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when you're polyamorous or ethical, non-monogamous.

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Tonight, we're talking about the good, the bad, and the downright ridiculous.

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From being fetishized or misunderstood to matching with people who claim they're open while their partner has absolutely no idea.

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We're sharing our own dating app horror stories, the red flags we've learned to recognize, and what these platforms get wrong about people who love differently.

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Because finding connections shouldn't require hiding who you are.

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Welcome to Triple Hearts.

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Multiple loves, one conversation.

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Multiple loves one conversation is triple Let's talk about this

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hey heartthrobs i'm coco and i am your girl lala and welcome to triple hearts we are here for another episode i'm excited so am i and i'm all warm and singly and i got my hair done y'all i ain't giving poodle today it's never giving poodle oh my nerves that detangling was hell oh talk to me how are you today

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I am good.

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I'm pushing.

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I'm pushing.

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We're almost through the week.

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Okay.

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That's a good thing.

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You looking good.

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So are you.

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Okay.

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As always.

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I feel a little good over here.

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Yes.

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Let me hear it.

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Let me hear it.

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So today we are talking about dating apps.

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The good, the bad, the ugly.

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Mm-hmm.

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They're not all bad.

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I think my last two relationships were from people I met on a dating app.

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Really?

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Mm-hmm.

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Okay, so tell me about that.

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Because I've only played around a couple of times because I feel like on dating apps they can be a little, I don't know, a little weary.

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We'll go on my story later because you've actually dated and been successful.

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I wouldn't call it successful.

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Well, I mean, I can't say it wasn't successful.

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But, I mean, because I did make a genuine connection.

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So the person I previously dated, we matched on.

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This is about to age me, y'all.

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plenty of fish oh wow i remember the days of that i was swiping and and then we ended up matching again on some other one um and then we were like well okay we've matched twice at this point so like let's definitely we got something in common something is there so um we dated for about five years

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I love it.

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Didn't work out, but, you know, still the homie.

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Right.

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Pretty cool.

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For sure.

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I get that.

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I get that.

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And then your second experience, was it male or female?

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Male.

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It was a male.

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Yeah, both males.

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Okay, got it.

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And then how did the second one go?

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That one, I think, was like Facebook dating, I think.

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That one was probably about a year.

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It was cool.

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I mean, you know.

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She's like, it was cool.

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That's all she got.

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You see how she didn't even throw your ass under the bus?

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I didn't.

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Because it was cool.

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It was cool.

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That's all she had.

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You know?

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But I mean, you was trash, and it was fun while I last said it.

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And, yeah.

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You know, some people are just for seasons.

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I get it.

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And, you know, you learn from people, and you're thankful for what you learned, and, you know, you move on.

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Continuing with my journey.

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Yes.

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Understood.

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So, for me, I've only—I'm going to tell you why I'm terrified of dating apps.

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Uh-oh.

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I'm scared to get catfished.

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I'm, like, terrified because I've seen someone catfishing me.

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Like, someone had my pictures up one day.

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That has happened to so many of my friends.

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I'm like, now, wait a second.

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This is not me you talking to, sweetie.

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How did you find out?

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They sent me the picture and said, oh, so this is what you out here doing.

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I said, what is this?

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This is not even me.

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And it's a whole different phone number.

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Call the number.

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Right.

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Because it's not me.

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I'm like, this is a mess.

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So I'm terrified.

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But I will say that I was on Plenty of Fish, too.

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Yes!

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Plenty of Fish!

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So it started brewing through.

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I started swimming on through things.

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And I ended up meeting this guy.

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And my girlfriend happened to be with me.

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We were at...

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Damn, I want to say we were at Jasper's in Largo.

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Yeah.

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There's always some shit going on up there.

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Woo, child.

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And if you ever had one of them dog vaders, honey.

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Oh, I have.

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And I have.

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Did you wake up in the correct bed?

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We just going to go back to that circus.

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I don't know.

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Anywho, we went there and we hung out for just this particular night.

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He was a real person, y'all.

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He was a real person.

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How was the date?

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It was okay.

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Yeah, that's all I got.

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That's the only place that it went.

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Because, see...

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For me, on the app, I feel like you can hide who you really are.

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Or you can be whoever you want to be.

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And off that dark Vader, the truth won't come out.

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Absolutely.

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I can assure you.

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You can't put up a facade for so long.

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I agree.

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But I didn't think it was going to come out of the album later.

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Damn.

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Nigro, you should have just had you a glass of wine.

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First of all, let's just not.

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You know, we ain't going to fake Jaspers drinks.

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Out of control.

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They be drinking you.

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No, seriously.

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They do not.

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Baby, you got to be careful.

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You got to slowly.

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That's one place.

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You know how we go and we may go through like something and grab something to drink.

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And you're like, light ice me, please.

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No, baby, put all the ice in there.

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Put it to the rim and then pour half the liquor.

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But then they, I'm like, do they count their drinks?

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I used to bartend.

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You're supposed to count.

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They don't, I think they count to 20.

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And then they stop.

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And then they give you a little splash, a little dab.

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I'm telling you because it was a disaster because he started acting, showing his whole complete ass.

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And I ever so kindly told the bartender that all my items and all my friend items was going to be on his tab and to have a blessed night.

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Be blessed.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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And then he had the audacity to reach out to me the following day.

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You probably didn't even remember.

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Didn't recall any of it.

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I had a feeling.

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How did you just disappear?

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You didn't even say bye or anything, sweetheart.

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I told you.

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Because you don't remember me saying bye.

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Because I definitely said bye and definitely said that this is not going to work.

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And my girlfriend was looking at me like, girl, now you know damn well.

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So that was my horror story with it.

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Okay.

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Then I did speak to another gentleman.

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And I want to say that it was Facebook dating.

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And I got on there because they have this other part on there where you can do like friends or whatever the case may be.

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So here I am thinking that it's like the little friendly one because my friendly ass.

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And it wasn't.

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But this man was fine as hell.

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At least his profile was.

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I don't know if he's real or not.

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Oh, okay.

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Like, because I never met him.

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You're like, I'm convinced that it might not be real.

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I have PTSD, y'all.

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So I just want to see you in person and like, you know, have like an authentic.

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But I also recognize and realize that, I mean, truthfully, if we think about it, like how many people didn't slid in our DMs?

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You know what I mean?

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So like when people are like they're bashing like dating apps and stuff or whatever the case may be.

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What's the difference in me saying, hey, I met someone on Facebook.

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I met someone on Instagram.

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It's not much different.

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It's not much different.

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It's already is designed for that.

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That's what it's designed for.

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You know what I mean?

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But I'm so terrified and I do have PTSD just a smidgen.

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But the guy was very, very attractive, but it never went anywhere.

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We kind of like exchanged.

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It was almost like we were pen pals.

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And I was like, this shit ain't going nowhere.

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And I don't have time.

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Like, it felt like you in jail.

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I'm screaming.

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And I already have one jailbird in my life.

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So I just didn't, I didn't feel like it.

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If there's no, no, no.

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There is no being intentional about nothing.

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We just pen paling it.

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I was like, oh, he need a friend.

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Right.

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Literally.

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Yeah.

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And then I started feeling like a therapist and yeah, I was cool.

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Oh, no dumping.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I don't give you permission to.

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No, no.

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Keep that.

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Keep it.

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Yeah.

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See so.

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Or no, talk to someone.

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Yes.

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I agree.

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Professional.

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Absolutely.

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Sit on the couch.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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And heal and all the things, but just don't dump on me.

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Especially after, you know, about a week or so of us just talking and stuff.

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Like I told you, some bags do not be ours to unpack.

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Absolutely not.

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You know what I mean?

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On other occasions, you know, I'd be willing to help you unpack a bit.

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But on some things, I feel like you just need to unpack yourself.

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So there's that.

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Fair enough.

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Yes, I agree.

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So what's our current event?

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Let's go ahead and wrench around.

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You know, we got to keep y'all in the know.

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Of what these current events look like.

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You know.

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Hmm.

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The ethical non-monogamy world is expanding every day.

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I'm telling you.

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So.

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So let's see what we got for the current events here.

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By the way, check out our new hearts, guys.

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Aren't they cute?

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Super freaking cute.

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Triple hearts.

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Okay.

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And our little aloe vera.

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And yes, she's real.

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So when she starts going down, don't be joning on us because we might be just going to switch her out.

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Because we actually use her for our skin.

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She's real.

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Mm-hmm.

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So she's over here thriving, little babies.

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Our plant mom over here.

267
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Yes.

268
00:09:01.777 --> 00:09:03.377
Definitely giving plant mom over here.

269
00:09:03.397 --> 00:09:04.137
She's the green thumb.

270
00:09:05.278 --> 00:09:06.098
It used to be black.

271
00:09:06.138 --> 00:09:07.018
I killed a lot of shit.

272
00:09:07.158 --> 00:09:07.559
Okay.

273
00:09:07.819 --> 00:09:08.699
That gives me hope.

274
00:09:08.879 --> 00:09:09.179
Yeah.

275
00:09:09.439 --> 00:09:10.399
Good girl.

276
00:09:10.860 --> 00:09:12.360
I'm telling you, I killed a lot of shit.

277
00:09:12.380 --> 00:09:14.261
When people are like, how you get all this together now?

278
00:09:14.381 --> 00:09:17.221
Yeah, I killed about $1,000 worth of plants.

279
00:09:17.281 --> 00:09:17.582
Ooh.

280
00:09:17.982 --> 00:09:18.222
Yeah.

281
00:09:18.262 --> 00:09:19.302
That'll teach us a lesson.

282
00:09:19.342 --> 00:09:19.942
I'm telling you.

283
00:09:20.062 --> 00:09:21.483
And it's an expensive hobby, okay?

284
00:09:21.523 --> 00:09:21.723
Okay.

285
00:09:22.643 --> 00:09:33.491
Um, so current events, I see here that poly people are now pushing for actual legal protection and not just acceptance.

286
00:09:33.931 --> 00:09:34.271
Okay.

287
00:09:34.432 --> 00:09:35.332
And I like that a lot.

288
00:09:35.352 --> 00:09:36.233
I think that's fair.

289
00:09:36.413 --> 00:09:37.374
I think it's super fair.

290
00:09:37.394 --> 00:09:37.494
Yeah.

291
00:09:38.214 --> 00:09:39.055
I mean, no shade.

292
00:09:39.075 --> 00:09:43.898
I mean, look, Obama did LBGTQ, you know, like they're able to do, you know, things freely.

293
00:09:43.938 --> 00:09:45.439
So why can't we?

294
00:09:45.559 --> 00:09:49.281
That's what I was kind of going to, I guess, relate that to.

295
00:09:49.602 --> 00:09:51.043
Yeah, that community is.

296
00:09:52.023 --> 00:09:56.166
But to be I mean, they have been fighting a long time.

297
00:09:56.206 --> 00:09:58.207
I guess it's kind of a new fight for us.

298
00:09:58.528 --> 00:10:02.030
So I think we'll get what's, you know, what we're due in due time.

299
00:10:02.470 --> 00:10:06.493
The more people that come forward and, you know, it becomes less taboo and realize like.

300
00:10:07.574 --> 00:10:08.774
I mean, it's not much different.

301
00:10:08.794 --> 00:10:11.735
It's just honesty and, you know, I don't know.

302
00:10:12.235 --> 00:10:12.555
It is.

303
00:10:12.715 --> 00:10:14.176
It's the communication piece.

304
00:10:14.216 --> 00:10:14.656
Yeah.

305
00:10:15.136 --> 00:10:20.817
And just having those hard conversations or having those honest conversations that typically would not be hard.

306
00:10:20.837 --> 00:10:25.078
Because if this is your person, you should be able to communicate and have a conversation with them and let them know.

307
00:10:25.898 --> 00:10:27.599
And I think that the sooner, the better.

308
00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:28.199
Yes.

309
00:10:29.501 --> 00:10:31.562
So I definitely think the sooner the better.

310
00:10:31.622 --> 00:10:38.844
I don't believe in, you know, us being together for five and six years and then you coming to me going, hey, I think that I want to do this.

311
00:10:38.984 --> 00:10:44.106
Even though it still can be a conversation or whatever, I can see how a person would be offended.

312
00:10:44.126 --> 00:10:45.646
For taken aback.

313
00:10:45.886 --> 00:10:46.306
Yes.

314
00:10:47.067 --> 00:10:47.507
By it.

315
00:10:47.767 --> 00:10:48.067
For sure.

316
00:10:49.134 --> 00:10:50.736
But not that it cannot happen because people grow.

317
00:10:50.756 --> 00:10:52.819
They have growth spurts and they have more needs.

318
00:10:53.099 --> 00:10:53.379
Right.

319
00:10:53.439 --> 00:10:57.785
Where who I met a person, you know, several years ago may not be necessarily where I am right now today.

320
00:10:58.165 --> 00:11:00.628
But where I was several years ago, it was perfect.

321
00:11:00.829 --> 00:11:01.790
Our stuff was perfect.

322
00:11:01.890 --> 00:11:02.751
So on and so forth.

323
00:11:03.772 --> 00:11:04.854
At least that's how I see it.

324
00:11:07.337 --> 00:11:07.637
Okay.

325
00:11:08.749 --> 00:11:12.934
And then it also has, are we entering a poly backlash?

326
00:11:13.634 --> 00:11:14.035
Hmm.

327
00:11:14.315 --> 00:11:14.695
Yeah.

328
00:11:15.436 --> 00:11:26.048
So recent cosmopolitan feature is examining whether the non-monogamy experiment has failed, in quotation marks, focusing on people who tried E&M and later returned to monogamy.

329
00:11:26.068 --> 00:11:26.208
Yeah.

330
00:11:28.290 --> 00:11:31.152
So that doesn't mean the structure itself has failed.

331
00:11:31.172 --> 00:11:32.693
That means it didn't work for those people.

332
00:11:32.733 --> 00:11:36.095
And then we have to ask ourselves what their experiment consisted of.

333
00:11:36.555 --> 00:11:36.815
Right.

334
00:11:36.835 --> 00:11:39.657
To even call it an experiment is kind of crazy.

335
00:11:40.858 --> 00:11:41.618
It's crazy.

336
00:11:42.099 --> 00:11:43.540
What were their conversations like?

337
00:11:43.580 --> 00:11:45.141
Were they having honest conversations?

338
00:11:45.161 --> 00:11:50.584
Were they dating people who were open to the dynamic that they were interested in?

339
00:11:50.624 --> 00:11:53.386
Like there are so many things to go into that before you can...

340
00:11:53.706 --> 00:11:55.447
place a failed label on it.

341
00:11:55.467 --> 00:11:56.007
I agree.

342
00:11:56.167 --> 00:11:56.567
That's why.

343
00:11:56.587 --> 00:11:56.927
I agree.

344
00:11:57.147 --> 00:11:58.568
But it's easy to say that something failed.

345
00:11:58.988 --> 00:11:59.408
Yeah.

346
00:11:59.468 --> 00:12:01.849
So you can move on from it and I have to really like respect it.

347
00:12:02.530 --> 00:12:05.811
Let's go ahead and dive into it and see, you know, what these things, what happened?

348
00:12:05.851 --> 00:12:07.772
How, why would you consider it failing?

349
00:12:07.892 --> 00:12:09.853
What, what was working?

350
00:12:09.893 --> 00:12:11.253
What was not working?

351
00:12:11.373 --> 00:12:18.396
And that means for both of you all, not just for one person because it can't be, you know, good for me and horrible experience for you.

352
00:12:18.456 --> 00:12:22.498
But I mean, but it could possibly be, but we need to be able to talk about it.

353
00:12:22.738 --> 00:12:22.938
Yeah.

354
00:12:22.958 --> 00:12:23.058
Yeah.

355
00:12:23.518 --> 00:12:24.839
And have a conversation about it.

356
00:12:26.099 --> 00:12:28.420
Well, at least I think.

357
00:12:28.920 --> 00:12:29.580
Should be able to.

358
00:12:29.740 --> 00:12:30.160
Yeah.

359
00:12:30.180 --> 00:12:30.501
You know.

360
00:12:30.521 --> 00:12:35.162
Because, you know, some people, they shut down and some people don't want to have those hard conversations.

361
00:12:35.182 --> 00:12:35.442
So.

362
00:12:36.963 --> 00:12:37.143
Well.

363
00:12:38.952 --> 00:12:39.333
Fail.

364
00:12:39.433 --> 00:12:39.793
Okay.

365
00:12:40.654 --> 00:12:42.296
Yeah, the failed word is the heady.

366
00:12:42.317 --> 00:12:43.458
The failed experiment.

367
00:12:43.478 --> 00:12:47.764
I was like, it's the failed experiment that's kind of like a lot for me.

368
00:12:48.404 --> 00:12:51.729
But I guess, you know, it's kind of like, what was one of our words?

369
00:12:51.769 --> 00:12:56.495
Well, I can only think of the bi-curious one, but it was like, I guess, tri-curious almost.

370
00:12:56.815 --> 00:12:57.235
Oh, yes.

371
00:12:57.255 --> 00:12:58.156
So maybe they tried it.

372
00:12:58.596 --> 00:12:59.897
Nothing beats a failure but a trial, right?

373
00:13:00.417 --> 00:13:02.659
But maybe they tried it and it did not work out.

374
00:13:02.679 --> 00:13:04.059
I wouldn't call it a fail.

375
00:13:04.140 --> 00:13:04.560
I agree.

376
00:13:04.580 --> 00:13:06.021
It just wasn't something that you were into.

377
00:13:06.041 --> 00:13:07.742
It just wasn't something that you decided not to do.

378
00:13:07.902 --> 00:13:08.122
Yeah.

379
00:13:08.142 --> 00:13:12.565
And then what about those individuals that go back to monogamy and then they go back to the deceitfulness?

380
00:13:12.905 --> 00:13:21.610
Or they go back to the lying or the conniving or the sneaking to do it as opposed to just being a part of something that is super open and honest?

381
00:13:21.710 --> 00:13:28.134
That lets me know that it wasn't necessarily a fail, it's just that you weren't able to have the open communication.

382
00:13:28.194 --> 00:13:31.276
You weren't able to look things in the face.

383
00:13:32.017 --> 00:13:35.519
It was easier for you to tuck your tail and run back to being sneaky and deceitful.

384
00:13:38.120 --> 00:13:39.441
That doesn't make it a fail.

385
00:13:39.842 --> 00:13:40.142
Right.

386
00:13:40.802 --> 00:13:43.465
I think everything's perception, in my opinion.

387
00:13:43.525 --> 00:13:43.865
It is.

388
00:13:44.145 --> 00:13:45.747
Everything.

389
00:13:45.827 --> 00:13:49.110
Including this and what people have to say about it.

390
00:13:49.170 --> 00:13:51.472
And I think so many people have so much to say about it.

391
00:13:52.012 --> 00:13:52.353
That's never.

392
00:13:53.745 --> 00:13:55.585
We hope that that's not you, heartthrobs.

393
00:13:55.645 --> 00:13:56.486
I promise you.

394
00:13:57.386 --> 00:13:59.426
Because then you're probably on the wrong channel.

395
00:13:59.987 --> 00:14:00.747
Right?

396
00:14:00.767 --> 00:14:01.767
Or you're on the right channel.

397
00:14:02.047 --> 00:14:08.609
And thanks for taking the time to do some research and to actually, like, you know, get a feel and get some understanding.

398
00:14:08.669 --> 00:14:13.490
Instead of just, you know, walking around saying, oh, that's a fail.

399
00:14:13.590 --> 00:14:13.790
Right.

400
00:14:13.810 --> 00:14:15.190
That's just, it's nuts to me.

401
00:14:15.210 --> 00:14:15.410
Yeah.

402
00:14:15.430 --> 00:14:16.670
Because any relationships can fail.

403
00:14:16.810 --> 00:14:22.672
In all relationships, whether it's friendships or romantic, they still require work.

404
00:14:23.052 --> 00:14:23.232
Yep.

405
00:14:23.692 --> 00:14:24.352
And communication.

406
00:14:25.013 --> 00:14:34.318
And I don't feel like if you had a monogamous relationship or even a friendship, a genuine friendship that you don't have anymore.

407
00:14:34.819 --> 00:14:36.440
I'm sure you learned a ton from it.

408
00:14:36.480 --> 00:14:37.660
So that doesn't make it a fail.

409
00:14:37.720 --> 00:14:40.262
It's not a failed friendship because you don't speak anymore.

410
00:14:40.302 --> 00:14:47.046
It's just something that maybe you outgrew one another or you went different ways and had different focus, you know, things like that.

411
00:14:47.106 --> 00:14:48.827
It doesn't necessarily make it a failed friendship.

412
00:14:49.548 --> 00:14:51.069
I agree because I have a friend that I miss.

413
00:14:51.169 --> 00:14:52.771
I want to reach out to her one day.

414
00:14:53.531 --> 00:14:53.911
One day.

415
00:14:53.931 --> 00:14:54.532
One day.

416
00:14:54.552 --> 00:14:55.313
Yeah, one day.

417
00:14:55.373 --> 00:14:57.734
I think we're big and older now, so I think it'll work out.

418
00:14:57.754 --> 00:15:01.197
But we definitely broke up because I felt like she wasn't being the same friend to me that I was to her.

419
00:15:01.237 --> 00:15:03.299
Well, you have to do that.

420
00:15:03.319 --> 00:15:04.420
But it was a couple years ago.

421
00:15:04.460 --> 00:15:06.081
I mean, several years ago.

422
00:15:06.541 --> 00:15:10.164
So for me, it's like, oh, we probably do have growth spurts because I do believe in growth spurts.

423
00:15:10.224 --> 00:15:10.624
Yeah, absolutely.

424
00:15:10.704 --> 00:15:11.165
Absolutely.

425
00:15:11.763 --> 00:15:14.004
But I do believe in having communication now, too.

426
00:15:14.024 --> 00:15:17.584
I was going to say, did you guys have any conversations about... Oh, absolutely.

427
00:15:17.604 --> 00:15:18.865
Because I'm a very vocal person.

428
00:15:18.885 --> 00:15:19.905
Girl, you know my ass is vocal.

429
00:15:20.165 --> 00:15:22.165
I was like, girl, we got to sit down and have a conversation about this.

430
00:15:22.205 --> 00:15:23.766
How you not showing up for me how I'm showing up for you?

431
00:15:23.786 --> 00:15:24.506
What's going on?

432
00:15:24.526 --> 00:15:25.326
Yeah, what's this about?

433
00:15:25.526 --> 00:15:26.927
But then I also didn't want to make it about me.

434
00:15:27.187 --> 00:15:29.027
Because for so many people, they do.

435
00:15:29.107 --> 00:15:29.967
They make it about them.

436
00:15:30.107 --> 00:15:33.268
And truthfully, somebody could literally be failing and holding on by a thread.

437
00:15:33.308 --> 00:15:35.809
I know I've been in a scenario where I've been holding on by a thread.

438
00:15:36.269 --> 00:15:38.689
And a person is trying to figure out, why Lala didn't show up to my dinner?

439
00:15:38.709 --> 00:15:40.810
Or why Lala didn't do... Lala was hanging on by a thread.

440
00:15:42.111 --> 00:15:45.395
If Lola got behind that wheel, I don't know what the hell would happen because I wouldn't have been thinking.

441
00:15:45.916 --> 00:15:46.557
You know what I mean?

442
00:15:46.577 --> 00:15:47.999
So, like, you just, you never know.

443
00:15:48.059 --> 00:15:49.061
So, I also did that.

444
00:15:49.081 --> 00:15:51.124
But how many times was I going to make an excuse for that?

445
00:15:51.264 --> 00:15:51.605
Yeah.

446
00:15:51.625 --> 00:15:52.766
You mean every damn time?

447
00:15:52.846 --> 00:15:53.187
Yeah.

448
00:15:53.387 --> 00:15:53.628
Like.

449
00:15:54.288 --> 00:15:55.130
That can't happen.

450
00:15:55.270 --> 00:15:55.510
Yeah.

451
00:15:55.791 --> 00:15:56.091
Yeah.

452
00:15:56.452 --> 00:15:56.572
So.

453
00:15:57.855 --> 00:15:59.235
Yeah, well, I think we've all been there.

454
00:15:59.535 --> 00:16:00.015
Absolutely.

455
00:16:00.035 --> 00:16:04.876
We just kind of have to place people in a different space until they're able to reciprocate.

456
00:16:04.896 --> 00:16:05.656
I agree.

457
00:16:05.676 --> 00:16:06.516
I agree.

458
00:16:06.737 --> 00:16:10.897
And if you're not in a space where you can reciprocate, then, you know, be honest about that, too.

459
00:16:11.057 --> 00:16:11.517
Yeah.

460
00:16:11.537 --> 00:16:12.798
Hey, listen, I don't have the capacity.

461
00:16:12.818 --> 00:16:15.658
Because I'll tell you quick, my misery does not love company, okay?

462
00:16:16.078 --> 00:16:16.858
I'm an isolator.

463
00:16:17.118 --> 00:16:22.159
I will go and sit in a room by myself and be like, okay, I need to regroup and woosaw.

464
00:16:22.599 --> 00:16:22.919
Yes.

465
00:16:23.419 --> 00:16:24.740
And I'm not going to suck you in it.

466
00:16:24.920 --> 00:16:25.280
Yeah.

467
00:16:25.300 --> 00:16:25.900
You know what I mean?

468
00:16:25.920 --> 00:16:27.020
Yeah.

469
00:16:28.300 --> 00:16:28.801
So, yeah.

470
00:16:28.841 --> 00:16:30.421
That requires self-awareness, though.

471
00:16:30.481 --> 00:16:32.422
And everybody doesn't have that, unfortunately.

472
00:16:32.563 --> 00:16:33.963
Yeah, I agree.

473
00:16:34.063 --> 00:16:35.504
Work on that self-awareness, guys.

474
00:16:35.784 --> 00:16:36.505
It's a beautiful thing.

475
00:16:36.725 --> 00:16:37.085
It is.

476
00:16:37.105 --> 00:16:38.185
It's an awesome thing.

477
00:16:38.305 --> 00:16:43.668
It's the way to be fair in your friendships and your relationships and to everybody around you.

478
00:16:44.328 --> 00:16:44.669
You know?

479
00:16:44.909 --> 00:16:45.529
Got to be fair.

480
00:16:45.649 --> 00:16:46.890
That's not cool.

481
00:16:47.690 --> 00:16:48.290
I agree.

482
00:16:48.511 --> 00:16:49.151
Yeah.

483
00:16:52.503 --> 00:16:53.024
Hmm.

484
00:16:53.824 --> 00:16:55.586
What we got over here.

485
00:16:56.087 --> 00:17:15.547
So talking about dating apps, has there been any times where you were banned or felt like you, I guess, experienced an unfair prejudice against your dating style or your preference or dating preference?

486
00:17:16.480 --> 00:17:23.862
No, I haven't because I haven't been in a situation like, you know, my dynamic is very different.

487
00:17:24.062 --> 00:17:32.283
So we wouldn't be bringing anyone in it because clearly my individuals are not, they're very territorial.

488
00:17:33.143 --> 00:17:33.744
They're not doing it.

489
00:17:34.224 --> 00:17:35.044
And I'm okay with that.

490
00:17:35.084 --> 00:17:35.584
You know what I mean?

491
00:17:36.304 --> 00:17:40.925
But if there were a situation where I was dealing with someone and we were going to bring someone,

492
00:17:41.305 --> 00:17:49.473
a woman in, I feel like it probably would be because I have had couples come to me and approach me with it.

493
00:17:49.593 --> 00:17:51.575
And I'm just like, no, you know, I'm not interested.

494
00:17:51.595 --> 00:17:59.002
And it may be, I'm not interested in either one of them, or it may be a situation where I just don't find somebody that,

495
00:17:59.490 --> 00:18:00.391
And it attractive.

496
00:18:00.411 --> 00:18:04.054
And I know that it's a, what's it called?

497
00:18:04.334 --> 00:18:04.875
Package deal.

498
00:18:05.115 --> 00:18:05.335
Yes.

499
00:18:05.515 --> 00:18:09.078
Like I know it's a package deal and it's just not my cup of tea.

500
00:18:09.098 --> 00:18:17.225
Not that it's, I wouldn't, but yes, because I don't want to be in a situation where I'm not, excuse me, where you're hard to look at.

501
00:18:19.081 --> 00:18:20.162
You or your partner.

502
00:18:20.342 --> 00:18:23.103
I just... Because essentially, think about it, right?

503
00:18:23.143 --> 00:18:23.663
Like, I'm not...

504
00:18:23.683 --> 00:18:28.645
I don't want to sound shallow because I am definitely... Like, I've always said, like, I'm a mental fuck.

505
00:18:29.125 --> 00:18:33.866
But, like, when you initially meet someone, it's a physical attraction.

506
00:18:33.966 --> 00:18:34.307
Yes.

507
00:18:34.367 --> 00:18:35.947
And it also matters... That's how you get to step B.

508
00:18:35.967 --> 00:18:37.088
You got to get past A.

509
00:18:37.968 --> 00:18:40.369
And, honey, now you're talking about C, D, and E in it.

510
00:18:40.409 --> 00:18:40.769
I'm like...

511
00:18:41.498 --> 00:18:41.798
Right.

512
00:18:41.838 --> 00:18:43.679
Yeah, this is probably going to be a little suspect.

513
00:18:43.699 --> 00:18:46.300
And I'm just not interested, unfortunately.

514
00:18:46.520 --> 00:18:47.741
But what about you?

515
00:18:47.861 --> 00:18:53.503
Have you had any issues where you had apps and then you've been banned?

516
00:18:53.863 --> 00:18:56.304
This is just...

517
00:18:56.324 --> 00:18:58.766
Allow people to do what they want to do.

518
00:18:59.646 --> 00:19:03.288
So my partner and I have been banned from...

519
00:19:03.328 --> 00:19:04.228
I'm not going to say banned.

520
00:19:04.248 --> 00:19:05.328
She's about to give us a list, y'all.

521
00:19:05.629 --> 00:19:10.891
Our partner... We have been removed from Tinder.

522
00:19:12.281 --> 00:19:19.784
From her, from Hinge, we've had our profiles completely deleted.

523
00:19:21.064 --> 00:19:21.984
They delete them?

524
00:19:22.164 --> 00:19:23.165
Yes.

525
00:19:23.185 --> 00:19:28.206
The admin from those apps have deleted our profiles.

526
00:19:28.646 --> 00:19:30.027
We taking everybody in their shit.

527
00:19:30.067 --> 00:19:32.648
Y'all are something else.

528
00:19:32.728 --> 00:19:38.990
Because they say that it's not set up or they don't allow couples.

529
00:19:40.268 --> 00:19:42.550
Who are you to allow what we do?

530
00:19:43.070 --> 00:19:45.912
And who's to say that there's not someone on here who is interested?

531
00:19:45.932 --> 00:19:46.713
Interested in that.

532
00:19:46.973 --> 00:19:47.353
Correct.

533
00:19:47.434 --> 00:19:49.535
Let them swipe to the left or right.

534
00:19:49.555 --> 00:19:51.176
To the right.

535
00:19:51.216 --> 00:19:51.417
Yeah.

536
00:19:51.577 --> 00:19:51.857
All right.

537
00:19:51.917 --> 00:19:53.298
If they're not interested.

538
00:19:53.338 --> 00:19:53.879
You know what I mean?

539
00:19:53.899 --> 00:19:54.959
Or to the left if they're not interested.

540
00:19:54.999 --> 00:19:55.340
Yes.

541
00:19:55.460 --> 00:19:55.660
Yes.

542
00:19:55.680 --> 00:19:57.001
So yes, allow them to swipe.

543
00:19:57.061 --> 00:19:59.623
Not you coming in, telling, and deleting my stuff.

544
00:19:59.663 --> 00:20:03.626
I go in here excited to show you someone, you know, that I saw.

545
00:20:03.706 --> 00:20:05.147
And perhaps we can go out on a date.

546
00:20:05.307 --> 00:20:05.527
Exactly.

547
00:20:05.548 --> 00:20:07.309
And you deactivate my whole damn account.

548
00:20:07.329 --> 00:20:07.549
Exactly.

549
00:20:07.709 --> 00:20:08.470
Exactly.

550
00:20:08.970 --> 00:20:09.490
Absolutely not.

551
00:20:09.590 --> 00:20:10.611
It's so crazy to me.

552
00:20:10.751 --> 00:20:16.673
So have you guys ever wrote them saying, you know, hey, guys, explain to me why you deleted my account?

553
00:20:16.713 --> 00:20:16.933
Yes.

554
00:20:17.033 --> 00:20:18.833
And they say that.

555
00:20:18.913 --> 00:20:20.034
And it's not just apps.

556
00:20:20.054 --> 00:20:28.177
Like, we've attempted to attend, like, events, like, you know, dating events or things like that.

557
00:20:28.197 --> 00:20:28.677
Right.

558
00:20:29.577 --> 00:20:33.519
Um, yeah, they're like, as a couple, as a couple.

559
00:20:34.280 --> 00:20:35.080
And that's a problem.

560
00:20:35.160 --> 00:20:41.583
Oh, no, this was actually intended for just women interested in women, not a couple interested in women.

561
00:20:42.724 --> 00:20:44.165
Girl took our whole money and everything.

562
00:20:45.317 --> 00:20:45.537
Oh, no.

563
00:20:45.557 --> 00:20:46.878
So you're going to run these little dollars back.

564
00:20:46.898 --> 00:20:51.040
See, that's when, see, that's when the hair is like, you know, I'm over.

565
00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:51.580
You know what?

566
00:20:51.640 --> 00:20:53.361
We just won't go ahead and pass.

567
00:20:53.381 --> 00:20:53.481
Yeah.

568
00:20:53.501 --> 00:20:59.544
Because now you're going to took my bread and I'm not getting no damn, I'm not able to go in here and just converse.

569
00:20:59.864 --> 00:21:00.504
Exactly.

570
00:21:00.744 --> 00:21:01.665
Like, my God.

571
00:21:01.925 --> 00:21:07.647
It's so crazy to me because it just, there's just such a big stigma around couples.

572
00:21:07.727 --> 00:21:08.488
And it's just like.

573
00:21:09.392 --> 00:21:10.593
I don't know who hurt you.

574
00:21:10.913 --> 00:21:11.153
Yeah.

575
00:21:11.714 --> 00:21:16.237
But I'm not in the business or the practice of like hurting people.

576
00:21:16.297 --> 00:21:18.018
I'm not here to offend anybody.

577
00:21:18.038 --> 00:21:31.048
We're not here to seek out people to abuse or I just don't understand what the mental or what the thought is behind saying, oh, no, we can't have couples on here.

578
00:21:31.088 --> 00:21:36.132
And it being such a big thing to the fact of or to the point of you actually deleting the profile.

579
00:21:37.363 --> 00:21:40.165
And taking my damn money when I came to an event.

580
00:21:40.205 --> 00:21:42.207
Yeah, that's and that's diabolical.

581
00:21:42.547 --> 00:21:43.367
It's crazy.

582
00:21:43.828 --> 00:21:46.390
Yeah, I think there's just I don't know.

583
00:21:46.450 --> 00:21:50.773
And especially when you claim to be an event for ethical non-monogamy.

584
00:21:51.293 --> 00:21:51.714
Right.

585
00:21:52.054 --> 00:21:54.356
So because this is what I looked up.

586
00:21:54.716 --> 00:21:56.357
I saw that it worked out right.

587
00:21:56.457 --> 00:21:57.498
We can show up here.

588
00:21:58.138 --> 00:22:03.002
My partner and I can show up in here and we showed up and then you're going to tell us that we can't be here.

589
00:22:04.977 --> 00:22:05.678
Yeah, no.

590
00:22:06.238 --> 00:22:08.480
I'd be at the top of the totem pole.

591
00:22:08.660 --> 00:22:09.921
Hi, how you doing?

592
00:22:09.941 --> 00:22:12.563
Sliding DMs, inboxes, all the above.

593
00:22:12.603 --> 00:22:13.323
Because how?

594
00:22:13.603 --> 00:22:14.264
Yeah, girl.

595
00:22:14.404 --> 00:22:15.585
How do you get to dictate that?

596
00:22:15.605 --> 00:22:16.545
That's crazy as hell.

597
00:22:16.666 --> 00:22:17.566
And what does it matter?

598
00:22:17.626 --> 00:22:19.608
You got your fee, right?

599
00:22:20.128 --> 00:22:25.092
Like, if you wanted to even charge, because I know, you know, in certain lifestyle events, they may charge a little more.

600
00:22:25.252 --> 00:22:26.152
Yeah, for couples.

601
00:22:26.232 --> 00:22:26.673
Yes.

602
00:22:26.693 --> 00:22:27.613
Yes, that does happen.

603
00:22:27.633 --> 00:22:28.494
That's one thing.

604
00:22:28.514 --> 00:22:29.855
Yeah, so that's one thing, right?

605
00:22:29.955 --> 00:22:32.377
But like, to take it and just vanish and disappear.

606
00:22:32.437 --> 00:22:33.678
Even with the apps, it's just like,

607
00:22:35.193 --> 00:22:36.434
How is that not prejudice?

608
00:22:36.754 --> 00:22:37.174
How is that?

609
00:22:37.194 --> 00:22:37.714
Oh, no, it is.

610
00:22:37.934 --> 00:22:38.855
Yeah, you know what I mean?

611
00:22:38.875 --> 00:22:39.095
It is.

612
00:22:39.115 --> 00:22:39.675
It very much is.

613
00:22:39.775 --> 00:22:40.996
It's just weird.

614
00:22:41.316 --> 00:22:41.757
I don't know.

615
00:22:42.377 --> 00:22:43.698
Girl, the U.S. is weird, okay?

616
00:22:43.978 --> 00:22:54.463
Yeah, it's just like people pick and choose, you know, what, I guess, lane or what status of ethical non-monogamy that they choose to entertain or what.

617
00:22:55.244 --> 00:22:56.564
It's just, I can't.

618
00:22:58.933 --> 00:23:02.617
I'm over here stuck that they took the money and they didn't shut the damn pages down.

619
00:23:02.657 --> 00:23:04.479
Like, that's insane.

620
00:23:04.619 --> 00:23:05.940
Completely deleted the profile.

621
00:23:10.745 --> 00:23:11.085
So.

622
00:23:12.947 --> 00:23:13.528
The catfish?

623
00:23:14.249 --> 00:23:14.369
Oh.

624
00:23:14.389 --> 00:23:15.730
Okay.

625
00:23:15.750 --> 00:23:18.433
So, you want to share some questions?

626
00:23:19.740 --> 00:23:21.041
Dating app horror story?

627
00:23:21.201 --> 00:23:21.741
Yes.

628
00:23:21.781 --> 00:23:23.121
I got a horror story for you.

629
00:23:24.262 --> 00:23:27.023
So this was several years ago.

630
00:23:27.143 --> 00:23:29.484
But several years ago, I had someone.

631
00:23:29.544 --> 00:23:30.364
I was dealing with someone.

632
00:23:31.364 --> 00:23:33.645
And they created a. I had this app.

633
00:23:33.985 --> 00:23:34.666
And it was called Her.

634
00:23:35.646 --> 00:23:36.867
And Her is for hers.

635
00:23:37.987 --> 00:23:39.408
Okay?

636
00:23:39.908 --> 00:23:43.269
So the pronouns is she, her.

637
00:23:43.289 --> 00:23:44.129
Okay?

638
00:23:44.269 --> 00:23:46.230
Not they, them, and all the things.

639
00:23:46.330 --> 00:23:46.570
Right?

640
00:23:46.650 --> 00:23:48.071
Or him or he.

641
00:23:49.327 --> 00:23:54.130
Um, we had this app and I had been on there, whatever the case may be.

642
00:23:54.250 --> 00:23:59.373
I forgot how it swipes or whatever the case, but I ended up finding a young lady that was on there that was very attractive.

643
00:23:59.393 --> 00:24:02.175
And I ended up, you know, checking that, you know, she was attractive.

644
00:24:02.876 --> 00:24:04.477
And I was like, oh, she's pretty as shit.

645
00:24:04.497 --> 00:24:05.998
Like she got a banging ass body.

646
00:24:06.038 --> 00:24:07.639
You know, this bitch can't be real.

647
00:24:09.040 --> 00:24:13.946
So we started conversing, like texting back and forth, you know, via the app, right?

648
00:24:15.127 --> 00:24:19.132
And I was under the impression that I was going to meet this young lady maybe like two weeks later.

649
00:24:23.820 --> 00:24:31.845
So just as I thought I was going to meet the individual that I was dealing with at the time goes, oh, yeah, where are you going tonight?

650
00:24:31.865 --> 00:24:35.047
And I was like, oh, I'm going to dinner with, you know, whatever the child name was.

651
00:24:36.068 --> 00:24:38.089
And he goes, no, you're not.

652
00:24:38.709 --> 00:24:39.210
And I was like.

653
00:24:40.265 --> 00:24:40.485
What?

654
00:24:40.505 --> 00:24:42.266
Because he never was like that.

655
00:24:42.386 --> 00:24:45.468
He wasn't that type of person that's going to be like, oh, no, you're not going to dinner or not.

656
00:24:45.508 --> 00:24:48.629
He wasn't controlling by far like a sweetheart.

657
00:24:48.690 --> 00:24:50.631
So he I was a bit confused.

658
00:24:50.891 --> 00:24:52.672
I was taking it back because we're talking to.

659
00:24:53.132 --> 00:24:54.833
I'm going with this fine ass shit.

660
00:24:57.234 --> 00:24:58.135
I am going tonight.

661
00:24:58.155 --> 00:25:05.579
OK. And he was like, well, no, you're not, because he flips the phone around and was like, were you meeting her?

662
00:25:05.599 --> 00:25:05.699
Yeah.

663
00:25:06.599 --> 00:25:09.088
And I was like, how the fuck do you know that?

664
00:25:09.610 --> 00:25:10.673
He was like, oh, because that was me.

665
00:25:12.715 --> 00:25:14.516
Girl, when I tell you... Baby!

666
00:25:15.457 --> 00:25:16.318
I was sitting there.

667
00:25:16.338 --> 00:25:17.519
I was floored.

668
00:25:17.659 --> 00:25:18.419
And I don't even know...

669
00:25:18.439 --> 00:25:20.341
I don't even recall the conversation that we had.

670
00:25:20.801 --> 00:25:21.722
Because I was so...

671
00:25:22.542 --> 00:25:24.504
I was more like, what the fuck?

672
00:25:24.524 --> 00:25:26.145
First of all, why are you on the fucking app?

673
00:25:26.205 --> 00:25:27.586
Are you catfishing other women?

674
00:25:27.606 --> 00:25:29.447
Because I'm a bit confused on why the fuck are you on this?

675
00:25:29.467 --> 00:25:30.328
My flabber is argastic.

676
00:25:30.468 --> 00:25:31.048
Yes!

677
00:25:31.188 --> 00:25:32.189
I mean, really.

678
00:25:32.209 --> 00:25:33.850
Because I'm like, what the fuck?

679
00:25:33.870 --> 00:25:37.773
Like, why are you on this app with these women?

680
00:25:37.953 --> 00:25:40.035
And this was a man that I'm speaking about.

681
00:25:40.775 --> 00:25:40.976
Um...

682
00:25:41.796 --> 00:25:45.419
And what the fuck made you like... Whose pictures are these?

683
00:25:45.599 --> 00:25:47.761
That's the first question because she was fine as fuck.

684
00:25:47.781 --> 00:25:49.922
You know, I haven't even asked that.

685
00:25:49.962 --> 00:25:51.404
Like, I'm really...

686
00:25:51.464 --> 00:25:52.685
I'm just like, where's this girl at?

687
00:25:52.705 --> 00:25:54.626
Because, I mean, shit, you ain't bring her ass here.

688
00:25:54.646 --> 00:25:56.928
I mean, I would have been right at the door.

689
00:25:57.008 --> 00:25:57.588
Right.

690
00:25:57.668 --> 00:25:58.369
Do you know this bitch?

691
00:25:58.389 --> 00:26:02.272
Because, I mean, I would have showed up like, hey, she could have just came to the house if you know her.

692
00:26:03.413 --> 00:26:04.714
Like, damn.

693
00:26:04.734 --> 00:26:05.975
Like, I mean, she was gorgeous.

694
00:26:07.039 --> 00:26:08.120
But that was the worst.

695
00:26:08.721 --> 00:26:10.763
I think that right there was, and you know what?

696
00:26:10.863 --> 00:26:17.289
If now that I think about it, everything that happened after that was probably why I have PTSD.

697
00:26:17.389 --> 00:26:18.250
About being catfish.

698
00:26:18.490 --> 00:26:18.790
Yes!

699
00:26:18.870 --> 00:26:20.051
It made so much sense.

700
00:26:20.592 --> 00:26:24.756
Because now you're, I mean, at this point, I would be like, yeah, you just really never know who the fuck you're talking to.

701
00:26:24.856 --> 00:26:29.680
Literally, you be talking to the motherfucker that you laying right next to, and you sitting here playing with me.

702
00:26:29.760 --> 00:26:29.960
Why?

703
00:26:29.980 --> 00:26:30.060
Why?

704
00:26:30.841 --> 00:26:32.362
That's like, where was the end goal?

705
00:26:32.822 --> 00:26:33.363
I don't know.

706
00:26:33.383 --> 00:26:34.083
I don't know.

707
00:26:34.183 --> 00:26:37.145
And now that we're talking about it, I'm going to have to ask.

708
00:26:37.245 --> 00:26:40.206
Because that person and I are still very close.

709
00:26:40.386 --> 00:26:41.587
And I'm just going to have to.

710
00:26:41.647 --> 00:26:44.409
I'm going to have to pull the button and go, what the fuck was you thinking?

711
00:26:44.429 --> 00:26:45.609
So you did that shit you did?

712
00:26:45.669 --> 00:26:46.330
Yes.

713
00:26:46.350 --> 00:26:46.670
Can you?

714
00:26:46.970 --> 00:26:47.850
tell me what the fuck your point was.

715
00:26:47.870 --> 00:26:48.910
And can you find them pictures again?

716
00:26:48.930 --> 00:26:51.151
Because them pictures, I have got to show Coco.

717
00:26:51.171 --> 00:26:51.331
Okay?

718
00:26:51.931 --> 00:26:53.712
Because she was gorgeous.

719
00:26:53.732 --> 00:26:55.172
She was super, super cute.

720
00:26:55.192 --> 00:26:56.792
And then I like red bones and stuff.

721
00:26:56.812 --> 00:26:57.612
So I'm just like, okay.

722
00:26:57.632 --> 00:26:58.613
And there's no in between.

723
00:26:59.193 --> 00:27:05.154
I mean, I mean, I like, there is no, well, I guess there is a gray area for me because I like my chocolate drops like you.

724
00:27:05.494 --> 00:27:07.095
And then I like my red girls too.

725
00:27:07.175 --> 00:27:09.055
So I'm just like, I'm just a girl's girl.

726
00:27:09.615 --> 00:27:11.156
So like, if you a vibe, it's a vibe.

727
00:27:11.176 --> 00:27:12.236
And she's like, she's going to be a vibe.

728
00:27:12.256 --> 00:27:13.736
And it was talking like she was a vibe.

729
00:27:13.756 --> 00:27:16.657
But I mean, it's easy to talk like you're a vibe to me if you know me.

730
00:27:17.177 --> 00:27:18.418
Yes.

731
00:27:18.699 --> 00:27:19.760
That was very manipulative.

732
00:27:20.280 --> 00:27:22.582
So that's my little horror story for the day.

733
00:27:22.662 --> 00:27:23.783
But that's the only one I have.

734
00:27:23.803 --> 00:27:25.285
But I now know and recognize.

735
00:27:25.305 --> 00:27:25.625
Look at that.

736
00:27:25.645 --> 00:27:26.826
Y'all done helped me heal through the DM.

737
00:27:27.106 --> 00:27:27.587
You see that?

738
00:27:28.087 --> 00:27:28.708
New conversation.

739
00:27:28.848 --> 00:27:29.508
Yes.

740
00:27:29.929 --> 00:27:30.790
You got to talk, guys.

741
00:27:31.170 --> 00:27:34.513
Because I'm really sitting here like, why was I terrified in PTSD?

742
00:27:34.533 --> 00:27:35.714
Because, I mean, think about it.

743
00:27:35.794 --> 00:27:41.519
Even with DMs and stuff like that, I've met people that I have been, not intentionally, but just like I've been out and about.

744
00:27:41.539 --> 00:27:43.041
And people are like, oh, I follow you on Instagram.

745
00:27:43.061 --> 00:27:43.441
And I'm like, hey.

746
00:27:43.581 --> 00:27:45.781
hey, boo, and, you know, give a hug and all the things.

747
00:27:45.821 --> 00:27:49.902
And I'm just like, there's no difference in dating apps and meeting people that way.

748
00:27:49.942 --> 00:27:50.923
So, okay, let's do it.

749
00:27:50.943 --> 00:27:51.303
Why not?

750
00:27:51.323 --> 00:27:52.023
I'm open to it.

751
00:27:52.043 --> 00:27:52.643
It is what it is.

752
00:27:54.663 --> 00:27:55.764
But I think that that's why I have PCSD.

753
00:27:55.924 --> 00:27:57.544
It makes a whole lot of sense.

754
00:27:57.804 --> 00:27:58.304
It does.

755
00:27:58.324 --> 00:27:58.864
That's fair.

756
00:27:59.244 --> 00:27:59.624
Yes.

757
00:28:00.184 --> 00:28:00.805
What about you?

758
00:28:00.845 --> 00:28:03.165
Do you have any horror stories from this?

759
00:28:03.385 --> 00:28:05.986
I know you don't have none like mine, girl, because that shit right there.

760
00:28:06.006 --> 00:28:09.646
Yeah, I've never, yeah, it's never that deep.

761
00:28:13.578 --> 00:28:15.319
I mean, I would say small stuff.

762
00:28:15.359 --> 00:28:18.102
Like, my partner and I were getting to know this girl.

763
00:28:18.542 --> 00:28:20.663
And, you know, it seems so cool.

764
00:28:21.444 --> 00:28:21.984
You know me.

765
00:28:22.065 --> 00:28:25.988
I always have my apprehensions about people.

766
00:28:26.048 --> 00:28:27.289
And I'd be like, eh.

767
00:28:28.269 --> 00:28:30.311
But she was just, like, overly confident.

768
00:28:30.471 --> 00:28:32.753
She was, like, you know, really trying to sell herself.

769
00:28:32.793 --> 00:28:37.336
And what's odd to me is she did send us a couple of pictures.

770
00:28:37.356 --> 00:28:39.278
And we was like, oh, she got a cute little body.

771
00:28:39.298 --> 00:28:39.978
You know, she's cute.

772
00:28:39.998 --> 00:28:40.519
Whatever, whatever.

773
00:28:40.539 --> 00:28:40.739
Whatever.

774
00:28:42.714 --> 00:28:46.517
So we go to FaceTime her for the first time.

775
00:28:46.537 --> 00:28:47.338
Okay.

776
00:28:48.599 --> 00:28:51.481
And... Was this a scheduled FaceTime or y'all just bust through the phone?

777
00:28:51.521 --> 00:28:52.121
It was scheduled.

778
00:28:52.362 --> 00:28:53.523
Oh, okay.

779
00:28:53.903 --> 00:28:58.186
Because we wanted to like kind of go in layers or go in levels.

780
00:28:58.226 --> 00:28:59.988
Okay, we've talked on the phone.

781
00:29:00.908 --> 00:29:04.031
We've done most of our messages are voice messages.

782
00:29:04.091 --> 00:29:05.492
So it feels very intimate.

783
00:29:05.512 --> 00:29:07.313
We're like really getting to know each other.

784
00:29:07.333 --> 00:29:07.654
Yeah.

785
00:29:08.414 --> 00:29:13.856
And we're like, okay, well, before we actually sit down and go on a date, like, you know, let's do a FaceTime call.

786
00:29:13.876 --> 00:29:16.056
And I'm actually so glad we did that.

787
00:29:16.517 --> 00:29:17.117
Oh, honey.

788
00:29:17.137 --> 00:29:18.917
Because normally we'll be like, let's just meet somewhere.

789
00:29:18.977 --> 00:29:19.657
Let's do a taco too.

790
00:29:19.677 --> 00:29:20.798
Because we don't like pen pals.

791
00:29:20.818 --> 00:29:24.299
I ain't going to sit here and talk to you all a goddamn day or text you all, like, for months at a time.

792
00:29:24.339 --> 00:29:25.139
We're just not going to do that.

793
00:29:25.219 --> 00:29:26.319
Like, who has time for that shit?

794
00:29:26.680 --> 00:29:27.380
I understand.

795
00:29:27.540 --> 00:29:27.900
So...

796
00:29:29.342 --> 00:29:30.683
She said, let's meet for tacos, y'all.

797
00:29:30.703 --> 00:29:33.145
It probably would have been Pico de Gallo flying in here.

798
00:29:33.165 --> 00:29:34.045
Okay.

799
00:29:34.305 --> 00:29:34.385
Yes!

800
00:29:34.485 --> 00:29:36.327
I was hollering.

801
00:29:36.527 --> 00:29:38.868
Guacamole in places that didn't belong.

802
00:29:39.368 --> 00:29:39.829
Okay.

803
00:29:40.009 --> 00:29:42.390
I'm screaming.

804
00:29:43.231 --> 00:29:44.532
How did this FaceTime go?

805
00:29:46.783 --> 00:29:49.105
Um, so we were kind of preparing for bed.

806
00:29:49.165 --> 00:29:50.946
So it was kind of dark in our room.

807
00:29:51.687 --> 00:29:53.748
Um, and we're like on a FaceTime with her.

808
00:29:53.988 --> 00:29:57.431
And because it's dark, I'm not sure how well she could see our faces.

809
00:29:58.452 --> 00:29:59.673
Um, but we kind of.

810
00:29:59.693 --> 00:30:00.333
They said it all.

811
00:30:00.373 --> 00:30:01.914
We both kind of froze.

812
00:30:02.175 --> 00:30:02.775
Cause we're like.

813
00:30:04.776 --> 00:30:05.477
Froze?

814
00:30:06.258 --> 00:30:06.758
Cause we're like.

815
00:30:08.022 --> 00:30:08.582
This don't...

816
00:30:08.602 --> 00:30:09.163
But we're...

817
00:30:09.243 --> 00:30:12.124
I mean, he and I are both... We have a lot of koof.

818
00:30:13.405 --> 00:30:16.707
You know, we don't... We're able to... And we're nice people.

819
00:30:16.727 --> 00:30:17.747
We're not mean people.

820
00:30:18.128 --> 00:30:18.368
Right.

821
00:30:18.408 --> 00:30:18.968
So...

822
00:30:19.048 --> 00:30:19.849
I agree.

823
00:30:20.629 --> 00:30:24.671
We get off the phone with her and we're like... We both... We stop.

824
00:30:25.112 --> 00:30:26.432
We're literally the same person, y'all.

825
00:30:26.452 --> 00:30:27.713
We literally all the same person.

826
00:30:28.073 --> 00:30:30.234
We stop and we both look at each other.

827
00:30:32.576 --> 00:30:33.796
I can only imagine.

828
00:30:33.836 --> 00:30:36.278
Like, if that were me on the other side of the phone, I'd be like...

829
00:30:37.397 --> 00:30:37.918
What?

830
00:30:37.938 --> 00:30:38.619
What's up, y'all?

831
00:30:38.679 --> 00:30:39.880
Yeah, y'all okay?

832
00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:40.621
What's wrong?

833
00:30:41.222 --> 00:30:43.164
She did not look like her pictures.

834
00:30:43.225 --> 00:30:44.726
She looked like... Any of them?

835
00:30:46.208 --> 00:30:47.210
So her similar...

836
00:30:47.250 --> 00:30:51.835
Her features were similar to her pictures, but they looked like she took them like 10 years ago.

837
00:30:52.616 --> 00:30:53.357
Maybe the makeup.

838
00:30:53.678 --> 00:30:54.319
Was it makeup?

839
00:30:54.819 --> 00:30:55.220
Well...

840
00:30:56.895 --> 00:31:01.579
The makeup wasn't great in the pictures, but I look past that because I know not everybody is a makeup artist.

841
00:31:01.880 --> 00:31:02.180
Right.

842
00:31:02.340 --> 00:31:03.941
If you can, like, get away with a little something.

843
00:31:04.302 --> 00:31:05.723
But she had, like, these anime eyebrows.

844
00:31:06.464 --> 00:31:07.465
But some people like anime.

845
00:31:07.745 --> 00:31:11.268
So I'm not going to judge her for her anime eyebrows.

846
00:31:11.729 --> 00:31:18.515
But she just did not look like... She looked like the girl in the picture's mother.

847
00:31:19.983 --> 00:31:20.583
In my opinion.

848
00:31:20.783 --> 00:31:25.525
She looked like that could have been her daughter or like her younger cousin or some shit.

849
00:31:25.565 --> 00:31:30.808
Like she just looked so much older than the pictures that... She looked like what she been through.

850
00:31:31.808 --> 00:31:32.408
Oh, yeah.

851
00:31:33.509 --> 00:31:34.189
That's what that is.

852
00:31:34.249 --> 00:31:34.750
Yeah.

853
00:31:34.850 --> 00:31:35.970
She looked like what she been through.

854
00:31:36.010 --> 00:31:36.630
Bless her heart.

855
00:31:36.650 --> 00:31:37.291
I'm sorry.

856
00:31:37.331 --> 00:31:40.172
Because she seemed like she was sweet, but she was a little like...

857
00:31:41.546 --> 00:31:43.927
She was a little cocky or like overly confident.

858
00:31:44.208 --> 00:31:53.633
But I think I excuse that because I know how it can be intimidating coming into a situation that's already established.

859
00:31:54.434 --> 00:31:58.737
So I was like, maybe she's just compensating for, you know, that.

860
00:32:01.098 --> 00:32:09.023
That not fear, but that maybe a little bit of anxiety of, you know, coming into something already established.

861
00:32:09.043 --> 00:32:09.303
So.

862
00:32:10.264 --> 00:32:11.685
Not recognizing and realizing.

863
00:32:11.705 --> 00:32:20.613
If you are coming into something that's already established and it's a healthy establishment, I think you should be grateful in that sense, in my opinion.

864
00:32:20.633 --> 00:32:26.098
Because if I were coming into something and it was very, very weary or heavy or, you know.

865
00:32:26.138 --> 00:32:27.300
You could just feel their problems.

866
00:32:27.380 --> 00:32:27.740
Yes.

867
00:32:27.880 --> 00:32:30.863
I could just feel because I'm such an energy person, so I'm going to feel it.

868
00:32:30.883 --> 00:32:32.625
I'm going to be like, what is this?

869
00:32:33.045 --> 00:32:35.067
Like, I'm not here to fix your problems, honey.

870
00:32:35.087 --> 00:32:35.167
Yes.

871
00:32:35.367 --> 00:32:35.807
Y'all cool?

872
00:32:35.827 --> 00:32:37.789
You know, four of mine on my own.

873
00:32:37.949 --> 00:32:38.750
Is y'all cool?

874
00:32:38.990 --> 00:32:40.131
Like, fix it.

875
00:32:40.151 --> 00:32:40.892
Y'all all right?

876
00:32:40.932 --> 00:32:43.294
Because shit, I think y'all need to sit down first and then we can have it.

877
00:32:43.314 --> 00:32:45.936
But somebody coming in and everybody's stable, I think that that'd be a beautiful thing.

878
00:32:46.337 --> 00:32:49.059
Okay, so how did the conversation, did you guys have the conversation?

879
00:32:49.079 --> 00:32:49.659
Did she hang up?

880
00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:52.102
Did she get kind of, like, was she taking it back?

881
00:32:52.122 --> 00:32:52.842
Was she offended?

882
00:32:54.003 --> 00:32:56.245
Was she the mama and the pictures wasn't her?

883
00:32:56.385 --> 00:32:56.926
What happened?

884
00:32:57.646 --> 00:33:01.690
I mean, we did eventually let her know that, you know, we don't see the situation going any further.

885
00:33:04.833 --> 00:33:20.936
she might have been I love how y'all can next the bitch excuse me like I just I absolutely love that okay like next this is this is not gonna work and you see how she she has all the coof in the world cause my ass the ghetto in me probably would have came out like bitch now you know damn well

886
00:33:21.577 --> 00:33:23.277
You don't look like them damn pictures.

887
00:33:23.297 --> 00:33:28.118
The old me that didn't communicate and didn't give a fuck about your feelings would have just ghosted the bitch.

888
00:33:28.138 --> 00:33:28.778
I'm not going to lie.

889
00:33:28.798 --> 00:33:31.139
Like, the old me was not cool.

890
00:33:31.719 --> 00:33:33.019
It's not cool to ghost people.

891
00:33:33.299 --> 00:33:33.679
Yeah.

892
00:33:33.699 --> 00:33:38.820
And, you know, once I saw a few things about that, I was like, damn, I really do be doing that shit.

893
00:33:38.840 --> 00:33:39.760
That's kind of fucked up.

894
00:33:40.020 --> 00:33:42.161
Yeah, let me do unto others what I want done to me.

895
00:33:42.221 --> 00:33:43.681
So I definitely, definitely respect that.

896
00:33:43.701 --> 00:33:44.421
And that takes growth.

897
00:33:44.801 --> 00:33:49.282
But one person that we decided wasn't going to work out with...

898
00:33:51.737 --> 00:33:58.819
We thought that letting her know that was the right thing, to let her know that we decided to go in a different direction or whatever.

899
00:33:58.899 --> 00:33:59.299
Yeah.

900
00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:07.200
She got upset and basically blamed the whole thing on me, said, I know that it's her fault.

901
00:34:07.300 --> 00:34:12.641
I know it's her that's probably saying that she doesn't want to move forward or not allowing things to move forward.

902
00:34:13.162 --> 00:34:19.683
Blocked me and then wrote this whole fucking Dear John letter to him.

903
00:34:21.398 --> 00:34:22.359
Oh, yeah, no.

904
00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:23.879
As if he wasn't going to tell me.

905
00:34:24.620 --> 00:34:25.760
Yeah, this is my partner.

906
00:34:26.000 --> 00:34:33.744
Bitch, for those who might be in the future watching this that we may or may not be interested in or may or may not go on a date with.

907
00:34:34.005 --> 00:34:34.485
Right.

908
00:34:34.665 --> 00:34:35.625
This is the us thing.

909
00:34:36.066 --> 00:34:36.646
I know that's right.

910
00:34:36.666 --> 00:34:39.387
Don't think that you're going to drop in the DMs and I'm not going to know about it.

911
00:34:39.607 --> 00:34:39.908
Yeah.

912
00:34:39.948 --> 00:34:40.448
Just don't.

913
00:34:40.468 --> 00:34:40.948
That part.

914
00:34:41.208 --> 00:34:42.429
Because I might have sent his ass.

915
00:34:44.610 --> 00:34:45.230
There's that.

916
00:34:45.470 --> 00:34:45.931
That part.

917
00:34:46.071 --> 00:34:47.231
That's insane.

918
00:34:47.511 --> 00:34:49.733
Bitch, crazy as a motherfucker.

919
00:34:50.173 --> 00:34:50.253
Oh.

920
00:34:51.433 --> 00:34:51.893
Yeah, no.

921
00:34:51.913 --> 00:34:54.214
So it sounds like you dodged a bullet with that one.

922
00:34:54.274 --> 00:34:54.474
Yeah.

923
00:34:54.594 --> 00:34:55.194
Emotionally unstable.

924
00:34:55.214 --> 00:34:55.675
With both.

925
00:34:55.695 --> 00:34:56.055
Unstable.

926
00:34:56.195 --> 00:34:56.615
With both.

927
00:34:56.955 --> 00:34:57.375
Yeah, no.

928
00:34:57.395 --> 00:35:00.656
We can't do no emotionally unstable creatures.

929
00:35:01.597 --> 00:35:01.817
Mm-hmm.

930
00:35:02.157 --> 00:35:03.197
We don't need any of that.

931
00:35:03.357 --> 00:35:06.179
I'm sure we've had some other dating app horror stories.

932
00:35:06.199 --> 00:35:06.499
I just...

933
00:35:06.659 --> 00:35:08.119
Nothing is coming to mind right now.

934
00:35:08.199 --> 00:35:08.619
Yeah.

935
00:35:09.700 --> 00:35:10.020
But...

936
00:35:12.221 --> 00:35:12.681
I like that.

937
00:35:12.741 --> 00:35:13.321
It came to mind.

938
00:35:13.421 --> 00:35:15.122
Outside... Way back.

939
00:35:15.522 --> 00:35:15.862
Okay.

940
00:35:15.882 --> 00:35:16.642
Way, way back.

941
00:35:16.722 --> 00:35:17.463
I'm going to say...

942
00:35:18.471 --> 00:35:20.272
Probably about 10 years ago now.

943
00:35:20.392 --> 00:35:22.294
Yeah, because 10 years ago, apps was popping.

944
00:35:22.474 --> 00:35:24.015
That's when they was popping.

945
00:35:24.035 --> 00:35:25.496
I met the view on Tag.

946
00:35:25.856 --> 00:35:26.096
Okay.

947
00:35:26.476 --> 00:35:34.742
First of all, I went from no dating apps because, let's just be clear, I was in a relationship from 16 to 23, so I came off the porch green as a bitch.

948
00:35:35.122 --> 00:35:35.562
Oh, shit.

949
00:35:35.582 --> 00:35:38.684
Didn't know shit, and I was, like, kind of scared to get back out there.

950
00:35:38.705 --> 00:35:42.327
Didn't really know how to date, and this older girl that I was working with was like,

951
00:35:42.507 --> 00:35:43.688
Girl, why don't you try dating apps?

952
00:35:43.708 --> 00:35:44.929
So she introduced me to dating apps.

953
00:35:44.949 --> 00:35:46.710
And after that, girl, I was just on the apps.

954
00:35:46.770 --> 00:35:49.152
Because, I mean, you can't be a pen pal until you're comfortable.

955
00:35:49.212 --> 00:35:51.053
So it felt like a safe space.

956
00:35:52.594 --> 00:35:53.375
I meet this guy.

957
00:35:55.279 --> 00:35:59.220
And, you know, back then, we was just like, I was a heavy smoker.

958
00:35:59.340 --> 00:36:04.981
So, and my homegirls and I had an apartment together that we called the Queendom.

959
00:36:06.021 --> 00:36:08.482
Oh, girl, we about to get one of them too, y'all.

960
00:36:09.022 --> 00:36:10.082
Okay, Queendom.

961
00:36:10.102 --> 00:36:11.102
Cheers to that.

962
00:36:11.122 --> 00:36:11.522
Yes, Queendom.

963
00:36:11.982 --> 00:36:12.343
Love it.

964
00:36:12.383 --> 00:36:17.424
So, you know, people that lived there, we had their niggas come through.

965
00:36:17.984 --> 00:36:20.324
Niggas would spark a niggas, smoke, bring a bottle.

966
00:36:20.724 --> 00:36:21.744
It was that kind of vibe.

967
00:36:21.784 --> 00:36:22.164
I love it.

968
00:36:22.225 --> 00:36:23.225
And we always just kicking it.

969
00:36:23.265 --> 00:36:24.125
Everybody hanging out.

970
00:36:25.072 --> 00:36:27.373
So I think I had him come through one time.

971
00:36:27.453 --> 00:36:27.993
I think we did.

972
00:36:28.033 --> 00:36:28.373
Okay.

973
00:36:28.413 --> 00:36:29.373
I think we went on a date.

974
00:36:30.393 --> 00:36:33.074
And then our second encounter, I had him come through the queendom.

975
00:36:34.314 --> 00:36:34.594
Come on.

976
00:36:34.654 --> 00:36:34.934
Come through.

977
00:36:34.954 --> 00:36:37.035
We're going to smoke, you know, bring a bottle, whatever, whatever.

978
00:36:37.115 --> 00:36:37.435
Yeah.

979
00:36:37.535 --> 00:36:39.696
Mind you, it's four women living in this house.

980
00:36:40.336 --> 00:36:40.596
Okay.

981
00:36:40.876 --> 00:36:44.277
So, yeah, you know, make sure you bring enough.

982
00:36:44.777 --> 00:36:45.697
Yeah, for everybody.

983
00:36:45.717 --> 00:36:46.137
For everybody.

984
00:36:46.157 --> 00:36:47.097
Mm-hmm.

985
00:36:47.818 --> 00:36:48.678
So we kick it.

986
00:36:48.718 --> 00:36:49.278
We chill.

987
00:36:49.638 --> 00:36:50.358
Have a good time.

988
00:36:51.078 --> 00:36:51.618
Nothing of it.

989
00:36:52.299 --> 00:36:53.719
Mind you, that's only two encounters.

990
00:36:54.412 --> 00:36:54.772
Okay.

991
00:36:55.793 --> 00:36:58.034
I started getting random text messages from him.

992
00:36:59.956 --> 00:37:02.197
He just randomly started sending me pictures of his son.

993
00:37:05.259 --> 00:37:05.540
Yeah.

994
00:37:06.380 --> 00:37:07.261
That was my face, too.

995
00:37:07.281 --> 00:37:08.762
And I was like, I don't know what to do with this.

996
00:37:08.982 --> 00:37:09.382
Yeah.

997
00:37:09.462 --> 00:37:10.923
This is giving weird.

998
00:37:11.063 --> 00:37:11.323
Okay.

999
00:37:11.363 --> 00:37:12.424
That was my first.

1000
00:37:12.484 --> 00:37:13.245
That was the red flag.

1001
00:37:13.265 --> 00:37:14.045
Where is the mama?

1002
00:37:14.165 --> 00:37:17.628
Maybe you should send a picture to her.

1003
00:37:17.668 --> 00:37:18.428
Nice outfit.

1004
00:37:18.468 --> 00:37:19.049
Cute baby.

1005
00:37:19.069 --> 00:37:20.249
Such a cute baby.

1006
00:37:20.390 --> 00:37:20.890
Okay.

1007
00:37:21.050 --> 00:37:21.650
Awkward as fuck.

1008
00:37:21.730 --> 00:37:22.131
Okay.

1009
00:37:22.391 --> 00:37:22.651
Yeah.

1010
00:37:22.671 --> 00:37:23.432
I don't know what to do with this.

1011
00:37:23.512 --> 00:37:23.612
Okay.

1012
00:37:23.632 --> 00:37:23.792
Okay.

1013
00:37:24.272 --> 00:37:27.694
So, moving forward, I ended up...

1014
00:37:27.714 --> 00:37:30.295
I don't know why, he just kind of fell off, but at that time, I had niggas.

1015
00:37:30.315 --> 00:37:30.996
I didn't give a...

1016
00:37:31.036 --> 00:37:34.417
He was just another nigga that I was talking to that was coming through the smoke and sparking everybody up.

1017
00:37:34.457 --> 00:37:35.538
Like, it wasn't that deep to me.

1018
00:37:35.658 --> 00:37:36.318
Yeah, for sure.

1019
00:37:36.939 --> 00:37:37.259
So...

1020
00:37:40.396 --> 00:37:41.057
Out of nowhere.

1021
00:37:41.097 --> 00:37:42.758
And I, like, months go by.

1022
00:37:43.018 --> 00:37:44.459
And I'm just, I haven't talked to him.

1023
00:37:44.499 --> 00:37:46.461
I just decided I wasn't interested.

1024
00:37:46.481 --> 00:37:47.121
I can't remember.

1025
00:37:47.161 --> 00:37:48.482
I think it was the son that threw me off.

1026
00:37:48.502 --> 00:37:49.623
Him sending me pictures of his son.

1027
00:37:49.643 --> 00:37:50.304
That shit threw me off.

1028
00:37:50.324 --> 00:37:51.725
At this point, I'm like 25.

1029
00:37:51.765 --> 00:37:54.627
Mind you, I didn't have my son until I was 34.

1030
00:37:55.227 --> 00:37:55.868
35 years old.

1031
00:37:55.888 --> 00:37:57.029
Oh, yeah, 34.

1032
00:37:57.549 --> 00:38:00.231
So, kids 10 years ago, you really throwing me off.

1033
00:38:00.471 --> 00:38:00.811
Yeah.

1034
00:38:01.672 --> 00:38:02.393
Making me itch.

1035
00:38:03.153 --> 00:38:03.894
You throwing me off.

1036
00:38:04.054 --> 00:38:05.135
Even though I was a mom 10 years ago.

1037
00:38:05.275 --> 00:38:06.035
So...

1038
00:38:08.945 --> 00:38:10.166
But mind you, I haven't even met you.

1039
00:38:10.186 --> 00:38:10.787
It's just weird.

1040
00:38:10.967 --> 00:38:11.888
Yes, I agree.

1041
00:38:13.831 --> 00:38:16.714
Months go by and somebody started playing on my phone.

1042
00:38:17.935 --> 00:38:18.596
Like a kid.

1043
00:38:18.716 --> 00:38:22.180
I'm starting to get like random dick pics.

1044
00:38:23.321 --> 00:38:24.463
Like from different numbers.

1045
00:38:24.483 --> 00:38:24.583
Like.

1046
00:38:26.065 --> 00:38:27.846
Different numbers is crazy.

1047
00:38:28.587 --> 00:38:29.287
Random dick pics.

1048
00:38:29.327 --> 00:38:31.129
And I'm like, ayo, this is weird as shit.

1049
00:38:31.169 --> 00:38:31.909
It was the same dick?

1050
00:38:31.929 --> 00:38:32.790
Who the fuck is this?

1051
00:38:32.810 --> 00:38:35.051
I would have been in that joint analyzing the dick.

1052
00:38:35.111 --> 00:38:36.712
I'm like trying to look at the angles.

1053
00:38:36.733 --> 00:38:37.913
It's a mole here.

1054
00:38:37.993 --> 00:38:38.934
It's the same mole.

1055
00:38:38.954 --> 00:38:39.875
It's the same dick.

1056
00:38:40.155 --> 00:38:43.017
At this point, I never seen his dick because I only met this nigga twice.

1057
00:38:43.457 --> 00:38:44.578
I don't know what the fuck I'm looking at.

1058
00:38:44.918 --> 00:38:45.719
Right.

1059
00:38:46.499 --> 00:38:47.940
Oh, he said, this is what she was missing.

1060
00:38:48.120 --> 00:38:49.962
And I sent you that baby because of her...

1061
00:38:50.242 --> 00:38:51.042
I was trying to make one.

1062
00:38:51.062 --> 00:38:51.563
Yeah.

1063
00:38:51.603 --> 00:38:53.404
Bitch, please.

1064
00:38:53.864 --> 00:38:54.425
So...

1065
00:38:56.110 --> 00:39:01.974
One night, somebody's calling my phone, and they're calling from an unknown number.

1066
00:39:01.994 --> 00:39:04.416
So I'm like, hello?

1067
00:39:06.117 --> 00:39:08.579
They can get the, like, moaning and breathing on the phone.

1068
00:39:09.319 --> 00:39:10.360
Literally, like, moaning.

1069
00:39:11.041 --> 00:39:12.141
Like, phone sex moaning?

1070
00:39:12.162 --> 00:39:12.462
Yes.

1071
00:39:14.511 --> 00:39:15.932
Bitch, I'm so creeped out.

1072
00:39:16.012 --> 00:39:17.153
I'm like, what the fuck?

1073
00:39:17.173 --> 00:39:19.455
Now, this shit goes on for like a month, right?

1074
00:39:19.915 --> 00:39:21.276
So you hang up, I'm assuming.

1075
00:39:21.296 --> 00:39:23.037
Yeah, and they kept calling back from unknown.

1076
00:39:23.057 --> 00:39:24.018
I just, I didn't answer anymore.

1077
00:39:24.038 --> 00:39:26.480
Because by that point, I am creeped the fuck out.

1078
00:39:26.500 --> 00:39:27.621
I'm already getting dick pics.

1079
00:39:27.901 --> 00:39:28.401
Yes.

1080
00:39:28.441 --> 00:39:29.422
I'm freaked the fuck out.

1081
00:39:29.522 --> 00:39:31.644
Now you haven't found sex with yourself because I'm not even turned on.

1082
00:39:31.664 --> 00:39:33.285
I don't even know who the fuck this is.

1083
00:39:33.465 --> 00:39:34.506
Throw me so off.

1084
00:39:35.507 --> 00:39:40.030
So I get this last dick pic.

1085
00:39:42.265 --> 00:39:43.886
And at this point, I'm looking at the angles.

1086
00:39:43.946 --> 00:39:44.506
I'm zooming in.

1087
00:39:44.526 --> 00:39:45.987
I'm trying to figure out what the fuck is going on.

1088
00:39:46.027 --> 00:39:47.728
And I see some dreads, some locks.

1089
00:39:48.208 --> 00:39:48.788
Ooh.

1090
00:39:48.808 --> 00:39:49.929
All the way down to here.

1091
00:39:50.009 --> 00:39:50.969
And the guy had locks.

1092
00:39:51.069 --> 00:39:54.291
Only no one motherfucker with locks down his fucking back like that.

1093
00:39:55.392 --> 00:39:57.853
I said, motherfucker, I know who this is.

1094
00:39:57.913 --> 00:39:59.113
I will call the, I said his name.

1095
00:39:59.393 --> 00:40:00.934
I will call the motherfucking police on you.

1096
00:40:00.994 --> 00:40:01.755
I know it's you.

1097
00:40:02.075 --> 00:40:03.255
Yes, you are harassing me.

1098
00:40:03.275 --> 00:40:04.176
Ain't heard shit since.

1099
00:40:05.237 --> 00:40:06.798
That's insane.

1100
00:40:07.158 --> 00:40:08.358
You know, that's a real thing too, guys.

1101
00:40:08.378 --> 00:40:11.879
You know, you can no longer harass people, just FYI.

1102
00:40:12.279 --> 00:40:14.100
Because you can definitely get in trouble now.

1103
00:40:14.220 --> 00:40:19.742
So just be careful, you know, harassing these women and women harassing the men like you definitely.

1104
00:40:20.042 --> 00:40:23.323
And if the people want their phones and such, I think you should give it to them.

1105
00:40:23.343 --> 00:40:26.164
Because after I seen that little Tigger clip, I was very disturbed.

1106
00:40:26.204 --> 00:40:26.724
Help me.

1107
00:40:27.790 --> 00:40:28.010
Yeah.

1108
00:40:28.210 --> 00:40:29.011
It was the way that...

1109
00:40:29.191 --> 00:40:30.371
It was dramatics for me.

1110
00:40:30.411 --> 00:40:30.991
I thought they were acting.

1111
00:40:31.011 --> 00:40:33.472
Before the video came out, I was like, damn, he beat her ass like that.

1112
00:40:33.793 --> 00:40:36.173
And I'm thinking back to, what was her name?

1113
00:40:36.194 --> 00:40:36.774
Superhead.

1114
00:40:36.794 --> 00:40:39.455
When she was saying all this shit about him, I was like, maybe she was right.

1115
00:40:39.635 --> 00:40:42.196
Like, I'm jumping to all these conclusions.

1116
00:40:42.476 --> 00:40:44.237
And then I see the fucking video and I'm like,

1117
00:40:45.197 --> 00:40:46.338
I like Tigger.

1118
00:40:46.698 --> 00:41:00.383
I like Tigger too, but that shit- And I promise you, if you would've gave him that damn- First of all, you already went through the phone and bitch, you wasn't gonna leave, so would you- First of all, if somebody does all of that over a phone, everything you looking for is in that motherfucking phone, bitch.

1119
00:41:00.484 --> 00:41:01.804
Pack your shit and get the fuck out of there.

1120
00:41:01.824 --> 00:41:02.184
Just walk.

1121
00:41:02.224 --> 00:41:05.326
And the way he acted, it's some dick or some, what they call it?

1122
00:41:05.426 --> 00:41:06.206
Some boochie in it.

1123
00:41:06.886 --> 00:41:10.068
Boochie is fucking- Some boochie in that phone, bitch.

1124
00:41:10.088 --> 00:41:12.789
Boochie is about to have you choke in here.

1125
00:41:14.353 --> 00:41:16.194
Now there's some boochey in there.

1126
00:41:16.234 --> 00:41:19.276
There's some boochey in that phone, bitch.

1127
00:41:19.296 --> 00:41:21.077
The way he acted over that phone was nuts.

1128
00:41:21.117 --> 00:41:21.837
They should not have been...

1129
00:41:21.857 --> 00:41:22.658
He wanted his phone back.

1130
00:41:22.678 --> 00:41:24.279
You can't have your phone back, of course.

1131
00:41:24.299 --> 00:41:25.279
She should have never taken it.

1132
00:41:25.299 --> 00:41:26.240
She should have never touched this thing.

1133
00:41:26.260 --> 00:41:27.380
I agree, because that was his property.

1134
00:41:27.400 --> 00:41:30.202
But the way they escalated... Yeah, that was insane.

1135
00:41:30.242 --> 00:41:31.563
And then he was trying to take to the grave.

1136
00:41:31.803 --> 00:41:32.123
Yeah.

1137
00:41:32.143 --> 00:41:32.723
Okay.

1138
00:41:32.763 --> 00:41:34.184
And it should have been deleted, Tigger.

1139
00:41:34.604 --> 00:41:34.964
Yeah.

1140
00:41:35.004 --> 00:41:35.685
No shade.

1141
00:41:35.765 --> 00:41:36.625
No pun intended.

1142
00:41:36.665 --> 00:41:37.446
It should have been deleted.

1143
00:41:37.486 --> 00:41:38.146
It shouldn't have been in there.

1144
00:41:38.166 --> 00:41:39.327
You should have had your little bad phone pool.

1145
00:41:40.287 --> 00:41:41.488
Bat phone is crazy.

1146
00:41:41.548 --> 00:41:45.849
Little bat phone, put it in the arm brush or whatever.

1147
00:41:45.889 --> 00:41:47.290
Don't ask me how I know, okay?

1148
00:41:47.370 --> 00:41:48.150
Little bat phone.

1149
00:41:48.210 --> 00:41:50.931
Because, listen, I get it, okay?

1150
00:41:50.971 --> 00:41:54.493
I have good cousins, good, good girlfriends that be doing all the things.

1151
00:41:54.673 --> 00:41:55.113
But, again.

1152
00:41:56.312 --> 00:42:00.415
I don't believe in the sneaking and the lying and the deceit and the deception and all the things.

1153
00:42:00.435 --> 00:42:00.695
Yeah, no.

1154
00:42:00.715 --> 00:42:07.100
Because if you like boo-chee, she should know that and give her the option to whether she wants to deal with that or not.

1155
00:42:07.360 --> 00:42:08.320
However, she's not off the hook.

1156
00:42:08.360 --> 00:42:10.462
I know women that deal with men that know that they're getting boo-chee.

1157
00:42:10.782 --> 00:42:13.164
So I'm just like, I got a girlfriend who's married to one.

1158
00:42:13.804 --> 00:42:14.184
Yeah.

1159
00:42:14.525 --> 00:42:16.086
And she got cheated on.

1160
00:42:16.126 --> 00:42:17.987
And I asked her, you know, how did that feel?

1161
00:42:18.067 --> 00:42:20.589
Because it's different when you're getting cheated on for...

1162
00:42:21.885 --> 00:42:22.566
Bucci.

1163
00:42:23.366 --> 00:42:26.068
You know, like, it's not that you want to do me.

1164
00:42:26.088 --> 00:42:27.910
There's nothing wrong with me.

1165
00:42:28.090 --> 00:42:30.612
Yeah, you want, I can't compete with a man.

1166
00:42:30.732 --> 00:42:32.133
Yeah, I don't have what he has.

1167
00:42:32.353 --> 00:42:32.814
I agree.

1168
00:42:32.934 --> 00:42:33.714
Yeah.

1169
00:42:33.774 --> 00:42:35.916
So it just, yeah, it's different.

1170
00:42:35.936 --> 00:42:38.778
But they're married and, you know, have several kids and all the things.

1171
00:42:39.039 --> 00:42:41.140
And, yeah, whatever it is that works for you.

1172
00:42:41.160 --> 00:42:42.742
We listen and we don't judge, for sure.

1173
00:42:42.762 --> 00:42:44.023
We definitely, definitely believe in that.

1174
00:42:44.063 --> 00:42:45.624
But it's definitely crazy out here.

1175
00:42:45.644 --> 00:42:46.985
And there might have been some Bucci in there.

1176
00:42:47.465 --> 00:42:48.186
I believe so.

1177
00:42:48.486 --> 00:42:51.930
And because remember, Superhead did say some wild shit happened.

1178
00:42:51.970 --> 00:42:55.253
She mentioned in that book that she believed that he might have been sleeping with Mitch.

1179
00:42:56.113 --> 00:42:56.734
Hmm.

1180
00:42:56.994 --> 00:43:01.678
And the way that he acted over that phone, what she said instantly came to my head.

1181
00:43:02.259 --> 00:43:02.719
Ooh.

1182
00:43:02.880 --> 00:43:04.661
I was like, ooh, there's some boochie in there.

1183
00:43:04.681 --> 00:43:05.142
Boochie.

1184
00:43:06.120 --> 00:43:06.600
Look at that.

1185
00:43:06.620 --> 00:43:07.540
That's our word of the day.

1186
00:43:07.560 --> 00:43:08.761
Boochie.

1187
00:43:08.861 --> 00:43:09.541
Touchie.

1188
00:43:09.921 --> 00:43:10.861
Okay.

1189
00:43:11.321 --> 00:43:13.182
Oh, this is going right back.

1190
00:43:13.222 --> 00:43:14.022
That's the word of the day.

1191
00:43:14.082 --> 00:43:15.802
Actually, we do have a word of the day.

1192
00:43:15.842 --> 00:43:16.563
Yeah.

1193
00:43:16.763 --> 00:43:17.303
It's Boochie.

1194
00:43:20.403 --> 00:43:22.044
I just learned this fucking word.

1195
00:43:22.164 --> 00:43:23.324
I am definitely...

1196
00:43:23.764 --> 00:43:26.105
I'm always on TikTok.

1197
00:43:27.625 --> 00:43:31.167
And one of the guys from the community, he was like, oh, you thought you was going to get my Butchie Cat.

1198
00:43:32.167 --> 00:43:34.688
Butchie Cat is crazy.

1199
00:43:35.328 --> 00:43:36.508
Butchie Cat.

1200
00:43:36.868 --> 00:43:40.770
So I think that's the boss and I don't know.

1201
00:43:41.590 --> 00:43:41.950
Girl.

1202
00:43:42.050 --> 00:43:43.071
Butchie Cat.

1203
00:43:43.111 --> 00:43:47.792
He said that man thought he was going to get his Butchie Cat and he was not there for that.

1204
00:43:48.412 --> 00:43:48.973
He was not there.

1205
00:43:49.253 --> 00:43:52.594
He was there for a good time and a short time, not a long time.

1206
00:43:52.614 --> 00:43:53.054
Not a long time.

1207
00:43:53.094 --> 00:43:54.434
And you could not have his Butchie Cat.

1208
00:43:54.454 --> 00:43:55.175
You could not have it.

1209
00:43:55.195 --> 00:43:55.615
Mm-hmm.

1210
00:43:55.635 --> 00:43:55.835
Okay.

1211
00:43:56.263 --> 00:43:56.883
That's what you guys say.

1212
00:43:56.903 --> 00:43:58.284
What's our real word of the day, Coco?

1213
00:43:58.304 --> 00:43:59.505
Because, girl, Bucci.

1214
00:43:59.945 --> 00:44:02.126
So, once again, we have another word of the day.

1215
00:44:02.146 --> 00:44:12.271
A real word of the day, y'all.

1216
00:44:12.792 --> 00:44:13.892
That we had already planned.

1217
00:44:14.032 --> 00:44:15.173
Bucci just came and popped in.

1218
00:44:18.579 --> 00:44:19.760
That is a little tough.

1219
00:44:20.241 --> 00:44:21.062
Oh, God.

1220
00:44:21.082 --> 00:44:21.782
We got to sound it out.

1221
00:44:21.802 --> 00:44:25.045
Y'all remember a couple episodes ago, we was out here sounding our stuff, okay?

1222
00:44:25.065 --> 00:44:25.966
I'm going to sound it out.

1223
00:44:26.166 --> 00:44:28.148
But remember, I'm learning just like you learning.

1224
00:44:28.168 --> 00:44:29.189
We learning together.

1225
00:44:29.229 --> 00:44:29.629
Remember?

1226
00:44:31.031 --> 00:44:31.931
Virtual Morris?

1227
00:44:33.293 --> 00:44:33.853
I think so.

1228
00:44:33.953 --> 00:44:34.574
Virtual Morris?

1229
00:44:34.634 --> 00:44:34.994
Yeah.

1230
00:44:36.335 --> 00:44:42.201
Virtual Morris is someone who keeps multiple relationships online and doesn't seek offline relationships.

1231
00:44:43.870 --> 00:44:44.971
Why it matters.

1232
00:44:45.051 --> 00:44:50.976
The online native ENM identity the apps never account for.

1233
00:44:50.996 --> 00:44:52.537
Hmm.

1234
00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:56.980
Why would someone only want to see...

1235
00:44:57.321 --> 00:44:58.762
Here go my PTSD, y'all.

1236
00:44:59.603 --> 00:45:04.386
Because why would someone only want to have... Oh, you know what?

1237
00:45:05.607 --> 00:45:06.008
I can't.

1238
00:45:06.128 --> 00:45:07.028
I'm having a brain fart.

1239
00:45:07.128 --> 00:45:08.890
There's a show... No, there's a show that's about people who...

1240
00:45:13.146 --> 00:45:16.509
Well, shit, is it catfished?

1241
00:45:16.529 --> 00:45:18.090
They don't want to meet in parks.

1242
00:45:18.130 --> 00:45:20.572
Wait a second.

1243
00:45:20.913 --> 00:45:23.275
I think this shit might be catfished.

1244
00:45:23.335 --> 00:45:27.338
And the third word of the day is... Catfished.

1245
00:45:27.438 --> 00:45:30.461
Because I was sitting here like, wait, there's a show.

1246
00:45:30.481 --> 00:45:31.702
There's a show about this.

1247
00:45:31.762 --> 00:45:33.003
This people don't want to be in Pinto.

1248
00:45:33.023 --> 00:45:33.163
Yes.

1249
00:45:34.684 --> 00:45:55.388
and they want to and then they come and they meet these people and you find out why the fuck they didn't want to meet bitch because that is a man damn it or the yes or it's a man and they were pretending to be a woman or how about the one that thought she was talking about wow please go to hell she was sitting first of all why would bawa be asking you for money

1250
00:45:57.480 --> 00:45:58.461
Did you see that one?

1251
00:45:58.661 --> 00:45:59.142
No.

1252
00:45:59.202 --> 00:46:00.844
Girl, that shit was hilarious.

1253
00:46:01.425 --> 00:46:02.827
That was good television right there.

1254
00:46:03.007 --> 00:46:03.588
No, this is crazy.

1255
00:46:03.608 --> 00:46:03.968
I'm sorry.

1256
00:46:03.988 --> 00:46:04.929
That was good television.

1257
00:46:05.029 --> 00:46:05.270
Oh, no.

1258
00:46:05.330 --> 00:46:05.910
I got one.

1259
00:46:05.930 --> 00:46:06.351
You know what?

1260
00:46:06.371 --> 00:46:09.775
Let me tell you something that I have that I just thought about when we talked about that.

1261
00:46:10.216 --> 00:46:11.577
Someone was emailing me.

1262
00:46:13.055 --> 00:46:16.418
And I really, really pray that it's really not the real Channing Tatum.

1263
00:46:16.458 --> 00:46:18.660
And Channing, if it's you, I apologize.

1264
00:46:20.382 --> 00:46:22.283
But he was emailing me, sending me pictures of him.

1265
00:46:22.964 --> 00:46:23.304
Yeah.

1266
00:46:23.344 --> 00:46:24.886
And I was like, how the fuck did he get these pictures?

1267
00:46:24.906 --> 00:46:27.548
Because I would look on his Instagram and they would not be there.

1268
00:46:27.889 --> 00:46:29.490
I'm hoping that it really was not him.

1269
00:46:29.510 --> 00:46:30.951
But if it was Channing...

1270
00:46:31.952 --> 00:46:32.472
My bad.

1271
00:46:32.952 --> 00:46:33.533
My bad, boo.

1272
00:46:34.353 --> 00:46:35.713
And you are fine as hell, okay?

1273
00:46:35.733 --> 00:46:38.494
Especially to be a little white boy, okay?

1274
00:46:38.514 --> 00:46:39.334
You on the tip of this way?

1275
00:46:39.414 --> 00:46:40.535
Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep.

1276
00:46:40.675 --> 00:46:46.937
And even though I don't ride and walk with the squirrel typically, you are definitely, definitely attractive, okay?

1277
00:46:47.617 --> 00:46:50.898
But it was just crazy as shit to me because, again, there it is, being catfished.

1278
00:46:50.938 --> 00:46:53.159
This is why my PTSD, I'm telling you, is high.

1279
00:46:53.179 --> 00:46:54.419
Your nervous system is shut.

1280
00:46:54.520 --> 00:46:57.381
It is, as it relates to these fucking dating apps, okay?

1281
00:46:57.421 --> 00:46:58.901
So dating apps, you won't catch me.

1282
00:46:58.921 --> 00:47:02.482
If you see me on a dating app, it's probably a big-faced lie.

1283
00:47:02.562 --> 00:47:03.303
Yeah, that's a boy.

1284
00:47:03.323 --> 00:47:03.723
For sure.

1285
00:47:04.443 --> 00:47:05.925
Because it just traumatized me.

1286
00:47:06.345 --> 00:47:09.268
Damn, I cannot believe that shit just really rung a bell in here.

1287
00:47:09.328 --> 00:47:10.469
It might have been the Chardonnay, too.

1288
00:47:10.489 --> 00:47:13.472
Because I literally was like, it is a story.

1289
00:47:13.532 --> 00:47:15.594
I mean, it is an app or it's a show.

1290
00:47:15.675 --> 00:47:17.036
And it's definitely Catfish.

1291
00:47:17.056 --> 00:47:17.777
It's Catfish.

1292
00:47:17.857 --> 00:47:18.858
That's exactly what it is.

1293
00:47:19.098 --> 00:47:21.420
The way they came back around full circle is nuts.

1294
00:47:21.440 --> 00:47:22.522
I was like...

1295
00:47:23.182 --> 00:47:23.703
Wow.

1296
00:47:24.003 --> 00:47:24.503
I love it.

1297
00:47:24.664 --> 00:47:24.964
Okay.

1298
00:47:24.984 --> 00:47:25.324
I'm sorry.

1299
00:47:25.364 --> 00:47:26.585
I don't love it, but I love it.

1300
00:47:26.605 --> 00:47:28.747
That was hilarious.

1301
00:47:29.088 --> 00:47:31.290
I was like, wait, is it catfish?

1302
00:47:31.330 --> 00:47:32.431
That's terrible as hell, y'all.

1303
00:47:32.511 --> 00:47:32.891
Okay.

1304
00:47:33.091 --> 00:47:34.112
Probably just, hmm.

1305
00:47:34.452 --> 00:47:34.753
Okay.

1306
00:47:34.793 --> 00:47:35.013
Yep.

1307
00:47:35.293 --> 00:47:39.137
I can't see anybody only wanting to keep it online unless there's a lie.

1308
00:47:39.637 --> 00:47:40.017
Yeah.

1309
00:47:40.117 --> 00:47:48.880
Unless you got fucking bitches buried in your basement and you're buried in your walls or, and even then you want to meet because you want to put, you want to add me to the collection.

1310
00:47:48.900 --> 00:47:50.320
You want to add me to it, yeah.

1311
00:47:50.960 --> 00:47:51.581
You married.

1312
00:47:52.661 --> 00:47:56.962
You really don't have the flexibility to be dating for real, but you're just looking for somebody to talk to.

1313
00:47:57.402 --> 00:47:57.662
I agree.

1314
00:47:57.682 --> 00:47:58.743
Outside of your relationship.

1315
00:47:59.403 --> 00:48:01.224
Instead of talking to the person that you need to be talking to.

1316
00:48:03.812 --> 00:48:08.275
I can't see many other reasons or that, like you said, you trying to catfish people.

1317
00:48:08.455 --> 00:48:08.876
Yeah.

1318
00:48:09.656 --> 00:48:15.581
Or they are just in a space where, like you said, with the relationship, they're in a space where they just really don't have that.

1319
00:48:15.621 --> 00:48:25.828
Because what I've recognized is, and which is why it works with the ethical non-monogamy piece, is because I've had scenarios and situations where I felt like I can't talk to this individual.

1320
00:48:26.328 --> 00:48:26.549
Right?

1321
00:48:27.089 --> 00:48:27.629
But it's okay.

1322
00:48:27.649 --> 00:48:30.952
I'm not going to bash you for that because I still rock with you for what you can do for me.

1323
00:48:31.392 --> 00:48:32.453
I can talk to this individual.

1324
00:48:32.473 --> 00:48:32.673
Right?

1325
00:48:32.753 --> 00:48:33.914
So perhaps it's something like that.

1326
00:48:33.954 --> 00:48:40.997
Like I can talk and I can be a different person on here and all my flaws that my wife tell me I have or that I never know about.

1327
00:48:41.138 --> 00:48:41.818
Exactly.

1328
00:48:41.878 --> 00:48:45.860
Because I can sit here and be whoever I want to be on this app behind this phone.

1329
00:48:45.900 --> 00:48:46.380
Yes.

1330
00:48:47.061 --> 00:48:49.042
And sometimes that's typically what people do.

1331
00:48:50.148 --> 00:48:52.550
They want to live in a fantasy world, unfortunately.

1332
00:48:53.090 --> 00:48:55.091
It's a lot of us that live in fantasy world.

1333
00:48:55.111 --> 00:48:57.233
Like, I'm more of a reality person, right?

1334
00:48:57.333 --> 00:48:57.793
I so.

1335
00:48:57.833 --> 00:48:58.153
Yeah.

1336
00:48:58.634 --> 00:49:01.315
But I know that it's a lot of people that live in a fantasy world, unfortunately.

1337
00:49:01.395 --> 00:49:09.060
And it's just crazy because it sucks because you got people that really, like, really, like, fall in love on these apps.

1338
00:49:10.061 --> 00:49:11.882
And they are so interested.

1339
00:49:11.902 --> 00:49:12.623
They didn't flew.

1340
00:49:12.643 --> 00:49:13.863
They didn't sold houses.

1341
00:49:13.924 --> 00:49:17.406
I didn't see all types of— They didn't send money because they thought they were sold on the Bawar.

1342
00:49:17.426 --> 00:49:17.566
Yes.

1343
00:49:18.943 --> 00:49:19.624
She really sent money?

1344
00:49:19.904 --> 00:49:20.184
Yes.

1345
00:49:20.965 --> 00:49:21.845
Oh, she sent the damn money.

1346
00:49:21.906 --> 00:49:22.606
She sent the money.

1347
00:49:22.766 --> 00:49:23.307
Ma'am.

1348
00:49:23.347 --> 00:49:24.468
On multiple occasions.

1349
00:49:25.408 --> 00:49:26.509
Bless her heart and soul.

1350
00:49:26.669 --> 00:49:27.530
Bless her.

1351
00:49:27.550 --> 00:49:29.912
Did she just at least get to meet Bow Wow, the real one?

1352
00:49:30.192 --> 00:49:35.216
I don't know if she ever met the real one, but that was an episode of Catfish and she found out she was talking to this dom.

1353
00:49:36.377 --> 00:49:37.218
And it was a girl.

1354
00:49:37.358 --> 00:49:37.899
It was a girl.

1355
00:49:40.161 --> 00:49:41.542
I know she was mad as shit.

1356
00:49:41.582 --> 00:49:41.682
Yeah.

1357
00:49:44.333 --> 00:49:45.154
It was crazy.

1358
00:49:45.594 --> 00:49:47.736
I'm curious to what the girl said to her.

1359
00:49:47.776 --> 00:49:50.638
So they pulled up to the girl house because they go to the people's houses.

1360
00:49:50.658 --> 00:49:51.078
Yes, they do.

1361
00:49:51.118 --> 00:49:54.340
And it was a very old episode, so I don't remember, like, what she said to her.

1362
00:49:54.360 --> 00:49:55.501
Wow.

1363
00:49:55.601 --> 00:49:57.483
Of course, she was very disappointed, you know.

1364
00:49:57.783 --> 00:49:58.263
Naturally.

1365
00:49:58.523 --> 00:49:59.384
It was not Bow Wow.

1366
00:50:01.566 --> 00:50:01.986
Yeah, girl.

1367
00:50:02.506 --> 00:50:03.667
Blessed be the Lord.

1368
00:50:04.168 --> 00:50:04.788
Yeah.

1369
00:50:04.808 --> 00:50:07.230
Okay, well, that's definitely the horror stories.

1370
00:50:07.610 --> 00:50:08.050
I just.

1371
00:50:08.851 --> 00:50:09.231
Yeah.

1372
00:50:09.311 --> 00:50:10.412
Well, there's that.

1373
00:50:10.772 --> 00:50:10.953
What?

1374
00:50:11.193 --> 00:50:11.433
Yeah.

1375
00:50:12.887 --> 00:50:13.747
Ah, open letter?

1376
00:50:13.807 --> 00:50:15.688
Yeah, go for it.

1377
00:50:16.188 --> 00:50:17.009
All right.

1378
00:50:17.309 --> 00:50:19.589
One of our heartthrobs decided to send in.

1379
00:50:19.670 --> 00:50:23.931
I didn't see it for today, so we're just going to pull it on up so I can follow along.

1380
00:50:24.611 --> 00:50:26.672
Ooh, this is like an interesting one, Coco.

1381
00:50:26.692 --> 00:50:28.873
What do we have for our open letter?

1382
00:50:28.893 --> 00:50:32.394
I'm writing you an open letter.

1383
00:50:39.473 --> 00:50:49.995
I got banned from three apps for putting ethically non-monogamous in my bio, then matched with the guy on the fourth who was secretly married and hiding from his wife.

1384
00:50:50.595 --> 00:50:51.556
The cheater stayed.

1385
00:50:51.756 --> 00:50:52.556
I got removed.

1386
00:50:53.056 --> 00:50:54.036
Where do I even go?

1387
00:50:54.056 --> 00:50:58.517
Well, first of all, the cheater needs to go to hell.

1388
00:50:59.417 --> 00:51:00.398
Because how?

1389
00:51:00.418 --> 00:51:01.678
With gasoline draws on.

1390
00:51:03.063 --> 00:51:04.485
But that's the issue.

1391
00:51:05.667 --> 00:51:06.668
I'm being honest.

1392
00:51:06.708 --> 00:51:07.429
I'm being open.

1393
00:51:07.489 --> 00:51:09.132
I'm being upfront about who I am.

1394
00:51:09.633 --> 00:51:11.295
You know, I don't put a mask on.

1395
00:51:11.776 --> 00:51:13.498
This Negro has a mask on.

1396
00:51:13.939 --> 00:51:14.640
Secrets.

1397
00:51:15.672 --> 00:51:44.172
you know a whole marriage an entire marriage right who wife probably don't even know what a dating app is and raising children and cooking your damn dinners and raising your babies washing your drawers probably ironing them bitches okay and you got the all modacity to be on here looking for what exactly is what I'm trying to figure out but then that'll be the same man guess what that'll say I can't share

1398
00:51:45.094 --> 00:51:46.576
I couldn't do polygamy.

1399
00:51:46.596 --> 00:51:49.821
I couldn't do these things, right?

1400
00:51:50.161 --> 00:51:55.128
And then the moment... And see, women like that, men like that deserve a woman.

1401
00:51:56.093 --> 00:52:03.540
Like me, that's going to make you walk in and see me getting my head and the Mario coins knocked out this motherfucker.

1402
00:52:03.980 --> 00:52:06.803
And my head through the headboard.

1403
00:52:07.263 --> 00:52:08.604
Because that's what you deserve.

1404
00:52:08.644 --> 00:52:09.906
Yeah, that's exactly what you deserve.

1405
00:52:09.926 --> 00:52:11.707
You sneaky, conniving ass bitch.

1406
00:52:11.787 --> 00:52:12.168
Yes.

1407
00:52:12.348 --> 00:52:16.612
And because I was open and honest on my profile, they going to delete me.

1408
00:52:18.023 --> 00:52:18.303
Oh, no.

1409
00:52:18.323 --> 00:52:18.903
We got to have some.

1410
00:52:19.143 --> 00:52:20.263
We're going to have some call.

1411
00:52:20.303 --> 00:52:22.104
We got some call and emails to do, baby.

1412
00:52:22.124 --> 00:52:22.944
Look at my foot shaking.

1413
00:52:22.964 --> 00:52:23.844
Y'all know my foot shaking.

1414
00:52:23.864 --> 00:52:24.424
I mean business.

1415
00:52:24.444 --> 00:52:26.805
Because that don't make no damn sense.

1416
00:52:26.845 --> 00:52:28.025
Somebody's been to hear about it.

1417
00:52:28.165 --> 00:52:29.785
Like, what is going on?

1418
00:52:29.845 --> 00:52:30.245
Yeah.

1419
00:52:30.646 --> 00:52:31.046
Yeah.

1420
00:52:31.526 --> 00:52:32.246
And that's what I mean.

1421
00:52:32.286 --> 00:52:36.347
I mean, I was just talking about how, you know, we got banned or, you know, removed from apps.

1422
00:52:36.487 --> 00:52:42.308
And it's just, it's crazy to me how the cheating culture gets a slap on the wrist.

1423
00:52:42.328 --> 00:52:42.688
On the wrist.

1424
00:52:42.968 --> 00:52:46.170
And oh, maybe they were unhappy and maybe they were this.

1425
00:52:46.310 --> 00:52:47.391
All the excuses in the world.

1426
00:52:47.531 --> 00:52:50.332
All the excuses and all of the fucking coddling and bullshit.

1427
00:52:50.613 --> 00:52:58.017
But the person who decided to do something about how they were feeling in an honest way, they're not able to explore that.

1428
00:52:58.137 --> 00:53:02.980
They're not able to even see if that's something they're interested in according to you and your app.

1429
00:53:03.000 --> 00:53:04.041
I'm talking about Ashley Madison.

1430
00:53:04.061 --> 00:53:04.521
That's the cheat now.

1431
00:53:04.541 --> 00:53:06.662
Ashley Madison.

1432
00:53:06.922 --> 00:53:09.484
Let it go with you.

1433
00:53:12.492 --> 00:53:13.513
Oh, wow.

1434
00:53:13.733 --> 00:53:14.954
Okay, wait a minute.

1435
00:53:15.835 --> 00:53:21.461
So did you know that there was an app for cheaters called Ashley Madison?

1436
00:53:22.340 --> 00:53:23.440
Never heard of it a day in my life.

1437
00:53:23.460 --> 00:53:24.260
I have never.

1438
00:53:24.381 --> 00:53:28.902
I heard of something else where they put like the guys and the girls picture.

1439
00:53:29.282 --> 00:53:30.402
Well, no, I think it's just guys.

1440
00:53:31.042 --> 00:53:34.763
They put guys pictures on there and you can kind of like say information about the guys.

1441
00:53:34.803 --> 00:53:35.863
Like if you dated this person.

1442
00:53:35.883 --> 00:53:36.423
Oh, the T app.

1443
00:53:36.923 --> 00:53:37.324
Yeah.

1444
00:53:37.344 --> 00:53:38.104
That's the T app.

1445
00:53:38.244 --> 00:53:38.624
Yeah.

1446
00:53:38.644 --> 00:53:39.664
That's a whole separate thing.

1447
00:53:39.784 --> 00:53:40.284
Wow.

1448
00:53:40.304 --> 00:53:42.785
How about a whole fucking app for cheaters?

1449
00:53:43.871 --> 00:53:44.211
Wow.

1450
00:53:44.792 --> 00:53:47.114
I am fucking, my flabbers are once again gasted.

1451
00:53:47.154 --> 00:53:48.274
Yeah, I'm telling you.

1452
00:53:48.294 --> 00:53:49.255
Because what the fuck?

1453
00:53:49.936 --> 00:53:50.336
Wow.

1454
00:53:50.356 --> 00:53:55.900
There is some dirty, nasty, conniving, just downright disgusting, evil ass fucking people in this world.

1455
00:53:56.180 --> 00:53:56.981
That's all I can say.

1456
00:53:57.261 --> 00:53:59.443
It's me going to look at the app when we get off here, y'all.

1457
00:53:59.583 --> 00:54:02.125
Because how can you go out of your fucking way?

1458
00:54:02.565 --> 00:54:05.748
We went through that many loops to fucking cheat.

1459
00:54:07.439 --> 00:54:09.420
That you had to create a whole app for it?

1460
00:54:09.800 --> 00:54:11.080
No, really.

1461
00:54:11.220 --> 00:54:12.441
That is so disgusting.

1462
00:54:12.541 --> 00:54:16.122
Meet your new partner, a smarter alternative to the affair.

1463
00:54:16.682 --> 00:54:18.543
Built on privacy and consent.

1464
00:54:19.103 --> 00:54:21.824
More than any other dating website.

1465
00:54:22.724 --> 00:54:27.386
Trust, and I want to say it says discretion, since 2002.

1466
00:54:27.746 --> 00:54:29.327
So wait, this app has been out since 2002.

1467
00:54:31.623 --> 00:54:32.664
Oh, my damn.

1468
00:54:32.784 --> 00:54:34.325
I've really lost faith in like.

1469
00:54:35.386 --> 00:54:36.006
What the hell?

1470
00:54:36.026 --> 00:54:36.367
Hold on.

1471
00:54:36.387 --> 00:54:37.548
Wait a minute.

1472
00:54:37.968 --> 00:54:44.993
In 45 different cities, Illinois, Texas, Georgia, Florida, Nevada, Pennsylvania, Missouri, Massachusetts.

1473
00:54:45.513 --> 00:54:47.135
I can see shit going on in Massachusetts.

1474
00:54:48.924 --> 00:54:49.984
I'm not even going to hold you.

1475
00:54:50.325 --> 00:54:51.205
I can see that.

1476
00:54:52.045 --> 00:54:53.746
I definitely, definitely can see that.

1477
00:54:53.766 --> 00:54:55.547
My mouth is on the fucking floor right now.

1478
00:54:55.627 --> 00:54:57.368
I'm so fucking disturbed.

1479
00:54:57.608 --> 00:54:58.308
I'm just curious.

1480
00:54:58.328 --> 00:54:59.809
Like, so they put the pictures on there.

1481
00:54:59.829 --> 00:55:01.230
Like, how does it work?

1482
00:55:01.250 --> 00:55:02.330
We going to find out.

1483
00:55:02.490 --> 00:55:07.672
Oh, you know, I am a side bitch by profession, by choice.

1484
00:55:08.273 --> 00:55:13.955
I'm going to get on Ashley Madison because the only niggas I want is somebody's husband.

1485
00:55:14.055 --> 00:55:14.395
Yeah.

1486
00:55:16.096 --> 00:55:17.337
Oh, how many members does it have?

1487
00:55:17.357 --> 00:55:17.777
How many members?

1488
00:55:22.177 --> 00:55:23.078
That's the question.

1489
00:55:23.138 --> 00:55:24.199
That is the question.

1490
00:55:24.239 --> 00:55:24.779
Let me Google this.

1491
00:55:24.799 --> 00:55:26.140
Come on, just further.

1492
00:55:26.460 --> 00:55:31.023
Further just ship my fucking hope for humanity out the goddamn window.

1493
00:55:31.043 --> 00:55:36.788
90.

1494
00:55:37.028 --> 00:55:41.571
Okay, so it has over 91 million members.

1495
00:55:45.534 --> 00:55:45.874
That's insane.

1496
00:55:45.894 --> 00:55:46.835
That's insane.

1497
00:55:48.948 --> 00:55:49.848
You people are trash.

1498
00:55:50.228 --> 00:55:51.149
This is terrible.

1499
00:55:51.169 --> 00:55:51.709
You are absolutely trash.

1500
00:55:51.749 --> 00:55:53.770
And they probably pay for it too, y'all.

1501
00:55:53.810 --> 00:55:56.211
I'm going to have to go studying just a little smidgen.

1502
00:55:57.031 --> 00:55:57.491
Oh, my God.

1503
00:55:57.511 --> 00:55:59.512
I'm definitely, definitely going to have to go studying.

1504
00:56:00.052 --> 00:56:03.733
A whole fucking app to basically go out of your way to hurt someone.

1505
00:56:04.694 --> 00:56:08.455
To go out of your way to fucking deceive and be deceitful and nasty to someone.

1506
00:56:09.495 --> 00:56:11.316
But then put us off the damn apps.

1507
00:56:11.336 --> 00:56:12.416
Y'all are something else.

1508
00:56:12.456 --> 00:56:13.497
Y'all got to do better.

1509
00:56:13.517 --> 00:56:14.037
Tighten up.

1510
00:56:15.438 --> 00:56:16.598
I'm so disturbed.

1511
00:56:18.004 --> 00:56:18.485
But look at that.

1512
00:56:18.505 --> 00:56:19.546
We learned something else.

1513
00:56:20.347 --> 00:56:21.449
We're just constantly learning.

1514
00:56:22.390 --> 00:56:22.951
As we should.

1515
00:56:23.191 --> 00:56:23.772
As we should.

1516
00:56:23.792 --> 00:56:25.754
And be open to learning.

1517
00:56:25.995 --> 00:56:30.601
And sometimes we got to learn to relearn or unlearn to relearn and all the good things.

1518
00:56:30.641 --> 00:56:31.562
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1519
00:56:33.625 --> 00:56:34.466
What a world we live in.

1520
00:56:35.215 --> 00:56:37.636
Child, I thought my glasses had too much medicine in them.

1521
00:56:39.417 --> 00:56:42.419
I thought I had got these glasses and I took them to Walmart.

1522
00:56:42.499 --> 00:56:47.742
I typically do, you know, Zilu or I forgot the other one that I liked getting glasses from.

1523
00:56:47.762 --> 00:56:49.162
But I decided to take these to Walmart.

1524
00:56:49.182 --> 00:56:51.844
And I'm telling y'all, like, I literally can see through the walls right now.

1525
00:56:52.944 --> 00:56:55.985
And I happened to look down and I saw 91 million members.

1526
00:56:56.005 --> 00:57:03.708
I thought I was seeing things because it's just impossible to have this many damn people that are just absolutely, again, okay with cheating.

1527
00:57:03.728 --> 00:57:04.528
That's the part.

1528
00:57:04.548 --> 00:57:05.768
You're so okay with that.

1529
00:57:06.008 --> 00:57:07.569
That shit is crazy to me.

1530
00:57:07.589 --> 00:57:16.752
But us being honest and open and communicating about what it is that we want and inviting someone into our lives in an ethical way.

1531
00:57:17.672 --> 00:57:18.412
That's horrible.

1532
00:57:18.652 --> 00:57:19.113
Right.

1533
00:57:19.333 --> 00:57:21.574
With morals and ethics and all the things.

1534
00:57:21.654 --> 00:57:22.194
And love.

1535
00:57:22.214 --> 00:57:23.354
Because I got so much love to hear.

1536
00:57:23.374 --> 00:57:24.555
So much love.

1537
00:57:24.575 --> 00:57:26.536
Such a love and like a cuddle bug.

1538
00:57:26.596 --> 00:57:27.056
Okay.

1539
00:57:27.756 --> 00:57:29.597
Like, so, it's crazy.

1540
00:57:29.857 --> 00:57:30.677
Sweet Jesus.

1541
00:57:31.217 --> 00:57:31.898
Get it up with it.

1542
00:57:32.858 --> 00:57:38.082
So we were trying to keep it under wraps for a second until we were ready to give out the information.

1543
00:57:38.343 --> 00:57:40.424
But we have our own Discord.

1544
00:57:40.464 --> 00:57:51.013
We would love for you guys to join the community and be a community and just communicate with one another and learn and just grow and thrive in your relationships.

1545
00:57:51.133 --> 00:57:54.575
So be sure to join that comment open.

1546
00:57:55.996 --> 00:57:59.798
on all of the platforms where you see us to get the information on how to join.

1547
00:58:00.298 --> 00:58:03.759
And we will not be banning you unless you do some creep shit.

1548
00:58:04.340 --> 00:58:08.581
And this has been another fantastic episode of Triple Hearts.

1549
00:58:09.042 --> 00:58:11.142
And we hope to see you again next week.

1550
00:58:11.262 --> 00:58:17.625
Make sure if this is relatable to you that you like, subscribe, follow, turn the notifications on, all the good things.

1551
00:58:17.705 --> 00:58:18.345
We love y'all.

1552
00:58:19.066 --> 00:58:19.846
And until next week.

1553
00:58:20.532 --> 00:58:21.753
Yes.

1554
00:58:21.874 --> 00:58:25.297
Oh, and just by the way, next week we'll be talking about when it doesn't work.

1555
00:58:25.938 --> 00:58:26.358
Ooh.

1556
00:58:26.478 --> 00:58:28.400
So I think that'll be pretty juicy for you guys.

1557
00:58:28.460 --> 00:58:28.901
Yeah.

1558
00:58:29.401 --> 00:58:29.662
Yes.

1559
00:58:30.022 --> 00:58:31.043
We love you.

1560
00:58:31.063 --> 00:58:32.385
Thanks, heartthrocks.

1561
00:58:32.425 --> 00:58:33.286
See ya.

1562
00:58:33.306 --> 00:58:33.546
Mmm.

1563
00:58:33.846 --> 00:58:34.987
Multiple love.

1564
00:58:36.089 --> 00:58:36.989
One conversation.