WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.800 What's going on everybody? I hope you guys are having a two times Tuesday tactics Tuesday turn down Tuesday 2 00:00:05.200 --> 00:00:09.080 Which is what we were doing in gym lunch Tuesdays are a day that we do not have meetings 3 00:00:09.720 --> 00:00:13.320 And we do that so that we can get more stuff done 4 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:17.560 Along the common theme that I've been asked I've been getting a lot of questions 5 00:00:17.560 --> 00:00:23.960 And so I've been trying to cater my concept towards what y'all have been saying you like and so I thought today would be something that you might also enjoy 6 00:00:24.600 --> 00:00:26.440 Because a lot of people ask me I think I got more 7 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:32.280 Questions about what journal I use and all that kind of stuff after I posted a picture of it on my Instagram a while ago 8 00:00:33.040 --> 00:00:35.040 And so I 9 00:00:35.040 --> 00:00:39.960 Wanted to talk you about I think about the most important part of the the morning journal for me 10 00:00:39.960 --> 00:00:44.180 And it's the four questions that I always ask myself when he's to start my day 11 00:00:44.180 --> 00:00:52.160 And so first off, I am not perfect. I do not do this every day. I try to and I and I you know, I try to and 12 00:00:52.760 --> 00:00:56.800 I don't like the word try but my my intentions is to do a hundred percent 13 00:00:56.800 --> 00:00:59.000 So I just don't want to pretend like I'm perfect. I'm not 14 00:00:59.840 --> 00:01:01.840 But I know that the days that I 15 00:01:02.360 --> 00:01:07.240 Do ask myself these questions. I am in a better state. I show better as a leader 16 00:01:07.240 --> 00:01:10.200 I make better decisions. I make wise decisions 17 00:01:10.200 --> 00:01:13.520 And so I figured I would share them with you and this one shouldn't be too long 18 00:01:13.520 --> 00:01:18.440 But I'll tell you to the questions and you know, Lail and I I mean Lail is even better at this than I am 19 00:01:18.520 --> 00:01:24.640 But we've gone through so many different journals in our lives, you know, looking at you know the like which which which ones 20 00:01:24.640 --> 00:01:31.040 It's like we've used apps we've used books. We've I mean, it's makeshift like what happened right and I would say that the like 21 00:01:31.560 --> 00:01:36.320 Let me talk about the common things you see and things that I stopped doing and I'm sure maybe if you've ever you journal 22 00:01:36.320 --> 00:01:39.720 You stop doing and then I'll just I'll tell you the four questions that I think that are the most important 23 00:01:40.240 --> 00:01:41.480 so 24 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:47.440 I think if you look at every journal, they're always like top three things I'm grateful for right like you know that you start that but 25 00:01:47.720 --> 00:01:53.440 What happens is if you start doing this every day usually you stop you start running out of things to be grateful for and then you 26 00:01:53.800 --> 00:01:57.720 Either just start skipping it and feeling guilty. Then you're like, wow, I guess I'm not grateful for anything 27 00:01:59.240 --> 00:02:03.160 And I don't know if anyone else has experienced that but but of course we're grateful for things 28 00:02:03.160 --> 00:02:08.440 But sometimes it's like especially in the morning where you drink coffee like man like I'm grateful for the air conditioning 29 00:02:08.440 --> 00:02:12.520 That it's the right temperature today. You know, I mean you start getting weird because you don't want to repeat the same things 30 00:02:12.520 --> 00:02:16.080 But you know, sometimes you're grateful for the same stuff. I'm grateful for Layla every day 31 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:20.680 And I don't think that's bad, but I think the question necessarily isn't as good as a daily thing. So 32 00:02:21.600 --> 00:02:25.040 That's just an example of some questions that you find really that aren't as 33 00:02:26.560 --> 00:02:32.800 You know useful in my opinion. So anyways, here are the four things that I ask myself every morning 34 00:02:33.320 --> 00:02:35.320 the first one is 35 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:41.800 What person do I want to send a note or or token of thanks to say that I'm grateful for? 36 00:02:42.200 --> 00:02:47.400 And so it's a little bit different than saying what I am grateful for because a lot of times when you try to think of what you are grateful for 37 00:02:48.240 --> 00:02:52.120 It's it's hard. You kind of draw up on blanks, but who you are grateful for? 38 00:02:52.120 --> 00:02:58.840 I think it's a lot easier and then it allows you to take action on it and so you know people from my team people from my family 39 00:02:58.840 --> 00:03:02.400 You know people in your life like it could be employees it could be customers 40 00:03:02.400 --> 00:03:08.200 But literally starting your day by by writing someone a small note and just sending it to them via email via text 41 00:03:08.200 --> 00:03:12.200 Whatever and just saying that you're grateful for them. It just gets you in the right zone 42 00:03:12.200 --> 00:03:15.240 And I can't tell you how much it means to a teammate, you know like 43 00:03:16.280 --> 00:03:21.400 People that you think know how much you appreciate them, you know on a regular basis. Maybe it's your operations, man 44 00:03:21.400 --> 00:03:25.720 Maybe it's your head trainer like I can't tell you how much it will change your culture if you just say hey 45 00:03:25.720 --> 00:03:29.880 Like you are valuable. I appreciate you like we could not do this without you 46 00:03:29.880 --> 00:03:31.920 And I'm super grateful to have you on this team and 47 00:03:32.160 --> 00:03:38.640 And like I look forward to doing all the things that we do together and you did X, Y and Z that one day and I can't say how much it meant to me 48 00:03:38.640 --> 00:03:40.560 So I just want to say sincerely. Thank you 49 00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:46.960 And all your effort doesn't go I noticed like it doesn't need to be you know extremely long 50 00:03:47.200 --> 00:03:53.240 But it just has to be heartfelt and genuine and I can't tell you the amount of times that I have people who message me back and are like 51 00:03:53.640 --> 00:03:58.560 Saying like you made me cry this morning when you sent me that and it's just like if you have that ability which we all do 52 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:03.920 Like use it and it starts your day awesome like you feel great. So 53 00:04:04.880 --> 00:04:10.960 Instead of saying what you're grateful for see who you are grateful for and then like what note you want to send them 54 00:04:10.960 --> 00:04:15.760 So there's kind of an action tied to it like who could I send so the question would be like who could I send a 55 00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:18.480 A gift or a note to say thank you 56 00:04:19.440 --> 00:04:21.600 And that you're grateful for all right, so that's the first one 57 00:04:22.400 --> 00:04:26.320 The second one is what am I excited for so I think that's like a little bit 58 00:04:26.800 --> 00:04:31.680 It's a different phrasing but it like kind of gets you excited to think about like what are the things that are coming up today that I can get excited about 59 00:04:32.240 --> 00:04:37.680 And so in some ways it positively frames your day so that you're looking at a lens of like your day as opportunities 60 00:04:37.920 --> 00:04:42.320 Basically to be excited which is cool because I feel like excitement is something that's a little bit of a childish 61 00:04:43.360 --> 00:04:45.920 Emotion and I sometimes I think we all should be a little bit more childish 62 00:04:46.400 --> 00:04:51.840 You can connect with that and so it's just like these are things that are excited about these are like these are some meetings that I have with 63 00:04:52.080 --> 00:04:57.200 Some developers. These are this is a meeting I have with and employee whatever it is right and sometimes it 64 00:04:57.440 --> 00:05:00.800 Even if you have some mundane things you can get excited about them just by saying you will 65 00:05:01.680 --> 00:05:04.880 The third one is kind of is a piggyback on that one which is 66 00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:08.640 What what things could stress me out today and how 67 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:10.560 My the best version of myself handled 68 00:05:10.800 --> 00:05:15.600 I think this is one of the most profound questions that I've grown the most from because just like as a leader 69 00:05:16.240 --> 00:05:18.240 um, you know, we have to show up every day 70 00:05:18.880 --> 00:05:23.120 We have to be the rock, you know for our company and a lot of times entrepreneurs are really emotional people 71 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:24.960 We're crazy 72 00:05:24.960 --> 00:05:31.120 That's why we like stop our job and like decided to start doing this thing without any knowledge of what we're doing right like that's not normal 73 00:05:31.520 --> 00:05:33.520 so um 74 00:05:33.600 --> 00:05:36.400 Taking the extra steps to ground ourselves is really important, you know 75 00:05:37.360 --> 00:05:40.160 And so what are the things that could stress me out today? 76 00:05:40.160 --> 00:05:44.480 We're the things that could possibly you know throw me off and what's interesting is that like 77 00:05:45.040 --> 00:05:46.880 When you actually ask yourself that question 78 00:05:46.960 --> 00:05:50.320 It's usually not that big of a surprise the things that will that will throw you off 79 00:05:50.560 --> 00:05:57.280 Like you know the things that probably drive you nuts a customer could reach out and ask for a refund all of a sudden out of the blue 80 00:05:57.920 --> 00:06:03.520 Um, and employee could show up late or not do something that they're supposed to do like you can know what these think like 81 00:06:03.520 --> 00:06:07.920 We already know what these things are right or if you have a meeting that's that's why I said it was piggybacked on the excited 82 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:13.120 If you have something that's important to you that you are excited about the flip side is if it's not good 83 00:06:13.920 --> 00:06:16.080 It could stress you out or bum you out right 84 00:06:18.240 --> 00:06:21.840 Hey guys real quick if you're new to the podcast. I have a book on amazon 85 00:06:22.160 --> 00:06:26.720 It's called 100 million dollar offers that over 8,000 five star reviews and it has almost a perfect score 86 00:06:26.800 --> 00:06:31.760 You can get it for 99 cents on Kindle the reason I bring it up is that I put over a thousand hours into writing that book 87 00:06:32.160 --> 00:06:33.920 And it's my biggest gift for our community 88 00:06:33.920 --> 00:06:37.120 So it's my very shameless way of trying to get you to like me more 89 00:06:37.680 --> 00:06:41.040 And ultimately make more dollars to that later on in your business career 90 00:06:41.120 --> 00:06:45.760 I can push the bar towards you. So that's my give go check it out. Amazon and back to the show 91 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:54.080 And so if you know what your day looks like then you just write down that you know like I do not write sentences period 92 00:06:54.240 --> 00:07:00.560 I know right sentences. I got time for sentences like I write a word or like the beginning of a word because it's just the thought that matters in my opinion 93 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:04.400 Some people like journaling. I mean that's cool. I know I got I got shit to do 94 00:07:04.800 --> 00:07:06.320 so 95 00:07:06.320 --> 00:07:07.840 so um 96 00:07:07.840 --> 00:07:09.120 with 97 00:07:09.200 --> 00:07:13.760 With the the possible stressors when you write how you your best self 98 00:07:14.880 --> 00:07:20.800 Would respond to that stressor it kind of pre-programs you so that when it happens everyone's like man 99 00:07:20.880 --> 00:07:28.640 He was on it or she was on it like she didn't even skip a beat like she was totally present and like responded in the best way ever 100 00:07:29.200 --> 00:07:33.440 And so like people start to gain more respect for you because they're like man like she is unshakable 101 00:07:33.440 --> 00:07:38.480 He is unshakable when something that totally would have thrown me off was in your vendors will respect you more 102 00:07:38.480 --> 00:07:41.600 Because you're not emotional and I can't tell you one of the biggest things the world is like 103 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:47.520 If you're dealing with vendors if you ever do like being emotional or being all over the place 104 00:07:48.880 --> 00:07:50.080 sucks for them 105 00:07:50.080 --> 00:07:52.240 You know what I mean like because then they're like they don't know what to expect 106 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:57.440 And whenever if you have people just like with your team if people don't know what to expect from you 107 00:07:57.760 --> 00:08:00.560 Then they're always on the defense and then they don't produce their best work 108 00:08:00.880 --> 00:08:04.000 And so a lot of times you can even take full responsibility for a vendor's work 109 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:05.360 Which is something people don't do 110 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:09.760 But you can totally speak into a vendor and start and praising them for the things that you want them to do 111 00:08:10.160 --> 00:08:13.440 I've told this in past things while I won't get too off track. So 112 00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:19.360 First thing is who could I send a thank you note a note of gratitude 113 00:08:20.160 --> 00:08:24.800 That I appreciate them the second is what am I excited for today? What are the things that get me jazzed up 114 00:08:24.880 --> 00:08:30.160 And I think that's just a positive lens on your day, which is good the third is what things what things could stress me out 115 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:32.960 What things could stress me out and then how am I going to respond to those things 116 00:08:33.680 --> 00:08:36.160 If they come up and we all know what they are 117 00:08:37.040 --> 00:08:39.040 And then the fourth one is 118 00:08:39.040 --> 00:08:43.280 What are the things that made me uncomfortable yesterday and so there's probably sometimes you have these lingering 119 00:08:44.400 --> 00:08:46.240 lingering 120 00:08:46.240 --> 00:08:52.640 Cobwebs you know, I mean lingering anxieties from the day before that came up right and so it's like what 121 00:08:53.680 --> 00:08:56.000 Like my mom called why did that bother me 122 00:08:56.880 --> 00:08:59.280 Uh this person reached out. Why did that bother me? 123 00:08:59.360 --> 00:09:03.760 And so a lot of times they're also like you can use the stressors from yesterday 124 00:09:04.960 --> 00:09:06.720 To inform the things that could stress you out today 125 00:09:07.440 --> 00:09:12.560 And so when you the reason that we like you write those down is so that you can think about how can I fix these things 126 00:09:13.040 --> 00:09:18.400 Is this a person that needed a hire? Is this a project or is this a process that need to put in place so that I no longer experience this 127 00:09:18.400 --> 00:09:21.680 Because whenever you are uncomfortable you need to fix it right 128 00:09:22.480 --> 00:09:27.760 If your gym sucks you need to fix it um this is a joke for those of you who don't know 129 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:29.520 um 130 00:09:29.520 --> 00:09:34.640 But if you have uh if you have things that make you uncomfortable like you have to change that because if you don't change it 131 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:38.160 It will ruin you right it will continue to drain from you over and over and over again 132 00:09:38.160 --> 00:09:42.880 So like writing out those things of the things that that bother you yesterday 133 00:09:43.040 --> 00:09:48.320 Um are just going to and also it just makes you aware of the like of yourself really and the things that bother you 134 00:09:48.320 --> 00:09:50.320 But you might not even know what bother you 135 00:09:50.320 --> 00:09:56.960 So those are the those are the the primary for and then I'll give you one bonus uh bonus question uh that I asked myself which is like 136 00:09:57.760 --> 00:09:59.760 What one thing do I need to get done today 137 00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:03.840 Like I you know some people were like what are the top five I'm like shit, man 138 00:10:03.840 --> 00:10:09.520 If I if I did five things every day I'd be stoked right like what's the one thing that I got to get done today 139 00:10:10.000 --> 00:10:14.400 Right and no matter what like if you have like if you do the one thing you'll do other things 140 00:10:14.880 --> 00:10:19.120 But I feel like if you if you give yourself like I'm a big believer in sitting goals that I can absolutely demolish 141 00:10:19.440 --> 00:10:22.800 I'm not a big stretch goal person. That's just me personally some people are like 142 00:10:22.880 --> 00:10:25.600 Shoot for the moon's land among the stars like I just don't like failing 143 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:30.880 And so like I want to dominate every goal that I set and so if I start my day 144 00:10:30.880 --> 00:10:34.480 It's like well, let me get momentum and just crush this one thing and then when I do that 145 00:10:34.480 --> 00:10:37.040 I feel like all everything else is gravy. It's all bonus time 146 00:10:37.440 --> 00:10:41.120 And I know that if I'm only picking one thing that I have to get done only one 147 00:10:41.600 --> 00:10:46.480 Then I'm going to pick the highest party thing whereas sometimes you're like top five you don't do the hard work 148 00:10:46.720 --> 00:10:49.760 The wise work of thinking which of these top five is the most important 149 00:10:49.840 --> 00:10:51.760 You're like well, these are all things that need to get done 150 00:10:51.920 --> 00:10:58.480 But like which one of them is the most important and so that's my opinion of like how I like or like 151 00:10:58.880 --> 00:11:02.160 How do you say organize? I was like I'm not that organized and so I just try to do one thing 152 00:11:02.400 --> 00:11:05.440 That's really important and then that moves a lot of the big 153 00:11:05.920 --> 00:11:09.360 Pieces forward and then after that I'm like on I'm on free time. I'm on borrow time 154 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:12.320 So it's like sure I'll redo this thing I'll redo that thing 155 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:17.040 But like I did the one thing that I needed to do and so I mean there will always be more work to do 156 00:11:17.440 --> 00:11:20.240 And I think that writing down a shitload of things just stresses you out 157 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:25.440 And then you keep carrying forward this to do list from page to page to page and about by like two weeks in 158 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:27.600 You've got like 26 things that are on your list 159 00:11:28.640 --> 00:11:32.640 And like just stresses you out because you feel like a failure right because you're like I'm not doing this 160 00:11:33.360 --> 00:11:36.480 And so then you just like all of a sudden you like skip two days and you start over your list 161 00:11:36.720 --> 00:11:38.480 So it's like just pick one and actually do it 162 00:11:39.200 --> 00:11:40.880 I know this sounds ridiculous so simple but 163 00:11:41.760 --> 00:11:45.200 The advanced people aren't advanced because they knew they know sexy things 164 00:11:45.280 --> 00:11:50.320 It's just because they just never don't do the basics. So um, there's the four questions. I asked my myself every morning 165 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:52.560 uh, if you could 166 00:11:53.760 --> 00:11:58.320 Tap one of those those like things common things all that good stuff. I would always appreciate it 167 00:11:58.400 --> 00:12:00.400 I'm sure somebody else who you tag would appreciate it too 168 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:07.040 But recap for the four questions. Who am I gonna who am I gonna tell them thankful for today like and who am I gonna tell like actively 169 00:12:07.040 --> 00:12:11.840 Like what am I gonna write to that person? What am I excited for today? What are the things that could stress me out and how I'm gonna do with them 170 00:12:12.160 --> 00:12:16.160 What made me look comfortable yesterday? And then what's one thing that I'm actually gonna get done today no matter what 171 00:12:16.800 --> 00:12:18.800 So um, that's how I start my day 172 00:12:19.760 --> 00:12:23.840 When I'm being super Alex and not not basic Alex 173 00:12:24.800 --> 00:12:28.320 And so hopefully you guys found that useful for you guys to start your days 174 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:32.400 Just the right way. So lots of love. Have a tactical Tuesday turn down Tuesday 175 00:12:32.800 --> 00:12:36.480 Get stuff done Tuesday lots of love get you guys soon. Bye 176 00:12:41.840 --> 00:12:44.640 You