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But one thing is you've got to hate to sin.

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So many Christians they hate how it makes them feel,

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but you actually got to hate to sin.

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You've got to come to a place where you respect yourself enough

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and prize his hand on your life.

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And no, no matter what you're going through right,

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you know God's hand is on me, and I have a destiny.

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He's always loving.

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He's always pouring out.

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He's always engaging you.

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When we're getting we go outside of his mouth,

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we make shipwreck of our own faith.

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Welcome to the City Light Church podcast.

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Thanks for joining us today as we look into God's Word

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and discover the hope and truth that he has for us.

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If you want to connect with City Light Church,

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feel free to visit us at citylightnyc.com

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that's citylightnyc.com.

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Pastor Boyan Jansik and his team believe

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that the power of the Holy Spirit

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is already working in our hearts and minds.

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As you listen to today's teaching,

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remember that you are deeply loved by God,

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that you are surrounded by His grace

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and that He has a real hope and a future for you.

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It's been nice to see a steady stream of babies at citylight.

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There's just no, you're chuckling already

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because you know there's no soft intro, right?

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There's no, I'm trying to grow around

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and we're gonna talk about sex today.

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There we go.

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That's the only way we're talking about sex.

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All right.

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I blew the intro in the first service.

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I said I'd get better for the second,

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but there just is no delicate way of, you know.

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So praise God.

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Amen.

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Let's start in Hebrews chapter 13, verse four.

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If you're a guest, hey.

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This is your first Sunday here.

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Man, you nailed it today.

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Praise God.

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We're starting with this verse just because I want you to see

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that God is not down on sex and that God actually created sex.

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And not for procreation only.

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He created it to be enjoyed, created it to be pleasurable,

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but within the bounds of marriage.

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I shared with you many times in the air.

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It seems to suck out of the room every time I share it.

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It makes me feel weird.

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And then I got to go back to the Lord and I'm reminded.

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I'm reminded why I share this.

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Let me first share it because some people are confused already.

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I just share that when I got saved,

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when I was 16 years old, when I gave my life to Jesus,

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the no sex before marriage thing was like a hindrance to me.

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Like I didn't just go sure no problem.

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I stopped and I counted the cost.

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I actually argued about it.

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I thought about it.

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I said, well, I mean, you guys,

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you wanted to become a Christian.

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You're asking a lot.

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And it always gets weird.

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Not now though, not you're chuckling.

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Where were you all those other times?

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I shared the story.

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And the reason why I shared is because I also do a lot of witnessing

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and a lot of evangelizing.

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And when you get to that point

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or the person asks, that is usually the number one reason

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why people don't give their lives to Jesus.

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That's been my reality.

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I've not had anybody say, you know,

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I got a real gambling habit.

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I just can't give it up.

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That's why I'm not becoming a Christian.

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You know, and I've never heard someone say,

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you know, I just love to gossip.

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I know Christians aren't supposed to gossip.

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So, but many times people have said to me,

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hey, no sex before marriage, are you kidding?

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and you see what that's produced.

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I hope you see it.

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You may not see it because it's all you've ever known.

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There's these men that I hang out with in my neighborhood.

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They're all in their like mid 60s, late 60s.

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And now that they're older, they'll complain about the culture.

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You know, I look at it, everything's going down the toilet.

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back in the 60s with the sexual revolution

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and the bra burning and the supposed empowerment.

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And you guys created that and it went outside

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of God's prescribed boundaries.

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And when you do that, it allows the enemy to run a muck.

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See, when I was getting witness to,

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I didn't understand why God put boundaries in parameters.

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I just thought, well, he's a cosmic killjoy, you know?

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He just arbitrarily sits up certain rules

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for no reason whatsoever.

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He just wants to make sure, you know,

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you're jumping through the hoops to show how much you love him.

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That's not the case at all.

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It says, marriage is honorable among all

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and the bed undefiled, but fornicators

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and adulterers, God will judge.

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First Corinthians 613, we find the answer.

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And by the way, when I said we're experiencing

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this in culture today, right now from everything I see

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with my eyes and everything I read,

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the dating world is very, very difficult.

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and even less people are having babies.

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And it has a lot to do with just the way modern dating is

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and what it's just devolved into.

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And yes, that started in the 60s, in mass.

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And so you have this whole thing that's happening right now

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where men are angry at women, women are angry at men.

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They can't seem to find each other,

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they can't seem to meet eyeball to eyeball.

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Men are very content to plan the Xbox well into the 30s.

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Women are also content to say, I don't need a man.

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I've got my career.

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where divorce is rampant, people are in pain.

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And that should not be near us, amen?

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And that kind of stuff should not find its way

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into the blessed and holy people of God.

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So Corinth just so you know,

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because we'll be reading from Corinthians,

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Corinth is a lot like modern day New York City.

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It was a very large city and urban center,

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very multicultural, very diverse, and it was pagan.

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And sexual sin in particular was running amok.

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So it's good to know that in a city like that,

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that you can have a thriving church, amen?

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Because there was one.

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Sure needed some correction,

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and that's why we have the two letters to them that we have,

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but it is possible.

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And Paul begins by saying foods for the stomach

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and stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it

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and then he's carrying through from another thought

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about foods offered up to idols.

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And then he says, now the body is not for sexually morality,

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but for the Lord and the Lord for the body.

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And God both raised up the Lord

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and will also raise us up by His power.

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Do you not know that your bodies are members?

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What's a member?

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That word has been cheapened because we have gym memberships,

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lounge memberships, some of you may even remember

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video store memberships.

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But a member actually means a body part.

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When you dismember someone, you go to jail, amen?

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That's not because you kicked them out of your gym.

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So you are body parts of Christ body.

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Shall I then take the members of Christ

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and make the members of a harlot?

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What?

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Seems like he's jumping around from subject to subject, right?

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So in that time, really not just in Corinth,

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but all throughout the pagan world,

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you had these pagan temples.

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And right outside the pagan temples,

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you had temple prostitutes.

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Next verse, you had temple prostitutes.

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It's interesting how Satan set that up.

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When you need a spiritual transfer,

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when you need the wrong kind of impartation,

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it's actually done sexually.

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He says, or do you not know that he who is joined

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to a harlot is one body with her?

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For the two, he says, shall become one flesh.

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Now you notice there wasn't anybody

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who officiated over that marriage of Adam and Eve.

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there wasn't a wedding of fission.

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You say, well, how did they get married?

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They didn't go around to city hall

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and get the marriage certificate?

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No, they were physically intimate.

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The Bible says that Adam knew his wife, Eve,

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and through that act of physically joining together,

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they were joined together as husband and wife.

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So Paul here is really bringing point to his home

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that sex is not inconsequential

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and sex is not only a physical act,

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but there is a spiritual transfer during sex.

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There is an impartation one to another.

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There is emerging and a meshing.

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And in this case, he uses the example of temple prostitutes

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and he's saying, hey, how can some of you

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go to these temple prostitutes?

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You're joining yourself.

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You're a part of Christ's body.

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You're joining yourself to them.

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What are you doing to Christ's body?

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Now that's an extreme example.

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You could be looking at me and going,

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well, I'm off the hook.

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I don't go to any temple prostitutes whatsoever.

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But I want you to take home the greater point

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because the world has a message.

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And by the way, I know people, this message is different.

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And if this is your first Sunday, you can rest assured.

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I definitely won't be preaching about this next Sunday,

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but this is necessary.

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And the world has criticized the church before.

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You know, saying, oh, they just talk about sex and purity.

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Why are they so obsessed with sex?

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What?

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Why are you so obsessed with sex?

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You're the ones bringing the worldly version,

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the carnal version, the perverted satanic version,

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through media, through printed page,

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through every television show, every movie,

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all of the time.

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So let's bring up God's word, amen.

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And let's take a look at what God standard is

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because he's not a cosmic killjoy.

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He actually put these things in place

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because he loves us.

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And this great gift, call sex, that he gave humanity.

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Also, when you indulge in it, outside of his boundaries,

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is destructive, amen.

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As much as it is a blessing, and it's joyful,

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and it's pleasurable, hallelujah,

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within the bounds of marriage.

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Whoever said, amen, God bless you.

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We got a honest person.

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Thank you for lightening the air a little bit.

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He says this, flee sexually morality.

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Verse 18.

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Now note, it is the only sin that God tells you to flee from.

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Did you know that?

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That word flee in the Greek.

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It's even more descriptive.

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It says run away as if in terror.

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It's a call back to Joseph getting hit on by Padafra's wife.

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She tried to seduce him, and he fleed.

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You know, I got a picture of her grabbing his robe,

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you know, his outer jacket, and him just shedding.

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Like, phew, I'm out of here.

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Cause I know this is gonna destroy my life

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if I engage in this.

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Why is it the only sin the Bible tells you to flee from?

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Well, Paul is explaining it right there.

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There is a transfer.

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It's deep.

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It's meaningful.

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It's significant.

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You know, people are fond of saying, well sin is sin.

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Yeah, on a cosmic level, like, you know, birds I view,

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sin is sin, and Jesus died on the cross for all sin equally.

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That's fine.

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But the consequences of different sins are different, amen.

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If I gossip, that's sin, sin is sin.

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Depending on who I gossip to, what I gossip about,

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there's different consequences.

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That's not the same as murder, amen.

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And sexual violence is not the same.

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And sexual immorality or going outside of the boundaries

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of the Lord has special consequences

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that are detrimental to your success, to your victory,

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to your growth.

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So that's why he tells the Christian flee.

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It's different.

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Really, it's like you have all these other sins.

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And you have this sin.

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Mm.

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I'm just saying the quiet part out loud.

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Now, everything that's being presented in the media,

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everything we're fed all the time,

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the message is all it does doesn't matter.

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And if you say what I just said, you're such a prude,

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you're one of those Christian guys, you're hung up on this

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and just relax.

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I witnessed with my own eyes where I come from,

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Montenegro, small country, 630,000 people,

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seemingly inconsequential country.

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But for decades, I tell you what Montenegro had,

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strong marriages and strong families.

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And as a result of strong families,

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you had order in society, you had peace in society,

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you had safety, where I could go out as a seven-year-old,

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I can go down to the water to the beach alone.

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And if I fell and sprayed my knee, 10 strangers

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would interrupt me and wash the wound up

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and put a bandaid on me.

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It was a cohesive society.

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Divorced was almost nonexistent.

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I said, I don't actually don't know anybody

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out of hundreds and hundreds, cousins, aunts, uncles,

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am I anybody who got divorced?

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Now, divorce is rampant.

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And I asked them, I said, what did it?

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I was really what happened in this phenomenon

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that you go from no divorce to divorce that mirrors American statistics,

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yet it took us like a century to get there.

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How did you get there so quickly?

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All of them, women and men, answered the same way.

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You're going to laugh if you want to tell you what they said.

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They said around 06, 07, sex, and the city came.

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That one show.

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And what it did is it specifically attacked the female psyche.

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That you really don't need a man, you don't need a husband.

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Your great quest in life is your career to be a girl boss

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and spend your 20s, spend your 30s, building your career

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and also hopping around from relationship to relationship

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to relationship, just both of you ride that dating carousel

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and then eventually maybe, maybe in your late 30s

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if you're lucky you'll settle down with someone

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and if you don't, who cares?

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There's just a bunch of problems anyway, right?

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And because during sex there is an exchange.

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People would want to argue with me on this, yet I'm sorry.

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I've been in my office weeping with too many people

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who one moment or so it doesn't matter,

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oh the church is so hung up on sex and then they're weeping.

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If it doesn't matter, if it's inconsequential,

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why are you so depressed and why are you weeping?

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Because it hurts, right?

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Because you gave a piece of yourself away,

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then you went to another person, gave a piece of yourself away

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and then you told yourself it doesn't matter

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and you tried to drown down the pain, a little weed,

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a little alcohol, some other kind of meds

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that scrolling, whatever thing you can do to distract yourself

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with to numb the pain and then just repeat the cycle

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and where has it gotten you?

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What good is it doing in your life?

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You're still lonely, you're still hurting,

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you still feel empty on the inside

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and God loves you and he's got a better way, amen?

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And everything I've said, everything I'm saying,

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and I'm going to say it should not, it should prick you,

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if it applies to you, it should not produce any condemnation on you.

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And you should not be, oh I'm ashamed now, I'm giving,

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Christ died on the cross to tear your shame away

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and He's clothed you if you believe in Him

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and His substitutionary death on the cross,

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He's clothed you with His righteousness.

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And so this is just, I'm just out loud because I want your success,

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I want your victory, I see the demonic agenda

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and attack coming in from the outside,

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we need to be walking in lockstep,

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this is something that we're to aspire to, sexual purity, amen?

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Married, unmarried, yeah.

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Flea, run as if in terror, sexual immorality.

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Every sin that a man does is outside the body

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but he who commits sexual immorality, what?

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Sins against his own body

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when I pastored in the East Village for 17 years

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all over the East Village where these help lying posters.

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This was specifically from the gay community to the gay community.

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This isn't just a gay community thing,

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but in this example it was a gay poster.

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Let me just, because I don't want to get it wrong,

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it's specifically said on the poster as the advertisement,

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it was the advertisement for a help lying

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and saying that active gay men are many times more prone

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to depression, despair, and suicidal thoughts.

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All over for 17 years.

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And we just, you may have seen them and you go,

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oh, that's bad, that's, I wonder why?

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Whether you're gay or you're straight

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or when you go outside of God's boundaries,

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you sin against your own body.

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Then you get sleepiness or you get sleeplessness

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or you get people that are saying,

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oh, why do I have this unexplained anxiety?

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Why do I get the press?

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You're inviting all of these things.

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That's why Paul said, flee, run as if in terror.

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You're inviting all of these.

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Really, it's like swinging a door wide open for Satan

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to come into your life.

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God has provided the solution, amen.

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In case anybody's getting down right now,

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and God has a better way.

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In the movies, music videos online,

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you see casual sex treated lightly.

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You never see the emotional aspect later,

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the depression, the despair, the guilt,

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the physical angst.

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And by the way, nothing will depress the Christian,

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knock them off course and really strip them

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of the anointing of God quicker than sexual sin.

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Aren't you glad that you're always a breath away from Jesus?

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Aren't you glad that you don't have to live that way?

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That when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired

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and you say, oh, I missed the father's house,

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you look to the father and he's running back at you.

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Not holding a record of wrongs

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and not holding your sins against you.

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Hallelujah.

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I thought I shared this in the church.

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But then this morning, I was told I didn't.

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But I first had my first experience with pornography

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when I was in the third grade.

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Not with the video porn, but 80s style magazines, you know.

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I grew up in Forest Hills in Park of Towers.

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I mean, you know where that is.

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Back in the 80s, we just ran around, played all day.

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I like today everyone just keeps,

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slaps their kid with an air tag and keeps them indoors.

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Back then we were just told to go out and play.

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Come back when the street lights come on.

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And I remember one day we were all playing.

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We'd go playing the different playgrounds around the buildings

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and it got really cold.

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So we'd go back in the buildings.

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There were like six stairwells in the buildings.

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The dormant would always scold us to go back outside

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but we'd sometimes sneak past and play.

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I didn't sneak in the stairwells or whatever.

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And then we ended up in the basement

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and there was a superintendent's office

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and several handyman's offices.

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And we ended up in one and saw just a brown box

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and it was loaded with the magazines.

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It was like a group of six or seven of us.

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And we gathered around and said,

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oh, what is he got?

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What is he got?

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We didn't even know.

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And I remember opening up that magazine

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and seeing those images for the first time.

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I didn't believe in God back then.

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Nobody told me it was wrong.

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I didn't even know what it was.

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I remember it was like demonic hot lava being poured on me.

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I remember that spirit.

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I remember how it made me feel.

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I remember my innocence evaporating.

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I disdain that spirit

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because I see what it does to people.

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I know what it did to me.

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I know what it was like to be only in the third grade

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and continue on and then several weeks later.

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I didn't know anything about renewing the mind.

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I didn't know anything about the power of the Holy Spirit.

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I carried those images with me.

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They messed me up.

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That's why I'm preaching this.

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And now we have phones.

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Back then you had to do hard work.

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If you wanted to look at illicit material,

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you had to go out of your way.

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Now you have all the smud of the world in your back pocket.

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Whenever I say this, I have to look at the chandelier.

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Because people...

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They say, why are you saying this?

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How many people does it affect?

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I've been doing this now for 23 years.

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Don't look at your neighbor weird.

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It affects everybody.

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Everybody at one point or another.

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It affects everybody.

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My biggest shock as a pastor was how many women would confess.

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I always thought it was just a man's problem.

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There are books like every man's struggle.

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It is an equal opportunity, demonic attack.

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Here are the myths about sex.

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It's good to see nobody running for the exits.

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Here are the myths about sex.

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That sex is no big deal.

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The truth is your sexual decisions will leave lifelong memories.

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Life-long consequences.

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The myth is that sex is purely physical.

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It's a lie.

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It's spiritual.

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Satan knows very well that it's spiritual.

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That's why he pushes it outside of God's bounds.

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That's why thousands of years ago they had prostitutes not in some hall

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or some house somewhere but right in front of the temple.

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So the demonic activity in the temple could spread quicker

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how through the open doorway of illicit sex.

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A myth is that God is down on sex,

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which he's not.

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He created it as we said earlier.

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Another myth is that it's impossible to live pure.

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I don't say this ever arrogantly or to boast,

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but I've been porn-free.

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Not even one glimpse for years and years and years and years and years and years.

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You know how the Lord did that?

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I'd love to know.

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He just did it.

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It's like there was this thing and he just...

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But one thing is you got to hate the sin.

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So many Christians they hate how it makes them feel,

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but you actually got to hate the sin.

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You got to come to a place where you respect yourself enough

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and prize his hand on your life.

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And no, no matter what you're going through right,

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you know God's hand is on me and I have a destiny.

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And I am not going to derail myself.

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And notice I said not derail myself.

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It's not that God gets disgusted with you, gets fed up with you and says,

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oh, this person, whew, what a perv.

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You know what?

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I'm just turning my back on them and let them just wreck their own lives.

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No, he's always loving.

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He's always pouring out.

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He's always engaging you.

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But when we again, we go outside of his bounds,

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we make shipwreck of our own faith.

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We derail ourselves from the destiny he's put on us.

518
00:25:12.600 --> 00:25:15.600
And yes, he's always a breath away.

519
00:25:19.600 --> 00:25:20.600
Thank you, Jesus.

520
00:25:22.600 --> 00:25:23.600
Hallelujah.

521
00:25:23.600 --> 00:25:25.600
Let's go to Romans chapter 1 verse 18.

522
00:25:30.600 --> 00:25:35.600
I got set free exactly how I preach any sin you get set free from.

523
00:25:35.600 --> 00:25:39.600
It's not from you now doing a bunch of hard work.

524
00:25:39.600 --> 00:25:45.600
It's from you yielding and beholding Jesus on the cross.

525
00:25:45.600 --> 00:25:50.600
And then by faith, by faith, you acknowledge that you're sin nature,

526
00:25:50.600 --> 00:25:53.600
that part of you that's rebelling against God,

527
00:25:53.600 --> 00:25:56.600
that wants to do wrong to God.

528
00:25:56.600 --> 00:25:58.600
That part of you, the Bible says,

529
00:25:58.600 --> 00:26:01.600
was crucified with Christ 2,000 years ago.

530
00:26:01.600 --> 00:26:03.600
In Romans, Paul says,

531
00:26:03.600 --> 00:26:05.600
put it on your account,

532
00:26:05.600 --> 00:26:07.600
wrecking yourselves dead indeed to sin.

533
00:26:07.600 --> 00:26:09.600
In other words, believe that.

534
00:26:09.600 --> 00:26:11.600
You might go, you don't know what's going through my mind.

535
00:26:11.600 --> 00:26:13.600
How do I believe that?

536
00:26:13.600 --> 00:26:14.600
By faith.

537
00:26:14.600 --> 00:26:17.600
Forget what you're experiencing in the natural and by faith.

538
00:26:17.600 --> 00:26:20.600
You say, Lord, you didn't...

539
00:26:20.600 --> 00:26:22.600
I didn't save myself.

540
00:26:22.600 --> 00:26:23.600
You saved me.

541
00:26:23.600 --> 00:26:25.600
You didn't sanctify myself.

542
00:26:25.600 --> 00:26:26.600
You sanctify me.

543
00:26:26.600 --> 00:26:28.600
And I hate this sin.

544
00:26:28.600 --> 00:26:31.600
Not just how it makes me feel anything that isn't a front to you.

545
00:26:31.600 --> 00:26:35.600
I hate Lord working my heart, working my life.

546
00:26:35.600 --> 00:26:37.600
You said, I did that, then I fell.

547
00:26:37.600 --> 00:26:38.600
Great. Do it again.

548
00:26:38.600 --> 00:26:40.600
I did that twice, then I fell.

549
00:26:40.600 --> 00:26:41.600
Great.

550
00:26:41.600 --> 00:26:43.600
The Bible says the righteous man falls down seven times.

551
00:26:43.600 --> 00:26:45.600
Each time gets back up again.

552
00:26:45.600 --> 00:26:47.600
I mean, what is the option?

553
00:26:47.600 --> 00:26:49.600
What is the other option?

554
00:26:49.600 --> 00:26:51.600
I want the purity of the Lord.

555
00:26:51.600 --> 00:26:53.600
I don't want to be spiritually castrated.

556
00:26:53.600 --> 00:26:56.600
I don't want to be a powerless Christian.

557
00:26:56.600 --> 00:26:58.600
I don't want to be always tripping myself up.

558
00:26:58.600 --> 00:27:01.600
Sexual sin, that's what destroys churches.

559
00:27:01.600 --> 00:27:03.600
It's what destroys kingdoms.

560
00:27:03.600 --> 00:27:05.600
It's what's derailed politics.

561
00:27:05.600 --> 00:27:09.600
Look at that one guy who's flying high, CEO, doing great.

562
00:27:09.600 --> 00:27:13.600
Kiss the wrong girl at the wrong concert.

563
00:27:13.600 --> 00:27:14.600
Gets canned the next day.

564
00:27:14.600 --> 00:27:16.600
She's canned the next day.

565
00:27:16.600 --> 00:27:24.600
Everything falls apart.

566
00:27:24.600 --> 00:27:25.600
Wow.

567
00:27:25.600 --> 00:27:26.600
What a service today.

568
00:27:26.600 --> 00:27:29.600
There's only one place to go after I've said all that.

569
00:27:29.600 --> 00:27:32.600
And that's Romans chapter one.

570
00:27:32.600 --> 00:27:37.600
Hallelujah.

571
00:27:37.600 --> 00:27:39.600
You know who this is going to help a lot, men?

572
00:27:39.600 --> 00:27:42.600
No, not because men have a bigger problem with it.

573
00:27:42.600 --> 00:27:44.600
But because I found something.

574
00:27:44.600 --> 00:27:45.600
Because I'm listening.

575
00:27:45.600 --> 00:27:50.600
I'm really paying attention to women's complaints about men.

576
00:27:50.600 --> 00:27:55.600
And men's complaints about women.

577
00:27:55.600 --> 00:27:57.600
You know, men's complaints about women

578
00:27:57.600 --> 00:28:04.600
is that they're like these sects in a city just unsubmissive.

579
00:28:04.600 --> 00:28:07.600
Want to do their own thing, etc.

580
00:28:07.600 --> 00:28:09.600
But women's complaints about men in general

581
00:28:09.600 --> 00:28:12.600
are that they're just weaker.

582
00:28:12.600 --> 00:28:15.600
They're just wondering where did this test wrong go?

583
00:28:15.600 --> 00:28:17.600
I've come to a theory.

584
00:28:17.600 --> 00:28:22.600
See, for 6,000 years of human history,

585
00:28:22.600 --> 00:28:30.600
men had to work really, really hard to see a woman's breasts.

586
00:28:30.600 --> 00:28:32.600
They had to work really hard.

587
00:28:32.600 --> 00:28:37.600
Listen, they had to go to war and come back alive

588
00:28:37.600 --> 00:28:41.600
and learn a craft and a trade and a skill.

589
00:28:41.600 --> 00:28:45.600
And build their lives up and have something to show

590
00:28:45.600 --> 00:28:48.600
the father of the woman he had his eye on.

591
00:28:48.600 --> 00:28:51.600
And after much self-sacrifice and hard work,

592
00:28:51.600 --> 00:28:55.600
he will be privileged to see his wife's breasts.

593
00:28:55.600 --> 00:28:58.600
But today, there's just too much breast viewing

594
00:28:58.600 --> 00:29:00.600
without the hard work.

595
00:29:00.600 --> 00:29:02.600
Just take out your phone.

596
00:29:02.600 --> 00:29:05.600
And you've just seen too many breasts for your own good.

597
00:29:05.600 --> 00:29:10.600
You need to go on a breast fast forever.

598
00:29:10.600 --> 00:29:13.600
And then your mojo will get activated again.

599
00:29:13.600 --> 00:29:15.600
And you'll say, oh, you know what?

600
00:29:15.600 --> 00:29:17.600
I'm going to serve the Lord with more vigor.

601
00:29:17.600 --> 00:29:19.600
I'm going to make more money.

602
00:29:19.600 --> 00:29:21.600
I'm going to do something in my life

603
00:29:21.600 --> 00:29:23.600
that I'll just have to beat them off with a stick

604
00:29:23.600 --> 00:29:26.600
because I'm going to be a more refined package.

605
00:29:26.600 --> 00:29:28.600
Amen.

606
00:29:28.600 --> 00:29:31.600
Hi, every eight men I heard was female.

607
00:29:31.600 --> 00:29:34.600
Amen.

608
00:29:34.600 --> 00:29:39.600
Romans 118.

609
00:29:39.600 --> 00:29:42.600
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven

610
00:29:42.600 --> 00:29:46.600
against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men

611
00:29:46.600 --> 00:29:50.600
who suppress the truth in unrighteousness.

612
00:29:50.600 --> 00:29:54.600
Now, the book of Proverbs says something interesting.

613
00:29:54.600 --> 00:29:57.600
It says, buy the truth and sell it not.

614
00:29:57.600 --> 00:30:00.600
That means you've got to be a lover of truth.

615
00:30:00.600 --> 00:30:05.600
In order to get free, in order to be walking aligned with God,

616
00:30:05.600 --> 00:30:09.600
you've got to quit repeating the lies of the world.

617
00:30:09.600 --> 00:30:12.600
Let God be true and every man alive.

618
00:30:12.600 --> 00:30:15.600
Let his word be true and not what they're...

619
00:30:15.600 --> 00:30:17.600
We're all indoctrinated to a large degree

620
00:30:17.600 --> 00:30:19.600
because we live in this world.

621
00:30:19.600 --> 00:30:22.600
We really do need a mental cleansing.

622
00:30:22.600 --> 00:30:24.600
And it's only given to us by the word of God.

623
00:30:24.600 --> 00:30:26.600
But what buy the truth and sell it not means

624
00:30:26.600 --> 00:30:29.600
is that you prize truth, you love truth,

625
00:30:29.600 --> 00:30:32.600
and you don't accept half truths.

626
00:30:32.600 --> 00:30:34.600
You startl and don't accept lies.

627
00:30:34.600 --> 00:30:38.600
You don't even accept one percent truths or 99 percent truths.

628
00:30:38.600 --> 00:30:40.600
You just want God's truth.

629
00:30:40.600 --> 00:30:42.600
That's the starting point. Amen.

630
00:30:42.600 --> 00:30:46.600
Because I know when I was presented with the word

631
00:30:46.600 --> 00:30:49.600
at 16 years of age after seeing pornography

632
00:30:49.600 --> 00:30:52.600
since the third grade and growing up completely secular.

633
00:30:52.600 --> 00:30:56.600
My parents never said, just completely secular.

634
00:30:56.600 --> 00:30:58.600
They never provide any boundaries.

635
00:30:58.600 --> 00:31:00.600
I think once I just heard, like,

636
00:31:00.600 --> 00:31:02.600
make sure you don't get anybody pregnant.

637
00:31:02.600 --> 00:31:05.600
That's like the secular boundaries.

638
00:31:05.600 --> 00:31:09.600
And then I hear God's standard for sexuality.

639
00:31:09.600 --> 00:31:12.600
You better believe I fought against them.

640
00:31:12.600 --> 00:31:14.600
I fought. I tried to, like,

641
00:31:14.600 --> 00:31:18.600
redefine print and find the loophole.

642
00:31:18.600 --> 00:31:21.600
And when I found there wasn't one I had to buy the truth

643
00:31:21.600 --> 00:31:23.600
and sell it not. Amen.

644
00:31:23.600 --> 00:31:25.600
And by the way, statistically,

645
00:31:25.600 --> 00:31:27.600
when you look at the stats,

646
00:31:27.600 --> 00:31:31.600
the happiest and healthiest sex lives are in couples

647
00:31:31.600 --> 00:31:34.600
who are married and particularly in those who waited.

648
00:31:34.600 --> 00:31:37.600
I understand. Some of you came saved later in life.

649
00:31:37.600 --> 00:31:39.600
Some of you blew it. You messed up whatever.

650
00:31:39.600 --> 00:31:41.600
There should not be any condemnation on you, any guilt on you.

651
00:31:41.600 --> 00:31:46.600
But at least know how the ones who did wait statistically

652
00:31:46.600 --> 00:31:49.600
when they report what they're saying.

653
00:31:49.600 --> 00:31:51.600
Hallelujah.

654
00:31:51.600 --> 00:31:53.600
And thank God God is a cleanser.

655
00:31:53.600 --> 00:31:56.600
And God is a forgiver.

656
00:31:56.600 --> 00:31:59.600
And you could have been outside giving pieces of yourself away

657
00:31:59.600 --> 00:32:01.600
and away and away and away thing.

658
00:32:01.600 --> 00:32:03.600
Goodness God can refill you.

659
00:32:03.600 --> 00:32:06.600
Restore to you what the locusts have eaten.

660
00:32:06.600 --> 00:32:09.600
Yeah, he can. Hallelujah.

661
00:32:09.600 --> 00:32:16.600
He's wonderful. Hallelujah.

662
00:32:16.600 --> 00:32:18.600
All right, next verse.

663
00:32:18.600 --> 00:32:22.600
Because what may be known of God is manifest in them

664
00:32:22.600 --> 00:32:25.600
for God has shown it to them.

665
00:32:25.600 --> 00:32:27.600
For since the creation of the world

666
00:32:27.600 --> 00:32:30.600
his invisible attributes are clearly seen

667
00:32:30.600 --> 00:32:33.600
being understood by the things that are made

668
00:32:33.600 --> 00:32:36.600
even his eternal power in Godhead

669
00:32:36.600 --> 00:32:38.600
so that they are without excuse.

670
00:32:38.600 --> 00:32:41.600
So he's saying there's these people.

671
00:32:41.600 --> 00:32:43.600
Interesting. Roman says nothing to do with this.

672
00:32:43.600 --> 00:32:46.600
Yeah, this is how he opens up the whole book of Romans.

673
00:32:46.600 --> 00:32:49.600
He's saying there's these people just by virtue of looking at nature

674
00:32:49.600 --> 00:32:52.600
and looking at the universe that God created.

675
00:32:52.600 --> 00:32:56.600
They see the order of God. Amen.

676
00:32:56.600 --> 00:33:00.600
By the way,

677
00:33:00.600 --> 00:33:03.600
I'm just was reminded in the first service

678
00:33:03.600 --> 00:33:06.600
I was just about 10 years ago that there was this...

679
00:33:06.600 --> 00:33:10.600
Do you remember the big scandal with the Christian bakery

680
00:33:10.600 --> 00:33:15.600
that wouldn't bake a gay cake?

681
00:33:15.600 --> 00:33:17.600
What's a gay cake?

682
00:33:17.600 --> 00:33:21.600
You know what I mean.

683
00:33:21.600 --> 00:33:24.600
And even mega church pastors were upset.

684
00:33:24.600 --> 00:33:29.600
They were like, oh, Jesus would have baked a cake.

685
00:33:29.600 --> 00:33:32.600
And back then I was a complete ignoramus when it came to...

686
00:33:32.600 --> 00:33:34.600
Honestly, I just focused on the Word of God

687
00:33:34.600 --> 00:33:36.600
and even prided myself on it.

688
00:33:36.600 --> 00:33:37.600
It wasn't good.

689
00:33:37.600 --> 00:33:40.600
But it was God and God's people and His Word.

690
00:33:40.600 --> 00:33:43.600
And I just didn't pay attention to what was happening outside of culture

691
00:33:43.600 --> 00:33:47.600
because frankly, I didn't know my head was in the sand.

692
00:33:47.600 --> 00:33:51.600
I didn't know that I was smack dab in the middle of a major cultural shift.

693
00:33:51.600 --> 00:33:53.600
You know, the 80s, we didn't see culture shift that much.

694
00:33:53.600 --> 00:33:55.600
We didn't see it in the 90s.

695
00:33:55.600 --> 00:33:57.600
We slowly in the 2000s.

696
00:33:57.600 --> 00:34:01.600
Then by around 2015, culture was changing so rapidly.

697
00:34:01.600 --> 00:34:04.600
So it started off with, hey, just bake a macaque, right?

698
00:34:04.600 --> 00:34:06.600
And now here we are 10 years later.

699
00:34:06.600 --> 00:34:11.600
And there's 20 shows on Netflix specifically for children specifically for cartoons

700
00:34:11.600 --> 00:34:15.600
that have trans characters, gay characters, video games.

701
00:34:15.600 --> 00:34:20.600
My son is playing the Spider-Man video game and now they made a black cat gay.

702
00:34:20.600 --> 00:34:22.600
She has a girlfriend.

703
00:34:22.600 --> 00:34:23.600
It's everywhere.

704
00:34:23.600 --> 00:34:26.600
I go take them to Walmart, to the book section,

705
00:34:26.600 --> 00:34:30.600
and then there's a whole section for children.

706
00:34:30.600 --> 00:34:32.600
But it started little, right?

707
00:34:32.600 --> 00:34:35.600
And when the Christians flipped out about it, I honestly...

708
00:34:35.600 --> 00:34:41.600
I thought, oh, it's those ultra conservative, prude, weirdo Christians.

709
00:34:41.600 --> 00:34:43.600
They always got a problem with something.

710
00:34:43.600 --> 00:34:46.600
They're always saying everything's a slippery slope.

711
00:34:46.600 --> 00:34:47.600
I repent.

712
00:34:47.600 --> 00:34:49.600
Turns out they were right.

713
00:34:49.600 --> 00:34:52.600
Because also what you have coming up now, while everyone...

714
00:34:52.600 --> 00:34:55.600
I mean, the greatest sin is not being judgmental.

715
00:34:55.600 --> 00:34:57.600
Don't judge.

716
00:34:57.600 --> 00:34:59.600
I mean, you judge me.

717
00:34:59.600 --> 00:35:00.600
I like sexual purity.

718
00:35:00.600 --> 00:35:01.600
You judge me for it.

719
00:35:01.600 --> 00:35:06.600
You're intolerant of me for it.

720
00:35:06.600 --> 00:35:09.600
But right when that whole thing was happening, I started hearing about maps,

721
00:35:09.600 --> 00:35:15.600
MAPs, MAPs, minor-attracted persons.

722
00:35:15.600 --> 00:35:19.600
Because pedophiles who want to be recognized,

723
00:35:19.600 --> 00:35:21.600
they want their own letter after the...

724
00:35:21.600 --> 00:35:26.600
That's part of the plus, in case you didn't know.

725
00:35:28.600 --> 00:35:31.600
And I had friends who 15 years ago were saying,

726
00:35:31.600 --> 00:35:34.600
that's where it's heading and I said, you guys are crazy.

727
00:35:34.600 --> 00:35:36.600
Nobody who wants that, nobody,

728
00:35:36.600 --> 00:35:41.600
and then that's in the background trying to get in the foreground.

729
00:35:41.600 --> 00:35:43.600
I mean, if I told you 30 years ago,

730
00:35:43.600 --> 00:35:47.600
the men would marry men and women would marry women, you say you're nuts.

731
00:35:47.600 --> 00:35:48.600
That's crazy.

732
00:35:48.600 --> 00:35:50.600
Some of you, you actually...

733
00:35:50.600 --> 00:35:51.600
It's amazing.

734
00:35:51.600 --> 00:35:53.600
You're so programmed.

735
00:35:53.600 --> 00:35:56.600
You're hearing what I'm saying and you're clinging for your life.

736
00:35:56.600 --> 00:36:00.600
Yet you believed up until about five minutes ago.

737
00:36:00.600 --> 00:36:01.600
Yeah.

738
00:36:01.600 --> 00:36:04.600
You believed exactly as I believed.

739
00:36:05.600 --> 00:36:06.600
But you got...

740
00:36:06.600 --> 00:36:08.600
In five minutes time.

741
00:36:08.600 --> 00:36:10.600
And you may hide it under...

742
00:36:10.600 --> 00:36:11.600
Oh, but I just love everybody.

743
00:36:11.600 --> 00:36:13.600
No, that's not love.

744
00:36:13.600 --> 00:36:14.600
That's not love.

745
00:36:14.600 --> 00:36:16.600
That's cowardice disguised.

746
00:36:16.600 --> 00:36:17.600
That's some kind of love.

747
00:36:17.600 --> 00:36:22.600
That's you compromising eternal principles.

748
00:36:22.600 --> 00:36:25.600
Here, Paul is addressing a bunch of unbelievers, a bunch of pagans,

749
00:36:25.600 --> 00:36:27.600
and he's saying, hey, you got no excuse.

750
00:36:27.600 --> 00:36:29.600
You actually look at nature.

751
00:36:29.600 --> 00:36:31.600
It's a mommy bird and a daddy bird.

752
00:36:31.600 --> 00:36:33.600
And they make little baby birds.

753
00:36:33.600 --> 00:36:35.600
And the mommy alligator and the daddy alligator

754
00:36:35.600 --> 00:36:38.600
are saying, you got all of this and God's cosmic order.

755
00:36:38.600 --> 00:36:40.600
And yet you still do the opposite.

756
00:36:40.600 --> 00:36:44.600
And that's exactly what any kind of sexual perversion is.

757
00:36:44.600 --> 00:36:48.600
It's an affront to the very order of God.

758
00:36:48.600 --> 00:36:51.600
The first order that he established when he made a male,

759
00:36:51.600 --> 00:36:56.600
he made him female, and he said, go forth, be fruitful and multiply.

760
00:36:56.600 --> 00:37:00.600
Satan always wants to mock that order of creation.

761
00:37:04.600 --> 00:37:06.600
I'm happy.

762
00:37:06.600 --> 00:37:07.600
Hallelujah.

763
00:37:07.600 --> 00:37:09.600
Just in case you're wondering.

764
00:37:09.600 --> 00:37:12.600
I'm just pleading with some of you in the spirit.

765
00:37:21.600 --> 00:37:24.600
Because although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God,

766
00:37:24.600 --> 00:37:28.600
nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts

767
00:37:28.600 --> 00:37:31.600
and their foolish hearts were darkened,

768
00:37:32.600 --> 00:37:36.600
professing to be wise, they became fools

769
00:37:38.600 --> 00:37:41.600
and changed the glory of the incorruptible God

770
00:37:41.600 --> 00:37:44.600
into an image made like corruptible man,

771
00:37:44.600 --> 00:37:47.600
and birds, and four-footed animals, and creeping things.

772
00:37:47.600 --> 00:37:50.600
Therefore, God also, now this is a terrifying verse.

773
00:37:50.600 --> 00:37:54.600
Therefore, God also gave them up to uncleanness.

774
00:37:54.600 --> 00:37:57.600
Notice it doesn't say God gave up on them.

775
00:37:57.600 --> 00:37:59.600
It says, God gave them up.

776
00:37:59.600 --> 00:38:03.600
In other words, when you persist in rebelling against God's order

777
00:38:03.600 --> 00:38:07.600
and doing your own thing, God will never quit on you.

778
00:38:07.600 --> 00:38:08.600
And should you ever want to repent?

779
00:38:08.600 --> 00:38:09.600
He's always right there.

780
00:38:09.600 --> 00:38:12.600
You don't have to suffer and work your way back to Him.

781
00:38:12.600 --> 00:38:13.600
He is amazing.

782
00:38:13.600 --> 00:38:14.600
He's so merciful.

783
00:38:14.600 --> 00:38:19.600
He's so kind and compassionate and loving and gentle.

784
00:38:19.600 --> 00:38:22.600
But when we persist in doing our own thing,

785
00:38:22.600 --> 00:38:24.600
God will allow you.

786
00:38:24.600 --> 00:38:27.600
God won't give up on you, but God will give you up to

787
00:38:27.600 --> 00:38:29.600
the unholy desires of your own hearts.

788
00:38:29.600 --> 00:38:33.600
That's why you can have people completely rebelling against God

789
00:38:33.600 --> 00:38:35.600
and they claim, well, I don't even have a problem with it.

790
00:38:35.600 --> 00:38:37.600
Nobody should have a problem with it.

791
00:38:37.600 --> 00:38:41.600
Satan's whole agenda is to blur the lines and make nothing deviant.

792
00:38:41.600 --> 00:38:43.600
Nothing perverted.

793
00:38:43.600 --> 00:38:45.600
You can see that, right?

794
00:38:45.600 --> 00:38:49.600
I mean, stuff that's in the calm and culture right now

795
00:38:49.600 --> 00:38:53.600
wouldn't have happened even during the crazy 80s when I was a kid.

796
00:38:53.600 --> 00:38:57.600
But when I was in the 80s watching shows from the 50s,

797
00:38:57.600 --> 00:38:59.600
they wouldn't even show, like, I love Lucy.

798
00:38:59.600 --> 00:39:01.600
They slept in two separate beds next to each other

799
00:39:01.600 --> 00:39:04.600
because it was considered so scandalous to show them on TV

800
00:39:04.600 --> 00:39:10.600
because kids might see that then under the covers of the same bed.

801
00:39:10.600 --> 00:39:12.600
Some of you, if you don't have kids,

802
00:39:12.600 --> 00:39:16.600
you don't know why I'm so fired up about this.

803
00:39:16.600 --> 00:39:19.600
And when you have kids,

804
00:39:19.600 --> 00:39:22.600
and you see how they say, I don't want my son or my daughter

805
00:39:22.600 --> 00:39:25.600
to go through what I went through in the third grade,

806
00:39:25.600 --> 00:39:29.600
or what I later went through in the sixth grade.

807
00:39:29.600 --> 00:39:32.600
I talked to my son about pornography when he was eight, nine years old.

808
00:39:32.600 --> 00:39:34.600
Not in great detail, but I let him know.

809
00:39:34.600 --> 00:39:37.600
There's pictures of naked people on the internet.

810
00:39:37.600 --> 00:39:39.600
If you ever stumble upon that,

811
00:39:39.600 --> 00:39:42.600
well, if your friends ever show that to you, let me know.

812
00:39:42.600 --> 00:39:46.600
I didn't treat it like something to be hidden

813
00:39:46.600 --> 00:39:48.600
or to be, I just openly talked,

814
00:39:48.600 --> 00:39:51.600
so he would very just naturally come to that.

815
00:39:51.600 --> 00:39:54.600
If you ever encountered that, see, I couldn't do that.

816
00:39:54.600 --> 00:39:57.600
There was so much shame when I was exposed to it.

817
00:39:57.600 --> 00:40:02.600
But I don't want my son and my daughter going down that road.

818
00:40:02.600 --> 00:40:06.600
And it's easier than ever for them to.

819
00:40:06.600 --> 00:40:10.600
Because it's so easy, right?

820
00:40:10.600 --> 00:40:13.600
Therefore, God also gave them up to uncleanness

821
00:40:13.600 --> 00:40:17.600
in the lust of their heart to dishonor their bodies

822
00:40:17.600 --> 00:40:24.600
among themselves who exchanged the truth of God for the lie

823
00:40:24.600 --> 00:40:28.600
and served the creature rather than the creator

824
00:40:28.600 --> 00:40:30.600
who's blessed forevermore. Amen.

825
00:40:30.600 --> 00:40:33.600
And that's really what all sexual sin is.

826
00:40:33.600 --> 00:40:37.600
It's exchanging the truth of God for lie.

827
00:40:37.600 --> 00:40:40.600
The truth of God is you feel empty.

828
00:40:40.600 --> 00:40:42.600
I want to fill you up.

829
00:40:42.600 --> 00:40:44.600
The lie is you feel empty.

830
00:40:44.600 --> 00:40:49.600
You can have that need, that deep hunger, that inner need met.

831
00:40:49.600 --> 00:40:52.600
Go on Tinder.

832
00:40:52.600 --> 00:40:59.600
Swap left, swap right, end up in somebody's room.

833
00:40:59.600 --> 00:41:01.600
You know they didn't make you happy.

834
00:41:01.600 --> 00:41:06.600
Maybe try it again, maybe next time it'll work.

835
00:41:06.600 --> 00:41:09.600
And it doesn't.

836
00:41:09.600 --> 00:41:11.600
Verse 26, please.

837
00:41:11.600 --> 00:41:14.600
This reason, again, God gave them up.

838
00:41:14.600 --> 00:41:17.600
He didn't give up on them.

839
00:41:17.600 --> 00:41:20.600
He gave them up to vile passions.

840
00:41:20.600 --> 00:41:23.600
For even their women exchanged the natural use

841
00:41:23.600 --> 00:41:27.600
for what is against nature, likewise also the men.

842
00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:30.600
Specifically, he's talking about homosexuality here.

843
00:41:30.600 --> 00:41:35.600
But this is for any kind of out-of-bound sexual sin.

844
00:41:35.600 --> 00:41:39.600
Leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another,

845
00:41:39.600 --> 00:41:43.600
the men committing what is shameful and receiving in themselves

846
00:41:43.600 --> 00:41:46.600
the penalty of their error which was due.

847
00:41:46.600 --> 00:41:50.600
And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge,

848
00:41:50.600 --> 00:41:53.600
God gave them over.

849
00:41:53.600 --> 00:41:55.600
Now this is terrifying also.

850
00:41:55.600 --> 00:41:59.600
Three things in these first few chapters, this first chapter of Romans.

851
00:41:59.600 --> 00:42:01.600
Twice it says God gave them up.

852
00:42:01.600 --> 00:42:02.600
What did He give them up to?

853
00:42:02.600 --> 00:42:05.600
Their own desires, their own lust.

854
00:42:05.600 --> 00:42:09.600
And then it says God gave them up or God gave them over to a debased mind.

855
00:42:09.600 --> 00:42:13.600
Or in the King James, it says reprobate mind.

856
00:42:13.600 --> 00:42:16.600
What is a reprobate mind?

857
00:42:16.600 --> 00:42:19.600
See, there was a fellow that came up to me after service.

858
00:42:19.600 --> 00:42:22.600
This is about a year ago when I was mentioning something like this.

859
00:42:22.600 --> 00:42:26.600
And he came up to me and he said, you know, I can't believe you said that.

860
00:42:26.600 --> 00:42:27.600
Like, about gay people.

861
00:42:27.600 --> 00:42:30.600
What about gay pastors?

862
00:42:30.600 --> 00:42:32.600
And I went.

863
00:42:32.600 --> 00:42:39.600
Gay pastor.

864
00:42:39.600 --> 00:42:43.600
Is that like the Mafioso Deacon?

865
00:42:43.600 --> 00:42:46.600
Is that like the Elder Crackhead?

866
00:42:46.600 --> 00:42:48.600
That's an oxymoron.

867
00:42:48.600 --> 00:42:52.600
But I couldn't even engage in that conversation.

868
00:42:52.600 --> 00:42:53.600
Why?

869
00:42:53.600 --> 00:42:55.600
Because he had a reprobate mind.

870
00:42:55.600 --> 00:42:57.600
What the Bible calls a debased mind.

871
00:42:57.600 --> 00:43:02.600
That's when you've persisted so far in the lie running from the truth.

872
00:43:02.600 --> 00:43:04.600
You've made every excuse for yourself.

873
00:43:04.600 --> 00:43:08.600
And you've surrounded yourself in an echo chamber with people to cheer you on in your own debauchery.

874
00:43:08.600 --> 00:43:14.600
That now you have a reprobate or debased mind and you cannot tell the difference between wrong or right.

875
00:43:14.600 --> 00:43:17.600
And we, we're not only living such a city.

876
00:43:17.600 --> 00:43:20.600
We're called to love well in such a city.

877
00:43:20.600 --> 00:43:21.600
Care for those who are that way.

878
00:43:21.600 --> 00:43:22.600
Not judge them.

879
00:43:22.600 --> 00:43:26.600
And I think we're superior to them because they're but by the grace of God, go why?

880
00:43:26.600 --> 00:43:33.600
If anyone of ours, I mean, imagine if we all walked around with a three inch by two inch LED screen on our forehead.

881
00:43:33.600 --> 00:43:36.600
That showed every sexual thought we ever had.

882
00:43:36.600 --> 00:43:38.600
Oh, my goodness.

883
00:43:38.600 --> 00:43:43.600
Masking would come back real quick, except we'd pull the mask up right to our foreheads.

884
00:43:43.600 --> 00:43:46.600
So we're all in need of the grace of mercy of God.

885
00:43:46.600 --> 00:43:51.600
But specifically, we're here in the city to love people who have a reprobate mind.

886
00:43:51.600 --> 00:43:56.600
And be on guard that we don't develop a reprobate mind.

887
00:43:56.600 --> 00:44:02.600
Because I've seen it happen to Christians.

888
00:44:02.600 --> 00:44:04.600
You guys are taking us really well.

889
00:44:04.600 --> 00:44:05.600
Thank you.

890
00:44:05.600 --> 00:44:07.600
You know, this is not like the message of my life.

891
00:44:07.600 --> 00:44:09.600
So I don't know how I'm delivering it.

892
00:44:09.600 --> 00:44:11.600
Like you got me preaching on faith.

893
00:44:11.600 --> 00:44:12.600
I got a good handle on that.

894
00:44:12.600 --> 00:44:14.600
God's grace, a good handle.

895
00:44:14.600 --> 00:44:15.600
God's abundance.

896
00:44:15.600 --> 00:44:16.600
I know how that comes through.

897
00:44:16.600 --> 00:44:17.600
This.

898
00:44:17.600 --> 00:44:20.600
I don't have much practice.

899
00:44:20.600 --> 00:44:22.600
So I thank you.

900
00:44:22.600 --> 00:44:24.600
It shows the spiritual health of city life.

901
00:44:24.600 --> 00:44:27.600
Church is good.

902
00:44:27.600 --> 00:44:32.600
But I've seen with this whole deconstruction movement.

903
00:44:32.600 --> 00:44:40.600
You know, there's this way of people deconstructing their faith because they got hashtag church hurt.

904
00:44:40.600 --> 00:44:43.600
And then I listened to what they have to say.

905
00:44:43.600 --> 00:44:52.600
And then I realized very quickly, nine out of ten times, the church hurt resulted in somebody telling them about God's sexual standards.

906
00:44:52.600 --> 00:44:53.600
And they didn't like that.

907
00:44:53.600 --> 00:44:55.600
And then they got hurt.

908
00:44:55.600 --> 00:44:57.600
And then when they started deconstructing.

909
00:44:57.600 --> 00:45:05.600
And now they're doing whatever they want, whatever's right in their own eyes, and apparently have a debased mind.

910
00:45:05.600 --> 00:45:07.600
But no one is ever going to say that.

911
00:45:07.600 --> 00:45:08.600
Why'd you leave church?

912
00:45:08.600 --> 00:45:14.600
Because sexually I wanted to do whatever I felt I'm doing there.

913
00:45:14.600 --> 00:45:15.600
Nobody says that.

914
00:45:15.600 --> 00:45:19.600
So they go, well, the pastor was really mean to me.

915
00:45:19.600 --> 00:45:20.600
I went to the associate pastor.

916
00:45:20.600 --> 00:45:24.600
He was even meaner.

917
00:45:24.600 --> 00:45:27.600
And now I'm deconstructing my faith because nothing makes sense anymore.

918
00:45:27.600 --> 00:45:28.600
They broke my heart.

919
00:45:28.600 --> 00:45:30.600
No, they just told you what the Bible said.

920
00:45:30.600 --> 00:45:35.600
And you got hashtag church hurt.

921
00:45:35.600 --> 00:45:40.600
Thank you, Jesus.

922
00:45:40.600 --> 00:45:54.600
And even as they did not like to retain God and their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind to do those things which are not fitting.

923
00:45:54.600 --> 00:45:58.600
Amen.

924
00:45:58.600 --> 00:46:01.600
Hallelujah.

925
00:46:01.600 --> 00:46:03.600
Worship team, come on up.

926
00:46:03.600 --> 00:46:07.600
First Corinthians chapter 6.

927
00:46:07.600 --> 00:46:14.600
And let's start in verse 9.

928
00:46:14.600 --> 00:46:17.600
So here's where I want to land.

929
00:46:17.600 --> 00:46:22.600
We all have been exposed to this in one form or another.

930
00:46:22.600 --> 00:46:27.600
I tell you what, there is no kind of freedom like sexual freedom.

931
00:46:27.600 --> 00:46:30.600
And if you're in bondage, you know that actually.

932
00:46:30.600 --> 00:46:41.600
Because you know, if you're here, that means you love Christ, you love the Lord and you know that sexual bondage is just particularly torturous.

933
00:46:41.600 --> 00:46:44.600
And God doesn't want you to be tortured.

934
00:46:44.600 --> 00:46:48.600
He loves you and don't you stop loving you.

935
00:46:48.600 --> 00:46:54.600
And a lot of times people fail in this area because they don't want to address it because it's so shameful to them.

936
00:46:54.600 --> 00:46:56.600
God is not put off by you.

937
00:46:56.600 --> 00:46:58.600
God knows you.

938
00:46:58.600 --> 00:47:01.600
God knows you thoroughly inside and out and still loves you.

939
00:47:01.600 --> 00:47:04.600
Hey, get this and likes you.

940
00:47:04.600 --> 00:47:05.600
Can you believe that?

941
00:47:05.600 --> 00:47:06.600
That always blows my mind.

942
00:47:06.600 --> 00:47:09.600
God actually enjoys you.

943
00:47:09.600 --> 00:47:15.600
You may not enjoy you, but God actually sees his fingerprints on you and enjoys you.

944
00:47:15.600 --> 00:47:18.600
It loves you.

945
00:47:18.600 --> 00:47:24.600
And freedom comes from not trying to sanctify yourself,

946
00:47:24.600 --> 00:47:29.600
but yielding to Jesus and beholding the finished work of the cross.

947
00:47:29.600 --> 00:47:31.600
Continuously.

948
00:47:31.600 --> 00:47:38.600
And whatever helps you behold the finished work of the cross, worshiping him, praying to him daily,

949
00:47:38.600 --> 00:47:43.600
being in his word, not because you're trying to be good because he's already good.

950
00:47:43.600 --> 00:47:50.600
And you're just eating the daily bread that he wants to feed you with.

951
00:47:50.600 --> 00:47:53.600
Hallelujah.

952
00:47:53.600 --> 00:48:01.600
Hallelujah.

953
00:48:01.600 --> 00:48:10.600
And I hope that you've been encouraged to take these things seriously in your life.

954
00:48:10.600 --> 00:48:15.600
If you have a problem with pornography,

955
00:48:15.600 --> 00:48:22.600
get whatever apps, whatever filters, whatever that make it impossible for you to view it.

956
00:48:22.600 --> 00:48:36.600
Because pornography will numb your mind to where nothing gives you pleasure anymore.

957
00:48:36.600 --> 00:48:41.600
And it's a giant lie anyway.

958
00:48:41.600 --> 00:48:52.600
None of it is real.

959
00:48:52.600 --> 00:48:58.600
Thank you, Lord.

960
00:48:58.600 --> 00:49:01.600
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God,

961
00:49:01.600 --> 00:49:07.600
do not be deceived, neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor satamites,

962
00:49:07.600 --> 00:49:13.600
nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

963
00:49:13.600 --> 00:49:18.600
And such were some of you.

964
00:49:18.600 --> 00:49:24.600
Here's the key. This was me, even if it is you right now in the natural.

965
00:49:24.600 --> 00:49:30.600
You're confession ought to be. This is no longer my identity.

966
00:49:30.600 --> 00:49:39.600
One of the biggest tricks Satan did with that LG,

967
00:49:39.600 --> 00:49:45.600
you know, I have to use the same verb, do you know the term gay is like a hundred years old?

968
00:49:45.600 --> 00:49:52.600
Nobody went around and the 1800s going, I'm gay. It's just how I am.

969
00:49:52.600 --> 00:49:55.600
Why was that so important to Satan? Because when you say I am,

970
00:49:55.600 --> 00:49:58.600
you're now wrapping your identity around it.

971
00:49:58.600 --> 00:50:03.600
You're claiming that as your person. I mean, nobody says I'm a thief.

972
00:50:03.600 --> 00:50:07.600
I feel sometimes. I've stolen in the past. I repent.

973
00:50:07.600 --> 00:50:10.600
Nobody, oh, I told a lie. Nobody goes, I am a liar.

974
00:50:10.600 --> 00:50:15.600
And I have a liar's pride parade. And all the other liars come out.

975
00:50:15.600 --> 00:50:18.600
And we tell everybody we're not ashamed that's who we are.

976
00:50:18.600 --> 00:50:22.600
Right, a hundred years ago, what that was called was your satamite.

977
00:50:22.600 --> 00:50:26.600
You're a dude who has a proclivity towards satamite.

978
00:50:26.600 --> 00:50:29.600
And you need to correct that asap.

979
00:50:29.600 --> 00:50:36.600
So when you're renewing of the mind, don't identify with past sins.

980
00:50:36.600 --> 00:50:41.600
Don't identify with these ungodly labels.

981
00:50:41.600 --> 00:50:45.600
In whatever area you struggle, you know, and by the way,

982
00:50:45.600 --> 00:50:48.600
I've had so many people, I guess I'm preaching this passionately,

983
00:50:48.600 --> 00:50:52.600
because I've had a lot of people come to me over the years,

984
00:50:52.600 --> 00:50:54.600
especially pastoring in the East Village.

985
00:50:54.600 --> 00:50:58.600
I always know right away, because they're always nervously looking around.

986
00:50:58.600 --> 00:51:00.600
And then they always tell me, and I can tell everybody,

987
00:51:00.600 --> 00:51:03.600
when they tell me, they always think they're the first and only person

988
00:51:03.600 --> 00:51:05.600
that's ever confessing to me.

989
00:51:05.600 --> 00:51:08.600
I feel like they're the dirtiest, and I'm like,

990
00:51:08.600 --> 00:51:13.600
all right, take a number and just exhale,

991
00:51:13.600 --> 00:51:17.600
because this whole thing isn't unique to you.

992
00:51:18.600 --> 00:51:21.600
We live in this fallen world.

993
00:51:21.600 --> 00:51:24.600
The enemy's right, he wants to rob your joy,

994
00:51:24.600 --> 00:51:26.600
and he wants to destroy families.

995
00:51:26.600 --> 00:51:30.600
This is a major, if not the major doorway.

996
00:51:30.600 --> 00:51:31.600
So that's what you're experiencing.

997
00:51:31.600 --> 00:51:32.600
There's a battle, but good news.

998
00:51:32.600 --> 00:51:34.600
Jesus has already purchased the victory.

999
00:51:34.600 --> 00:51:37.600
Let's help you tap into that victory.

1000
00:51:37.600 --> 00:51:41.600
Hallelujah.

1001
00:51:41.600 --> 00:51:45.600
Hallelujah.

1002
00:51:45.600 --> 00:51:47.600
And such were some of you.

1003
00:51:47.600 --> 00:51:50.600
Save us with me, but I am washed.

1004
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:53.600
I am sanctified.

1005
00:51:53.600 --> 00:51:58.600
I am justified in the name of the Lord Jesus,

1006
00:51:58.600 --> 00:52:02.600
and by the Spirit of God.

1007
00:52:02.600 --> 00:52:06.600
Hallelujah.

1008
00:52:06.600 --> 00:52:09.600
Hallelujah.

1009
00:52:09.600 --> 00:52:13.600
Thank you, Lord.

1010
00:52:13.600 --> 00:52:15.600
You say, how will I find somebody?

1011
00:52:15.600 --> 00:52:17.600
It's what I actually heard when I say you say,

1012
00:52:17.600 --> 00:52:19.600
it's what I feel like I hear something in the Spirit.

1013
00:52:19.600 --> 00:52:23.600
How will I find somebody if I don't play that game,

1014
00:52:23.600 --> 00:52:25.600
the world game?

1015
00:52:25.600 --> 00:52:27.600
You will actually find the right somebody

1016
00:52:27.600 --> 00:52:29.600
when you don't play that game.

1017
00:52:29.600 --> 00:52:33.600
They exist.

1018
00:52:33.600 --> 00:52:39.600
Don't swallow the lie that everybody out there is just godless.

1019
00:52:39.600 --> 00:52:41.600
There are Christians.

1020
00:52:41.600 --> 00:52:47.600
Even if they're temporarily trapped in a sexual sin cycle,

1021
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the cry of their heart is, Lord, I want to be free.

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And I actually desire purity.

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I actually desire wholesomeness.

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Do you know how wonderful it is?

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She's not here because she thought this would be too awkward

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so she didn't come.

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No.

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Because my daughter had a temperature this morning.

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But you know how wonderful it is

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to never ever have to worry.

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She never has to worry like what I'm doing.

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Where you know what I'm talking about, right?

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I don't know if you...

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I had a relationship where,

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momentarily, I'm like, you know,

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it's a very terrible thing to be in a relationship

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where you're wondering what they're doing

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the moment they're out of the door.

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I was in one like that.

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That's torture.

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Because there's already been so many lies told

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and so many compromises that there's no trust.

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How do you have a marriage without trust?

1044
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But I only, you know, I read things online

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and to me, you know, they're asking questions like,

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well, how many of your passwords should your wife have?

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How many...

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Hey, they're wondering how many...

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She has everything of mine.

1050
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I have everything of hers.

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Never once used them.

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But we have, we're like one person.

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I can leave.

1054
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I can go, do, go, go.

1055
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Go, go, go, leave for a week.

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She's never going to wonder,

1057
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I wonder how easy she behaves.

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She knows who I am.

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I know who she is.

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I wasn't here.

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That's what God wants for every marriage.

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So you can trust, you know, in Proverbs 31.

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That chapter that describes the ultimate woman.

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And what a woman she is.

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Read Proverbs 31.

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She makes things happen.

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She's got intelligence and wit.

1068
00:54:44.600 --> 00:54:47.600
But one of the things in there that says about her husband,

1069
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his heart trusts safely in her.

1070
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And for women, you know, same thing.

1071
00:54:56.600 --> 00:54:59.600
You want your heart to trust safely in your man.

1072
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You don't want some bad boy player.

1073
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It's sexy on the first two dates.

1074
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Afterwards, you got to deal with the repercussions.

1075
00:55:05.600 --> 00:55:07.600
Then he's out somewhere and you're wondering,

1076
00:55:07.600 --> 00:55:09.600
I wonder if he's doing with someone else,

1077
00:55:09.600 --> 00:55:12.600
what he did with me, which is lying, being in the shadows,

1078
00:55:12.600 --> 00:55:17.600
being disingenuous, using.

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Hallelujah.

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Well, thank for coming to my TED Talk today.

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We're going to just allow the worship team to play the song

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and encourage you to allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you.

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God come by your anointing in Jesus' name.

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We cannot do it for ourselves, but you can.

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You are God Almighty.

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We love you and we trust you.

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And we thank you for your love for us.

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No matter where we are right now, you love us.

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And we're not too far, God, when we entrust ourselves to your capable hands in Jesus' name.

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This is the City Light Church podcast.

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If you've missed any part of today's message,

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or if you would like to find out more about Pastor Boyan Jansik in City Light Church,

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visit us at citylightnyc.com, that's citylightnyc.com.

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Feel free to visit us online or in person anytime.

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We would love to connect with you.

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We pray that you have been encouraged today,

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that you have been reminded how much God loves you,

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and that you are surrounded by grace.

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Thank you for listening.

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