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Welcome to the Wellness Besties podcast.

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I'm Lissette.

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And I'm Nicole.

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Two besties in their 50s, trying the treatments, having the real conversations, and figuring out midlife health and wellness together.

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Let's get into it.

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Welcome to the first episode of Your Wellness Besties.

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I'm so excited to do this.

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Are you nervous a little bit?

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I'm not.

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I'm excited to share.

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I am too.

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It's going to be great.

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And we have so many fun ideas and experiences that we're planning.

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Yeah.

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So it's going to be great.

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Yeah.

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So how was your weekend?

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So the weekend, my weekend was fine.

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It was kind of a, what did I do?

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It was very laid back.

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I visited some properties, checked on some things, and then kind of just relaxed.

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It was raining, so it was kind of—I did go to a barbecue, an indoor barbecue.

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Yeah, the weather was awful.

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It was terrible.

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So what did we do?

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I went out to dinner.

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We went to this, like, cars and dinner, like, where you bring your exotic cars.

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But it wasn't a lot of people there.

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Oh, this is Cars and Social?

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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It was at Osteria.

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Okay.

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Which was nice.

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And then we laid back and...

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It was like...

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It didn't feel like Memorial Day.

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It was freezing and it was raining.

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It was raining.

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It was awful.

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And I had to just be home on guard because...

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My son is living his best life, my 17-year-old.

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So I was just monitoring the people coming in, the people coming out, the pre-parties, like all that thing.

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He had a party?

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A pre-party.

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Before they were going to a big party, which I told them was going to get shut down.

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And of course it got shut down.

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And then all the kids were coming back to my house.

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Oh my gosh, of course.

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And he wasn't home.

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Oh, he wasn't even there?

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I had kids in the basement.

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Why did they think?

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And I'm like, dude, where was he?

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At the party.

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He was able to get in and all the kids came back to my house because the party was close by.

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Oh my gosh, that's funny.

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So it was crazy, but yeah.

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You know what, I guarantee my 16 year old probably sees your 17 year old at parties.

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I'm sure.

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They probably do.

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Because they all go to the same ones.

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They do.

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And actually, Billy and I, we said to Ella, we're like, you are not, no more house parties.

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Because when she was younger.

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It was different.

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It was a little bit more controlled.

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We still got bodyguards.

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We would hire people to come sit at the gates because kids were trying to sneak in alcohol.

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High school, they invite kids from other towns.

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And they're drinking.

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They're bringing the alcohol.

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And what's scary now is that they're driving.

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That's the problem.

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But that was the only thing that I had going on this weekend.

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It was a calm weekend.

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Lots of reading, relaxed.

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It was just gross.

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We did.

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Did we do any of our... We went to go do the red light therapy, but they were booked.

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So we didn't get to do that.

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But we did.

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We made massages and then totally forgot we made appointments and missed our massages.

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But it was like one of those like...

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Reset weekends.

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Yeah, I went to the gym because I was like bored.

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Yeah, but it was like a very like low-key reset like Lay low.

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I think we meal prepped a little bit But it was pretty good.

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I want to ask you how has your energy been?

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How are you feeling after we did the peptides?

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So I have to say the peptides I

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They're definitely kicking it now because it's been at least, what, three weeks?

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Which one?

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We're going into the three weeks, the peptides, because I'm on the glow or the beauty blend.

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So it's been three weeks, and I'm definitely feeling it.

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The NADD...

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I mean, we were supposed to start the two.

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Remember the two shots a week?

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We did Monday and Thursday, the half, the 50 and 50.

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That's right.

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And then we did the 100.

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And I still, I don't feel like even the 100, the one day a week, I don't feel like it's giving me extra energy.

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Yeah, I feel the same.

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But when I do take the peptide, the shot that day, like that moment, I feel like a weirdness like in my legs.

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Oh, yeah.

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Like I have to sit down for a second.

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Yes.

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But I'm not feeling.

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Do you feel like you're dying for a second?

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I'm like, what is going on?

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I'm like, I need to sit down and take a minute.

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So I sit.

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But it passes quickly.

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But I don't feel like that extra boost that everybody's talking about.

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So maybe we're not on the right dose.

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No, I think we need to get on.

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I think we're going to go up maybe 150.

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Right.

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And then eventually up to 200.

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But we need to speak with the nurse practitioner first.

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Christine.

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Christine.

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And Laura.

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Yeah, just to make sure.

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For sure.

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Because, oh, I will never.

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I will never, like, unguided start doing something.

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Right, or increase the dose.

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Never.

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Danger.

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Even my food.

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Even the macros.

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Like, something so simple.

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Do I play around with it here and there?

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But if I'm under a coach's care, I'm following their instruction.

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That's the only way you know if it works.

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You're like a coach's dream client, right?

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I think we definitely need to go speak to her again.

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But we have a full episode coming up soon on our whole peptide journey.

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So we'll get into that, what we're taking, how we feel.

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What's working, what's not.

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So you tell me, how's your rebrand going?

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Oh, it's going great.

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I have been...

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I'm plugging in a little bit more than I was before, and I've had great success.

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I have—the social media is, like, doing really well.

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My YouTube channel is growing.

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And the women are loving it.

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I know.

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They're calling me.

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I love it.

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They're sending me emails, like, life-changing experiences.

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I'm 50 years old.

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I found myself.

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I have, like, you know, I'm getting into shape.

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I have more energy than ever just by, like, sharing—by following what I suggest.

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And it's not nothing that's groundbreaking.

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It's not rocket science.

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No.

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It's just, yeah.

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It's just like the basic habits done every day.

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Boring.

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Not sexy.

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But it's been going great.

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What about the GNO?

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GNO's been going really well.

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It's growing.

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We're over 120 members now.

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So it's local, obviously.

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It's nothing nationwide, but it's going.

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It's growing well.

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That's great.

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It's got a nice community of women in business.

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You have a great following.

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And in all your meetups, you have so many amazing women that show up.

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They do.

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I think it's great.

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And that's, you know what it is?

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I think your vibe attracts your tribe.

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That's what they say.

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100%.

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Your vibe attracts your tribe.

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And when we do have people come in, the first thing we say is like,

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If you're going to be the type of woman that's going to talk about other women behind their backs or catty or just having that negative energy, this is not the place for you.

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And we politely just tell them, you know, it's just not the right space.

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But thank God.

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You don't get a lot of that, do you?

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No, not at all.

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I would hope at this age we could stop with the cattiness and the stuff.

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It's, yeah, it exists.

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You would think that after high school, you know, or after grammar school, but it doesn't.

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It doesn't.

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Well, definitely after 50.

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Come on.

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Well, I would say, you know what I think is a true that you just hit like a peak in your life where you just don't care.

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A hundred percent.

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You just give two shits.

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And your people are your people.

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And if they're not meant for you, you're just okay with it.

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You're just more at peace.

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Back in the day, I would have beat myself up.

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What's wrong with me?

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What am I doing?

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Oh, I know.

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It's such a beautiful place to be.

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Oh, my God.

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Now I'm just like, oh, you don't like me?

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Okay, bye.

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I know.

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Okay.

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You're not meant for me.

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So I think with age, you just kind of...

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decide like who is who is worth your your peace you know and your energy i know it's great and you know what and if and if you don't want me there i don't want to be there

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So what else?

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What else do you have going on?

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Well, that's it with work.

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We have some properties also that we're looking into.

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Both of us, we invest in real estate.

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Yes.

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And so we have something coming up in Marlboro.

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We have something coming up in Miami, which is exciting.

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Is that going to be a short term?

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Like an Airbnb?

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Yeah.

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An Airbnb.

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That's fun.

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Which is exciting.

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That should – we're on the contract for both.

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So let's see.

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Oh, wow.

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Okay.

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That's very exciting.

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What about you guys?

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Gosh, we have – I don't know.

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At this point, I think there's probably between New York and New Jersey –

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maybe seven deals right now.

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That's amazing.

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That's kind of in the works.

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But we've intentionally slowed down.

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I know I've mentioned to you, we're building a whole new sales department, really a whole new business.

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Like we're taking it from like the ground up again, like rebuilding everything.

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So we've been like implementing new systems, new processes.

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Right, you started with AI.

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Oh, my gosh.

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Like, at this point, the business is going to be fully run by AI, which is amazing.

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Obviously, we need our key players.

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Of course.

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We need, but it's just, you know.

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Yeah, the directors of operations and all that.

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But, yeah, no, we've intentionally slowed down.

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So, within the next couple months, I'm expecting to be up to, like, doing that 30 projects at a time.

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Oh, my gosh.

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I know.

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It's crazy.

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She does it all.

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The GNO, the smartphone.

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Yeah, Billy.

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It's Billy with the real estate.

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I'm just like his I will admit I'm like his little minion.

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I follow him.

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He taught me how to do it.

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I would have never gotten into it if it wasn't for him.

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I know it's such a great business.

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So it's and you know what?

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I never feel like I'm working.

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He feels like he's working all day and I'm like coming and going.

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Yeah, he has a lot of pressure.

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He's got a lot of pressure.

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Yeah, the pressure, the responsibilities.

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But, you know, listen, it's not easy.

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Anything worth having takes a lot of work and is going to be hard.

297
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So then exactly what is it that you do?

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For the business?

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Everything.

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Like tell me, the GNO, the Smart Foundation, the real estate.

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I feel like I'm like a socialite.

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I feel like I was put on this earth to network and be a connector because I know people everywhere.

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I connect people everywhere.

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Like I tell people like I'm a professional networker.

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And you love it.

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And I love it.

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I love connecting with people.

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I love meeting people.

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I love helping people.

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Like my thing, even with real estate, when I got into it, I was in a situation.

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So for me to be helped at that point.

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And now paying it forward and having people that might be in my same situation and doing for them what would happen to me.

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Like, that is so gratifying.

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So for me, I'm like, I love it.

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I get to meet people from all different walks of life.

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Committee walks all different, you know, entrepreneurial life.

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The SMAR Foundation, you know, the single model.

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Like, I just feel like I just love building communities.

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Yeah.

320
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So do you mind sharing a little bit about your story and your past?

321
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What brought you to real estate?

322
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And because I know your story.

323
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I think it's interesting.

324
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Yeah.

325
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So, I mean, listen, I've been divorced twice.

326
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My second time around was a little harder.

327
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I guess, no, the first time around was harder because I was so young.

328
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I was like...

329
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My my with my two children at the time only had two and I feel like we were raising each other because I was so young.

330
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I was 22 when I became a mom.

331
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Wow.

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26 when I was getting divorced, 27 getting divorced.

333
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So everybody was getting married and I was doing the opposite.

334
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Yeah.

335
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Um, and I just feel like at that point, you know, there was so much to learn.

336
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You would think that I would have done it better the second time.

337
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And I met a great person, but he had issues and struggles of his own that ultimately ended our relationship.

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Um, but you know, because of that, those two things I've learned, I've had so many lessons learned in life, like real life experiences that now at my age of 40, when I say I kind of like.

339
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Like, rebirth, you know, was 40 at me.

340
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Like, I just did things so much differently.

341
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I started businesses in my 40s.

342
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I got into my health.

343
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Like, I've always been into working out.

344
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But by 40, I was competing and getting my pro card.

345
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That's crazy.

346
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I saw those pictures.

347
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You looked amazing.

348
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Thank you.

349
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Thank you.

350
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But, you know, here I was, like, advancing and being, like, you know, growing up.

351
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You wanted to grow.

352
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Yeah.

353
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And my ex-husband at the time was was sick with with he was, you know, he had an addiction, which I openly talk about because he's allowed me to.

354
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He's in a much better place.

355
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I always have to say that.

356
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Yeah.

357
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But, you know, again, at 40, starting over, divorced again.

358
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Yeah.

359
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And not have like being on assistance like so you went through I went through it and then I met Billy and I wasn't being very honest with him at first because I don't want to scare the guy away but I did say my life is a beautiful mess every day above ground is a blessing but you may want to run yeah like those exact lines.

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He obviously took his chances.

361
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And little by little, I just started exposing what I was going through, losing my house.

362
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My cars were repoed on public assistance, like on food stamps.

363
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And I didn't want to tell him that at the time.

364
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Oh, and my husband, by the way, is getting a seven year sentence in jail.

365
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Right.

366
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I didn't want to say that.

367
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Yeah, yeah.

368
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That's definitely not the... That was my shitstorm.

369
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That's not, you know, the opening that you want.

370
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No.

371
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But yeah.

372
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But you climbed out of it.

373
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And he's like, listen, this is what I do.

374
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I help distressed homeowners.

375
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And at the time, I was renting.

376
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I wasn't a homeowner.

377
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But my landlord was, and it's so funny now that I'm in real estate and seeing what he did and like knowing.

378
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So he bought the deed to the house.

379
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He never took over the mortgage.

380
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He never had a mortgage.

381
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He only took over the deed.

382
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So when he wasn't paying the mortgage because someone was in default, he bought it from the people that, or he bought the deed from the people that were in default.

383
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Eventually the bank was coming after it.

384
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So he was collecting $3,500 a month from me

385
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pocketing in it.

386
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Oh, my God.

387
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And then a sheriff sale.

388
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So then that was like the breaking point.

389
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I was like, Billy called me that day.

390
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I was like crying.

391
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He's like, what's going on?

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I'm like, the sheriff's coming to take my house.

393
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And P.S.

394
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He's like, let me teach you.

395
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And I just honestly walked his walk, talked his talked, followed everything he did.

396
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And that first year in business, I did over a million dollars in revenue.

397
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Amazing.

398
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And did it 10 hours a week.

399
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amazing what an inspiration yeah and what an amazing story yeah totally by accident and you had and you have two kids right i had two kids with him well i'm sorry two kids at the time when i met i'm sorry three kids two kids my first divorce got remarried had gabriella and then got divorced so when i met billy you had three three children two baby daddies

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One going to jail.

401
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One was just a complete asshole.

402
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You know, I was living the dream.

403
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What an amazing story.

404
00:14:21.662 --> 00:14:22.942
And then you got into GNO.

405
00:14:23.263 --> 00:14:28.584
And then GNO, because I started real estate, I was like, okay, how can I get my name out there?

406
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I need to start generating leads.

407
00:14:30.405 --> 00:14:33.106
And I just said, I'm going to start a community of women that are in business.

408
00:14:33.186 --> 00:14:36.967
And these are the moms that are going to tell me about the distressed houses in the neighborhood.

409
00:14:37.027 --> 00:14:37.527
Absolutely.

410
00:14:37.607 --> 00:14:43.209
And that's what I was able to do over a million in revenue just by getting leads generated, not even having leads fed to me.

411
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Networking.

412
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Networking.

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Networking.

414
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That's amazing.

415
00:14:47.007 --> 00:14:47.548
What about you?

416
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Tell me your story.

417
00:14:48.589 --> 00:14:56.455
Well, my story does not compare to yours, but I've been with my husband for like 28 years.

418
00:14:56.736 --> 00:14:58.037
So my background is in fashion.

419
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I was in the fashion industry.

420
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I lived in Miami.

421
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I got married.

422
00:15:01.840 --> 00:15:05.063
We moved to New Jersey, my husband, for a business opportunity.

423
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Once we got here, we have three children.

424
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I was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years.

425
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with all my kitties.

426
00:15:12.894 --> 00:15:16.951
I was there, I did all the things, class mom, PTO, all of it.

427
00:15:18.337 --> 00:15:24.640
And around 49, when my oldest went to college, I was sitting around and I'm like, what am I going to do now?

428
00:15:24.841 --> 00:15:26.081
I'm 49 years old.

429
00:15:26.421 --> 00:15:27.962
I was 20 pounds overweight.

430
00:15:28.542 --> 00:15:33.665
I was drinking a lot because I was like so stressed and, and I don't know.

431
00:15:33.865 --> 00:15:35.786
I was just like, I was drinking on the weekends.

432
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I was like a social drinker.

433
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But if I had five social events that week, it was five, you know, at least five, whatever.

434
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I just, I didn't like how I felt.

435
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I didn't like how I looked.

436
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Yeah.

437
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I really had no purpose because my purpose my whole life, like for the last 15 years, were my children.

438
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So that's when I decided to go back into fashion.

439
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And I opened up my online boutique, which I loved.

440
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And I ran.

441
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And it was I was so excited.

442
00:16:00.674 --> 00:16:02.815
I was finally doing what I wanted to do.

443
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But it didn't work out.

444
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And I had to close it, which was devastated.

445
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So then now I'm 50, drinking all the time, fat, 20 pounds overweight, and a failed business.

446
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The trouble.

447
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I had a failed business.

448
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I'm like, what am I going to do?

449
00:16:18.479 --> 00:16:21.760
I got to do something because, oh, I skipped something.

450
00:16:22.501 --> 00:16:23.821
Wait, I'm going to backtrack.

451
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While my kids are still in school, I wanted to do something.

452
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So I got my real estate license.

453
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Okay.

454
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You know, I thought this is easy.

455
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I could work on, you know, when the kids aren't in school.

456
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But I quickly realized I hated it.

457
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Being a realtor.

458
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Yeah.

459
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Hated it.

460
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I hated it.

461
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And that's when I found my first deal and I flipped and I got into flipping houses because of my real estate.

462
00:16:45.873 --> 00:16:49.275
So then I've always done that on the side, but my true passion was fashion.

463
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Yeah.

464
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Opened up the boutique.

465
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It failed.

466
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And then I was like, okay, what do I do now?

467
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So I decided to start creating content.

468
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And I was creating content already for my brand.

469
00:17:00.382 --> 00:17:02.103
So I was used to showing up on camera.

470
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Yeah.

471
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So I started.

472
00:17:03.864 --> 00:17:06.825
And little by little, my following grew and grew.

473
00:17:06.925 --> 00:17:09.206
And people just first I was just showing fashion.

474
00:17:09.727 --> 00:17:13.649
But everybody kept asking me more about like my habits and my routines and my workouts.

475
00:17:13.669 --> 00:17:14.809
So I just started sharing more.

476
00:17:15.870 --> 00:17:17.050
And how can I do this?

477
00:17:17.151 --> 00:17:17.671
And how can I?

478
00:17:17.711 --> 00:17:19.872
And people were asking me they wanted to work with me.

479
00:17:20.052 --> 00:17:21.473
They wanted to get coaching by me.

480
00:17:22.836 --> 00:17:28.559
And at the moment, and I'm still not ready for that, so I decided to come up with a program.

481
00:17:28.599 --> 00:17:30.000
It's called the Her Rebrand Method.

482
00:17:30.280 --> 00:17:36.344
And I just walk you through the exact steps and framework that what I did to get to where I am today.

483
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At 52, sober for 600 and something days in the best shape that I've been probably in my life.

484
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Yeah.

485
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And I created this business from scratch.

486
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Yeah.

487
00:17:46.790 --> 00:17:48.871
And having a huge following and helping people.

488
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Showing up.

489
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I wouldn't say huge, but...

490
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It's growing.

491
00:17:51.572 --> 00:17:53.633
You have a very big following.

492
00:17:53.653 --> 00:17:56.774
And the good thing about it is you're helping women.

493
00:17:56.794 --> 00:17:59.315
Like, your following is specific.

494
00:17:59.355 --> 00:18:01.735
It's not people that's just, like, trolling your account.

495
00:18:01.775 --> 00:18:03.076
Like, they're learning from you.

496
00:18:03.236 --> 00:18:04.396
And they're so grateful.

497
00:18:04.476 --> 00:18:07.737
And the messages I get daily, it's just, like, warms my heart.

498
00:18:07.797 --> 00:18:08.257
I swear.

499
00:18:08.297 --> 00:18:13.559
Like, sometimes there was a woman that reached out to me, and she couldn't get out of bed.

500
00:18:14.139 --> 00:18:15.140
She was so depressed.

501
00:18:15.360 --> 00:18:16.421
And I understand this.

502
00:18:16.481 --> 00:18:21.584
If you're not strong, when you've been home with your children for I don't know how many years and they're gone.

503
00:18:21.644 --> 00:18:23.605
And let's say you hate your husband because it happens a lot.

504
00:18:23.885 --> 00:18:24.666
You don't.

505
00:18:24.746 --> 00:18:25.286
No, I don't.

506
00:18:25.326 --> 00:18:27.207
You and your husband have the best relationship.

507
00:18:27.247 --> 00:18:27.828
But I've seen that.

508
00:18:27.868 --> 00:18:28.648
Yeah, it happens.

509
00:18:28.668 --> 00:18:29.429
You see yourself.

510
00:18:29.449 --> 00:18:30.209
You're overweight.

511
00:18:30.249 --> 00:18:31.310
You lost your identity.

512
00:18:31.690 --> 00:18:32.731
You don't know who you are now.

513
00:18:33.451 --> 00:18:34.252
Where do you start?

514
00:18:34.272 --> 00:18:34.712
Yeah.

515
00:18:35.232 --> 00:18:36.913
And this woman could not get out of bed.

516
00:18:36.993 --> 00:18:42.034
And little by little, following me and following my advice, she did a complete turnaround.

517
00:18:42.194 --> 00:18:44.575
She's like recently emailed, we're in contact.

518
00:18:45.415 --> 00:18:47.396
She's like, I'm feeling so good.

519
00:18:47.416 --> 00:18:47.776
Oh, my God.

520
00:18:47.796 --> 00:18:48.976
I love this.

521
00:18:48.996 --> 00:18:51.457
I get dressed every day with a purpose.

522
00:18:51.877 --> 00:18:53.918
I feel like I'm in the best shape of my life.

523
00:18:53.938 --> 00:18:55.458
She's like, I'm even almost seeing abs.

524
00:18:55.878 --> 00:18:56.339
Oh, my gosh.

525
00:18:56.359 --> 00:18:58.339
So she's even working out and eating right.

526
00:18:58.359 --> 00:18:58.679
Yes.

527
00:18:58.739 --> 00:18:59.519
I love it.

528
00:18:59.660 --> 00:19:01.040
Walking, doing her walks.

529
00:19:01.080 --> 00:19:01.320
Good.

530
00:19:01.620 --> 00:19:02.140
So, yeah.

531
00:19:02.380 --> 00:19:03.821
So that's what I'm doing now.

532
00:19:04.021 --> 00:19:04.241
Yeah.

533
00:19:04.661 --> 00:19:06.283
And you're building such a great thing.

534
00:19:06.403 --> 00:19:11.027
And I think eventually I'm going to start coaching life.

535
00:19:11.047 --> 00:19:11.267
Yeah.

536
00:19:11.428 --> 00:19:12.368
You know, why not?

537
00:19:12.388 --> 00:19:12.869
Life coach.

538
00:19:12.889 --> 00:19:13.029
Yeah.

539
00:19:13.049 --> 00:19:13.389
Yeah.

540
00:19:13.670 --> 00:19:16.172
I mean, listen, you already have the grounds to do it.

541
00:19:16.292 --> 00:19:16.532
Yeah.

542
00:19:16.653 --> 00:19:17.814
And it's a real life experience.

543
00:19:17.914 --> 00:19:20.116
And it's I'm getting asked.

544
00:19:20.256 --> 00:19:20.476
Right.

545
00:19:20.516 --> 00:19:24.220
So it's like, what does your audience want every day in my DMs?

546
00:19:24.992 --> 00:19:26.533
I have people asking to work with me.

547
00:19:26.814 --> 00:19:27.094
Yeah.

548
00:19:27.234 --> 00:19:28.976
So give them what they want.

549
00:19:29.176 --> 00:19:29.396
Yeah.

550
00:19:29.496 --> 00:19:31.218
So I'm navigating that.

551
00:19:31.238 --> 00:19:34.841
I feel like I need a certification or something before I start doing that.

552
00:19:35.161 --> 00:19:37.203
Well, listen, you can get that easily, too.

553
00:19:37.383 --> 00:19:37.643
I can.

554
00:19:37.683 --> 00:19:38.524
I just need the time.

555
00:19:38.684 --> 00:19:39.545
Yeah, exactly.

556
00:19:39.565 --> 00:19:40.866
Because I like to do all the things.

557
00:19:41.607 --> 00:19:41.807
Exactly.

558
00:19:41.827 --> 00:19:42.928
You know, you have the real estate.

559
00:19:42.948 --> 00:19:43.789
You have the family.

560
00:19:43.849 --> 00:19:45.530
You have, like, the wellness.

561
00:19:45.550 --> 00:19:45.650
Yeah.

562
00:19:46.631 --> 00:19:49.095
Thank goodness, though, I will say it gets easier.

563
00:19:49.195 --> 00:19:50.937
And I just had this conversation with someone.

564
00:19:52.079 --> 00:19:55.263
People think they're in their 20s and their 30s and they have to have it all figured out.

565
00:19:55.303 --> 00:19:59.168
They have to be successful and have the career and have the house and the cars.

566
00:19:59.889 --> 00:20:00.810
It doesn't happen.

567
00:20:00.830 --> 00:20:01.972
Oh, my God.

568
00:20:02.512 --> 00:20:10.917
I don't think even if you have it then, I think you don't enjoy it until you reach that 50 mark, 45, 50 mark.

569
00:20:11.357 --> 00:20:13.298
And you're not too old at 50.

570
00:20:13.378 --> 00:20:13.639
No.

571
00:20:13.739 --> 00:20:16.160
To start over or to start doing something new.

572
00:20:16.220 --> 00:20:17.821
I feel like I'm in my 20s still.

573
00:20:18.041 --> 00:20:18.441
Me too.

574
00:20:18.661 --> 00:20:20.862
Until I talk to a 20-year-old, then I realize I'm not.

575
00:20:21.363 --> 00:20:22.843
But I feel good.

576
00:20:23.083 --> 00:20:24.424
I have the drive.

577
00:20:24.484 --> 00:20:26.545
I want to do so many things.

578
00:20:26.665 --> 00:20:27.165
Experience.

579
00:20:27.225 --> 00:20:28.166
And I don't give a shit.

580
00:20:28.186 --> 00:20:29.246
I don't give a shit what anybody thinks.

581
00:20:29.266 --> 00:20:33.828
Because I don't think at 30, I would have been able to get in front of that camera and be on social media.

582
00:20:33.968 --> 00:20:35.229
I don't think I could have done it.

583
00:20:35.269 --> 00:20:37.650
No way you would have been too worried about what people are going to say.

584
00:20:37.770 --> 00:20:37.990
Yeah.

585
00:20:38.310 --> 00:20:39.731
You just have to kind of put your buttons on.

586
00:20:39.751 --> 00:20:41.272
When I did start, it was funny.

587
00:20:41.332 --> 00:20:45.476
I started on TikTok because people our age aren't really on TikTok, right?

588
00:20:45.836 --> 00:20:47.557
So that's where I started for a long time.

589
00:20:47.597 --> 00:20:53.482
It took me a long time to cross over because I still, I'm like, why do I care what people think?

590
00:20:53.542 --> 00:20:55.023
And people still found me on TikTok.

591
00:20:55.283 --> 00:20:55.603
I know.

592
00:20:56.223 --> 00:20:57.724
But I remember the conversation.

593
00:20:57.744 --> 00:20:59.905
You were like, I'm just not on Instagram.

594
00:21:00.065 --> 00:21:01.566
You were getting onto Instagram.

595
00:21:01.586 --> 00:21:01.966
But yeah.

596
00:21:02.366 --> 00:21:06.648
And see, now that you're on more of Instagram, you are having people more relatable.

597
00:21:07.208 --> 00:21:07.388
Yes.

598
00:21:07.408 --> 00:21:08.388
You're having people.

599
00:21:09.109 --> 00:21:09.409
Yes.

600
00:21:09.569 --> 00:21:13.771
And my biggest, I would say, community would be on YouTube.

601
00:21:13.831 --> 00:21:14.271
YouTube.

602
00:21:14.311 --> 00:21:14.731
YouTube.

603
00:21:15.191 --> 00:21:16.832
But yeah, for sure.

604
00:21:16.852 --> 00:21:24.817
It was it was, you know, and then that's when you're on Instagram and you have I've had so many brands like reaching out to me to to work with me, which is crazy.

605
00:21:25.277 --> 00:21:30.880
You would think that they don't want a 50 year old, but they do because we have life and we have money.

606
00:21:31.100 --> 00:21:31.300
Yeah.

607
00:21:31.601 --> 00:21:33.282
My audience has money to buy.

608
00:21:33.302 --> 00:21:34.562
And it's crazy.

609
00:21:34.722 --> 00:21:35.163
You're right.

610
00:21:35.403 --> 00:21:35.823
You're right.

611
00:21:36.283 --> 00:21:38.424
And I think, too, like, would you take.

612
00:21:39.525 --> 00:22:02.030
advice from a 25 year old that has perfect skin perfect hair perfect body they haven't had chill like would you really be like oh i'm gonna listen to her because her skin looks great yeah her skin looks great she's 25 exactly and you look great because and you're in great shape because you're 25 you don't even need to work out you can eat a bagel all day my daughters both have great they're in great shape and they don't exercise exactly i swear when i was younger i

613
00:22:02.370 --> 00:22:04.952
I had such unhealthy habits, like eating habits.

614
00:22:05.612 --> 00:22:09.535
I would literally eat once a day and be fine, be stick thin.

615
00:22:09.795 --> 00:22:11.857
If I eat once a day, my stomach is bloated.

616
00:22:12.317 --> 00:22:13.278
I'm loose.

617
00:22:13.418 --> 00:22:15.179
I don't look like tight, you know.

618
00:22:15.619 --> 00:22:19.382
So it does, I'm telling you, it says 25 and 50.

619
00:22:19.402 --> 00:22:24.525
I would want to learn if I'm seeing a 50-year-old that has great skin, good hair, a great figure.

620
00:22:24.865 --> 00:22:25.626
I want to know what you did.

621
00:22:26.046 --> 00:22:33.811
And that's another reason when I started sharing, so many women were like, oh, my God, there's not a lot of people sharing that are in our age group.

622
00:22:33.851 --> 00:22:38.354
So, like, obviously my workout is not going to be the same as a 20-year-old or my skincare routine.

623
00:22:38.375 --> 00:22:40.956
So then I found my people.

624
00:22:41.096 --> 00:22:41.377
Yeah.

625
00:22:41.677 --> 00:22:42.437
But guess what?

626
00:22:42.777 --> 00:22:44.319
That 20-something-year-old...

627
00:22:45.412 --> 00:22:50.454
I would listen to the advice of someone that looked great in their 50s because that's their future.

628
00:22:50.494 --> 00:22:51.535
They're going to get there.

629
00:22:51.595 --> 00:22:53.696
Like you're going to get to that point.

630
00:22:53.736 --> 00:22:57.677
You're never going to say we all wish we can stay 20s forever.

631
00:22:57.877 --> 00:22:58.538
It doesn't happen.

632
00:22:58.918 --> 00:22:59.958
But we're blessed to age.

633
00:23:00.178 --> 00:23:01.559
You know, why not do it gracefully?

634
00:23:01.579 --> 00:23:02.680
Why not take the advice?

635
00:23:03.080 --> 00:23:07.702
I always say if I had the influencers that we have today.

636
00:23:08.882 --> 00:23:13.503
I mean, I would have been doing and I was always very into stuff, but I would have been doing so many things differently.

637
00:23:13.563 --> 00:23:14.224
Oh, for sure.

638
00:23:14.264 --> 00:23:15.684
We had no idea what we were doing.

639
00:23:15.764 --> 00:23:16.084
Yeah.

640
00:23:16.104 --> 00:23:17.064
We're just figuring it out.

641
00:23:17.084 --> 00:23:17.324
Yeah.

642
00:23:17.745 --> 00:23:23.346
So now we have so many mentors and so many influencers that have, you know, the tools.

643
00:23:23.886 --> 00:23:24.647
Why not listen to them?

644
00:23:24.727 --> 00:23:25.367
Absolutely.

645
00:23:25.387 --> 00:23:25.667
You know.

646
00:23:26.607 --> 00:23:29.708
So let's talk about how we met.

647
00:23:30.275 --> 00:23:30.595
Okay.

648
00:23:30.955 --> 00:23:35.197
So Nicole and I met at, guess, at the gym.

649
00:23:35.477 --> 00:23:35.958
At the gym.

650
00:23:37.338 --> 00:23:38.018
And it's so funny.

651
00:23:38.039 --> 00:23:43.161
I get so many women that ask me, like, where do you meet like-minded people at this age?

652
00:23:43.221 --> 00:23:43.881
Yeah.

653
00:23:43.961 --> 00:23:44.862
I'm like at the gym.

654
00:23:44.962 --> 00:23:46.242
That's my answer for like everything.

655
00:23:46.262 --> 00:23:46.782
You're depressed.

656
00:23:46.802 --> 00:23:47.283
Go to the gym.

657
00:23:47.323 --> 00:23:48.283
You need to meet friends.

658
00:23:48.303 --> 00:23:48.863
Go to the gym.

659
00:23:49.043 --> 00:23:49.304
Yeah.

660
00:23:49.464 --> 00:23:50.104
Yeah.

661
00:23:50.304 --> 00:23:53.165
Natural endorphins, you know, it releases those.

662
00:23:53.245 --> 00:23:54.106
It makes you feel good.

663
00:23:54.786 --> 00:23:56.327
Starting the gym in the morning, too.

664
00:23:56.347 --> 00:23:56.447
Yeah.

665
00:23:57.087 --> 00:23:57.327
I know.

666
00:23:57.367 --> 00:24:06.475
So I think we met because I think you saw my when I had my store, you saw some of the fashion stuff and you needed like like some clothes or something for an event.

667
00:24:06.495 --> 00:24:06.615
Yes.

668
00:24:06.976 --> 00:24:12.501
I had one of my events, the big events, and we were getting our hair done at the same place, but we didn't see each other.

669
00:24:13.101 --> 00:24:15.783
And then at the gym that you were like, were you in freeholds?

670
00:24:15.843 --> 00:24:17.825
I'm like, yeah, yeah.

671
00:24:18.125 --> 00:24:19.647
And I don't usually go to that salon.

672
00:24:19.767 --> 00:24:20.447
And I don't either.

673
00:24:20.467 --> 00:24:20.568
Yeah.

674
00:24:21.268 --> 00:24:22.309
I never do.

675
00:24:22.529 --> 00:24:23.470
I go to industry.

676
00:24:23.550 --> 00:24:25.511
So it was just like, I don't know why I was there.

677
00:24:25.872 --> 00:24:27.293
That is so funny.

678
00:24:27.593 --> 00:24:29.014
And then we just got to talking.

679
00:24:29.254 --> 00:24:31.556
And obviously, we're into the same things.

680
00:24:31.636 --> 00:24:38.381
You know, we have a lot of like-minded, you know, or like-minded, I guess, things that we do.

681
00:24:39.302 --> 00:24:40.343
So we just kind of clicked.

682
00:24:40.663 --> 00:24:40.764
Yeah.

683
00:24:40.784 --> 00:24:42.545
And then we ended up, we went out.

684
00:24:42.886 --> 00:24:43.186
Dinner.

685
00:24:43.666 --> 00:24:48.030
And your fiance is also sober.

686
00:24:48.291 --> 00:24:48.571
Yes.

687
00:24:48.971 --> 00:24:50.833
And I've been trying to find my sober people.

688
00:24:50.973 --> 00:24:52.114
So I love that.

689
00:24:52.355 --> 00:24:57.299
And we had a really, and we have so much in common with real estate, the wellness, the fitness, all of it.

690
00:24:57.459 --> 00:24:57.780
Oh, yeah.

691
00:24:57.820 --> 00:25:00.682
Billy and Alex, they're both into all this stuff, too.

692
00:25:00.722 --> 00:25:01.323
So it's great.

693
00:25:01.864 --> 00:25:02.905
But I will say...

694
00:25:03.798 --> 00:25:05.499
At the time when I met you, I was still drinking.

695
00:25:05.860 --> 00:25:06.200
Yes, you were.

696
00:25:06.220 --> 00:25:07.741
I was on one of my like hiatuses.

697
00:25:07.801 --> 00:25:08.602
I go on and off.

698
00:25:09.122 --> 00:25:16.908
But it's been, gosh, I don't know exactly how many days, but it's been since February 14th, 2025.

699
00:25:17.068 --> 00:25:19.650
So it's definitely, yeah, it's over a year now.

700
00:25:20.150 --> 00:25:22.552
I feel like it was yesterday.

701
00:25:22.692 --> 00:25:24.373
Like, it went by so fast.

702
00:25:24.433 --> 00:25:24.913
I know.

703
00:25:24.973 --> 00:25:25.733
And do you feel better?

704
00:25:26.054 --> 00:25:26.514
Oh, my God.

705
00:25:26.574 --> 00:25:27.114
So much better.

706
00:25:27.435 --> 00:25:33.718
But I like you, like I was a social drinker, but hosting events and having an event three times a week.

707
00:25:33.798 --> 00:25:34.119
I know.

708
00:25:34.139 --> 00:25:34.899
That's a lot.

709
00:25:35.139 --> 00:25:37.441
And then the weekend comes and you're like, oh, it's the weekend.

710
00:25:37.561 --> 00:25:41.523
And but honestly, I wasn't a heavy drinker.

711
00:25:41.543 --> 00:25:44.505
I was a very social drinker.

712
00:25:45.345 --> 00:25:45.666
But it.

713
00:25:45.866 --> 00:25:45.926
It.

714
00:25:46.755 --> 00:25:49.978
It didn't change my weight because I was already lean, I guess.

715
00:25:50.458 --> 00:25:52.099
So I didn't see change in weight.

716
00:25:52.880 --> 00:25:55.462
Maybe the next day, cloudiness, definitely.

717
00:25:55.762 --> 00:25:57.363
I feel more focused the next day.

718
00:25:57.423 --> 00:25:59.405
Obviously not waking up hungover.

719
00:25:59.445 --> 00:26:01.767
Not even hungover, but just having like alcohol residuals.

720
00:26:01.787 --> 00:26:04.589
You feel like, even if you have two glasses on, you still feel off the next day.

721
00:26:04.609 --> 00:26:06.090
Yeah, you just feel like sluggish.

722
00:26:06.350 --> 00:26:06.650
Yeah.

723
00:26:06.770 --> 00:26:07.211
Cloudy.

724
00:26:08.051 --> 00:26:09.693
So obviously I don't have that.

725
00:26:10.373 --> 00:26:12.555
But I do miss drinking.

726
00:26:12.995 --> 00:26:13.415
A little bit.

727
00:26:13.855 --> 00:26:14.616
I'm not going to lie.

728
00:26:14.676 --> 00:26:16.076
Do you have your moments where you miss it?

729
00:26:16.376 --> 00:26:16.656
I do.

730
00:26:16.856 --> 00:26:17.096
I do.

731
00:26:17.176 --> 00:26:17.977
Sometimes I do.

732
00:26:18.317 --> 00:26:21.618
But this is how I always think because I wasn't an alcoholic.

733
00:26:21.938 --> 00:26:24.559
I considered myself a gray area drinker, right?

734
00:26:24.859 --> 00:26:27.140
I liked it maybe a little bit more than most.

735
00:26:28.275 --> 00:26:31.778
Because I have friends that aren't—they'll have one glass of wine.

736
00:26:31.798 --> 00:26:32.538
They don't finish it.

737
00:26:32.578 --> 00:26:33.219
They don't like it.

738
00:26:33.279 --> 00:26:35.220
Like, I would always finish, and I would always have to.

739
00:26:35.300 --> 00:26:36.881
Like, I liked to drink.

740
00:26:37.662 --> 00:26:40.724
But I'm like, okay, how am I going to feel in two hours from now?

741
00:26:40.744 --> 00:26:42.185
I'm probably going to want to drink more.

742
00:26:42.345 --> 00:26:43.326
How am I going to sleep?

743
00:26:43.426 --> 00:26:44.567
I'm going to sleep like shit.

744
00:26:45.147 --> 00:26:51.932
And how am I going to feel like tomorrow and the next—and I would—when I would drink, because I was, I guess, going through my changes—

745
00:26:52.993 --> 00:26:55.474
Um, three o'clock in the morning, heart palpitations, sweating.

746
00:26:55.534 --> 00:27:00.456
And this is just drinking two glasses of wine or having a martini, not like going crazy.

747
00:27:01.076 --> 00:27:02.237
And the next day I felt like shit.

748
00:27:02.657 --> 00:27:05.718
And then I've had like, oh, like a little low level of anxiety.

749
00:27:06.058 --> 00:27:06.419
Always.

750
00:27:06.479 --> 00:27:06.799
Yes.

751
00:27:07.279 --> 00:27:08.259
And I hated that.

752
00:27:08.319 --> 00:27:09.400
And it causes depression.

753
00:27:09.700 --> 00:27:10.000
So then.

754
00:27:10.020 --> 00:27:12.041
Did you ever wake up depressed after drinking?

755
00:27:12.061 --> 00:27:12.281
Yeah.

756
00:27:12.501 --> 00:27:12.861
Yeah.

757
00:27:12.881 --> 00:27:13.662
Like hating your life.

758
00:27:13.682 --> 00:27:15.402
You're like, I don't even have any reason to hate it.

759
00:27:15.442 --> 00:27:16.043
But I just.

760
00:27:16.323 --> 00:27:19.584
So then I think about all that and it makes me not want to have the drink.

761
00:27:19.844 --> 00:27:20.364
Exactly.

762
00:27:20.384 --> 00:27:20.884
Me too.

763
00:27:20.904 --> 00:27:26.426
So sometimes I'm like, okay, yeah, if I'm on a bow and a nice glass of champagne, I'm on vacation.

764
00:27:26.446 --> 00:27:27.347
Oh, everybody's out.

765
00:27:27.367 --> 00:27:27.947
The girls are out.

766
00:27:27.967 --> 00:27:28.967
Everybody's laughing.

767
00:27:29.027 --> 00:27:29.888
At a party.

768
00:27:30.468 --> 00:27:33.349
But then I think about these things and then I'm fine.

769
00:27:33.569 --> 00:27:33.769
Yeah.

770
00:27:33.849 --> 00:27:41.772
And I've learned how to – I have my mocktail and it was a muscle that I had to like build because in the beginning going out social is very awkward.

771
00:27:41.952 --> 00:27:42.212
Yeah.

772
00:27:42.492 --> 00:27:44.213
Like not social, sober.

773
00:27:44.393 --> 00:27:44.713
Sober.

774
00:27:44.733 --> 00:27:44.833
Yeah.

775
00:27:45.793 --> 00:27:46.714
But I'm fine now.

776
00:27:46.734 --> 00:27:47.454
I could do anything.

777
00:27:47.494 --> 00:27:48.395
I go to any event.

778
00:27:48.455 --> 00:27:49.336
I go to any party.

779
00:27:49.536 --> 00:27:50.416
And I have a good time.

780
00:27:50.597 --> 00:27:51.037
Me too.

781
00:27:51.117 --> 00:27:56.240
I mean, I don't, I'll only miss it if I see like a really good time happening.

782
00:27:56.300 --> 00:27:58.462
And I'm like, all right, I wish I was like on that.

783
00:27:58.502 --> 00:27:58.742
Right.

784
00:27:58.902 --> 00:27:59.302
Yeah.

785
00:27:59.743 --> 00:28:02.244
Then, but then there's like a really good time.

786
00:28:02.424 --> 00:28:04.606
And then it, then it gets, it could get messy.

787
00:28:04.686 --> 00:28:04.946
Yeah.

788
00:28:05.066 --> 00:28:05.406
Like quick.

789
00:28:05.466 --> 00:28:05.807
Oh, yeah.

790
00:28:06.467 --> 00:28:09.769
And then also, like, do you feel like, like, not drinking, though?

791
00:28:09.969 --> 00:28:12.070
Like, the drinkers, they're hanging out.

792
00:28:12.190 --> 00:28:17.033
They're like, it's 1 a.m. and you're, like, on a sofa somewhere, like, closing your eyes.

793
00:28:17.173 --> 00:28:18.113
I'm like, I gotta go.

794
00:28:18.173 --> 00:28:18.754
I go home.

795
00:28:18.954 --> 00:28:23.176
Like, I do miss, because I, for some reason, I do get tired more quick, I guess.

796
00:28:23.596 --> 00:28:24.597
Well, you get bored.

797
00:28:24.637 --> 00:28:25.637
I guess, yeah.

798
00:28:26.398 --> 00:28:29.700
You know, you're drinking and it's the same conversation and...

799
00:28:30.540 --> 00:28:31.661
And you're not at that level.

800
00:28:31.681 --> 00:28:32.982
So you're like, okay, I'm tired.

801
00:28:33.022 --> 00:28:37.125
So I was recently at my indoor barbecue over the Memorial Day.

802
00:28:37.225 --> 00:28:40.187
And someone said, let's play a game.

803
00:28:40.207 --> 00:28:42.249
And every time you get the answer wrong, you have to take a shot.

804
00:28:42.269 --> 00:28:43.150
And I'm like, but I don't drink.

805
00:28:43.170 --> 00:28:44.330
They're like, well, you can take a shot of water.

806
00:28:44.350 --> 00:28:46.072
I'm like, what fun is that?

807
00:28:46.132 --> 00:28:46.832
A shot of water?

808
00:28:48.173 --> 00:28:48.634
Okay.

809
00:28:50.015 --> 00:28:54.338
But so I do miss, you know, those kind of interactions when you see people.

810
00:28:54.758 --> 00:28:57.160
But, I mean, I don't miss it the next day.

811
00:28:57.200 --> 00:28:58.061
I'm like, thank God.

812
00:28:58.341 --> 00:28:59.522
You know, I never cave or...

813
00:28:59.842 --> 00:29:01.323
Yeah, and the next thing you feel great.

814
00:29:01.343 --> 00:29:03.705
And then I like being able to, like, get in my car and drive home.

815
00:29:03.885 --> 00:29:04.105
Yes.

816
00:29:04.325 --> 00:29:06.627
And come home and do my skincare.

817
00:29:06.647 --> 00:29:06.727
Yes.

818
00:29:06.867 --> 00:29:07.847
Put on pajamas.

819
00:29:08.568 --> 00:29:08.928
I don't know.

820
00:29:09.408 --> 00:29:09.889
But I do.

821
00:29:10.249 --> 00:29:12.470
I mean, you know, when everybody's having, like, a great time.

822
00:29:12.490 --> 00:29:13.511
Especially summertime.

823
00:29:13.551 --> 00:29:14.652
Summer is hard.

824
00:29:14.672 --> 00:29:15.752
Yeah, sitting by the pool.

825
00:29:15.773 --> 00:29:16.293
It's summer.

826
00:29:16.773 --> 00:29:18.434
On the beach, on vacation.

827
00:29:18.794 --> 00:29:23.536
When we would get to our beach house, I would be unloading the bags, filling up my drink.

828
00:29:23.636 --> 00:29:24.717
I wasn't even unpacking.

829
00:29:24.757 --> 00:29:26.617
And then I would do everything while I'm drinking.

830
00:29:26.818 --> 00:29:29.039
Like on the way, Alex driving and you're drinking.

831
00:29:29.059 --> 00:29:31.120
No, as soon as I would get there, I wouldn't even unpack.

832
00:29:31.160 --> 00:29:31.840
I would start.

833
00:29:31.900 --> 00:29:38.103
And so it was hard for me to learn how to enjoy my shore house and my life down there sober.

834
00:29:38.263 --> 00:29:38.603
Yeah.

835
00:29:38.663 --> 00:29:40.844
But I... What about you and Alex?

836
00:29:41.773 --> 00:29:46.175
Well, Alex is funny because he actually wanted to stop drinking before me.

837
00:29:46.615 --> 00:29:50.196
And I said to him, I'm like, you could do whatever you want, but I'm not going to start.

838
00:29:50.737 --> 00:29:51.277
You do you.

839
00:29:51.377 --> 00:29:51.857
I do me.

840
00:29:52.197 --> 00:29:52.697
And it's funny.

841
00:29:52.737 --> 00:29:56.819
But then I had like one situation, whatever, then I'm like, I'm going to take 30 days.

842
00:29:57.079 --> 00:29:59.622
Yeah, I need a reset, a reset.

843
00:30:00.003 --> 00:30:01.825
And then that 30 days, I still haven't drank yet.

844
00:30:01.905 --> 00:30:04.508
But he's 30 days turned into 700.

845
00:30:04.548 --> 00:30:05.389
How many like 600?

846
00:30:05.469 --> 00:30:06.571
I don't know, whatever.

847
00:30:07.892 --> 00:30:10.535
But in the beginning, he was he's always for it.

848
00:30:10.636 --> 00:30:12.037
He still has a drink now.

849
00:30:12.057 --> 00:30:16.583
He's so into fitness and into all his things that he rather feel good the next day.

850
00:30:16.803 --> 00:30:18.244
So he will have a cocktail here and there.

851
00:30:18.264 --> 00:30:19.585
Yes, he will.

852
00:30:20.105 --> 00:30:21.726
And does it affect him the next day?

853
00:30:21.746 --> 00:30:23.107
Like even when he has that one drink?

854
00:30:23.167 --> 00:30:23.528
Yes.

855
00:30:23.728 --> 00:30:24.328
Okay, it does.

856
00:30:24.468 --> 00:30:24.728
It does.

857
00:30:24.768 --> 00:30:25.909
And he's like, I shouldn't have had that drink.

858
00:30:25.949 --> 00:30:26.930
I'm like, I feel great.

859
00:30:27.330 --> 00:30:29.392
So what makes him cave?

860
00:30:29.712 --> 00:30:30.813
I think it's like the friends.

861
00:30:30.833 --> 00:30:31.373
The pressure.

862
00:30:31.413 --> 00:30:31.653
Yeah.

863
00:30:31.753 --> 00:30:33.154
Yeah, just like everybody's doing it.

864
00:30:33.234 --> 00:30:34.375
And it's different for guys.

865
00:30:34.555 --> 00:30:34.855
Yeah.

866
00:30:35.215 --> 00:30:41.318
And then and I think, too, like when we're down the shore, you're by the pool, you're on the boat, you just kind of feel like.

867
00:30:41.698 --> 00:30:41.958
Yeah.

868
00:30:42.078 --> 00:30:43.139
And it's kind of like a habit.

869
00:30:43.279 --> 00:30:44.259
Yeah, it is.

870
00:30:44.359 --> 00:30:45.700
And it's it's like a pastime.

871
00:30:45.760 --> 00:30:47.781
Like, it's just like, what do you do in your pastime?

872
00:30:47.801 --> 00:30:48.361
Like, oh, we're just.

873
00:30:48.681 --> 00:30:51.602
So then what we started doing on our pastime is play pickleball.

874
00:30:51.863 --> 00:30:51.963
OK.

875
00:30:52.963 --> 00:31:01.732
Because like once when all you do with your husband is go out to dinner and have drinks and then go to brunch and this and happy hour, you were like, OK, so what are we going to do?

876
00:31:01.792 --> 00:31:02.032
Yeah.

877
00:31:02.312 --> 00:31:02.913
So pickleball.

878
00:31:02.953 --> 00:31:04.034
So it's pickleball.

879
00:31:04.114 --> 00:31:06.616
I started playing golf so I could play golf with him.

880
00:31:06.656 --> 00:31:07.197
Oh, you did?

881
00:31:07.237 --> 00:31:08.238
When did you start to do it?

882
00:31:08.278 --> 00:31:08.778
Last summer.

883
00:31:08.879 --> 00:31:10.320
I say I'm playing golf.

884
00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:10.760
I suck.

885
00:31:10.941 --> 00:31:12.322
I'm learning to play golf.

886
00:31:12.402 --> 00:31:13.163
I would like to learn.

887
00:31:13.183 --> 00:31:13.283
Yeah.

888
00:31:13.623 --> 00:31:14.444
Take lessons.

889
00:31:14.564 --> 00:31:16.065
I'm going to take lessons with someone if you're interested.

890
00:31:16.085 --> 00:31:17.326
Yes, we should do lessons.

891
00:31:17.746 --> 00:31:19.147
I'll do it.

892
00:31:19.167 --> 00:31:19.947
Just different things.

893
00:31:20.027 --> 00:31:20.167
Yeah.

894
00:31:20.187 --> 00:31:21.949
And so that's what we've been doing.

895
00:31:21.969 --> 00:31:22.889
So Billy has a bad back.

896
00:31:22.909 --> 00:31:23.810
Billy, I met Billy.

897
00:31:23.830 --> 00:31:24.630
He was not drinking.

898
00:31:24.690 --> 00:31:26.191
So it was never different.

899
00:31:26.211 --> 00:31:26.311
Yeah.

900
00:31:26.332 --> 00:31:26.472
Yeah.

901
00:31:26.572 --> 00:31:27.412
It was always the same.

902
00:31:27.953 --> 00:31:32.596
I wish he can do pickleball, but his bad back is he says he can't do pickleball, which...

903
00:31:33.276 --> 00:31:56.292
annoying but our what do we do we walk we go we go down the literally i'm not even kidding you like we work we go visit our properties we'll go down the shore take walks on the boardwalk we eat like but yeah i feel like but honestly we're doing the same thing everybody else is doing we're just not drinking everybody i mean everybody's doing the same thing it's true that's true we just don't sit home and drink

904
00:31:57.032 --> 00:32:00.293
I said when we're sitting home, like Billy's usually in his office working.

905
00:32:00.353 --> 00:32:02.494
I'm probably running around the house doing something.

906
00:32:03.014 --> 00:32:06.015
But yeah, like it's it's hard.

907
00:32:06.395 --> 00:32:10.357
I think it's hard, especially when you're going out with friends to not drink.

908
00:32:10.377 --> 00:32:11.157
Yes, I think it's hard.

909
00:32:11.177 --> 00:32:12.097
It's easier with your partner.

910
00:32:12.117 --> 00:32:12.357
Yes.

911
00:32:12.397 --> 00:32:12.658
Yeah.

912
00:32:13.118 --> 00:32:13.358
Yeah.

913
00:32:13.618 --> 00:32:15.779
But you think it's affected your relationship at all?

914
00:32:15.799 --> 00:32:17.219
Like, do you think with my husband?

915
00:32:17.259 --> 00:32:17.499
Yeah.

916
00:32:17.979 --> 00:32:19.420
No, no, no, not at all.

917
00:32:20.247 --> 00:32:21.568
I think with some friends, maybe.

918
00:32:22.529 --> 00:32:23.089
Yeah, really?

919
00:32:23.149 --> 00:32:24.830
Not really that it affected it, right?

920
00:32:24.870 --> 00:32:33.517
But if I am going to go out on a Friday night and I want to go have a good time and I want to drink, I'm not calling Sober Sally.

921
00:32:33.757 --> 00:32:34.718
No, I know.

922
00:32:34.958 --> 00:32:35.318
I wouldn't.

923
00:32:35.899 --> 00:32:36.179
I know.

924
00:32:36.459 --> 00:32:36.719
Right?

925
00:32:37.120 --> 00:32:38.260
Yeah, I know.

926
00:32:38.521 --> 00:32:39.301
I feel the same way.

927
00:32:39.421 --> 00:32:41.663
But, I mean, listen...

928
00:32:42.825 --> 00:32:45.487
There's like the CBD stuff you could put in your drinks.

929
00:32:45.547 --> 00:32:50.651
Like, I think there's other things that people can do to kind of like have a good time.

930
00:32:50.791 --> 00:32:52.172
Have you ever had Cava?

931
00:32:53.112 --> 00:32:53.513
Oh, no.

932
00:32:53.553 --> 00:32:54.313
But that's...

933
00:32:54.393 --> 00:32:55.174
I've heard about that.

934
00:32:55.214 --> 00:32:55.314
Yeah.

935
00:32:55.334 --> 00:32:55.614
Me too.

936
00:32:55.634 --> 00:32:56.535
But I'm going to try it.

937
00:32:56.555 --> 00:32:56.875
You are?

938
00:32:56.895 --> 00:32:56.995
Okay.

939
00:32:57.375 --> 00:32:58.376
I don't even know what it is.

940
00:32:58.416 --> 00:33:02.539
But I heard somebody, a sober person talking about it, that it's really nice.

941
00:33:02.579 --> 00:33:03.620
It takes the edge off.

942
00:33:03.640 --> 00:33:04.120
Yeah.

943
00:33:04.709 --> 00:33:06.371
And she's like all into natural stuff.

944
00:33:06.451 --> 00:33:11.897
Because I do feel like, so even if your friend calls like a Friday night, they want to go out.

945
00:33:11.917 --> 00:33:18.303
Like even if you're sober, if you're not uptight, like you're not the type to be like stiff and uptight.

946
00:33:18.463 --> 00:33:18.884
No, I go.

947
00:33:18.924 --> 00:33:19.965
You still go have a good time.

948
00:33:19.985 --> 00:33:20.485
I go, yeah, absolutely.

949
00:33:20.505 --> 00:33:21.647
You laugh.

950
00:33:21.987 --> 00:33:25.631
So sometimes people might need, you know, to take the edge off, something like that.

951
00:33:25.791 --> 00:33:26.552
I'll smoke on.

952
00:33:26.892 --> 00:33:35.055
Yeah, we went to, it was my girlfriend Kim's birthday, and we went to Atlantic City for the weekend.

953
00:33:35.375 --> 00:33:36.415
And I had a great time.

954
00:33:36.595 --> 00:33:36.836
Yeah.

955
00:33:36.896 --> 00:33:37.276
I was fine.

956
00:33:37.596 --> 00:33:39.557
But I did go up before most.

957
00:33:39.737 --> 00:33:40.077
Okay.

958
00:33:40.537 --> 00:33:42.638
By like 10 o'clock, first of all, I go to bed early.

959
00:33:42.898 --> 00:33:43.438
I'm tired.

960
00:33:43.838 --> 00:33:44.878
It might have been later than 10 o'clock.

961
00:33:44.918 --> 00:33:45.799
Maybe it was like 11.

962
00:33:46.179 --> 00:33:47.159
But we had a great time.

963
00:33:47.179 --> 00:33:48.300
The girls all drank.

964
00:33:48.340 --> 00:33:49.060
I was fine.

965
00:33:49.120 --> 00:33:51.041
The next day we had a spa day.

966
00:33:51.061 --> 00:33:51.721
I mean, it was fine.

967
00:33:51.761 --> 00:33:52.161
Yeah.

968
00:33:52.401 --> 00:33:53.002
And I felt great.

969
00:33:53.202 --> 00:33:54.042
Yeah, and you felt great.

970
00:33:54.062 --> 00:33:56.885
Were they lagging the next day after they were up all night drinking?

971
00:33:57.345 --> 00:33:57.685
Probably.

972
00:33:58.086 --> 00:33:58.566
Probably.

973
00:33:58.586 --> 00:33:58.706
Yeah.

974
00:33:58.806 --> 00:33:59.407
Exactly.

975
00:33:59.907 --> 00:34:00.447
Exactly.

976
00:34:00.467 --> 00:34:03.270
So, I mean, will I ever drink again?

977
00:34:03.290 --> 00:34:04.951
I'm not going to say never because you don't know.

978
00:34:05.011 --> 00:34:06.212
But right now I'm feeling really good.

979
00:34:06.292 --> 00:34:06.612
Yeah.

980
00:34:07.293 --> 00:34:07.553
I know.

981
00:34:07.593 --> 00:34:08.354
I say the same thing.

982
00:34:08.374 --> 00:34:09.414
Am I ever going to drink again?

983
00:34:09.434 --> 00:34:09.855
I don't.

984
00:34:10.555 --> 00:34:12.537
To be honest, I have no intentions.

985
00:34:12.617 --> 00:34:14.719
I was never a big drinker to begin with.

986
00:34:15.159 --> 00:34:17.421
And if I can still host my social events and...

987
00:34:18.003 --> 00:34:19.424
And go out and not drink.

988
00:34:19.725 --> 00:34:20.946
I'm not missing anything.

989
00:34:21.146 --> 00:34:24.068
I'm still doing exactly what I was doing without the alcohol.

990
00:34:24.689 --> 00:34:26.130
When I stopped drinking, I lost weight.

991
00:34:26.370 --> 00:34:26.970
You did?

992
00:34:27.051 --> 00:34:27.351
Yes.

993
00:34:27.591 --> 00:34:30.754
Because I would drink during whatever on the weekend.

994
00:34:30.794 --> 00:34:32.295
And I would eat badly.

995
00:34:32.735 --> 00:34:34.357
Like the next day, I didn't want to have...

996
00:34:35.483 --> 00:34:36.303
I don't know, a salad.

997
00:34:36.323 --> 00:34:37.724
I wanted like a cheeseburger on fries.

998
00:34:38.064 --> 00:34:38.284
Yeah.

999
00:34:38.484 --> 00:34:39.604
And I wanted pizza.

1000
00:34:39.684 --> 00:34:40.745
And so I would be real.

1001
00:34:40.825 --> 00:34:42.045
I was always into health and wellness.

1002
00:34:42.065 --> 00:34:42.925
So I would always work out.

1003
00:34:42.945 --> 00:34:44.046
I did my 10,000 steps.

1004
00:34:44.706 --> 00:34:47.727
Come Thursday, everything went out the window.

1005
00:34:47.807 --> 00:34:48.547
I had drinks.

1006
00:34:48.587 --> 00:34:50.308
And then I would just eat like shit.

1007
00:34:50.368 --> 00:34:52.428
And then come Monday, I'm like, oh, I will be right.

1008
00:34:52.488 --> 00:34:55.569
So I was I would lose the same weight and regain it.

1009
00:34:55.969 --> 00:34:57.450
It was like a cycle for like 10 years.

1010
00:34:57.510 --> 00:34:57.790
Yeah.

1011
00:34:57.970 --> 00:34:59.110
And so I cut it out.

1012
00:34:59.290 --> 00:34:59.831
I was really.

1013
00:34:59.871 --> 00:35:00.811
So how do you eat now?

1014
00:35:01.271 --> 00:35:03.653
So let's talk nutrition.

1015
00:35:03.673 --> 00:35:06.456
Well, first, why don't we say why we started this?

1016
00:35:06.656 --> 00:35:06.917
Okay.

1017
00:35:06.957 --> 00:35:07.197
Yeah.

1018
00:35:07.657 --> 00:35:08.718
Yeah, that's what I have.

1019
00:35:08.738 --> 00:35:09.059
Okay.

1020
00:35:09.499 --> 00:35:11.821
So why did we start this?

1021
00:35:11.901 --> 00:35:13.363
I think we just wanted to share our journey.

1022
00:35:13.543 --> 00:35:13.723
Yeah.

1023
00:35:13.743 --> 00:35:20.950
Especially, I know from my experience in working with women in midlife that there's a gap in this space.

1024
00:35:21.331 --> 00:35:24.774
And I thought, you know, honest conversations about everything we're doing.

1025
00:35:25.034 --> 00:35:25.474
I love it.

1026
00:35:25.915 --> 00:35:33.321
It spoke to me because for years I've been doing all this and I've always had people say, what do you do?

1027
00:35:33.341 --> 00:35:38.885
I just, I, so, so where you're, you have a content, you're a content creator.

1028
00:35:39.405 --> 00:35:41.547
I don't have, I don't know how to do all that.

1029
00:35:41.627 --> 00:35:42.828
And it takes a lot of time.

1030
00:35:42.848 --> 00:35:50.914
Like it's not, people sit there and think they can have a tripod and a camera and they're going to go make video and contents and it's going to like do wonders.

1031
00:35:50.934 --> 00:35:51.375
Yeah.

1032
00:35:51.875 --> 00:35:52.676
I'm that person.

1033
00:35:52.836 --> 00:35:56.099
I'm like, I would set up a tripod and I'd be like, all right, let me talk about my daily habits.

1034
00:35:56.139 --> 00:35:57.421
And I'd be like, this is horrible.

1035
00:35:57.601 --> 00:35:59.202
I would watch this.

1036
00:35:59.583 --> 00:36:00.864
I am not a content creator.

1037
00:36:01.324 --> 00:36:02.786
So when you're like, let's do this.

1038
00:36:02.966 --> 00:36:11.515
I'm like, this is the way for me to share what I do, my daily habits, like who I am, you know, and have it speak to people.

1039
00:36:12.215 --> 00:36:12.555
Agreed.

1040
00:36:12.816 --> 00:36:13.376
Yeah.

1041
00:36:13.496 --> 00:36:14.357
And it's fun.

1042
00:36:14.517 --> 00:36:14.997
I love it.

1043
00:36:15.217 --> 00:36:17.339
This is what we do normally.

1044
00:36:17.839 --> 00:36:18.520
Why not document it?

1045
00:36:18.600 --> 00:36:22.243
And our goal eventually is to, we're going to host your Wellness Busy retreats.

1046
00:36:22.403 --> 00:36:22.663
Yes.

1047
00:36:22.943 --> 00:36:24.364
That's going to be so fun.

1048
00:36:24.485 --> 00:36:26.626
And yeah, we're going to grow this community.

1049
00:36:26.906 --> 00:36:27.847
Yeah, 100%.

1050
00:36:27.947 --> 00:36:28.608
And help women.

1051
00:36:29.108 --> 00:36:31.889
In their midlife age, because it's not a crisis.

1052
00:36:31.929 --> 00:36:32.730
It's not a crisis.

1053
00:36:32.770 --> 00:36:33.470
It's a blessing.

1054
00:36:33.530 --> 00:36:34.870
It's a rebrand.

1055
00:36:34.890 --> 00:36:35.371
Yes.

1056
00:36:35.631 --> 00:36:36.311
It's a blessing.

1057
00:36:36.331 --> 00:36:36.991
I always say it.

1058
00:36:37.471 --> 00:36:38.832
My father passed at 54.

1059
00:36:39.352 --> 00:36:39.992
Unexpected.

1060
00:36:40.032 --> 00:36:40.913
He had an aneurysm.

1061
00:36:40.953 --> 00:36:42.053
He wasn't even unhealthy.

1062
00:36:42.093 --> 00:36:44.534
He was actually in the best shape of his life, believe it or not.

1063
00:36:44.554 --> 00:36:45.095
It's terrifying.

1064
00:36:45.135 --> 00:36:49.776
He had just lost probably 40, 50 pounds, maybe even 60 pounds.

1065
00:36:49.816 --> 00:36:50.237
It was a lot.

1066
00:36:51.217 --> 00:36:52.378
Walking every day of his life.

1067
00:36:53.118 --> 00:36:56.459
The doctors changed his medication, and he had an aneurysm and died.

1068
00:36:58.720 --> 00:37:02.843
It is a blessing to grow old because a lot of people don't have that privilege.

1069
00:37:03.043 --> 00:37:03.263
Yeah.

1070
00:37:03.524 --> 00:37:04.744
So it's not a crisis.

1071
00:37:05.025 --> 00:37:08.787
You don't have to, you know, you don't have to go through this like, oh, my gosh, I'm getting older.

1072
00:37:08.807 --> 00:37:10.408
And you don't have to give up.

1073
00:37:10.448 --> 00:37:10.508
No.

1074
00:37:10.528 --> 00:37:11.549
This is when you could start.

1075
00:37:11.569 --> 00:37:12.910
You don't have to dress frumpy.

1076
00:37:13.110 --> 00:37:14.771
You don't have to stop caring.

1077
00:37:14.791 --> 00:37:20.215
You could, if you've never worked out in your life, this is the time you could still get into the best shape of your life.

1078
00:37:20.235 --> 00:37:20.576
100%.

1079
00:37:20.736 --> 00:37:21.656
You could start the business.

1080
00:37:21.716 --> 00:37:22.477
If you're 70 years old.

1081
00:37:22.617 --> 00:37:23.398
You could...

1082
00:37:24.198 --> 00:37:26.101
Start the hobby, whatever it is.

1083
00:37:26.342 --> 00:37:27.143
Yeah, I agree.

1084
00:37:27.163 --> 00:37:28.725
You could totally do it.

1085
00:37:28.866 --> 00:37:29.086
I agree.

1086
00:37:29.126 --> 00:37:38.641
So, I mean, I love doing this, and I think we're going to have so much fun, like, just trying all the things that we hear about, that we listen to on podcasts or, you know.

1087
00:37:39.902 --> 00:37:44.586
So I think we're going to, you know, do different treatments.

1088
00:37:44.686 --> 00:37:45.286
Yes.

1089
00:37:45.306 --> 00:37:47.708
That we do anyway, but we're going to just share our experiences.

1090
00:37:47.728 --> 00:37:49.369
We're going to be sharing the treatments.

1091
00:37:49.469 --> 00:37:49.569
Yeah.

1092
00:37:49.589 --> 00:37:55.013
Yeah, like NAD, IVs, peptides, chiro, cold sponge.

1093
00:37:55.093 --> 00:37:55.373
Yeah.

1094
00:37:55.733 --> 00:37:56.434
All the fun things.

1095
00:37:56.554 --> 00:37:57.114
All the things.

1096
00:37:57.134 --> 00:38:01.437
And we'll do other things too that, you know, we'll go to like head spas, like things like that.

1097
00:38:01.457 --> 00:38:03.939
Like just ways to just relax.

1098
00:38:03.979 --> 00:38:04.499
And decompress.

1099
00:38:04.519 --> 00:38:05.480
Give yourself grace.

1100
00:38:05.820 --> 00:38:06.581
Decompress.

1101
00:38:07.822 --> 00:38:09.283
you know, restart, you know?

1102
00:38:09.383 --> 00:38:09.963
Restart.

1103
00:38:10.404 --> 00:38:10.564
Yeah.

1104
00:38:10.584 --> 00:38:11.325
You have to reset.

1105
00:38:11.345 --> 00:38:16.729
Like, my thing on Sundays, how I was saying, like, we do the red light therapy and the cryo.

1106
00:38:16.769 --> 00:38:17.490
I have to do that again.

1107
00:38:17.530 --> 00:38:18.271
That's a reset.

1108
00:38:18.291 --> 00:38:18.871
That was great.

1109
00:38:18.911 --> 00:38:19.712
I loved that.

1110
00:38:20.372 --> 00:38:24.896
That's like resetting because you have such a busy... You're resetting your nervous system.

1111
00:38:24.936 --> 00:38:25.217
Yes.

1112
00:38:25.557 --> 00:38:27.018
Yes, it's so important because guess what?

1113
00:38:27.098 --> 00:38:27.939
Monday's going to come.

1114
00:38:28.439 --> 00:38:33.023
It's going to be a whole other set of, like, running around and getting this done and doing that.

1115
00:38:33.504 --> 00:38:34.344
You need to reset.

1116
00:38:34.424 --> 00:38:34.725
So...

1117
00:38:35.285 --> 00:38:36.906
Yeah, I just I look at it like.

1118
00:38:37.227 --> 00:38:41.189
So what are some things you do like to reset?

1119
00:38:41.209 --> 00:38:41.389
Yeah.

1120
00:38:41.409 --> 00:38:42.310
All right.

1121
00:38:42.510 --> 00:38:46.213
So Sunday is always my day to look at my calendar for the week ahead.

1122
00:38:46.853 --> 00:38:47.554
Plan ahead.

1123
00:38:48.054 --> 00:38:49.535
Map out like what I have to do.

1124
00:38:49.555 --> 00:38:50.096
I do the same.

1125
00:38:50.116 --> 00:38:50.816
You do, right?

1126
00:38:51.857 --> 00:38:52.537
My vitamins.

1127
00:38:52.817 --> 00:38:54.459
I get my vitamins together for the week.

1128
00:38:54.479 --> 00:38:55.980
I have my little pill case.

1129
00:38:56.000 --> 00:38:59.042
I organize them by the dates and the time I take them.

1130
00:38:59.062 --> 00:38:59.322
Yeah.

1131
00:38:59.982 --> 00:39:01.383
or the day and the time I take it.

1132
00:39:02.443 --> 00:39:03.764
We do our red light therapy.

1133
00:39:04.424 --> 00:39:09.366
Honestly, it's supposed to be a no phone day where we put our phone down.

1134
00:39:09.386 --> 00:39:10.706
I want to incorporate that.

1135
00:39:10.726 --> 00:39:11.426
Do you do it?

1136
00:39:11.646 --> 00:39:12.047
Oh, yeah.

1137
00:39:12.267 --> 00:39:19.029
I mean, listen, I don't put my phone physically down, but I'm very conscious of how much I'm on it on a Sunday.

1138
00:39:19.049 --> 00:39:19.629
Yeah.

1139
00:39:19.709 --> 00:39:20.369
You know what I'm going to get?

1140
00:39:20.389 --> 00:39:21.470
I do church every Sunday morning.

1141
00:39:21.490 --> 00:39:21.550
Oh.

1142
00:39:22.050 --> 00:39:24.071
I'm going to get the Brick.

1143
00:39:24.151 --> 00:39:31.172
It's this device that you put on your phone, and it locks whichever apps are distracting for whatever amount of time.

1144
00:39:31.212 --> 00:39:36.494
I think I'm going to start doing it by 7 p.m. to the next 8 a.m. and on Sundays.

1145
00:39:36.554 --> 00:39:38.374
I want to do a Sunday phone break.

1146
00:39:38.494 --> 00:39:39.654
Just because you have to.

1147
00:39:39.774 --> 00:39:40.194
Yeah.

1148
00:39:40.595 --> 00:39:41.175
I love that.

1149
00:39:41.275 --> 00:39:41.635
Yeah.

1150
00:39:42.075 --> 00:39:50.037
I actually, in my phone, the stuff that just is like my scrolling, it's called, I think I named it, yeah.

1151
00:39:51.117 --> 00:39:54.258
Shit that waste time or something like that because it is scrolling.

1152
00:39:54.298 --> 00:40:09.323
Yeah, yeah, but yeah, so Sunday is my church day We do some church so we go over in it's right down the street from my house in Gabriel's and Marlboro Catholic Catholic But which church do you go to we go to st. Mary's and cold snack?

1153
00:40:09.523 --> 00:40:15.745
Okay, cuz we recently tried one in in home doll and and

1154
00:40:16.946 --> 00:40:18.067
I just you know what it is.

1155
00:40:18.087 --> 00:40:21.871
I just when I was growing up, we were very religious.

1156
00:40:22.131 --> 00:40:23.833
My mother was battling cancer.

1157
00:40:23.893 --> 00:40:28.398
So it was we prayed all the time as a family.

1158
00:40:29.679 --> 00:40:31.041
My father was supposed to be a priest.

1159
00:40:31.061 --> 00:40:32.562
I don't know if I ever told you that.

1160
00:40:32.602 --> 00:40:32.923
Yeah.

1161
00:40:32.963 --> 00:40:33.744
And then he met my mom.

1162
00:40:34.304 --> 00:40:36.725
But I grew up in a very strict Roman Catholic home.

1163
00:40:36.865 --> 00:40:44.168
And when I go to church, it gives me a sense of just comfort and familiarity.

1164
00:40:44.408 --> 00:40:46.289
Have you said that?

1165
00:40:46.309 --> 00:40:46.990
Familiarity.

1166
00:40:48.450 --> 00:40:49.111
It's my roots.

1167
00:40:49.511 --> 00:40:51.932
But I have to say it's changed so much.

1168
00:40:52.272 --> 00:40:56.294
I don't feel like the homilies are really, like, resonating.

1169
00:40:56.494 --> 00:40:57.694
I feel like they're rushed through.

1170
00:40:58.535 --> 00:40:58.935
You know what?

1171
00:40:59.075 --> 00:41:01.636
And I hate to say this because I hate to be—

1172
00:41:02.470 --> 00:41:05.794
It's going to sound terrible, but we need some younger priests.

1173
00:41:06.314 --> 00:41:07.676
But there's not.

1174
00:41:08.196 --> 00:41:08.797
I know.

1175
00:41:09.218 --> 00:41:10.559
Like, we need to change the rules.

1176
00:41:11.700 --> 00:41:13.562
Why can't a priest just get married?

1177
00:41:13.582 --> 00:41:18.247
Like, somebody young with energy that doesn't look like they're falling asleep up there.

1178
00:41:18.267 --> 00:41:20.129
Yes, because the Catholic religion...

1179
00:41:21.453 --> 00:41:23.714
Catholic schools, they're closing one by one.

1180
00:41:23.794 --> 00:41:25.474
My girlfriend's son is in Catholic school.

1181
00:41:25.494 --> 00:41:27.535
He's got 24 students in his whole class.

1182
00:41:27.575 --> 00:41:27.875
Yeah.

1183
00:41:27.995 --> 00:41:29.355
I'm sorry, his whole school.

1184
00:41:29.895 --> 00:41:30.235
School.

1185
00:41:30.255 --> 00:41:31.576
Okay, so that school's closing.

1186
00:41:31.916 --> 00:41:32.836
That's my school.

1187
00:41:32.876 --> 00:41:34.676
The school I grew up in, I went to a Catholic school.

1188
00:41:34.716 --> 00:41:35.817
It finally just closed.

1189
00:41:36.097 --> 00:41:41.118
It was so sad to hear, like, this school that I grew up in, like, you know, my roots, my...

1190
00:41:41.718 --> 00:41:44.240
everything that I learned from religion closing.

1191
00:41:44.280 --> 00:41:49.345
But it's because they're just, they're so strict with some of their rules.

1192
00:41:49.765 --> 00:41:52.787
Like at this, we got to progress, you know?

1193
00:41:52.807 --> 00:42:00.314
Yeah, so I have some of the members in my family have gone to the different churches.

1194
00:42:00.354 --> 00:42:03.577
I think, I don't know, Christianity.

1195
00:42:03.837 --> 00:42:05.979
But I haven't because I am...

1196
00:42:06.879 --> 00:42:07.740
True to your Catholic?

1197
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:09.080
Yes, true to my faith.

1198
00:42:09.380 --> 00:42:10.361
But I agree.

1199
00:42:10.381 --> 00:42:13.222
Like, I wish we had some younger priests and they would change the rules.

1200
00:42:13.242 --> 00:42:14.623
Like, do you want singing and dancing?

1201
00:42:14.643 --> 00:42:16.064
And, like, I want some life.

1202
00:42:16.224 --> 00:42:19.465
I don't want to sit there for an hour and just be like, wah, wah, wah.

1203
00:42:19.505 --> 00:42:24.327
So it's very funny that we've really never talked about our Sunday reset, and it's almost identical.

1204
00:42:24.968 --> 00:42:27.169
Because I do—we go to church.

1205
00:42:27.469 --> 00:42:28.429
I go to 8 a.m. mass.

1206
00:42:28.570 --> 00:42:33.712
What time is your— Mine is 12 p.m. because I usually like to get a workout in on Sundays, like something.

1207
00:42:34.012 --> 00:42:35.894
So we like to go for a walk.

1208
00:42:36.094 --> 00:42:37.675
I do my vitamins.

1209
00:42:37.815 --> 00:42:39.976
I set, I plan for the whole week.

1210
00:42:40.117 --> 00:42:42.738
I do my calendar and I do my paper planner.

1211
00:42:42.759 --> 00:42:46.021
Yeah, so we do the same thing.

1212
00:42:46.361 --> 00:42:48.603
And Sunday is the day to just kind of shut down.

1213
00:42:49.043 --> 00:42:50.243
Even though we're doing things.

1214
00:42:50.263 --> 00:42:51.264
But I don't get off.

1215
00:42:51.504 --> 00:42:52.344
I need to get off the phone.

1216
00:42:52.364 --> 00:42:53.284
That's going to be my new thing.

1217
00:42:53.344 --> 00:42:53.484
Yeah.

1218
00:42:53.504 --> 00:42:56.765
I'm going to buy the brick, and I'm going to brick those damn apps, and I'm going to get off the phone.

1219
00:42:57.585 --> 00:42:58.506
And, yeah, so we go.

1220
00:42:58.526 --> 00:42:59.646
And then I like to do sauna.

1221
00:42:59.946 --> 00:43:01.366
Yeah, the sauna we have.

1222
00:43:01.486 --> 00:43:01.987
We do that.

1223
00:43:02.447 --> 00:43:03.287
I do my sauna.

1224
00:43:03.387 --> 00:43:03.987
I do my red.

1225
00:43:04.007 --> 00:43:05.748
So I have the red light panel.

1226
00:43:06.888 --> 00:43:08.208
Sundays, I mean, because we go to that.

1227
00:43:08.448 --> 00:43:09.309
We go to chill.

1228
00:43:09.869 --> 00:43:10.169
Yes.

1229
00:43:10.749 --> 00:43:11.710
So I don't do it at home.

1230
00:43:11.790 --> 00:43:14.231
But during the week, even like I don't do it every single day.

1231
00:43:14.251 --> 00:43:14.811
I don't.

1232
00:43:15.031 --> 00:43:15.611
I don't either.

1233
00:43:15.631 --> 00:43:16.492
Because it's not good.

1234
00:43:16.512 --> 00:43:20.154
Like, don't you want... Do we want our bodies to get used to something?

1235
00:43:20.354 --> 00:43:22.895
Or do we have to give... Can I tell you why I don't do it every day?

1236
00:43:22.915 --> 00:43:23.595
Yeah, why don't you?

1237
00:43:23.635 --> 00:43:24.295
Because of my hair.

1238
00:43:25.336 --> 00:43:25.996
With the sauna?

1239
00:43:26.096 --> 00:43:26.336
I know.

1240
00:43:26.356 --> 00:43:28.918
Yeah, because then my hair gets greasy.

1241
00:43:28.938 --> 00:43:30.578
Do you wear a sauna hat?

1242
00:43:30.678 --> 00:43:30.879
No.

1243
00:43:31.079 --> 00:43:31.419
I do.

1244
00:43:31.539 --> 00:43:32.219
I need to get one.

1245
00:43:32.259 --> 00:43:33.200
I wear my sauna hat.

1246
00:43:33.340 --> 00:43:34.240
I wrap it.

1247
00:43:34.420 --> 00:43:34.900
I wrap a van.

1248
00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:35.661
What do you do?

1249
00:43:35.741 --> 00:43:36.461
Three days a week?

1250
00:43:36.781 --> 00:43:38.322
So I try to do three to four days.

1251
00:43:38.362 --> 00:43:39.102
I think that's ideal.

1252
00:43:39.122 --> 00:43:39.703
And I do the summer.

1253
00:43:40.463 --> 00:43:42.544
I mean, I'm barely in it.

1254
00:43:42.584 --> 00:43:47.446
Well, like research shows like three to four days, 20 minutes.

1255
00:43:47.686 --> 00:43:49.707
Like we don't need to be there 45 minutes or 30.

1256
00:43:49.747 --> 00:43:51.008
You're finally baking yourself.

1257
00:43:51.068 --> 00:43:51.308
Yeah.

1258
00:43:51.348 --> 00:43:53.649
Like 20 minutes, three to four times a week.

1259
00:43:53.769 --> 00:43:53.969
Yep.

1260
00:43:54.089 --> 00:43:55.189
That's exactly what I do.

1261
00:43:55.369 --> 00:43:55.890
I do with that.

1262
00:43:55.970 --> 00:43:56.250
I do.

1263
00:43:56.690 --> 00:43:59.011
I will say I try to do my red light more.

1264
00:43:59.671 --> 00:44:01.132
So I just, I lay it.

1265
00:44:01.452 --> 00:44:02.392
I lay right under it.

1266
00:44:02.452 --> 00:44:03.493
I have the whole thing going.

1267
00:44:04.233 --> 00:44:12.580
Um, but even that, like, I don't, I'm trying to space things out because when you do it all the time, I feel like it's, does it work anymore?

1268
00:44:12.660 --> 00:44:13.881
Do you see the differences?

1269
00:44:14.041 --> 00:44:15.802
And it's also time.

1270
00:44:15.922 --> 00:44:17.343
Like, you know, you have to work out.

1271
00:44:17.363 --> 00:44:18.744
You have to get the 10,000 steps.

1272
00:44:19.164 --> 00:44:20.826
You have 20 businesses you're running.

1273
00:44:20.886 --> 00:44:22.087
Yeah, exactly.

1274
00:44:22.347 --> 00:44:23.508
You want some downtime.

1275
00:44:23.588 --> 00:44:25.009
So tell me what's your morning.

1276
00:44:25.189 --> 00:44:27.030
Let's talk to me about your morning routine.

1277
00:44:27.050 --> 00:44:27.771
My morning routine.

1278
00:44:27.851 --> 00:44:28.852
I'm an early riser.

1279
00:44:29.132 --> 00:44:30.313
I get up at 5 a.m.

1280
00:44:31.073 --> 00:44:31.814
I journal.

1281
00:44:32.659 --> 00:44:33.720
I read the Bible.

1282
00:44:33.740 --> 00:44:35.260
I do.

1283
00:44:35.541 --> 00:44:37.962
And funny thing about the Bible and about church.

1284
00:44:38.062 --> 00:44:39.122
So I grew up Catholic.

1285
00:44:39.182 --> 00:44:40.263
I went to Catholic school.

1286
00:44:40.943 --> 00:44:43.164
But I strayed, right?

1287
00:44:43.665 --> 00:44:44.325
Not for any reason.

1288
00:44:44.345 --> 00:44:45.746
My kids went, got baptized.

1289
00:44:45.766 --> 00:44:46.826
Everybody did their communion.

1290
00:44:46.846 --> 00:44:47.807
I would go for Easter.

1291
00:44:47.907 --> 00:44:49.207
But I wasn't practicing.

1292
00:44:49.908 --> 00:44:55.230
And once I became sober, I had the calling to start going back to church.

1293
00:44:55.330 --> 00:44:59.192
And I started reading the Bible, which was something that I had never.

1294
00:44:59.212 --> 00:44:59.953
And you were reading the Bible?

1295
00:44:59.973 --> 00:45:00.453
Yeah.

1296
00:45:00.753 --> 00:45:07.698
Um, I, I found a Bible that it kind of explains what you're reading because I wasn't understanding.

1297
00:45:07.859 --> 00:45:09.280
So it was kind of like a Bible for them.

1298
00:45:09.300 --> 00:45:10.160
You're going to send that to me.

1299
00:45:10.581 --> 00:45:11.902
And then I, so I could understand.

1300
00:45:12.322 --> 00:45:14.524
But yeah, it's like a great way to start my day.

1301
00:45:15.244 --> 00:45:21.449
And I just found it so weird that at this stage in my life that I, that I was like drawn to this, which is crazy.

1302
00:45:21.469 --> 00:45:21.589
Yeah.

1303
00:45:22.089 --> 00:45:22.730
Well, same thing.

1304
00:45:22.790 --> 00:45:23.290
I drifted.

1305
00:45:23.450 --> 00:45:25.051
I drifted after my father passed.

1306
00:45:25.171 --> 00:45:27.193
I was like, this is so unfair.

1307
00:45:27.233 --> 00:45:28.493
This guy is such a good guy.

1308
00:45:28.533 --> 00:45:35.938
He's like, you know, why him when I was like watching, you know, other people living a great life and being like a terrible.

1309
00:45:36.018 --> 00:45:36.458
Yeah.

1310
00:45:37.239 --> 00:45:38.560
And and I did.

1311
00:45:38.660 --> 00:45:39.100
I stopped.

1312
00:45:39.140 --> 00:45:40.381
I wouldn't even visit his grave.

1313
00:45:40.741 --> 00:45:46.245
Like it took me years to finally go and visit his grave, find my faith, understand it better.

1314
00:45:46.785 --> 00:45:49.507
And, you know, like now I just feel like, again, I'm

1315
00:45:51.638 --> 00:45:55.380
I think I'm going for the tradition, for the faith that I had growing up.

1316
00:45:55.560 --> 00:45:57.341
I don't—do I want the party?

1317
00:45:57.962 --> 00:45:59.883
Like, you know, Billy's like, oh, it needs to have more life.

1318
00:45:59.903 --> 00:46:01.804
And I'm like, but that's not the purpose.

1319
00:46:01.864 --> 00:46:03.425
Like, we're listening to the Word of God.

1320
00:46:03.526 --> 00:46:03.766
Right.

1321
00:46:04.066 --> 00:46:06.327
But do I want the homilies to speak to me?

1322
00:46:06.367 --> 00:46:09.369
Do I want them to—do I want them to resonate with me?

1323
00:46:09.409 --> 00:46:09.750
Yes.

1324
00:46:10.230 --> 00:46:15.193
I don't want the priest to get up and just say, oh, what was just said in the gospel is this.

1325
00:46:15.874 --> 00:46:17.635
And, you know, and oftentimes this.

1326
00:46:17.995 --> 00:46:18.516
And then walk away.

1327
00:46:18.536 --> 00:46:20.337
I'm like, what was that?

1328
00:46:20.397 --> 00:46:20.577
Yeah.

1329
00:46:21.197 --> 00:46:27.523
You know, I just remember back in the day, the priest coming up and saying, like, this is what happened and explaining it and saying, like, how it relates and how it's relatable.

1330
00:46:27.543 --> 00:46:28.344
Right, and not just reading it.

1331
00:46:28.745 --> 00:46:29.605
Not just reading it.

1332
00:46:29.746 --> 00:46:30.106
Yeah.

1333
00:46:30.726 --> 00:46:34.330
So, but I will say, like, I love the church thing.

1334
00:46:34.350 --> 00:46:35.191
Yeah.

1335
00:46:36.426 --> 00:46:40.810
Again, it took it took me time to get back into it because for a while I had no faith.

1336
00:46:40.850 --> 00:46:50.979
I was just like but I think, too, like after everything happened with, you know, my second divorce and having to restart and just, you know, giving myself, I think, more grace.

1337
00:46:51.059 --> 00:46:54.542
I think that's when I was like, I need to like bring God back into my life.

1338
00:46:55.523 --> 00:46:56.304
That's how it started.

1339
00:46:56.424 --> 00:46:56.604
Yeah.

1340
00:46:56.624 --> 00:46:58.246
So that's so I read the Bible.

1341
00:46:58.266 --> 00:46:58.806
I meditate.

1342
00:46:58.826 --> 00:46:59.727
I meditate.

1343
00:47:00.852 --> 00:47:02.674
I work out and I walk.

1344
00:47:02.834 --> 00:47:03.334
And you walk.

1345
00:47:03.454 --> 00:47:06.237
And then I start... My day starts around 9 a.m. Yeah.

1346
00:47:06.838 --> 00:47:07.578
And if it's...

1347
00:47:07.718 --> 00:47:09.220
I don't do what you do when it's cold.

1348
00:47:09.300 --> 00:47:10.381
I do not walk outside.

1349
00:47:10.401 --> 00:47:12.843
I walk in my treadmill inside.

1350
00:47:14.044 --> 00:47:15.606
And that's my morning routine.

1351
00:47:15.626 --> 00:47:16.947
I do that seven days a week.

1352
00:47:17.207 --> 00:47:17.908
Seven days a week.

1353
00:47:18.148 --> 00:47:19.730
I don't work out seven days a week.

1354
00:47:19.750 --> 00:47:21.731
But every... Like the journaling, the Bible, the...

1355
00:47:22.752 --> 00:47:23.412
meditation.

1356
00:47:23.432 --> 00:47:24.093
I do it every day.

1357
00:47:24.113 --> 00:47:24.493
You do.

1358
00:47:25.313 --> 00:47:27.634
So I have a very similar, similar.

1359
00:47:27.714 --> 00:47:31.115
So I'm up by 5 a.m. by my internal alarm clock.

1360
00:47:31.135 --> 00:47:31.775
Me too.

1361
00:47:31.816 --> 00:47:33.436
I don't force myself to get up at 5.

1362
00:47:33.456 --> 00:47:33.876
Me neither.

1363
00:47:34.076 --> 00:47:38.538
So 5 o'clock, I get up, I get myself ready for the gym and I'm going to go

1364
00:47:38.678 --> 00:47:43.423
If I have time to journal, because I try to get to the gym early because then I have to bring my daughter to school by eight.

1365
00:47:43.444 --> 00:47:45.025
So I have to be like done by eight.

1366
00:47:45.466 --> 00:47:48.149
So if I have time to journal beforehand, I will.

1367
00:47:48.709 --> 00:47:50.271
But typically I wash up.

1368
00:47:50.411 --> 00:47:51.553
I get myself together.

1369
00:47:52.133 --> 00:47:54.135
I do my I go to the gym first.

1370
00:47:54.316 --> 00:47:55.537
And then that's when I come back.

1371
00:47:55.557 --> 00:47:56.378
I do my red light.

1372
00:47:56.939 --> 00:47:58.240
I'll do the sauna if I have time.

1373
00:47:59.201 --> 00:48:00.201
Walking, it depends.

1374
00:48:00.302 --> 00:48:04.843
I usually do get it in the morning, but if I'm having a tight morning, I might have to walk later.

1375
00:48:05.284 --> 00:48:07.024
I walk anyway during the day.

1376
00:48:07.044 --> 00:48:09.185
Like, I'll take that second walk during the day.

1377
00:48:09.205 --> 00:48:11.466
Yeah, I have to do two walks to get the steps in.

1378
00:48:11.506 --> 00:48:17.809
It's like 20 minutes in the morning, 20 minutes after dinner, and then whatever I do throughout the day, just... Yeah.

1379
00:48:18.429 --> 00:48:22.713
But then I'll do once I get to my desk, try to get to my desk by I'll drop my daughter off at eight.

1380
00:48:22.733 --> 00:48:29.660
Then I get to my desk right after if I'm not doing my meetings because I have meetings some days that start at eight, two days a week.

1381
00:48:29.720 --> 00:48:32.523
If I don't start the meetings, then I'm usually I do my journal.

1382
00:48:32.543 --> 00:48:32.984
I'll do my meditation.

1383
00:48:33.004 --> 00:48:33.925
I'll do my meditation.

1384
00:48:34.385 --> 00:48:36.568
When I do my red light, I lay under it.

1385
00:48:36.588 --> 00:48:37.790
That's when I put my earbuds in.

1386
00:48:37.830 --> 00:48:38.831
I do my beatfulness.

1387
00:48:38.851 --> 00:48:43.837
So I'll put, like, different binarial beats to, like, reset my day.

1388
00:48:43.897 --> 00:48:46.080
It's either focus, strengthen, empathy.

1389
00:48:46.120 --> 00:48:48.323
Like, I pick the binarial beats.

1390
00:48:48.363 --> 00:48:48.944
Yeah, we do.

1391
00:48:48.964 --> 00:48:49.244
But we do.

1392
00:48:49.264 --> 00:48:49.925
We have the same.

1393
00:48:49.965 --> 00:48:50.205
Yeah.

1394
00:48:50.646 --> 00:48:51.747
And I work out three days a week.

1395
00:48:52.508 --> 00:48:54.970
weight training, but I walk seven days a week.

1396
00:48:55.110 --> 00:48:55.330
Yeah.

1397
00:48:55.390 --> 00:49:01.475
So I work out, I lift weights four to five days a week, and then I do legree twice a week.

1398
00:49:01.495 --> 00:49:05.358
So I do something like, I do something every day, but really like six days a week.

1399
00:49:05.518 --> 00:49:06.359
Yeah.

1400
00:49:06.559 --> 00:49:08.721
And I walk my 10,000 steps a day.

1401
00:49:08.881 --> 00:49:09.141
Yeah.

1402
00:49:09.542 --> 00:49:10.823
So basically...

1403
00:49:12.203 --> 00:49:21.655
This is what we're going to be talking about, all the things, like all our treatments, peptides, what we're doing to feel our best and to look our best and how we live our lives.

1404
00:49:21.856 --> 00:49:22.336
Yeah.

1405
00:49:22.356 --> 00:49:23.378
Just our daily habits.

1406
00:49:23.398 --> 00:49:25.641
Like, these aren't things that we're...

1407
00:49:26.710 --> 00:49:28.752
guessing or these aren't things we're trying.

1408
00:49:28.792 --> 00:49:30.253
Like, these are things we're doing.

1409
00:49:30.393 --> 00:49:31.214
And that we're sharing.

1410
00:49:31.454 --> 00:49:33.656
And there's some things that we're going to try that we haven't.

1411
00:49:33.916 --> 00:49:36.058
And then there's going to be things also that we don't agree on.

1412
00:49:36.298 --> 00:49:38.861
So this is what our podcast is going to be all about.

1413
00:49:39.061 --> 00:49:39.681
I'm excited.

1414
00:49:39.701 --> 00:49:45.747
We got through our first podcast, just sharing our story and our journey on how to live.

1415
00:49:45.767 --> 00:49:46.367
Our treatments.

1416
00:49:46.407 --> 00:49:46.828
We're going to.

1417
00:49:47.408 --> 00:49:52.289
Give you our real life in real time experiences, our recommendations.

1418
00:49:52.750 --> 00:49:59.552
And how to live your best life at 50 and you're not too old and it's not too late to get into the best shape of your life and to do all the things.

1419
00:49:59.892 --> 00:50:00.412
Absolutely.

1420
00:50:01.792 --> 00:50:03.093
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1421
00:50:03.573 --> 00:50:05.854
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1422
00:50:06.074 --> 00:50:06.994
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1423
00:50:07.334 --> 00:50:09.114
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1424
00:50:09.515 --> 00:50:10.595
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