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If I were 85 years old and I got to go through a time machine and be back in my body as I am now to experience my life

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From my 85 year old self

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It's dramatically shifted how I see everything so let me walk you through it

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I've struggled to feel grateful for most of my life

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It's not that I don't have things to be grateful for I've done some things to be grateful for

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But I don't feel gratitude and so I've tried a lot of different practices to try and feel gratitude

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You know the journals and the daily meditations and things like that

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But they've never really stuck that's not to say that they don't work for some people

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But I want to share with you in this video is one of the most powerful

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Perspective changes that I've ever experienced

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And if you don't know why I am my name is Alex Ramuzzi

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I'm the managing partner at Acquisition.com

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Which is a portfolio of companies that does over a hundred million dollars a year

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I make these videos because I hope that you make all the money in the world and you experience all the joy

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That you possibly can in the process

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I have spoken in the past about the frame of the veteran which I won't recap here

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But it's really just having different frames or perspectives through which to see circumstances

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So that you can improve your experience

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Recently I've been trying to toy with one that would create gratitude

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There's a clip that went pretty viral not that long ago

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It's also my number one tweet of all time

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Which is when I was 20 I wanted to be a millionaire

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Now that I'm a millionaire I want to be 20

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When I'm 85 years old and in my mind I imagine I will be a multi billionaire at that point

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I know that I would give up everything that I have of material wealth

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Just to be poor and 20 again

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I called this the frame of the grandfather or the grandfather frame

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And it works like this

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If you've ever looked at pictures from your past

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And you look at where you grew up or you look at you know your old room

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Or you look at a picture of you with old friends doing something

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We tend to feel these feelings of nostalgia

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And I try to quantify like what is nostalgia

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So to me nostalgia is gratitude in the present for past circumstances

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For whatever reason we're able to kind of look past all of the kind of minutia of how we were feeling

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Our moods and we're able to kind of like see big picture of the things that we are grateful for

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Take a pause here

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I'm sure all of us have tons of childhood shit

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And things that we wish were different and blah blah blah blah

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But there are still elements of our past

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Our childhood, our adolescence, our teenage years, our college years

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Whatever it is right where you feel grateful

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Some of you guys are superstars and are always grateful for everything

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And I'm you know I'm jelly

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I don't roll that way

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It's not like I wake up and I'm like man I just want to count my lucky stars

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Like I just don't that's just not how folks

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And I've been trying this on and I hope you do too

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Because it's been it's been really like improving my life

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I tried to do this or wake up thinking to myself

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If I were 85 years old and I got to go through a time machine

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And be back in my body as I am now to experience my life

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From my 85 year old self seeing it again

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If I wake up and I feel my body and I'm like

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Oh this is so nice

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I don't have all the joint pain

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Oh my wrist don't have arthritis

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And then I wake up and I'm like I remember when we used to live here

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Even when I looked at Laila this morning

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I was thinking to myself man

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Like this is my wife right at the beginning of our marriage

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You know we're only six years in

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We wake up and we walk over to you know to have our coffee in the morning

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Which we always do

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And I'm like isn't this so nice

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I remember when you used to have coffee here together

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This is great and I look out the window

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Look how young Vegas looks

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It doesn't have all these buildings and these flying cards like it does now

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It's so underdeveloped compared to what it is today

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And I feel gratitude for an external just environment

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Which I would never really think though

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But I know that my 85 year old self will totally appreciate those things

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And as I'm going through the day

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Applying that frame also to business

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Where I can see that you know the CEOs of our companies

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And the people that work within our holding company at acquisition.com

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They're stressed about things

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And in my mind I'm thinking

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Ah isn't this cool that we get to do this together

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Isn't that fun? Isn't that neat?

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Look how cute that is

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It is the most powerful frame that I've encountered

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I think the reason it's so powerful

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Is one it operates almost entirely from a frame of gratitude

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That for me I can feel

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For whatever reason gratitude journals

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The meditation sticks like that like

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I don't feel that

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But thinking about my 85 year old self being able to re-experience life

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Through my 32 year old body

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It's really shifted how I see things

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And also decreases the amount of anxiety and stress I have over outcomes

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Because I'm like

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This doesn't get a matter in the long run

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I also think it helps from a business

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The term loosely but like a business wisdom perspective

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Because when you think about the decisions

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You think about it within the larger context of your life

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And you're not like

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Oh yeah I'm going to make that short term dollars

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Because you're like

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I don't have anything to prove

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You know what I mean

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If you think about like the really stressful things that you've had happen in your past

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I feel nostalgia for the sleeping on the floor

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That I did at my gyms

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For how tired I used to be at the end of the day

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Of taking 20 plus concerts for months and months and months on end

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And rather than feeling stressed about it

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Or resenting the fact that I have to do it

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Like I get to do this

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I get to make videos talking to a camera

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Look at my 32 year old self go

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Trying to make his content

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Trying to help other entrepreneurs

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Like getting that cool

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If I had to characterize seasons of my life

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I would say I was very angry

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As a teenager and young adult

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And then I went from angry

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To being aware of the deficit

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Between where I was and what I considered to be happiness

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From there I kind of switched to

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What I have affectionately called the fuck happiness mantra

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Which I lived for a very long period of time

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Which was I stopped trying to optimize for happiness

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At all and just really stopped thinking about it altogether

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Which I think

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Move me closer to something that I would consider to be joy

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You can be joyful independent of circumstance

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Because joy is from within

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Happiness tends to come from external

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Right it comes from circumstance

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And I think when we look at the grandparents

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At least the people that are older that I aspire to be

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Like they just have an internal joy

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They have gratitude for being able to live it

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One last time

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Because the end of the day like

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It is our last time

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I'm being real here

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Like I've had a guy that I graduated with

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Died a few months ago

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And he's a really successful guy

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Really smart kid

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Did really well

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I mean this is really dark

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But he got randomly murdered

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And he had grand plans for his life

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And I think to myself I'm like

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You know tomorrow really isn't guaranteed

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Thank you for your attention

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I know you have a lot of places that you can put it

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And I am grateful that you chose to share the moment with me

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So

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I was a nation

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Appreciate you guys

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