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This one kind of came to me and I was feeling it and it's really really interesting and I really

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want to share this with you because I think this is actually like a really powerful moment. So

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hopefully you'll love this, me to share this with you, how to be an unconditional human and be

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someone who others count on. And you know, I wanted to start with a passage that I read

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where this is Ben of War with whose CEO of a company that they sold for like 1.6 billion and he has

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like an amazing story. And he said there's two types of friends in this world. You have the types

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of friends that you call when you have good news who are amazing and celebrate with you. And then

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you have the types of friends who you call when you have bad news, right? And ideally you want like

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most times like either one of those things are amazingly valuable. Like a lot of people like I

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don't have many people that I would call for good news because there's not a lot of people that I

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know that would really genuinely celebrate with me. They would genuinely want me to succeed.

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And so like that is rare in and of itself. But if you find someone who has both that is someone

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who becomes a mainstay in your life. And what made me start thinking about this was that I had

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so my father called me. We had a conversation earlier this morning and I love my dad.

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But he said, you know, I'm really proud of you, right? You know what you've accomplished. And

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what was interesting for me was that I didn't actually feel any emotional response from that. And so

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I started thinking about it. And I was thinking more I was like, why do I have no emotional response

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in my dad saying that he's proud of me? And for those who you don't know, like my dad wasn't a

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huge supporter of me making the initial changes in stirring the gym and doing all that stuff

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because it made sense for him not to be because I was throwing away a life that was otherwise

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considered successful. And so I think what ultimately what it comes down to is like my mom on the

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other hand was supportive, eventually like much sooner. And I still I feel very good about that.

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And I think the key piece to this is believing before you can see. And so in January,

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on 2029 and like you don't need to be a person to just take the message from this is that

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so Jesus is in this part of it in the Bible. He just come back from the dead and you know some

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people that heard rumors about it and you know Thomas the doubter is like I don't I don't believe

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that no matter what like no one comes back from the dead right. And so anyways he's there and he

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you know puts his face to the holes that's like oh my god I can't believe that's you. And he says

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and so Jesus wants to and it says you know you believe because you can see but blessed are those who

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believe who have not seen it yet so believe. And I think there's a ton of power in that that's

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taken outside the like that's that's outside of just the whole faith component. But

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having the belief in something before you can see it within the context of human relationship I

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think is one of the most powerful things you can give to someone because ultimately when when

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if someone comes up to me now who knew me you know what I mean and did not believe and then says

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I'm really proud of you it doesn't have any power because well sure you're proud of us now

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because well here we are like it would make sense for you to be proud of us now and so that would

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be a conditional reaction right that's a conditional reaction based on circumstance right the power

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in the significance of a relationship like that really moves you and that ties you and this is

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what I'm like hoping maybe some person here does this for someone else is that if you can believe

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in someone without commission without circumstance before it happens that's so like those of you

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are parents like that's the time is when there is no fruit yet you're planting the seeds you're

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watering but there's nothing there to be proud of yet and yet you still are proud.

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Real quick guys you guys already know that I don't run any ads on this and I don't sell anything

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and so the only ask that I can ever have if you guys that you help me spread the words we can

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not more entrepreneurs make more money feed their families make better products and have better

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experiences for their employees and customers and the only way we do that is if you can rate and review

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and share this podcast so the single thing that I have to do is you can just leave a review

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but take 10 seconds or one type of the thumb it means the absolute will to me and more importantly

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it may change the world for someone else right and so it's the concept of unconditional love

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unconditional respect one that's not talked about near lose as frequently or unconditional

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pride from like a parent to a child not from an ecotistical standpoint of like being proud of

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someone for who they are and not for what they have done right and that's the difference because

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one of them is based on circumstance the other one is based on who they are because of who you are

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I am proud of who you are I love you because you are my husband wife I will respect you because

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you are my husband wife not because of what you have done but because of who I am and who I choose

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to be and I'm going to respect you um despite that like there's another verse that's kind of

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related to this where it says we're just talking about being kind of people um the intention of

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this morning was not to be biblical like I was just like it's been all my so um he says like

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even tax collectors are nice to their friends and so like again it's circumstantial so like if you

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have people who are nice to you of course you're nice back to them the difficulty is being nice to

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people who are not nice to you right the difficulty is in believing in someone who most people would

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not believe it it's in loving someone who is acting unlovable it's giving respect to someone who

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is not respectable or acting in a way that is respectable and so like I think that one of the most

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powerful things that you can do is a human being is to believe before you can see and what happens is

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when you believe before you can see the things that you believe come to fruition and so um if you have

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uh you know employees that you want to see like radically transform right then you need to believe

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before you can see the result because if you are encouraging them in a way if you are if you

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are only doing it based on circumstance in the beginning then like duh like it's great to say

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like hey you're a great sales guy after you're doing great sales but it's believing in them before

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it happens and that's where the power is and that's why it's significant um for someone to like

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receipt like for me it means more to me what my mom says like I'm proud to you proud of you now

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because she was proud of me before it happened right because she was like I'm proud of my son

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for who he is for the effort that he's putting forward not because of what had happened but because of

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who I am and who she chooses to be right in contrary to that and I'm not hating on my dad like

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like I love my dad but and it made sense for him that's the thing is it is logical to not do that

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it is logical to not believe in someone or says help someone like I don't think this is a good idea

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I think you were throwing something away blah blah blah blah like it makes sense to do that but it is not

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the thing that makes that drives a deep emotional time or bond or allows someone to reach a new

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level of achievement transformation whatever so um that was on my mind this morning and I hope you

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don't mind that I shared it with you um I hope that you are all uh the type of friend that people

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want to call when they have good news because you can actually genuinely celebrate with them because

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you genuinely want them to succeed and you don't start comparing yourself to them or or being

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envious and on the flip side you're the type of person that people can call when they have bad news

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because they know that you're not going to say I told you so I told you that was a bad idea

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but instead just be there to help and so um I think all of that comes down to have being an

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unconditional human and not basing the actions of how you are talking to your employees talking to

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your spouse talking to your parents talking to your kids based on the circumstance but based on

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the predetermined relationship that you already have and who you choose to be so a little bit

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pie in the sky today but that was something that was just on my mind because I got the phone

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and I was like you know what I think there's something to that that might be worth them roughly

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so I'll see you guys soon