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I feel like in the casino of life, you get tapped on the shoulder by the grim reaper.

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And he says, your time's up, and then all your chips get pushed right back to the middle

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of the table.

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And then you leave the casino empty-handed because it was a fake game, a fake rules that

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didn't matter.

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Welcome to the game where we talk about how to sell more stuff to more people in more

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ways and build businesses worth owning.

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I'm trying to build a billion dollar thing with acquisition.com.

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I always wished pesos, musk and buffet had documented their journey, so I'm doing it for

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the rest of us.

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Please share and enjoy.

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Buffets occur when we speak desires, right?

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And so I love this statement, desires are a contract we make with ourselves to be unhappy

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until we get what we want.

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And so whenever we state a desire, like I want this, I want this amount of money, I want

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whatever, you literally sign a contract that says like, I won't be unhappy until that

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happens, right?

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And so like I had this thing earlier on where I was like, I want to have meaning.

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I want to have great meaning in my life, and I was talking to you, a guy who made a lot

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more money than me.

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And he was like, because I asked him, I said, how do you create and destroy meaning in your

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work?

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And he was like, why do you think life needs to be meaningful?

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And it was the same exact thing as the happiness versus like the meaning thing where it's like,

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I say life has to be meaningful, and therefore everything that I'm doing, like I create this

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expectation of life, whereas if life just is, it just is.

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And it's the only way that you can actually be there, it's just pure acceptance, which

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is why like the whole like should of like, we should work, we should have balance, we

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should act.

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It's like, I believe marriage is a compromise.

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Like these are just statements of belief that are casting expectations out of the world

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that are just bound to be untrue at some point and then create dissonance.

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And so it's like, I believe marriage is marriage.

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And I believe my marriage is my marriage and I believe your marriage is your marriage.

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And like, I believe that I can work 24 hours a day if I want to.

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And that is all period, not and it's bad or and it's good.

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There's no judgment on it.

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It just is.

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And so like if I get dopamine secreted in my brain when I start working, cool, like

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and I will optimize for dopamine.

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And if I die, I know that on a thousand generations, nothing I do anyways is going to matter.

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So who cares?

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Like that's like the opening thing in my book is like, there are no rules.

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Like we live in this like, this like shoulds and haftos and like happiness, everyone talks

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about it.

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And it's just like, everyone is unhappy because they say they want to be happy, rather than

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being like, accepting like happiness, like I just am, period.

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And then like, I don't need to judge the am, it just is.

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How do you, what do you say to that?

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That makes sense.

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Yeah.

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Because so one thing I notice is if you're like, I just want to be happy.

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Does that mean Alex that you think that at some point that will change for you or something

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or you have, you live in that that will change?

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I think you guys maybe are taking what I'm saying the wrong way.

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I mean, like, like Alex is saying, you know, everybody has different beliefs and there's

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no one rule fits all to everybody.

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And so if I say I want to be happy, that doesn't make me wrong.

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Like if I want to live my life that way, that's perfectly fine.

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But the thing that that what Jack is saying is, no, I am like happy like I, but for me,

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I like to make like a conscious effort to work towards that.

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And Alex can live his life, like life is life, my marriage is my marriage.

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And it works for him and that generate happiness, whether he's like thinking about it.

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But it doesn't have to generate happiness.

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That's the point.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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But like because it makes it like not because it's like when people say like, hey, work,

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you know, set these goals and like the rest will take care of itself.

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It still makes the rest taking care of itself the reason that you're doing it, which means

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that it's actually not getting around it when people are like, you got to be processed

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driven.

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If you're like, if we focus on the process, the goals take care of themselves.

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It still means that the goals are important.

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So like if you want to make the transition from like a process driven life, which is like

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I am doing these things to do them period, so that I can be happy, so that I can have

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a good marriage, so that I can have a meaningful life, has to disappear from the equation.

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It has to be I do them period, not because I do them.

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But then it goes back the other way like, but why because you say so like, because you

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want to, right?

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Like if you want to have, if you want to describe a meaning to why you're doing something,

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you do it for whatever reason.

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Wow.

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This is deep.

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So I mean, this is what I spent a lot of my time thinking of because I have nothing else

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to do.

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And this is what my last year was was like trying to figure out like why, why I didn't

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have like, I felt the exact same way while I was, while I had nothing as to where I have

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now.

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I feel the same.

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Like, like people are like, man, it was cool and the money had my account.

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I thought nothing like truly, like not even like the two day, like I, it was irrelevant.

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How did you learn all of this?

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Is this through speaking with other people who have been there before you?

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Thinking.

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I mean, my closest friend is a philosopher and I use that in terms of like the actual meaning

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of the word philosopher.

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So like, feelate to love and then so forth as wisdom or knowledge.

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So like he's a lover of knowledge, lover of wisdom and like we talk every week.

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It's like the only standing meaning that I have is we talk for like two hours.

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So we just talk about life and he's one of these guys who like lives in a cave.

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And it's like, he got his PhD when he was 20, like just a very brilliant guy.

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And so he and I just talk about things, you know, should a chair.

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Is contact information?

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I mean, he's brilliant.

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I mean, if you like, Dr. Geshe is brilliant.

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He's the smartest human that I know in terms of like brilliance and their ability to communicate

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it in a simple way.

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And so he helped me get over a lot of the things that I used to struggle with and a lot

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of it was just like the language that we use matters a lot because like how we say things

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is how we think things.

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And so like what I was saying earlier, Alex, and this is not like a slight.

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And I'm just saying like when I hear anyone talk like on my team or customers or whatever,

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it's like people talk so many things over themselves and they're like, I don't know why

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I'm not successful.

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And it's like, well, define success and why are you not?

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And then what are the, you know, I mean, like I just want to do this to be like, there's

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so many chains that they put on themselves that it becomes very difficult to live.

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And so like I spent a long time trying to not do that.

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And it was just because like I was unhappy and I didn't like being unhappy.

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And then I stopped judging myself for being unhappy.

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And then I stopped thinking about it altogether.

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And so I think that like I'll give you a really, really example for this.

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So one of the things that I'm vehemently opposed and I'm like, you, no one give

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grandflax, you can give it to me.

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And like this is coming from a family who like had alcoholics and drug addicts and things

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like that.

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Like I really don't like the alcoholics and honest concept of every morning waking up and

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saying, I am an alcoholic, high, you know, whatever.

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And then they go into their, in their meetings.

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Because what it does is it puts it at the forefront of their mind and they, they literally

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label themselves every morning as having this problem, right?

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When somebody who's not an alcoholic just doesn't think about it.

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They don't think I'm an alcoholic.

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I have to fight not drinking every day.

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They just don't think about it.

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And so I think to the same degree that like living a meaningful life is not saying like,

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I'm living a meaningful life.

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You just are and you're not casting it.

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You just are.

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But do you think some of that is just that inherent belief that some people just have raised

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from that.

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They have positive experiences that turns into a spiral.

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But the people who don't have that who are used to every day being like, I am worthless.

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I suck at this.

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I am bad at this.

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Don't you think that maybe that like first step in like getting in that direction is positive

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affirmations of like, I could do it.

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I can, isn't that like that better than zero?

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Like I feel like we're going to zero to one.

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Because I think it's exiting, I think it's exiting the equation altogether.

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So it's saying, I am worthless.

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Instead of saying like, I want to be worthy or I am worthy, just saying worthiness doesn't

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matter.

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But then wouldn't you get just people not caring at all?

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Yeah.

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So I'm 100% an analyst.

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Like, I believe we die.

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Nothing happens.

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And like, you know, it is what it is.

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Right.

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And there are different ways to take that.

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Some people are like life is meaningless.

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And there's no point in any of it, which I would agree with them.

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And then the other people are like, there's no point in any of it.

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And so I'll do what I want.

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And some people see that as like in very, very self-serving, which I might be, but to the

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same degree, like you are released from the chains of the expectations of others.

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And most people, in my opinion, that I have witnessed who are unhappy is because they

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are weighted down by the chains of their parents, of their friends, of their siblings, of

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the whatever things the people that they believe are casting judgment on them and they

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care so much about that person's disproved that they don't want to do the things that

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they want to do.

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And so if I think it's easier to get someone to realize that none of it matters and then

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build from there, then to try and flip the negatives.

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It's just to exit the equation altogether, just say none of this matters.

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Therefore, I will start my YouTube channel and not care if my dad says that YouTube isn't

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real.

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Like, it's not about being worth it.

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Like, this is one where they're like, I deserve success.

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Like, they know, no one deserves anything.

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But you can do the stuff that gets success independent of your deservingness.

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I mean, a terrible person can become successful.

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So that person doesn't deserve it, but they did the things that create success.

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If we define success as some material, whatever.

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And so I think, like, if you can exit the equation of like labeling yourself and then just

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doing because what else will you do while you are alive, it creates some levels of freedom

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that allow for clarity of thought.

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And also, for the ability to take risks that most people can't take.

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And I, candidly, I understand the difficulty, and it's not like I'm, like, some perfect,

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like, you know, like, nihilist who just like never believes anything matters and doesn't

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get upset.

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Like, of course, I do.

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But like, my instant self-help is like, ever something happens, it's like, I'm going

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to die and it's not going to matter.

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And that like, it's like, it just got so ingrained in me now that like, it's okay.

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But would you consider yourself emotional?

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I mean, probably.

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I think I have emotions.

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Real quick, guys, you guys already know that I don't run any ads on this and I don't

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sell anything.

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And so the only ask that I can ever have are you guys that you help me spread the word

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so we can have more entrepreneurs, make more money, feed their families, make better

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products, and have better experiences for their employees and customers.

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And the only way we do that is if you can rate and review and share this podcast.

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So the single thing that I have to do is you can just leave review, let's take 10 seconds

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or one type of the thumb.

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It means the absolute will to me and more importantly, it may change the world to someone

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God, because a lot of the times, at least in my experience, like, and what I've seen,

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people that are nihilist, it's easy to, that's like a easy out.

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If something bad happens, if something good happens, it's just like, oh, yeah, that's

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So we've done the rug.

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It's not, it's not like it matters anyways.

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So bad happens.

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And it's not like you actually deal with the process, whatever, you know, event or action

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occurred that make you felt that emotion.

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If we believe that we have to, like, why should we?

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Why should you feel that emotion?

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Like, why should we process a traumatic event?

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Like, what does that mean?

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Well, I do believe that there are like, you know, things in your brain biologically that

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if they are deprived of something or there's like some, some bad traumatic event or something

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like that will affect your biological, traumatic versus non-traumatic, I mean, I feel like

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the definition of the word trauma would probably.

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So what would be the line between like, okay, and like, let's, let's give an example

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of something terrible, right?

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Actually not because it's a podcast and people might hate a graph.

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So let's just say something bad happens that we describe as bad in this culture, right?

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And another culture that might not be bad.

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It's trauma in this culture.

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It's not trauma in this culture.

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So if the circumstances are the same, why was it traumatic?

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Circumstances weren't the same.

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Why not?

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Because the culture.

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The facts were the same.

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But we described the facts as changed, which means that we can choose to call something

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trauma.

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But wouldn't, isn't it, doesn't it make sense that people would be built up due to culture

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and environment?

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40-year-old guy sleeps with a 15-year-old girl.

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Terrible.

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Right?

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We want 200 years.

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40-year-old guy sleeps with a 15-year-old girl, 100% normal, right?

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How is it trauma now and not trauma that, and mind you, like, this is not my state, I'm

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just, you have to pull an extreme example if we're going to talk about trauma to illustrate

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the concept, right?

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So if it's traumatic in one instance and not traumatic in another, then it means that we

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can basically change the cultural narrative that we're describing to our context and make

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it not traumatic.

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That makes sense.

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Right.

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Which means it didn't matter.

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Which means the only thing that matters that you chose to make it meaningful.

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But let's say, like, like, the passing of a parent or a lover or something like that.

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If we think, like, we feel like we have this, we have a narrative that says, if I don't

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mourn, it means I didn't care about them, right?

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That's a statement of belief.

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I could say that if I don't mourn about them, it means I totally cared about them.

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Like, why does my mourning have any indication of how much I cared?

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They're non-correlates, right?

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But it's just because we have, like, we have so many of these belief statements that,

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like, quote, society are things that we inherit, right?

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But we just choose to say that this is how life is.

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And so I think it's just like monitoring what those statements are.

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And so, like, one of my favorite, one of my favorite things, probably like if I had one

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thing on my tombstone, it would be a permutation of a quote by Orson Scott card, which is, we

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question all of our beliefs, except for those that we truly believe and those we never

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think to question.

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That's a good quote.

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Right.

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And so it's like, we, like, oh, of course, I'm opening to questioning my beliefs.

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It's like, what's trauma?

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When someone's like, I was traumatized.

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It's like, where are you?

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Or do you just choose to label this trauma?

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And then you step the rest of your life because you call it trauma.

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When 200 years ago, it was life.

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And 1,000 years ago, having your parent count in front of you was just nature.

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If you want to go biology, right?

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And so we're just, like, we just choose to create meaning around things.

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And so, like, at the end of the day, like end to end, end, end, bottom, bottom, bottom

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route, all our brains do is just create and destroy meaning.

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And so we say, this is a threat.

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This is not a threat.

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Like, we need to reinforce this paper.

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We don't need to reinforce this paper all through meaning.

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And so if you can control what you do, de-meaningful, you can massively shift the odds

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in your favor because you don't need to a scribe meaning to.

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Well, couldn't that be?

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Let's say like 500 years ago, you see, like, a parent killed in front of you.

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Isn't that because all you have in your mind is like food, shelter, water.

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Sure.

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And now that we have this thing taken care of, our minds go to other places.

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Sure.

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I just don't think it changes the actual facts.

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So it's like, we have, we have, there's, there's stimulus response, right?

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And so like, we get to control the response.

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We can't control the stimulus.

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And so like, was it, um, is either Seth Seneca or Epic Titus, who's like, no one

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yells at a rock, right?

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And so it's like, if you are the rock, then like just, it doesn't matter, right?

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Like, you just like, eventually, like, people just go off and just leave you alone.

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And so like, and if you sit, if you see stimulus of life that way in terms of like,

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how you deem things or label things traumatic or not traumatic or good or bad,

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you know, it's the same thing of sort of like the hate comments and whatnot.

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It's like, if you deem the comments of, of the fans as meaningful,

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then you will both care about them being positive and you will care about them being

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negative. But if they're not meaningful at all to begin with, then like, I don't think

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you can do either.

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I think you just either have to participate in both sides or you remove that is also a

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belief statement, right?

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So like, maybe you can.

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So how did you transition from, assume I'm assuming you used to care a little bit

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more about beliefs and stuff like that?

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How did you transition from that to now not caring?

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And like, did you have to completely change your mindset to where your

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automatic response to things was just like, what are these chains of emotions and

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like the cultural constraints and stuff like that that are making me feel this way?

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Yeah.

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That did, did you just switch that light switch or do you still on occasion catch yourself slipping?

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I just did right now.

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I was like, I just said that as a belief.

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Right.

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That's what I figured.

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100% yeah.

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I mean, I think you, you systematically, you hear, like that's why the talking is so

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important. Like what words are you using?

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What do those words mean?

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Like you say, trauma, I'm like, define that.

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What do you mean by that?

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Which is why like when you hear really good writing, it's academic.

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Like the first few pages will be like, we're going to talk about this.

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And this is how we define this.

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And this is how we define this.

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It's like we're putting constraints around the words that we're using because

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they mean they, they equate to thoughts.

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They're just buckets, right?

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That we like say a word like trauma and like, it means something different to all

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three of us.

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So it's like, we have to agree on the definition before we can talk about it.

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Does that make sense?

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So I definitely made a conscious effort.

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It's when I was like 19 or 20.

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I became a born again Christian.

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The dunk, the whole thing was like, oh my God, life's amazing.

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Jesus is great.

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And then I ended up falling away from that because I was like, I don't know if this is true.

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And then I spent the next five years dedicated to apologetics, which is

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defensive faith of the Christian faith.

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So just learning the arguments around like why Christianity is true, right?

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I ended up not believing in it and I can give a variety of reasons.

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But I'll give you the simplest one.

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Hopefully I'm not insulting you.

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This is just my belief that I'm sharing, which is one of the strongest

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arguments for Christianity against other world religions is that other world

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religions say like, so if you do a good job, you go to the good place, right?

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And fundamentally that's it's a hard paradigm because it means that I get what

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point are you 51% good versus 49% should I have just held one more door open and

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I would have gone to the good place forever, right?

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Not even talking about like finance circumstances and creating infinite outcomes,

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but like whatever.

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And so if you can draw that line, then it makes it kind of makes it ridiculous,

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right?

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It's like kind of breaks down on the like be a good person system, right?

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And so that's all world views with the exception of Buddhism and Christianity.

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With Christianity, they're like, you don't have to be good.

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You just have to faith.

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And if you have faith in Jesus and you go to the good place, right?

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And so the reason that for me, fundamentally, I didn't believe in that was

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because you actually create another false binary, which is believed or not

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believe when in reality is to what extent you believe it's how hard you believe.

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And again, you create another 50% line, which I believe 1% more.

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And then I would go into the good place forever, right?

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Anyways, the point is is that I studied apologetics for a long period of time.

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And then I was really sad.

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And I was just like being sad.

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I was like, for cabinets.

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I was like, I'm just going to do stuff that I think is cool.

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And that was like, that was like the first break in the chain for me.

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My slogan to myself was actually just what cabinets.

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And that was wildly framed because I stopped judging myself for not being happy.

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And then I was just like, oh, I'm like, I'm unhappy.

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I'm like, cool, whatever.

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And I just kept going and all of a sudden just like stopped mattering to me.

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Like I don't think about it.

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I didn't like, I don't think like does this make me happy?

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Does not like, I don't think about it.

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You just do what you want it to in the moment to whatever go down.

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And it's not like it's like all short term, like all pleasure seeking whatever.

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Like I still have a long term perspective of like, this is what I want to build.

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Yeah, like I want to write these books.

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I want to build these courses.

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I want to do this stuff.

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But it's like those are the things that I enjoy.

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So that's what I, that's what I do.

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I love it.

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It's great.

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All right.

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I mean, I had questions, but now I know the answers to them.

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I may stop here.

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I'm just listening.

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And rather just listening, I know it's like, I don't want to mess it up.

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But then I created a belief that now I'm going to mess it up.

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So good.

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Why does it matter, man?

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It's even matter that I met you anyway, doesn't it?

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And you can't mess it up.

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And then the comments are going to be growing up in the comments.

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Why does that matter?

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I know it's, I mean, I know it's crazy stuff.

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But like I think that like if you want to, like you can't do what 99% of people are doing

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if you want to be in the 1%, like fundamentally.

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And so like you have to have like what I would just sort of like maybe

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uncomfortable conversations is be like, that's okay.

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Like cool.

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Like I just, I'm going to do my thing.

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And then they're like, and the thing is a lot of times if you just even just make

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your statements of like, this is how I believe like people feel like you're attacking them.

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So much of you articulate it well, because they're like, why?

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I don't like cool.

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I don't like do it everyone.

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Like it's all good to me.

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And so which is why I don't talk about it as much, probably.

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How about this?

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Yeah.

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What bothers you?

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There's got to be something out there that like I also have a question.

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People wasting your time.

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That's that's a really good answer.

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It's a great answer.

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Yeah.

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I like, it's the only thing I don't have a lot of this may seem like a silly question.

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But if you go to a restaurant and you order something, let's say you order a steak

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and you order it medium well and it comes back medium rare.

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Yeah.

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Do you say something?

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Not worth it's done.

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No, I don't actually you don't know what I don't care.

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But at the same time, I was like, well, a lot of people would be anxious to say something.

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And I figured you probably wouldn't care about those emotions, right?

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I wouldn't even have an emotion first.

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I mean, that's such a non-yeah, yeah, yeah.

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I mean, maybe like, like, we have a big ad campaign that's supposed to go out and like,

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I get all the creatives they before and it's supposed to launch like, would that annoy me?

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I'd be like, yes.

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But let's fix it.

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You know, like, this is bad.

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We can't run this.

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Let's try again, you know.

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And in the end, it won't matter because we're all going to die and this money is going to go back to the game.

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I'll give you this one analogy.

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This might be a good wrap up.

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So this is like my mental analogy that I, that I don't make sense to me, which is like,

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if life were a game, right?

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And all of us are given a token to like enter like a casino because we're in Vegas, right?

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It's where we'll get a, you know, a token, we enter the casino and we sit down in the table to play poker, right?

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And everybody's playing.

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Everybody's got cards and all of, you know, we're dealt cards.

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Everybody's dealt different cards and we got to play the handware belt.

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And depending on our level of skill, we amass more and more chips throughout the game, right?

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And at the end of the game, the difference between the real world and the game of life, right?

470
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In the real world, you just, you go and you can cash out your chips and you walk out with money and there you go.

471
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There's your day, but I feel like in the casino of life, you get tapped on the shoulder by the grim reaper.

472
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And he says your time's up and then all your chips get pushed right back to the middle of the table.

473
00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:26.800
And then you leave the casino empty handed because it was a fake game with fake rules that didn't matter.

474
00:21:27.800 --> 00:21:33.240
And so like we accumulate these chips that I'm just going to push back in the middle again that other people are going to play on.

475
00:21:33.640 --> 00:21:40.840
And like the reason that that analogy came real for me is like, I bought this piece of land in Austin and I was like, that's neat.

476
00:21:41.360 --> 00:21:44.480
And I was like, how many people have owned this piece of land?

477
00:21:45.360 --> 00:21:50.320
It's like the guy, you know, the guy before me owned it and the guy before him owned it and the guy before him don't.

478
00:21:50.320 --> 00:21:52.000
And I was like, and they were like, this is mine.

479
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And then they die, they sell it and someone was like, this is mine.

480
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It's like, they're just chips that just get played with and they just get a mask and then they get redistributed.

481
00:22:01.440 --> 00:22:03.840
It just doesn't matter. Like death taxes, everybody 100%.

482
00:22:03.840 --> 00:22:05.160
So like everyone's like a state planning.

483
00:22:05.160 --> 00:22:15.040
It's like, dude, 500 generations from now, like a, your offspring are, you know, 500 to the, you know, 0.5 or, you know,

484
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one half to the 500th power of like diluted.

485
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They're basically just humans at that point.

486
00:22:19.640 --> 00:22:27.240
So if your wealth somehow is a big enough that it can be diluted that, that much and last that long, the people who own it are just humans.

487
00:22:27.520 --> 00:22:32.400
So to like, they're so, they're just as close to me as you are, you know, I mean, it doesn't matter, right?

488
00:22:32.920 --> 00:22:37.640
And then the alternative is the people that I'm giving this to are just the ones that I care about are the immediate family.

489
00:22:37.640 --> 00:22:44.840
But then when people get resources that they didn't learn how to use or manage, then it destroys them because there's too much potential energy.

490
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They can't handle it, right?

491
00:22:46.880 --> 00:22:49.200
And so it's like, it's really for nothing.

492
00:22:49.960 --> 00:22:55.680
And so like, if you want, you can build something that you think is cool, but like at the end of the day, like we're just going to cash chips.

493
00:22:55.680 --> 00:23:01.080
And so anyways, Alex is worldviews, but it's a great analogy.

494
00:23:02.240 --> 00:23:03.920
Just start to think about this one.

495
00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:07.480
Yeah, I'm going to have to rewatch this, you know, you know, it's funny.

496
00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:10.680
I was actually thinking I would, yeah, rewatch, listen to podcast.

497
00:23:10.680 --> 00:23:15.960
So in this segment, I would actually listen to this, yeah, yeah, money income, no worth.

498
00:23:17.240 --> 00:23:21.200
Investing indexes savings accounts, what credit cards?

499
00:23:24.760 --> 00:23:25.240
That's good.

500
00:23:25.240 --> 00:23:26.560
Geez. Thank you so much.

501
00:23:26.560 --> 00:23:27.840
Thank you Alex, this is coming on.

502
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This has been an incredible podcast.

503
00:23:29.560 --> 00:23:30.440
Yeah, really so.