I hear so many of these stories of I trusted a guy and I lost everything, especially

1216
01:05:40.220 --> 01:05:43.980
honestly, especially in the like black community.

1217
01:05:43.980 --> 01:05:52.780
It's a major fact, but we're also a community that gets taken advantage of because of the

1218
01:05:52.780 --> 01:05:56.220
lack of knowledge, right?

1219
01:05:56.220 --> 01:06:02.620
We get fucked over more than we don't because all right, well, it says here that you're a

1220
01:06:02.620 --> 01:06:08.860
lawyer and that you have my best interests, all right, it says that you're my manager

1221
01:06:08.860 --> 01:06:11.220
and you have my best interests.

1222
01:06:11.220 --> 01:06:19.340
All right, well, you read the paperwork, all right, you read the contract and it's good,

1223
01:06:19.340 --> 01:06:21.540
and I'm just signing, right?

1224
01:06:21.540 --> 01:06:24.460
My ignorance doesn't mean that I'm lazy.

1225
01:06:24.460 --> 01:06:32.660
My ignorance means that I believe you and I don't know the second guess or second check

1226
01:06:32.660 --> 01:06:42.580
or to hire or one more people, two second guess, two second check, two show me fine print,

1227
01:06:42.580 --> 01:06:43.980
fine line because it's impossible.

1228
01:06:43.980 --> 01:06:48.660
I can't get fucked because you said, well, yeah, I can't.

1229
01:06:48.660 --> 01:06:58.380
But you said, go back to the emotions and why say emotions had to be removed.

1230
01:06:58.380 --> 01:07:02.060
I'm going to have somebody look at this just so I know what it is or what it is.

1231
01:07:02.060 --> 01:07:03.060
I wouldn't lie to you.

1232
01:07:03.060 --> 01:07:08.220
I know, but it's in the best nature of business just for me to make sure that my eyes, that

1233
01:07:08.220 --> 01:07:12.740
I have laid eyes on it and they can just say what you just said, but just make sure I understand

1234
01:07:12.740 --> 01:07:13.740
it correctly.

1235
01:07:13.740 --> 01:07:15.580
Yeah, but you don't have to do that.

1236
01:07:15.580 --> 01:07:17.300
There's nothing to get you.

1237
01:07:17.300 --> 01:07:22.940
It's just a practice that I have within the way that I now approach business and anything

1238
01:07:22.940 --> 01:07:25.820
that you do, it's never personal.

1239
01:07:25.820 --> 01:07:30.780
I don't take a fence to anything that you want to check or background check or me.

1240
01:07:30.780 --> 01:07:31.780
You should.

1241
01:07:31.780 --> 01:07:33.820
It's business.

1242
01:07:33.820 --> 01:07:41.600
I think that we don't get a fair level of understanding for our fuck ups, for our

1243
01:07:41.600 --> 01:07:47.680
mishaps of how the road was in this cell for somebody to take from me.

1244
01:07:47.680 --> 01:07:54.040
So when I'm recovering from the take, well, you got to start at a safe space.

1245
01:07:54.040 --> 01:07:56.200
My space was never safe because they're sharks.

1246
01:07:56.200 --> 01:08:00.320
So they focus on the fucking prey.

1247
01:08:00.320 --> 01:08:04.240
The young talent in a music business is prey.

1248
01:08:04.240 --> 01:08:11.280
So the sharks see the young talent, whichever one gets their first has an opportunity to

1249
01:08:11.280 --> 01:08:15.920
fucking give me the presentation of the world and make it bells, whistles and candy.

1250
01:08:15.920 --> 01:08:20.360
Well, if I get there right and the prey doesn't have the right people around them, I'm

1251
01:08:20.360 --> 01:08:21.840
going with the shark every time.

1252
01:08:21.840 --> 01:08:26.680
I guess you, there is an element of responsibility here, which people don't like to acknowledge

1253
01:08:26.680 --> 01:08:30.880
that you've got to take responsibility, but I signed bad contracts in my career.

1254
01:08:30.880 --> 01:08:35.960
And I was like, I look back at 20 years, I guess I lost a lot there, but that was on

1255
01:08:35.960 --> 01:08:36.960
me.

1256
01:08:36.960 --> 01:08:39.080
And if I don't take responsibility, then it's going to happen again.

1257
01:08:39.080 --> 01:08:42.600
But there's also you, you'll know a lot of people that become victims.

1258
01:08:42.600 --> 01:08:45.360
I don't think it's the worst thing, right?

1259
01:08:45.360 --> 01:08:51.160
Like it's, when it happens early on, like, I got a lot of friends that are in the music

1260
01:08:51.160 --> 01:08:56.480
business, a lot of artists that are now independent artists that control and own their labels and are

1261
01:08:56.480 --> 01:09:00.880
doing much better at this position than they were when they were signed underneath the

1262
01:09:00.880 --> 01:09:02.680
big thing and they were getting taken.

1263
01:09:02.680 --> 01:09:07.040
But after finding out how it was and why it was, it's time to go create my own.

1264
01:09:07.040 --> 01:09:11.280
Like, you know, when you look at the biggest labels that are independent and you look at

1265
01:09:11.280 --> 01:09:16.880
the artists that fall underneath these independent labels, well, you'll look at a blueprint of

1266
01:09:16.880 --> 01:09:24.040
people following the person that was like in front of them and what they said, but it's

1267
01:09:24.040 --> 01:09:28.320
only because they learned the business of the business, right?

1268
01:09:28.320 --> 01:09:33.560
Like, so being a part of a business that's just succeeding and you being embedded into

1269
01:09:34.560 --> 01:09:38.320
it and just being the work for hire to just follow the suit, what they say, well, that's

1270
01:09:38.320 --> 01:09:39.320
not smart.

1271
01:09:39.320 --> 01:09:42.760
If you have an opportunity to mirror what they're doing and create your own.

1272
01:09:42.760 --> 01:09:48.600
So what I do like within the culture is a lot of the artists that are independent or

1273
01:09:48.600 --> 01:09:57.800
that are that are now like able to say I have my own version, whether it's studio, production

1274
01:09:57.800 --> 01:10:04.000
company, label, independent label, whether it's online of product that they share ownership

1275
01:10:04.000 --> 01:10:05.000
with.

1276
01:10:05.000 --> 01:10:13.240
Like, people are now learning to follow and repeat what the conglomerates are doing.

1277
01:10:13.240 --> 01:10:19.960
I can use a conglomerate and I can take your machine and create a small version of a

1278
01:10:19.960 --> 01:10:25.240
machine underneath yours and partner with you and give you a piece of my machine, but

1279
01:10:25.240 --> 01:10:31.840
it allows me to own, I can leverage the, the, the bank of opportunity and consumer that

1280
01:10:31.840 --> 01:10:35.200
you have here under this brand.

1281
01:10:35.200 --> 01:10:38.000
What's the cost, though, because you know, you're incredibly successful.

1282
01:10:38.000 --> 01:10:42.000
You've got all this empire of companies and businesses and ventures you started.

1283
01:10:42.000 --> 01:10:46.160
They say that you can't have everything in life, especially not at the same time.

1284
01:10:46.160 --> 01:10:53.080
So what is the cost of this pursuit because time, time, is your ambition like an unsatiable?

1285
01:10:53.080 --> 01:10:54.080
Yes.

1286
01:10:54.080 --> 01:10:57.160
You just won't, you couldn't switch it off if you wanted to.

1287
01:10:57.160 --> 01:11:00.720
And does that not make you feel like you're being dragged versus being driven?

1288
01:11:00.720 --> 01:11:01.720
You for sure have your days.

1289
01:11:01.720 --> 01:11:03.560
I'm absolutely stressed out.

1290
01:11:03.560 --> 01:11:08.240
I'm stressed to forget them daily, but I operate within stress.

1291
01:11:08.240 --> 01:11:09.240
Are you happy?

1292
01:11:09.240 --> 01:11:16.520
I'm 1000% happy, but I'm stressed out with the concept of I have to do.

1293
01:11:16.520 --> 01:11:21.120
If you were life ended now, good for a bit, do you think if you, if you found out today

1294
01:11:21.120 --> 01:11:24.920
that it was ended, you would reflect on it and say, you know, I think I might have had

1295
01:11:24.920 --> 01:11:25.920
things in the wrong order.

1296
01:11:25.920 --> 01:11:27.960
Would there be any misparatization in hindsight?

1297
01:11:27.960 --> 01:11:38.360
If today was the day, if life ended today, I could cross my legs comfortably and be okay

1298
01:11:38.360 --> 01:11:41.280
that it's that it's time.

1299
01:11:41.280 --> 01:11:42.600
I did it correctly.

1300
01:11:42.600 --> 01:11:49.640
I made sure that I applied myself to the best of my ability.

1301
01:11:49.640 --> 01:11:54.840
I tried my best to put those that I loved in a better position so that they could see

1302
01:11:54.840 --> 01:11:57.800
more and do more.

1303
01:11:57.800 --> 01:12:06.000
My last name and my family name is much stronger today than it was yesterday.

1304
01:12:06.000 --> 01:12:14.800
The idea of the world is something that I was able to see and understand better because

1305
01:12:14.800 --> 01:12:27.360
I was blessed and fortunate enough to travel and meet so many people are made to like we're

1306
01:12:27.360 --> 01:12:32.960
here to embrace, we're here to love, we're here to like share.

1307
01:12:32.960 --> 01:12:38.000
I was an energy source of good to bring people closer together through all things that

1308
01:12:38.000 --> 01:12:39.840
I've done.

1309
01:12:39.840 --> 01:12:42.760
But all connects and I'm okay.

1310
01:12:42.760 --> 01:12:49.160
I'm okay with, if it stopped, it stopped.

1311
01:12:49.160 --> 01:12:56.200
What I'm not okay with is what I have the bandwidth of good health.

1312
01:12:56.200 --> 01:13:05.920
Fucking great mind, strong, fucking like mind, concept and I can go, I can do it, I can

1313
01:13:05.920 --> 01:13:07.920
get there.

1314
01:13:07.920 --> 01:13:12.080
I'm not okay with wasting that time.

1315
01:13:12.080 --> 01:13:18.920
I'm not okay with wasting my time of good and I can do and I'm strong enough to connect

1316
01:13:18.920 --> 01:13:21.120
at a very high level.

1317
01:13:21.120 --> 01:13:26.800
My star is bright, which allows me to go and get into these spaces.

1318
01:13:26.800 --> 01:13:30.920
If I wait for this to dim out and I try to give them to these spaces, what if I can't?

1319
01:13:30.920 --> 01:13:33.320
Is there always a fear because of where you came from that perspective?

1320
01:13:33.320 --> 01:13:34.320
Absolutely.

1321
01:13:34.800 --> 01:13:39.200
Absolutely, like you can't be unrealistic.

1322
01:13:39.200 --> 01:13:41.600
Nothing is going to last forever.

1323
01:13:41.600 --> 01:13:42.600
Nothing.

1324
01:13:42.600 --> 01:13:46.360
I'm gonna fuck who you are, it's not true.

1325
01:13:46.360 --> 01:13:47.360
You can recreate it.

1326
01:13:47.360 --> 01:13:53.880
You can figure out ways to find success again and again.

1327
01:13:53.880 --> 01:13:58.680
But the one thing that you are winning in, you're not going to win in it forever.

1328
01:13:58.680 --> 01:14:10.160
I love talking about my guy, man, Hove and Rubin, Michael Rubin, two great friends, but

1329
01:14:10.160 --> 01:14:22.560
two good examples of recreation, amplification and step repeat, successful rapper, albums.

1330
01:14:22.560 --> 01:14:25.040
Some albums Hove will never make again.

1331
01:14:25.760 --> 01:14:28.320
You know, look at them all like they are all the best.

1332
01:14:28.320 --> 01:14:35.480
Some of you think are better than others, but the fight to be the thing that you were

1333
01:14:35.480 --> 01:14:41.480
when it was at your highest is a driving factor to get you, but then as a talent, you let

1334
01:14:41.480 --> 01:14:47.200
go of that because you become comfortable knowing that I'm never going to create that again.

1335
01:14:47.200 --> 01:14:49.880
That was my lightning and the bottle moment.

1336
01:14:49.880 --> 01:14:55.000
I'm never going to create this again, but I can have fun doing what I'm doing and I

1337
01:14:55.000 --> 01:15:01.480
can create a variation of versions of this that still display my talent and that I'm doing

1338
01:15:01.480 --> 01:15:03.200
it at a high level.

1339
01:15:03.200 --> 01:15:09.280
Man, you know what, this right here, it could cap out, but boy, oh boy, did I find fucking

1340
01:15:09.280 --> 01:15:15.960
momentum and now the movies or in Hove's case is the example I was using, he then found

1341
01:15:15.960 --> 01:15:23.880
momentum and, well, this thing, the Rockefeller thing, him, Dame created this thing and then

1342
01:15:23.880 --> 01:15:29.040
the artist underneath the thing and the progression of the artist underneath that brand has started

1343
01:15:29.040 --> 01:15:35.520
to go, pow, pow, Kanye, pow, state property, B.E.C. or pow, pow, pow, we got all this

1344
01:15:35.520 --> 01:15:40.400
fuel, pow, now this thing was so dope that we were able to create other people.

1345
01:15:40.400 --> 01:15:41.400
That's more energy.

1346
01:15:42.120 --> 01:15:48.680
So now I don't need the fucking, I don't need the right, I'm looking at the product of

1347
01:15:48.680 --> 01:15:54.480
a valuable asset that we created that's premium enough to display that the talent that comes

1348
01:15:54.480 --> 01:16:01.280
from underneath us is strong fucking talent and we do amazing things.

1349
01:16:01.280 --> 01:16:06.520
Now my business, because of this business, what this business becomes great to, a suspense

1350
01:16:06.600 --> 01:16:13.080
and do say, oh shit, the value, the exit, the return, he keeps finding more energy in these

1351
01:16:13.080 --> 01:16:23.080
other things. Oh shit, 40, 40 club, more assets, more brand, likeness, partnership, ownership,

1352
01:16:23.080 --> 01:16:27.440
but the backdrop to it all is the artist.

1353
01:16:27.440 --> 01:16:32.000
Just give me 15 seconds to explain how you can build a viable business online. The people

1354
01:16:32.000 --> 01:16:35.400
I see winning in life don't have a perfect plan. They just take the first step and then

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the next and then they keep going. They stay obsessed and they stay consistent and

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1368
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steven. Your show is called, well, it's not new necessarily. I actually saw it in London.

1376
01:18:21.400 --> 01:18:27.440
You and my girlfriend were near the front row when you came and did acting my age in London.

1377
01:18:27.440 --> 01:18:32.160
The show was absolutely hilarious. We were dying off laughter and it's coming to Netflix.

1378
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Monday the 24th of November. If you're listening now, you've got to go and watch it. The title

1379
01:18:36.760 --> 01:18:47.440
of the show, acting my age. What do you mean acting my age? Why now? You got to grow up.

1380
01:18:47.440 --> 01:18:57.100
I think it's one of the toughest things in life is just realizing what grow up actually

1381
01:18:57.100 --> 01:19:09.840
means. You can be an adult but still not embrace what being an adult actually is. When

1382
01:19:09.840 --> 01:19:19.680
it's time to grow up, you start sacrificing the shit that the younger version of you with

1383
01:19:19.680 --> 01:19:26.600
less responsibilities thrived and flourished off of and then you realize that a lot of

1384
01:19:26.600 --> 01:19:33.360
that shit gets thrown on the back burner and it's no longer important because you're

1385
01:19:33.360 --> 01:19:41.520
fucking getting older and some shit just isn't the same. I just made a decision to let

1386
01:19:41.520 --> 01:19:48.240
go of a certain version of life and embrace my age and all the fun that comes with it.

1387
01:19:48.240 --> 01:19:51.640
What about being a man? It's confusing. I think it's more confusing than ever for many

1388
01:19:51.640 --> 01:19:57.880
to be a man and we often talk about this masculinity crisis where men have less male friends

1389
01:19:57.880 --> 01:20:03.520
than ever before. The stats are pretty shocking on this. The suicide, suicide Asian is 300

1390
01:20:03.520 --> 01:20:08.320
to 400% higher in men. There's a college degree gap for every two men who earn a bachelor's

1391
01:20:08.320 --> 01:20:13.400
degree in the women in the US, three women do. There's a workforce dropout rate which is

1392
01:20:13.400 --> 01:20:18.200
pretty terrifying. Millions of prime age men between the age of 24 and 50 are no longer

1393
01:20:18.200 --> 01:20:25.600
in the labor force representing an almost 10% drop. Being a man is tough these days for

1394
01:20:25.600 --> 01:20:31.520
a bunch of different reasons. You got a plethora. A plethora of plethora. It's not straight

1395
01:20:31.520 --> 01:20:38.080
forward. Polluted waters, even I call it. Extremely polluted waters. What advice have you

1396
01:20:38.080 --> 01:20:45.680
got for young men in terms of what it takes to be a good man? I think the definition

1397
01:20:45.760 --> 01:20:57.600
of a good man is so foggy today. I'm a firm believer that change comes within time. I'll

1398
01:20:57.600 --> 01:21:06.560
start by saying it and I understand that nothing should stay the same. Everything should evolve

1399
01:21:06.560 --> 01:21:17.600
when it's evolving. The conversation of a man and what makes a man a man is weird. It's not

1400
01:21:17.600 --> 01:21:30.960
evolving. I was raised on a foundation of a leader or leadership and I think recipes to my dad

1401
01:21:30.960 --> 01:21:45.680
fucked up a road that my dad had. My dad's like later years were driven from accountability. I'm

1402
01:21:45.680 --> 01:21:51.840
aware of what I didn't do. I'm aware of the mistakes that I made and I'm aware of what I should have

1403
01:21:51.840 --> 01:21:58.560
did much better. I can't change those things but I would love to try to be the best grandfather

1404
01:21:59.520 --> 01:22:08.000
or grandparent that I can be. Kevin, I love you and I love your brother but I can't go back. I

1405
01:22:08.000 --> 01:22:13.840
can only say I'm sorry and I wish I could. You don't have to. Like the grandkids of your focus

1406
01:22:14.480 --> 01:22:21.920
and if you can be the dopest example of a grandpop to them then that's the win for me at this point

1407
01:22:22.720 --> 01:22:28.400
but it's accountability in that moment is what I remember the most about my father and love the most

1408
01:22:28.400 --> 01:22:38.640
because leadership or lack thereof put me in a position to say I don't want to do that. I want to

1409
01:22:38.640 --> 01:22:46.880
do this and not because my dad is like the worst but fuck man if he didn't do these things wrong

1410
01:22:46.880 --> 01:22:54.880
back the time and shit in I wouldn't know how to do them right. So now I got two boys and I want to

1411
01:22:54.880 --> 01:23:05.280
make sure that my example of man to my to my sons is leadership responsibility it's accountability

1412
01:23:05.280 --> 01:23:15.920
emotions. You know I'm not against emotions but I am also I am a student of everybody has problems

1413
01:23:17.120 --> 01:23:22.880
nobody there's not a shortage of problems so the weight of the world that you feel is the heaviest

1414
01:23:22.880 --> 01:23:29.680
for you may not come close to what the weight of the world is for you and I think in sharing your

1415
01:23:29.680 --> 01:23:40.160
emotions and having an opportunity to voice or offload them extremely important but you also in a

1416
01:23:40.160 --> 01:23:48.720
world where you know weakness can at some point in time be taken advantage of right you are in the

1417
01:23:48.720 --> 01:23:57.440
world of like pray and and and and and shocks as I presented earlier and it doesn't mean that your

1418
01:23:57.440 --> 01:24:05.040
emotions don't matter because they do it means that you also have to be smart and aware right and

1419
01:24:05.040 --> 01:24:11.760
what are you ultimately trying your best to become and what are you ultimately trying to be the

1420
01:24:11.760 --> 01:24:19.920
best example for yourself first and then others for I don't mind being weak but I talk to my kids

1421
01:24:20.640 --> 01:24:25.200
I talk to them and I voice your dad those are struggles that you'll never know about because

1422
01:24:25.200 --> 01:24:30.560
I don't want you to have to feel the burden of them it's my job to try my best to make life

1423
01:24:30.560 --> 01:24:37.200
easier for you so that you can go on and do way more than I ever have it's my job to give you the

1424
01:24:37.200 --> 01:24:41.840
opportunities to learn shit that I never knew that I could learn at this stage but I'm going to make

1425
01:24:41.840 --> 01:24:46.080
sure that I communicate with you differently than I was communicated with I'm not going to let you

1426
01:24:46.080 --> 01:24:50.320
fuck off and take advantage of the things that you have as resources at your fingertips I'm not

1427
01:24:50.320 --> 01:24:54.800
going to let you tell me the things that you think you should do because you feel when I know right

1428
01:24:54.800 --> 01:25:01.440
now at this stage in your life what's best for you that's my format of parenting and it doesn't

1429
01:25:01.440 --> 01:25:09.040
mean it's the same for others but for the man that I am I know the type of man and I want my kids

1430
01:25:09.040 --> 01:25:16.880
to be based off of what my outcome was and is and I think that if I correctly position them to

1431
01:25:16.880 --> 01:25:22.080
simply understand in your older age you make whatever decisions you want I'm your father I'm

1432
01:25:22.080 --> 01:25:28.960
going to love you regardless as no care worried me I want to know that I did my job for what I was

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supposed to control and I want to know that our conversations and our dialogue was always straight

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up and straightforward enough to where you were comfortable to talk to me and you were comfortable

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and feeling like your father has your best interests that's for me that's my makeup and in the

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time today my makeup doesn't have to fit yours and I'm okay with that and I'm okay with yours being

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whatever it is for you but I think we're in a time the day where society wants to fight with one

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another about it's just too much of like well if you don't see it my way then you're dumb yeah

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and I think that's why the conversation has gotten so inconsistent and polluted that's my personal

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01:26:17.680 --> 01:26:23.120
opinion and my side of information attached to it so hopefully you know your viewers can hear

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that and understand it and know it's okay we're not being okay with my choice it's okay

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Kevin we have a closing tradition where the last guest leaves a question for the next not

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01:26:33.200 --> 01:26:37.760
knowing who they're leaving it for the question left for you is what is the advice you got as an

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01:26:37.760 --> 01:26:46.160
adult that had the most significant impact on your life I'm gonna go to the best the best views

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01:26:46.160 --> 01:26:50.800
of ice cable Chris rock where Chris rock told me earlier in my comedy career he says

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01:26:51.760 --> 01:26:57.520
his exact word is you don't just want to make niggas laugh the world is so much bigger

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than your block or your neighborhood he said get out the country get out the country

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and figure out a way to make the world laugh and comedy will be so much better

1449
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at that point I was very like specific in my material

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01:27:15.920 --> 01:27:24.640
50 Mary you know we got these the drugstore it's crazy you ever had a guy in the drugstore in

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01:27:24.640 --> 01:27:30.080
your block and it's like well everybody doesn't relate or can't relate how do you broaden it how do

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01:27:30.080 --> 01:27:35.600
you how do you open it up so that you're never changing your material or who you are everywhere

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01:27:35.600 --> 01:27:43.840
you go in the world people can laugh and you never have to adjust get out the country get bigger

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01:27:43.920 --> 01:27:50.400
in the way you're thinking about your craft I mean you've done that across the board and across

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01:27:50.400 --> 01:27:56.240
industries now you've been willing to be the person the outsider in lots of rooms that seems to be

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01:27:56.240 --> 01:28:01.040
really central to your success and Chris rock said you there was get out into the unfamiliar

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01:28:01.040 --> 01:28:04.080
go put yourself in an unfamiliar place when I look at your career and the empire that you've

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01:28:04.080 --> 01:28:08.560
been able to build across business and investing it's exactly that it's you are willing to be

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01:28:08.640 --> 01:28:13.920
in unfamiliar territories for some reason yeah yeah you know what you just made me think about too

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01:28:13.920 --> 01:28:20.080
and I'm on a bad trip before we leave one thing is like kind of crazy just when you were talking

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01:28:20.080 --> 01:28:25.600
about the conversation of man like it's a weird thing that's happening where you do have men

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01:28:25.600 --> 01:28:33.040
that are opening up more and talking more about like the struggles of a man but then those things are

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01:28:33.040 --> 01:28:42.160
like being used against them and the conversation of man like when you get to talk about like the

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01:28:42.160 --> 01:28:46.880
things that you're dealing with in the emotion and stuff like of the mental health and the weight like

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01:28:48.240 --> 01:28:55.760
it seems that in this time today more men are being forward and wanting to express in talk

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01:28:56.560 --> 01:29:03.040
but the fear of being judged after do you have that fear no I don't I don't get shit I don't really

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I don't care too much what people think have you struggled with your mental health no

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no I think I told you my shit is like more more stress it's not a struggle it's like

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01:29:12.960 --> 01:29:19.040
is that anxiety or is it is it no just like I know I do too much yeah like I know I know I know

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for a fact that wasn't symptom of that how do you feel like you have to like you have to shut down

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so like when I'm getting better at it is in a day that's how I just don't I'm off the phone

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01:29:30.640 --> 01:29:35.520
I got it I know I told them I would do calls just tell them I'll start that tomorrow or the day after

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01:29:35.520 --> 01:29:40.560
but like there's a there's a time where I get to a point in a day when I'm like okay that oh that's

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01:29:40.560 --> 01:29:45.360
it for me you're done that's my yeah like and I'm literally I'm done I don't want to I don't want to

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01:29:45.360 --> 01:29:50.080
talk about anything else I don't want to I don't want to hear so you're pushing yourself right up

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01:29:50.080 --> 01:29:54.720
to the edge over and over and over and over and over again I get to a point in a day and at

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01:29:54.720 --> 01:30:01.280
timeline when I'm shutting off has gotten earlier and earlier whereas before it was you know we

1478
01:30:01.280 --> 01:30:06.080
are tonight I'm still on a phone figuring it out and all day you just been racing and racing and

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01:30:06.080 --> 01:30:13.040
racing so I think the older that I've gotten I realized more and more that's not healthy

1480
01:30:14.000 --> 01:30:20.080
the healthy side comes with silence for a sec like you need some you need some silence

1481
01:30:21.040 --> 01:30:28.000
and riding a car by yourself no music sounds a bit like a disease no you need silence do you know

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01:30:28.000 --> 01:30:31.200
what I mean by it sounds a bit like a disease because this is something that's taking you to a

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point where it's like it's kind of hurting you a little bit and I can relate so it's not like I'm

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01:30:34.960 --> 01:30:39.040
like passing judgment because you just describe my entire life you're not going to be as present

1485
01:30:39.040 --> 01:30:41.680
with your loved ones you're not going to be as present in your relationship I know you're married

1486
01:30:42.400 --> 01:30:48.000
you've got four kids how are you ever going to be like truly present when your brain is like yes

1487
01:30:50.000 --> 01:30:56.080
but also how do you how do you become comfortable with being okay with people not understanding

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01:30:57.200 --> 01:31:03.440
that's the trick like I hate to say it bluntly yeah I used to have such a high level of give a

1489
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fuck attached to how you felt about my decisions that were best for me oh god I don't want to say

1490
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because they're going to feel like I'm not doing that's going to be crazy I don't know I'm just do it

1491
01:31:15.040 --> 01:31:20.560
because I'm thinking more about you than I'm thinking about me right I'm putting everybody before

1492
01:31:21.520 --> 01:31:28.000
me I'm putting everybody's needs everybody's wants everybody's reasons all before me nobody is

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01:31:28.000 --> 01:31:37.120
thinking about the volume of dialogue that I'm delivering on a day-to-day basis and how much of

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01:31:37.120 --> 01:31:44.640
that like happens over and over again nobody's thinking about it so the day that I became comfortable

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01:31:44.640 --> 01:31:50.400
with going I don't really give a fuck if like they understand or not like I'm done I know but they

1496
01:31:50.400 --> 01:31:53.840
feel it's really important you got to do it today I'll talk to them tomorrow nothing's going to happen

1497
01:31:54.720 --> 01:31:58.560
nothing's going to change from this time to that time you have to get to a point to where you

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01:31:58.640 --> 01:32:07.360
actually get that and are okay with that because if not you're constantly putting all of the shit

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01:32:07.360 --> 01:32:13.840
from outside there on your table and like your plates always full you're never finishing your

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fucking plate because you're just constantly people just keep coming and dumping more shit on it

1501
01:32:18.240 --> 01:32:22.720
so imagine that imagine people just keep telling you keep eating you just keep getting full like

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01:32:22.800 --> 01:32:28.480
eventually you can't fucking breathe and you bust it's no different from your from your mind

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01:32:29.200 --> 01:32:37.040
and and and more today than ever you're seeing more people pop from mental overload man

1504
01:32:37.920 --> 01:32:42.880
like people aren't crazy I hate them like this whole crazy crazy motherfucker crazy it's like

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01:32:43.440 --> 01:32:48.560
my fucks are just popping like it's too much I'm gonna fucking when they snap they snap

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01:32:49.280 --> 01:32:53.760
I said that's not I'm sick I'm fucking I'm sick to check you can see like God damn man

1507
01:32:54.400 --> 01:32:58.480
you crazy no you're not I'm almost just popped but you could you got the money to go chill in

1508
01:32:58.480 --> 01:33:04.800
Bali I'm going I but you don't I have the money to not go chill in body I have the money to say

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01:33:04.800 --> 01:33:10.480
I'm not talking anymore today that's the that's the difference it's not about the vacation it's not

1510
01:33:10.480 --> 01:33:16.960
about the trip it's not about I'm not talking anymore today so the people and resources I put around

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01:33:16.960 --> 01:33:22.880
me to help me do your job what happens next for you we sit here in 10 years time it all went well

1512
01:33:22.880 --> 01:33:32.560
what happened I think in 10 years time if I'm able to sit on the stool at a comedy club with 30

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01:33:32.560 --> 01:33:42.720
people and do material and enjoy my craft and it's a little small hole in the wall comedy clubs

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01:33:42.880 --> 01:33:51.120
wherever I'm living at the time I do it maybe twice week and I golf and I spend time with my kids

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01:33:51.120 --> 01:33:57.600
and hopefully their kids I'm a grandpa and we're able to like look through photo albums of

1516
01:33:57.600 --> 01:34:04.080
remember when and mailbox money is attached to things that I've built that are operating and

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01:34:04.080 --> 01:34:14.080
functioning on its own that's that's my version of success Kevin thank you thank you thank you

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01:34:14.080 --> 01:34:19.520
so much for all the you talked about how you've made people's lives happier and made people more

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01:34:19.520 --> 01:34:23.440
connected et cetera and that's exactly the impact you've had on me I remember the first time I

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01:34:23.440 --> 01:34:27.760
watched one of your comedy specials and watched you on stage was when I was going through a very

1521
01:34:27.760 --> 01:34:31.760
tough part of my life I was lonely I was in this room in Manchester I'm probably 18 years old at

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01:34:31.760 --> 01:34:37.280
the time and I'm trying to figure out my career in my future things are hard and I think like

1523
01:34:37.280 --> 01:34:43.200
pirating your pirating your comedy specials was that little moment of escapism was that little moment

1524
01:34:43.200 --> 01:34:48.080
of joy in my day and so you're that for so many many millions of people that you'll never get to me

1525
01:34:48.080 --> 01:34:51.600
you brought so much joy to families you brought families together you brought me and my girlfriend

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01:34:51.600 --> 01:34:54.800
out to come and see you in the Royal Aberhool and also we have seen you in New York City when you

1527
01:34:54.800 --> 01:35:00.480
did think was Madison Square Garden here as well on that square stage it's you're a source of joy

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01:35:00.480 --> 01:35:06.560
and connectivity and if the world ever needed that energy right right now it needs it now more

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01:35:06.560 --> 01:35:13.600
than ever and so I humbly appreciate you and thank you this was amazing man and I think you're

1530
01:35:13.600 --> 01:35:21.600
doing a service of good and what you're providing for the masses is is necessary so don't stop

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01:35:21.680 --> 01:35:24.160
you've gone man thank you so much thank you so much thank you so much thank you

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01:35:27.760 --> 01:35:32.720
make sure you keep what I'm about to say to yourself I'm inviting 10,000 of you to come even

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01:35:32.720 --> 01:35:38.960
deeper into the direvacio welcome to my inner circle this is a brand new private community that

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01:35:38.960 --> 01:35:43.920
I'm launching to the world we have so many incredible things that happen that you are never shown

1535
01:35:43.920 --> 01:35:48.320
we have the briefs that are on my pad when I'm recording the conversation we have clips we've

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01:35:48.320 --> 01:35:52.640
never released we have behind the scenes conversations with the guests and also the episodes that we've

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01:35:52.640 --> 01:35:59.360
never ever released and so much more in the circle you'll have direct access to me you can tell

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01:35:59.360 --> 01:36:03.440
us what you want this show to be who you want us to interview and the types of conversations you

1539
01:36:03.440 --> 01:36:08.800
would love us to have but remember for now we're only inviting the first 10,000 people that

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