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Good morning. Happy Thursday. Hope you guys are having a good end of your week and maybe you're

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listening. It's not on a Thursday, so I hope you're having a good whatever day. It is for you.

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So I wanted to title this, why being an entrepreneur is lonely. So I mean, the last

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you know, episode or a content piece or video or however you consume this was, you know, hardcore

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industry data, etc. And so I kind of wanted to balance that with something that I was thinking about

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this morning, actually. And it's probably best characterized by a story which you may have heard.

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I'm thinking until like half a year ago. But when I came home from college when I was 19 or 20,

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I came home and I had I went out to get like lunch with my step-cessor. Yes, and when we were at

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the lunch at like the pizza place, what's up, Robin? She said, you know, she said like, well,

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don't you like this, right? You always like this. And I was like, no, actually, I don't like that

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at all. I actually feel strongly against that. And from whatever she was saying. And she responded

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with, well, it's hard to keep track of you. You're constantly changing. And I remember that,

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like really stung me a lot. Like as a, you know, as a first year back from college, I said,

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a change, what is that supposed to be? Right? And so I kept like turning this over in my mind for

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like a week or two. And so finally, it dawned on me that the words that she was using were not

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the words that I interpreted them as. She said, if you are changing, and that is how the world

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will continue to see you. And unfortunately, because of the way that like society brings up,

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they want consistency. They want constant, right? They want things to be the same. And

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the world isn't the same. It changes. It grows, right? And so that's the real word is that she

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didn't say like you're constantly growing or you're constantly evolving. She said you're constantly

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changing. And so it went from being a positive trait, which is how we as entrepreneurs see it

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growth, right? Versus what most people see it as, which is just like you're not, you're not

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consistent, right? Like you're constantly changing. And so I just used that story to illustrate the

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concept. But the like, why being an entrepreneur is lonely is that inherently, and I think that

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fitness entrepreneurs have this even more said than anyone, is that like, and I think fitness is

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really the gateway drug for a lot of entrepreneurs because the first thing that you start to improve

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is yourself, right? And so the first thing that you really think about is like physically you're like

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man, I feel like crap, I need to get in shape, right? And so you start going down that path. And what

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inevitably happens is, you know, you go through your own transformation, you first you apply a whole

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bunch of information and you learn and you learn growth, right? And then you acquire a new

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skill, which is fitness related. Do you understand how to eat, you understand how to work out,

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et cetera? And you continue to grow in that aspect, right? And then you get in shape. And then you

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have this great transformation and then people start asking about it and then you want to share it

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with other people, right? And so then obviously you start getting into life while I need to start

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making this feed myself. I want to do something that I'm passionate about. And this is the first

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real transformation a lot of people go through. And so it's the first thing that they really become

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passionate about it, which is fitness, right? And so like we as entrepreneurs started our fitness

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entrepreneurs like start this path of personal growth first with our bodies. And then we continue

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to hone our minds and get into the business world, et cetera. But the thing is is that like the

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reason it's so hard to have friends, which is was going to be the alternate title. That's like,

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why is it so hard to have friends? And why being an entrepreneur so lonely is that most people don't

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grow. Straight out. Like most people don't grow. Most people don't innovate. Most people live

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the same problems over and over and over again. And when you see them 10 years later, they're saying

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the same thing. They still hate their job. They still, you know, can't get along with their wife

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or whatever it is, right? They just like, they're comfortable in their discomfort. And I don't

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know if it's an entrepreneurial thing to be like, like maybe, maybe we're, sometimes I'm like, maybe

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I'm just a big weakling. You know what I mean? Like I just have to say it's low tolerance for

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anything. You know what I mean? That's outside of like extreme comfort, right? And so it makes me

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not want you hanging. You know what I mean? With people who are constantly growing. And so

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what ends up happening is that like your business forces you to grow. Like you have no choice

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if you own a business but to grow because if you don't grow, the business won't grow, right?

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And the at some point you make that realization and you realize that the deficit in the business

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is the deficit and spill said that you no longer have, which is why the business is capped,

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right? And so I wanted to make this just because I want you guys to know like I don't have a lot

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of friends. Like I have maybe, maybe two friends, maybe, right? And I mean, and like these are people

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that like I would say I only have one friend that I talk to friends that I talk to on a weekly

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ish basis, right? And none in person might do. I don't have any input like real and person

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friends. And and it's I think it's okay. I'm just I'm just I'm just telling you like just we're

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like we're on about it. Like I think it's okay. I think that like for like the reason that we're

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at Leyland, I are so pro entrepreneurs bringing their wives not wives while I'm a guy. So your

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spouses into the business, Beth, I see you're on here. So, you know, husbands into the business

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is that you were in this environment, this high growth incubator, which is what being an entrepreneur

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is like you're just high growth, you're acquiring skills, acquiring skills, solving problems, solving

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problems, solving problems. And then inevitably you grow, right? But if the person that you are with

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isn't exposed to that, it's like you're constantly evolving over here and then they're doing the

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same thing. And I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm not saying that like your spouse has to be involved.

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I'm saying that the reason that we so strongly encourage it is because if you're both involved

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then you're both in the incubator together and you can both keep growing and that way you can

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grow together, right? And so to go back to the title why being an entrepreneur is lonely is that

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most people, A, don't grow. And second, if they do grow, people don't grow at the same rates,

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right? Like I had entrepreneur friends when I got into the entrepreneur space who are still at

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the same level of business that they were when I met them. And in some ways it's like awkward.

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You know what I mean? Not purposefully. It's not like I like it's not like a, oh we're you know,

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we're better. You're like it's not like you don't I mean it's just that like you're still dealing

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with the same things you were dealing with and have an identifier confronted them or grown past them

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yet. And so you're just kind of in this like well I mean it's pretty clear what you need to do.

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You know what I mean? And so and and then it just kind of gets into this weird like well,

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you know, hope you handle that and then you don't really talk again, right? And so like maybe it's

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like why being an entrepreneur and why being a high growth entrepreneur is lonely is that like you

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continue to evolve. Like the person and that's why like you have to break at least in my opinion,

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you have to break the concept of your identity because it's fluid, it's dynamic. You need to become

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whatever the business needs you to become for that next step. And so I guess for those

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We were on here. If you do feel lonely, it's not much for me. One, I can say, I feel you.

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But second, I think there's different, there's there's difference in being alone and being lonely.

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And so maybe I should change this title because I'm not lonely, but I am not with people really

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much at all. And I'm okay with that, you know. And as if you have people who are in your business,

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we're grown with you, which is why sometimes like, honestly, when we had all of our executives fly out

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for our strategic meetups, we had our 11 of our directors fly out. And then four of our

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the EA's came out to meet and kind of talk about the Q4 planning and things like that.

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It honestly felt like a family reunion because everyone who's in this company, this is the

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environment that we created that we choreographed. They all are both oriented. I mean, one of the

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core tenants of Jim launch, probably the one that is most frequently cited is Broard Dot, right?

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And so they believe in that, just like we do. And so you can create your environment and sometimes

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like family doesn't grow the way you do. You know what I mean? But like, you have your blood ties in

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and not but like sometimes they don't grow the way you do and sometimes that can be awkward.

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And I don't think there's like, I think there's lots of things that people can say, but I just

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sometimes you grow apart from family. I'm not saying that it, I'm not saying that you dishoned

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them or you disrespect them or anything like that. I'm just saying that I think it's okay. I think

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it happens. You know, and it's the same thing with initial friendships. And when you get into this

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space, sometimes you grow faster than the other person does. That's okay. You know, it's just

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effective life. And so sometimes we beat ourselves up about this. Like, maybe I'm not social, maybe

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and whatever. You know, but sometimes the things that you need to do in order to grow or not even

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things that are conducive to like social stuff. Like, Layland, I pretty much calculate everything

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that we, for all meals of every day. So if we go out, it's kind of a pain. So I like having my

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routine. You know what I mean? From a food sample, because that gives me attention back to folks

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some of the business that I'm trying to grow up. Right? Like Layland, I go to bed. Like, we're like

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in bed at 845. Like I'm out by like 915. Like cold. Like I woke up this morning at 230. You know,

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I only need like five hours of something. And so I got a ton of stuff done in the first four hours

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a day before 6am. Right? But if someone's like, Hey man, like, do you want to go to this concert with

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me? You know, and it's like 8 o'clock at night is when the concert starts. Like we just think,

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no, you know what I mean? If someone wants to go to a restaurant and it's like 30 minutes away,

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they want to do the reservation at 715. Like, I know that we're going to be done at, you know,

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830. Like maybe we'll do that one, but that's probably won't get served until like 830.

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We drive back. It's 9. And then we like decompress whatever. I don't know. Probably won't do it.

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And so like if you've got that way, like, I'm just here to kind of say like to show you at least

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on our side, like it's okay. You know, like you do what you have to do to grow you. And your

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environment will like you will change your environment according to that. And so any of you,

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this just felt like something that I don't know if it's one person we needed to hear it, but like

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it's okay. You know, it's okay to just be you. It's okay to grow. And it's okay to fall apart

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from people. Like it happens. It's part of life. And being in this high-growth environment that

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you are as an entrepreneur constantly controlling variables, constantly trying to level up your

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skill set, constantly focusing on this child that you're trying to grow. Like it's okay, you know,

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you're fine. And so anyways, maybe that's someone who needed to hear that. But

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anyways, I love you guys. Like I love this community so much. If you're new to this group,

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hello, welcome. This is one of the least tactical things that I've ever made. But I hope you

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found some value in it. And maybe some peace about changes or relationships that you have going

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on in your life. And you're like, yeah, I wish I was still friends with that person.

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Maybe it's not that you wish you were still friends with that person because the reality

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would mean is that you, like because you don't actually wish you were the person who's still

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friends with that person. You really wish that that person would have grown with you to be the

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friend that you need them to be now, right? For the type of person that you want in your life now.

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And you can't force that on something. And so it just happens sometimes you go apart. But

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anyways, I hope you guys have an amazing week. And I hope you have an amazing day and hope you

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crush all of your dreams and goals and that you grow reflectlessly and that you outpace

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everyone that you're lonely or a loan AF and not lonely at all because you love your staff,

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you love your community and everything else. So anyways, have an awesome day and I'll talk to you soon.