WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.840 Real life presents the Jack Hibb's podcast with intention and boldness to proclaim 2 00:00:05.840 --> 00:00:11.460 truth, equip the saints and impact our culture. Ephesians 5 verse 33 never 3 00:00:11.460 --> 00:00:16.920 less let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself and let 4 00:00:16.920 --> 00:00:21.420 the wife see that she respects her husband. This is amazing because if he loves 5 00:00:21.420 --> 00:00:27.420 her, the way Christ loves the church, she will respect him. 6 00:00:29.420 --> 00:00:34.980 You can get the outlines of this podcast by going to Jack Hibb's dot com slash 7 00:00:34.980 --> 00:00:40.340 podcast. Today, if this podcast lifts you up and encourages you to live a 8 00:00:40.340 --> 00:00:44.100 more fulfilled life in Christ, then make sure you leave us one of those five 9 00:00:44.100 --> 00:00:49.820 star ratings. To us, that's like saying amen or yes, then that rating will 10 00:00:49.820 --> 00:00:54.780 encourage others to listen. Now open your hearts to what God's word has to say to 11 00:00:54.780 --> 00:01:06.340 you. Here is Jack Hibb's. The War of 2024 is against husbands. Husbands. Ephesians 12 00:01:06.340 --> 00:01:11.540 chapter 5 verse 25 says this, husbands love your wives. Do you guys see a new 13 00:01:11.540 --> 00:01:17.740 wiggle room in that? See any options in there? No, just this and by the way, what's 14 00:01:17.740 --> 00:01:22.300 our example? Okay, pastor, husbands love our wives. What's the example? Here it is 15 00:01:22.300 --> 00:01:27.300 just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her. Husbands are 16 00:01:27.300 --> 00:01:33.940 supposed to be sacrificial providers for their homes. Husbands. Husbands are to be 17 00:01:33.940 --> 00:01:39.460 lovers of their wives. Husbands are to take care of their home and the 18 00:01:39.460 --> 00:01:46.580 protection of their home and for the supply of their home. Husbands, today in 19 00:01:46.620 --> 00:01:53.580 our world around us, husbands are made fun of. Husbands are mods. And a lot of 20 00:01:53.580 --> 00:01:58.580 husbands have inflicted a lot of self-inflicted wounds about being a husband. 21 00:01:58.580 --> 00:02:02.540 And we don't need to do that. We can follow God's example. Why? What do we do? 22 00:02:02.540 --> 00:02:08.300 Verse 26, that he, watch this, that he, Jesus might sanctify and cleanse her, the 23 00:02:08.300 --> 00:02:12.740 church, watch this, with the washing of the water of the Word, the husbands to do 24 00:02:12.740 --> 00:02:18.020 the same thing, just as Jesus does to us, that he might present her to himself a 25 00:02:18.020 --> 00:02:23.420 glorious church. Not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should 26 00:02:23.420 --> 00:02:29.420 be holding without blemish. Verse 28, so husbands are to love their own wives as 27 00:02:29.420 --> 00:02:34.860 their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Now you think about this 28 00:02:34.860 --> 00:02:39.460 for a moment. Jesus Christ loved the church so much that he laid down his life. 29 00:02:39.460 --> 00:02:43.460 And that's the example for husbands is to lay down their lives for their wives. 30 00:02:43.460 --> 00:02:48.100 He's so fast, if you knew my wife, you wouldn't lay down your life. Listen, here's the, 31 00:02:48.100 --> 00:02:54.580 here's the amazing thing. Man, listen, I got good news for you. God has anointed the man 32 00:02:54.580 --> 00:03:01.060 in marriage to be able to rescue his home. Maybe listen, what if, what if you're married 33 00:03:01.060 --> 00:03:07.380 to an unbelieving Godless woman? God gives you the ability to win her over. It's 34 00:03:07.380 --> 00:03:14.660 supernatural. You love on her. You show her the, you ask God, God, how do I love her? 35 00:03:14.660 --> 00:03:19.700 Listen, God knows exactly how your wife needs to be loved and he'll tell you if you ask 36 00:03:19.700 --> 00:03:23.460 him. Because you know, you've been trying to figure it out for years and you haven't 37 00:03:23.460 --> 00:03:29.620 done it yet. Listen, we can't do it on our own. But the husband in this day and age 38 00:03:29.620 --> 00:03:33.300 marriage is under attack. What does that tell you? It means it's Satan hates marriage 39 00:03:33.380 --> 00:03:38.820 and Satan hates husbands. Because a husband has the power to make or break a wife. 40 00:03:40.340 --> 00:03:45.220 That sounds like a very, very bold and bombastic statement, but it's absolutely true. Have you 41 00:03:45.220 --> 00:03:50.980 ever seen a beautiful woman with an ugly man in marriage? Tell her that happened. 42 00:03:53.780 --> 00:04:00.340 And then you see how he treats her. And that woman realizes this is a husband. 43 00:04:00.580 --> 00:04:06.980 We were at dinner the other night and we had the young waitress just kind of ease dropping 44 00:04:06.980 --> 00:04:11.460 our conversation. And I don't know what age she was, but she's young. And she says, I'm done 45 00:04:11.460 --> 00:04:17.460 messing around. She said, I want a relationship that's going to be a long-term relationship. 46 00:04:17.460 --> 00:04:22.740 I want to get married. I want to have a life. And we thought that was very refreshing. 47 00:04:24.100 --> 00:04:29.700 Husbands. Love your wives. The Bible says. And the Bible says in the book of Proverbs, 48 00:04:29.700 --> 00:04:34.820 chapter 18, verse 21. Listen, all the husbands and men should be writing these down if you're not 49 00:04:36.100 --> 00:04:43.700 girls and wives write them down for them. Proverbs 18, 21 says death and life are in the power of 50 00:04:43.700 --> 00:04:48.180 the tongue. We all know that, right? You know, we can pull out our tongue and say something to 51 00:04:48.180 --> 00:04:51.860 somebody that would not only make their day, but make their life. Did you know that? You can say 52 00:04:51.860 --> 00:04:59.140 something to somebody. And by the way, listen, young ladies, young ladies long to hear 53 00:04:59.140 --> 00:05:05.380 affirmation from their dads. We live in an age when that's not happening so much, so they find 54 00:05:05.380 --> 00:05:12.260 affirmation in whatever guy comes along who says a nice word. Those nice words should be coming 55 00:05:12.260 --> 00:05:16.820 from a dad. We'll talk about this more later, but husbands ought to be speaking to their wives 56 00:05:16.820 --> 00:05:26.020 in words that give life. If we're going to make it in 2024, the number one thing under attack is 57 00:05:26.020 --> 00:05:32.740 your home, your family, your life, your children, and you being a husband. Man, I'm speaking to you. 58 00:05:34.740 --> 00:05:38.580 These four things are very important that we need to be careful as men, as Christian men. We're 59 00:05:38.580 --> 00:05:44.820 talking about biblical manhood here. We're talking about the tone of our voice when we speak. We can 60 00:05:44.820 --> 00:05:52.020 say the right thing the wrong way doesn't come out right. Now listen, I'll throw myself under 61 00:05:52.020 --> 00:05:56.900 the bus. A lot of times I say something and I meant something completely and then it comes out 62 00:05:56.900 --> 00:06:02.660 and it's like, oh, no, can I reel that back in? Because everything about it was right, but it didn't 63 00:06:02.660 --> 00:06:10.100 sound right. And then you feel like you're back into a corner. What are you going to do? The tone of 64 00:06:10.100 --> 00:06:20.020 your voice matters. How we speak. And then the use of the words that we select, husbands, we need 65 00:06:20.020 --> 00:06:25.780 to use the right kind of words. We need to tell our wives rightly, properly, not in a way that's 66 00:06:25.780 --> 00:06:33.060 fake or false in any way, but we need to tell them, you look beautiful today. I love you. That was 67 00:06:33.060 --> 00:06:40.260 a great job you did. That was an amazing achievement on that project or that was a great meal or 68 00:06:40.260 --> 00:06:47.140 that was a wonderful evening out. We need to say it. Well, sure, he knows it. It doesn't matter 69 00:06:47.140 --> 00:06:54.100 if she knows it. Say it. We need to speak it. And then also the environment. This is something 70 00:06:54.100 --> 00:07:00.020 that is very powerful. There's an environment. A husband has the power to affect the environment 71 00:07:00.020 --> 00:07:06.660 or the atmosphere of where he lives. Did you know that? A husband has the power to shape an environment. 72 00:07:06.980 --> 00:07:18.420 In a home. I grew up in a very stern home. A very quiet home. I know you find that hard to believe. 73 00:07:18.420 --> 00:07:22.900 But say I'm making up for lost time. We didn't very quiet home. You could hear the 74 00:07:23.620 --> 00:07:35.060 grandfather clock ticking. And just a really quiet house. But very stern. And when my dad was, 75 00:07:35.060 --> 00:07:41.780 my dad never repeated anything. He wouldn't ever repeat a word. You either caught it the first time 76 00:07:42.740 --> 00:07:54.020 or you'd catch the back of his hand. You better be listening. And the tone of the voice and what we 77 00:07:54.020 --> 00:08:02.580 say, but the atmosphere as boys, you know, we'd goof off for boys. Boys goof off. But then when my 78 00:08:02.580 --> 00:08:09.780 dad would pull up, everything changed. Was it a, oh boy, dad's home. Let's play. We're going 79 00:08:09.780 --> 00:08:16.020 to climb the tree together. We're going to go, it was straighten up. Stand straight. Tuck your shirt 80 00:08:16.020 --> 00:08:22.980 in and don't talk unless you're spoken to. What kind of atmosphere do we as husbands leave or 81 00:08:22.980 --> 00:08:28.180 create in our homes? God cares about that. And there's a war on husbands to have husbands be 82 00:08:28.180 --> 00:08:35.780 something that is maniacal or hard or cruel. And that's the way of the world. And that's an 83 00:08:35.780 --> 00:08:41.220 offense to God. And first Peter, chapter three, verse seven, verse three, verse seven says, 84 00:08:41.220 --> 00:08:46.980 husbands likewise dwell with them. That is your wife with understanding. Okay, that's impossible. 85 00:08:48.180 --> 00:08:52.580 You know that, right? Husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding. You can't do that. 86 00:08:52.740 --> 00:08:57.540 That's impossible. That verse right there tells you the Holy Spirit must be active in our lives. 87 00:08:58.180 --> 00:09:04.820 We must look at that verse this way. Husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding. Dear God 88 00:09:04.820 --> 00:09:12.740 in heaven, help me to understand my wife. And that's not any attack on me or my wife. It is a human 89 00:09:13.540 --> 00:09:22.500 natural life issue. We can say something. She takes a different, she can say it. I got a different 90 00:09:22.500 --> 00:09:27.700 it's like, what? What's going on? This is part of the fall. We need to navigate that, 91 00:09:27.700 --> 00:09:33.220 but we need the Holy Spirit to help us in our relationship. And we need the Holy Spirit's power 92 00:09:33.220 --> 00:09:39.540 to cause us to be husbands, giving honor to the wife, giving honor to the wife. What does that mean? 93 00:09:39.540 --> 00:09:45.860 Put her on the top shelf. That's what it means. Leave the verse up here real quick. I'm not, 94 00:09:45.860 --> 00:09:50.660 I'm not really big on this, but I read a book on this. You know, ballet. You know, 95 00:09:52.260 --> 00:10:00.420 ballet. Did you know in the original ballet, did you know that the woman always wore white? 96 00:10:01.060 --> 00:10:05.620 I don't know what they do nowadays, but she always wore white. And does anybody know what he wore? 97 00:10:06.180 --> 00:10:19.780 Black. You know, the stage was black. What was the screen, the curtains? Black. Everything's black, 98 00:10:19.780 --> 00:10:28.580 except what? Her. And you know when she's flying around, the audience only saw her being elevated, 99 00:10:28.580 --> 00:10:37.700 being propelled, caught, gracefully put down on the earth, and then thrown up again and spun 100 00:10:37.700 --> 00:10:46.100 about. She was the only one that you could see. And in marriage, it's to be like that, 101 00:10:47.780 --> 00:10:53.620 because a man ought to be secure in who he is and his calling in life as a husband. That God 102 00:10:54.180 --> 00:10:59.540 called you, perhaps not all men are called to be married. Some men are called to be single, 103 00:11:00.980 --> 00:11:05.700 but some are called to be married. And the way that we are live our lives is like Christ 104 00:11:06.500 --> 00:11:10.900 served the church. And what does he do? He elevates the church. He gives the church. He blesses the 105 00:11:10.900 --> 00:11:18.420 church. And let me tell you, you have a man that takes care of you that way. You're going to 106 00:11:18.420 --> 00:11:24.660 keep him. He's worth keeping. He's a keeper. Boy, it's quiet in here right now. 107 00:11:27.620 --> 00:11:32.980 Giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel. That's not an offensive statement. It means 108 00:11:32.980 --> 00:11:40.980 that she can't bench 250. And as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers may not 109 00:11:40.980 --> 00:11:46.100 be hindered, isn't it amazing? How many men think they're praying? And God's not listening because 110 00:11:46.100 --> 00:11:56.420 he has a horrible marriage relationship with his wife. Husbands. God made us husbands. God loves 111 00:11:56.420 --> 00:12:04.740 that design. And he's for us. Ephesians 5, verse 33, nevertheless, let each one of you in particular 112 00:12:04.740 --> 00:12:11.060 so love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. This is amazing 113 00:12:11.060 --> 00:12:16.500 because if he loves her, the way Christ loves the church, she will respect him. 114 00:12:18.340 --> 00:12:24.580 There's none alike. Okay, I've got three loves in on you and you've only got one respect on me. 115 00:12:24.580 --> 00:12:33.620 Come on. There's none of that. Love keeps no scores. First Corinthians, chapter 7, verse 16, 116 00:12:33.620 --> 00:12:39.140 first Corinthians 7, verse 16 says, for how do you know a wife whether you will save your husband? 117 00:12:40.660 --> 00:12:44.820 Or how do you know a husband whether you will save your wife? Paul the Apostle was writing to 118 00:12:44.820 --> 00:12:52.420 believers in Corinth and they were very, very messed up church. Came at a very, very cult-like 119 00:12:52.420 --> 00:12:58.580 culture in Greece and many of them got saved. But sometimes, listen, maybe the husband got saved, 120 00:12:58.580 --> 00:13:02.820 but the wife didn't. Or the wife got saved and not the husband. So what are you supposed to do about 121 00:13:02.820 --> 00:13:09.140 that? The Bible says, win them the Christ. If you're married to somebody who's not a Christian, 122 00:13:09.700 --> 00:13:17.620 that's your mission field. Oh, I wish God would send me to Peru. Well, maybe listen, maybe your 123 00:13:17.620 --> 00:13:25.780 missionary field is sleeping right next to you. Your husband or your wife, which leads us to number 124 00:13:25.780 --> 00:13:33.060 7, which is regarding the wife. The War of 2024 is against the wife. The wife, think about it. 125 00:13:33.060 --> 00:13:38.180 Think about pop culture today. Think about culture at all. Think about what our kids are being taught. 126 00:13:38.180 --> 00:13:43.300 Think about when you mention the word husband, wife, marriage. What do you hear among your friends or 127 00:13:43.300 --> 00:13:51.700 neighbors or your acquaintances? How do they view what a wife ought to be? It's predominantly mocked, 128 00:13:51.780 --> 00:13:58.420 made fun of the institution of being a wife. Listen, Proverbs 12 verse 4 says, 129 00:13:58.420 --> 00:14:06.100 an excellent wife is the crown of her husband. That word crown in Hebrew is the surrounding 130 00:14:06.100 --> 00:14:12.500 wreath of glory. Let me read it then this way. An excellent wife is the crown of glory that surrounds 131 00:14:12.580 --> 00:14:21.860 her husband's head. That's beautiful. There's a scene in Jurassic Park, the first one 132 00:14:22.900 --> 00:14:30.580 where Malcolm says, the woman asked him, scientist Malcolm, are you married? He said, 133 00:14:30.580 --> 00:14:38.420 oh no, I'm single, but I'm always looking for a future ex Mrs. Malcolm. What a disgusting 134 00:14:38.500 --> 00:14:44.820 statement that is. Oh, I'm always on the hunt for my next ex wife. But is that not the way of this 135 00:14:44.820 --> 00:14:51.940 world? We name the name of Jesus, listen, the number, look, I'm up here on Sundays and Wednesdays, 136 00:14:53.620 --> 00:15:01.300 but my family knows me, right? Who knows me better than anybody else on this planet? My wife, 137 00:15:01.300 --> 00:15:09.300 and you know, listen, you can look at a woman, I'm telling you right now, you can look at a woman 138 00:15:10.340 --> 00:15:13.460 before you ever have a chance to talk to her or maybe you'll never talk to her at all. She's 139 00:15:13.460 --> 00:15:17.860 just walking by and being involved in ministry as long as we have, you can look at a woman and you 140 00:15:17.860 --> 00:15:22.180 could tell if she's abused or not. I don't know if you know that or not. But if this is the work 141 00:15:22.180 --> 00:15:26.900 that you do and we do that kind of work, I can tell when a woman's abused or not by how she 142 00:15:26.900 --> 00:15:33.220 carries herself to look in her eyes, the demeanor on her face, what is known as her deportment, 143 00:15:33.220 --> 00:15:37.380 how does she carry herself, her shoulders, her purpose? 144 00:15:42.020 --> 00:15:47.540 Sirius things, why do we bring this up? Because we are forming a barrier against the 145 00:15:47.540 --> 00:15:52.980 attacks of the enemy against our lives this year. I can't speak for any other church, but it's 146 00:15:52.980 --> 00:16:03.860 my prayer that this church not survive 2024, but conquer, flourish, thrive in 2024. The Bible says, 147 00:16:05.460 --> 00:16:12.100 the Bible says in Proverbs 18, verse 22, he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains 148 00:16:12.100 --> 00:16:17.780 favor from the Lord. I can tell you right now, Proverbs 18, 22 is exactly what happened in my life. 149 00:16:18.180 --> 00:16:23.140 God saved me at the age of 19, because if I probably wouldn't have lived at the age of 20, 150 00:16:24.340 --> 00:16:30.660 God saves me at the age of 19. I make this conclusion. I'm going to make money, live at the beach, 151 00:16:30.660 --> 00:16:36.340 and be single for the rest of my life and serve God. That was my plan. Totally committed to that. 152 00:16:36.340 --> 00:16:43.220 Make money, live at the beach, serve God. And that was all work and fine, by the way. 153 00:16:43.940 --> 00:16:50.100 And then I was at work. It just happened to be that I was playing volleyball at the beach. That 154 00:16:50.100 --> 00:16:58.340 was part of my job. And the friend of mine says, hey, Jack, there's a great Christian girl over there 155 00:16:58.340 --> 00:17:03.540 walking with her friends. She's a great Christian girl. And I said, yeah, right. You know, don't talk 156 00:17:03.540 --> 00:17:12.020 about that. And he goes, no, no, I'm serious, I'm serious. And he said, come on, come on, 157 00:17:12.020 --> 00:17:24.820 so he introduces us. She's cute. She's cute. But that's it. And so that we're talking. And then we 158 00:17:24.820 --> 00:17:31.940 talk some more and then talk and then a few take this now out a few weeks. And now about the 159 00:17:31.940 --> 00:17:38.260 third week, I remember thinking, okay, I have to make a decision here. I got to stick to my 160 00:17:38.260 --> 00:17:47.220 my rules, my plan. She's messing up my plan. But you know what, you know, listen, take take this 161 00:17:47.220 --> 00:17:54.500 if it works for you. Here I had I was I was I was thrown on the horns of a conundrum. 162 00:17:55.220 --> 00:18:07.140 What shall I do? I had hung around with her too long where I just couldn't walk away. But if I 163 00:18:07.140 --> 00:18:15.460 decided to walk away, I somehow knew inside that I was walking away from something that would not 164 00:18:15.460 --> 00:18:23.620 be gotten back. So when you have, when you have in that battle of, do I commit or do I walk away? 165 00:18:23.620 --> 00:18:27.780 And the question you must ask yourself is, can you walk away without looking back? 166 00:18:29.700 --> 00:18:36.500 That was easy. No, I could not. So I don't know how soon into our relationship I bought a ring, 167 00:18:36.500 --> 00:18:40.820 but I bought a ring without her knowing about it. I got a ring. And I don't know how many months 168 00:18:40.820 --> 00:18:48.980 I waited about asked her, marry me. Why? Because I concluded there is no way that I could live the 169 00:18:48.980 --> 00:18:56.900 rest of my life knowing that some other guy has got this gem of a woman. He who finds a wife 170 00:18:56.900 --> 00:19:08.340 finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. This Jack Hibbs podcast as well as all the 171 00:19:08.340 --> 00:19:13.780 broadcast outreach opportunities are listener supported. Will you consider partnering with us 172 00:19:13.780 --> 00:19:21.140 through a special gift? Go to jackhibbs.com to learn more and stay connected.